Total: 52

"therepeutic" spanking and stress reduction

OK, kinksters, here's a twist. I have been havi…
70 Replies
There have been times when my wife…
6 days ago

Men Watching other men getting spanked

Can a man, enjoy, or get turned on by watching …
52 Replies
Has always seemed separate to me. …
1 month ago

Men vs women as spankers

I recently moved west to southeast. I had to go…
3 Replies
I prefer a female spanker but I wo…
1 month ago

Texting my wife that i might need a reminder to behave

Well just before leaving to see our daughter, s…
2 Replies
Texting is an interesting and easy…
1 month ago

Did childhood spankings cause a fetish?

Do you think that childhood spankings developed…
203 Replies
I believe that being spanked growi…
1 month ago

Turned on by hearing that someone was going to be spanked.

I was watched by different families after schoo…
11 Replies
@bungeman Growing up we always sha…
1 month ago

Eroticism and control

Do people think this statement is true, care to…
15 Replies
The number of people who enjoy bei…
2 months ago

What makes us to become Submissive or Dominant?

I wonder how we become submissive or dominant. …
75 Replies
I'm going to add my vote to those …
3 months ago

Adults finding shame and embarrassment amusing during childhood

I was talking with another Zity member about th…
18 Replies
I think my mom's stepdad loved emb…
4 months ago

What does a real spanking feel like?

I have been into give and getting for many year…
89 Replies
As an adult - between the same int…
6 months ago

Why do we seek pain for pleasure

I heard this today on the local NPR station I l…
63 Replies
For some reason, when my tattoo ar…
8 months ago

Dominant Women

I don't really "get" me. I had a good family li…
29 Replies
However, a dominate woman who know…
10 months ago

Amusing fact on ladies and ball gags

Two different ladies are my bondage models. The…
0 Replies
Two different ladies are my bondage models. The…
10 months ago

When you're into BDSM kink but partner isn't.

I have been married for 35yrs now to a wonderfu…
10 Replies
ETA just to clarify - I had enema/…
11 months ago

How do I tell my boyfriend my submissive sexual desires?

How do you approach the subject with a partner?…
34 Replies
The OP is no longer here to see an…
1 year ago

Unwanted School PE Nudity

I am writing this from a UK Schools' perspectiv…
101 Replies
When I was a freshman in high scho…
2 years ago

Chastity without use of devices?

I have read with interest many posts / threads …
16 Replies
Although it's not difficult for me…
2 years ago

Differences in sex drive between partners

Hi I am happily married to a lovely man 22 year…
18 Replies
This is a very important topic, an…
2 years ago

Colourful rooms and their feelings

Hello everyone. I wish to share with you some s…
4 Replies
Thank you Secret-sub. You are a ni…
2022.03.20

What's wrong with me?

WARNING: Pity party ahead So I'm 37 and it's …
50 Replies
The OP hasn’t been active for 5 ye…
2022.03.18

Relationship between Sadist & Masochist verses Dom & Sub

I'm curious if there is any difference between …
1 Replies
A relationship remains a relations…
2021.12.23

Keeping BDSM stimulating by yourself

I'm curious how many of you are having trouble …
3 Replies
You say that you "lost the connect…
2021.12.22

Use your safe word

A Necro-thread on ‘would you allow someone you …
8 Replies
@Nurse_Phillips and @Wolfgirl66 6…
2021.12.05

Why BDSM is good for you

I'm not a religious person, but I think Paul in…
8 Replies
… While the dom must focus on the …
2021.11.12

Ball busting with mistress !!!

I read an article about ball busting on net. On…
2 Replies
Don't normally watch it - but from…
2021.10.24

Have you allowed yourself to be tied up the first time you met someone in person ?

I was wondering, for those of you who have, wha…
40 Replies
I've never been a fan of bondage. …
2021.09.26

"Freezing" moment during sex, "Catatonic" response ?

Hello everyone.. You know that moment during se…
12 Replies
@gwhap: Don't we all have that int…
2021.08.26

Diaper as a sort of chastity device

Does anyone here enjoy that feeling of lack of …
20 Replies
It's restricting for me. The feeli…
2021.07.20

Humiliation

How do you humiliate your sub ?
25 Replies
Oh yes Ihumilate all my subs but a…
2021.03.15

Play advice: First time with new partner

We'll say a friend of mine (M) has been corresp…
4 Replies
If there's an understanding betwee…
2021.03.14

Humiliating anal insertions

I just wanted to see who else loves having obje…
19 Replies
Not really. A few years ago I was …
2021.03.13

Trial By Ordeal?

We meet at the my place as usual and you are dr…
1 Replies
Good story
2021.02.24

How normal was my 13 yo BDSM fantasy involving my homeroom teacher?

I am asking for opinions on how normal or abnor…
5 Replies
Your fantasies are okay
2020.10.12

For me pain in anal sex was security in college

I am now in my early 60's so that you understan…
4 Replies
Very interesting. I’m fascinated b…
2020.09.28

Your Ulterior Motive for your fetish

I saw a video of a man tied naked, about to hav…
14 Replies
He'd show up in a zoot suit and a…
2020.01.01

Flashbacks

Last week I had a most remarkable flashback to …
6 Replies
Smells are probably the most frequ…
2019.04.09

Edgeplay

Anyone ever heard of the term/ act of “edge-pla…
29 Replies
I enjoy edging. But edgeplay is a …
2018.11.05

Doesn't the sub actually control a Dom(me)/sub relationship?

In your experience, who actually controls a rel…
42 Replies
I like to sub. Sometimes I am coa…
2018.08.21

Why we are the way we are

Have you ever thought about why we are the way …
20 Replies
I am not an intellect - but I was…
2018.04.11

Communication skills

Do you and your partner have good communication…
26 Replies
We are communicating all the time,…
2018.04.10

How do I get my husband interested in BDSM again?

Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you..
11 Replies
I came into this discussion to sha…
2018.03.29

Helping her embrace her natural dominance

I want my secret lover to embrace dominance. I…
8 Replies
I struggle with this myself. Both …
2018.01.13

Guilty About Fetish

I have some guilt or maybe some uneasy feelings…
6 Replies
Everyone is different... I love lo…
2017.02.18

Am I sick?

Hey, my name is Amy. When I was small, my dad a…
58 Replies
I don't think you are sick at all.…
2016.10.06

The anticipation

A friend who is heavy in BDSM teld me once the …
46 Replies
Anticipation before and during an …
2016.07.28

Hot button words

Wasn't sure whether to post this in the Medfet …
38 Replies
Enema, suppository, douche, mound,…
2016.06.25

Therapeutic interventions

I'm new to the board but an experienced psycho-…
31 Replies
I'm jaded by LIVING period! You so…
2015.08.06

Newly Dating

Alrighty I need some advice I am 25... and newl…
8 Replies
Why don't you leave a copy of "Fif…
2014.07.31

Your reaction to witnessing the infliction of severe pain?

In two instances I have observed reactions to w…
2 Replies
Spankings were the norm when I was…
2014.07.07

Is it really so simple for all?

I've been a member here for a while now and als…
8 Replies
First of all communication and exp…
2013.12.03

'Asking for it' in a roundabout way'

About 20 years ago I was dating a woman and one…
12 Replies
Personally I think it's best to be…
2012.08.09

How would you approach...

How would you approach your partner to bring up…
9 Replies
I agree, communication is key and …
2009.11.22