Have you allowed yourself to be tied up the first time you met someone in person ?

I was wondering, for those of you who have, what made you feel comfortable allowing yourself to be put in a vulnerable situation like that.

What are things that give you that level of trust with someone ?

Did you feel like you were at least still in control somewhat ?

I'm also wondering if anyone's tried it and didn't like it and never went back for more.

And whatever else you would want to share about you experience.......

I have never allowed anyone I just met to tie me up. If I were starting out now, I would allow someone to tie up a limb or two but NOT two arms at the first meeting after talking with them and I'm not so sure I would wear a blindfold either. I would want to see what is going on in the room.

If I have learned to totally trust you implicitly, you could do anything you like to me as long as I have a safeword.

I better be good because I trust my husband with my life and there are activities and bondage scenes we do where we could easily kill the other if we wanted to. A case in point for that was Full Metal Jacket 2.0 among numerous other scenes.

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Although I get the idea of it I certainly wouldn't you need to be truly comfortable with a person first I think otherwise it's less fun more actual fear potentially

I've had a few rope bondage sessions. BUT- I had met them and negotiated beforehand, and it was done in the "public" play space of my local dungeon. I would not do so at a first-ever encounter in someone's home!

I'd let someone I just met tie me up in a group setting, but I doubt I'd allow it otherwise.

I made the mistake when I was about age 10 of letting two slightly older neighborhood 'friends' tie me to a small pine tree in my back yard with a long rope that we found in the garage. They said we'd all take turns getting tied up, (fully clothed.) I let them talk me into going first. I loved it! I will never forget the new kind of gut level pleasure I experienced as they gleefully held the rope tight and ran circles around me and the tree. When I tried to escape and couldn't, I actually got an erection. It's my earliest memory of getting hard. Being tied to that tree was a thrilling experience until my 'friends' threatened to leave, and then they actually did leave. They ran away laughing. They disappeared for about 15 minutes. I almost panicked, but I was too embarrassed to immediately scream for help after they were gone. They returned still laughing, taunting me, and threatening to leave me tied to the tree until my parents got home. I knew they were kidding, and my pleasure returned. I almost regretted being untied.

I've loved being bound ever since. I tried various kinds of self bondage soon afterward, which led to my discovery of masturbation on my own. After a few years of marriage, I introduced my wife to bondage. Since then, we've each very much enjoyed taking turns being tied up and 'sexually abused.'

When I was about 9 years old I let 2 friends tie me to a lamppost on the corner of our block. I liked the idea at first, but then got scared when they did not come back and I could not untie myself.

My grandmother was coming for a visit and saw me as she was walking towards our apartment building. She untied me and scolded me for letting my friends tie me up. When I was older I really got turned on by bondage fiction scenarios, but of me being tied and me tying up a girl

I would never let anyone i just met tie me up, in fact i would not be alone with them until i knew them pretty well. If it's someone i know well and trust its different but it does excite me the control over me if it is combined with being sensuous.

I have and like most it is the feeling that I have lost control and how vulnerable I feel

Yes, but she was inexperienced (not that I'm so experienced myself) and I made sure I could get loose if needed.

Zika, how did you like that experience? Is that something you would like to try again sometime? Or have you thought about taking it to the next level?

After about 6 months of a relationship with my now Wife, (She reintroduced me to the Enema scene) she came into the bedroom one night,with a full Enema Bag and some rope, I said no way I was both frightened and excited, I finally exceeded to her request, and so the die was cast.I had some of my more explosive orgasms, being tied up being Given HHH, and having her sucking on my prick. I would give almost anything to have that time back but she has the Big C and we don't play like that anymore. As to whether or not I would allow someone that I met casually, no way just as others have said You may not know what is on someone's mind when you are under their control,( I would give it about 2 weeks, and go for it LOL) not

@JTMac: I've done it a number of times since then and if with someone I trust, I've let them restrain me to where I couldn't get out.

Depends on what you mean by the next level.

Yes, I have. The Dominant and I had done email, Yahoo chat and phone for a couple of months before we were able to get our scheduling worked out for a real time meet.

I felt a connection with the Dominant and a level of trust, BUT still had a friend that I made a safe call to at a prescribed time. If I would not have called my friend, He would have come immediately to my place where I was being Dominated. I discussed that with the Dominant prior to both of us agreeing to the real time meeting. Otherwise I would not have went forward with it.........I have no desire to be a statistic !

Only when I have "played" with that person several times and gotten to know them. Even then I email a friend and give them the address and tell them to expect a call or email in a certain time. I inform all play partners of this in advance. I have never had a problem, but I limit my partners to a select few and do not allow bondage until we know each other. I know there are kooks out there but I have not encounter one. That is luck or choosing my partners with care. Some of the most wonderful people I have ever met have been into S&M. Join a club if one is available where you can play in a semipublic place so others will know the person you partner up with. My circle of domes is only about 6 and three of them are in my neighborhood.

Rob

@JTMac: Depends on what you mean by the next level.

By that i mean where once you have been tied up, continuously allowing more and more things to happen to you / with you.

I have been amazed at how many folks I run into that are ready to give it a go the first time they meet someone in person. They either have a good sense of character, having felt someone out beforehand and feeling comfortable with him/her, or they are just ready to go with no fear, with or without a number to call.

I might start a topic about having that call system: How much detail does your safety call person know about what you are potentially getting yourself into?........

I guess we all have to be really safety conscious. I have let 3 different people I have met for the very first time tie me up. One of those included being blindfolded and gagged too. The total loss of control, ultra vulnerability and being utterly at the other person's mercy is mind - blowing. Of course, there is also an edge of very real fear.

There has to be trust and, of course, it is wise to take precautions as many others have mentioned. 2 of the occasions I will briefly describe were at my own home. There is a very real added dimension of nervous tension there. Viz: I am married and my wife knows nothing of my ' kinky' interests / activities. The fear that she could return early, unnanounced, has to be dealt with. The third occasion was visiting a Dom who had his own dungeon - which evokes fear of a different type.

In every case, I had exchanged a lot of email messages with these people and also spoke to two of them on the phone. Moreover, I was also able to email other guys who had met them. So, although there could still be risks.....I felt comfortable enough ( although still very nervous ) to let them tie me up.

It worked out fine, but some of these 'Masters ' are cruel sadists ( well, it is only to be expected) who like to play nasty mind games. The first guy ( at my house ) had me stripped naked and tightly bound to a chair. Ankles tied to it, hands tied behind my back & then to the chair...also tied around the waist. Blindfolded and gagged.

He was the type of guy who menaces quietly. Very softly ( but sort of chillingly ) he outlined some of the ghastly 'tortures' he was going to inflict on me. But...he also whispered: "My, my, my.....I am going to enjoy this. But you....ask yourself this. Have you made a big mistake? You trusted me. Now. ..here you are. Completely naked. Completely helpless. Tightly bound. Blindfolded..you can't see. Gagged...you can't talk or yell or scream properly. Maybe I lied to you? I could be a seriously dangerous pervert. I can do anything to you.....anything I like....and you can't stop me...." Yes. I was scared, breathing hard....he then grabbed my penis and balls...squeezing and twisting them. Oh..it hurt alright. I moaned into the gag and my whole body involuntarily jerked. After...I don't know...maybe 20 seconds or so. ..he stopped wth me giving choked gasps. He slapped me on the bare shoulders...then gently around the face cheeks as he laughed. "Oh, that was fun. Relax....I am going to hurt you....but I am safe. You will be OK...." so saying, he grabbed my cock and slapped it....

The second home visit was from a guy who was more into caning, strapping, tawsing, flogging, whipping etc. During part of that session he had me tied ( naked and spreadeagled ) to an iron - framed bedstead. What is it with these Doms? During a 'recovery' spell ( after administering a severe ewhipping ), he anmounced that he was going downstairs to get himself a glass of water. He paused in the bedroom doorway." After that, I might just piss off and leave you here tied to the bed. That could be interesting when your wife comes home...." He disappeared. I heard him downstairs in the kitchen. Then I heard the front door open....and close!!! I didn't yell or scream...but I struggled against my bonds, violently and energetically. I was so scared. My heart was thundering. Very soon I was breathing hard and soaked in perspiration. I was swearing to myself. Then....my tormentor reappeared...laughing. "Oh...you poor boy..you ddn't really think I'd gone. .did you??? Ohhhh...such fun." The bastard!!! But, boy, was I ever relieved.

The dungeon was a different kind of stress.....allowing yourself to be tied to whipping frames and torture racks etc. It does take guts. It is scary...and you really do have to trust the guy ( or lady ) who is punishing you......totally and utterly.

I was chatting with someone on another website last night. He's in his mid 50's now, but he was telling me a story about when he was in his mid 20's and was inexperienced & was seeing a lady who was in her 60's.

She wanted to tie him up, and he let her. (even though this wasn't the 1st time he met her). She tied him to a chair. What he didn't see coming was that once he was tied up and couldn't get free, in came a boyfriend of hers who was also older.

Against his will, he was forced to kiss, and eventually, suck the man's cock, who wound up ejaculating all over his face, while the lady jacked him off. He talked about how he screamed and cried and what a miserable experience it was.

This apparently was the onset of his bisexuality. He sensed that she sensed he had a bit of sissy in him, and she sought to exploit it. He seemed to have come to terms with the fact that he did. It reminded me of accounts I've read from folks who had been raped and then had derived something positive from an otherwise horrible experience, perhaps as a way to cope.

I'm imagining there are folks out there, naive and vulnerable, who would allow themselves to become vulnerable, in the form of restraint, to someone they don't know very well, only to be in for a surprise.....

I mistakenly allowed a guy I had just met to tie me up. He tied me facedown to my bed with my legs spread eagle. At first it was a fun, kind of exciting situation. But then he forced a gag into my mouth and did things to me that I did not enjoy.

You need to lay everything out that is going to be done ahead of time, especially when gagged. You need a safeword or a finger gesture to end it when gagged. (Yes the single middle digit would work) These type of scenarios need to be agreed upon ahead of time or you might find your self in a situation where your orifices are being penetrated in ways you don't approve of and spanking or worse can be applied in ways beyond your control or comfort level. This is your fault for not being more specific beforehand and not knowing the person well enough. Some people like this type of session, plainly you did not.. Stay Safe people!!

you might find your self in a situation where your orifices are being penetrated in ways you don't approve of and spanking or worse can be applied in ways beyond your control or comfort level.

I've certainly read folks' accounts of what happened to them, and yes, this stuff does happen.

I did allow someone to restrain me the 2nd time I met them, so that's close. This was at the male-to-male spanking event that I've now attended twice (I've written about my experiences in another thread).

The 1st time I attended, I wasn't restrained at all. In fact I wasted the first couple of hours doing nothing but watching the other guys get spanked. But I finally did get a couple of good spankings that first visit.

But prior to my 2nd event (it's held monthly), I discussed some of my fantasies with my main contact there (one of the founders and organizers of the event). I told him that I really wanted to see what it would be like to be strung-up with my arms and legs attached to spreader bars. Long story short (see the other thread if you want the really long story), that's exactly what happened. I was stripped (first to just my jockstrap, then fully nude) while my hands and feet were securely attached to spreader bars. I was then spanked and played with by several guys (I counted 6 at one time). I wasn't penetrated in any way during that time, but I was fondled and groped and spanked a lot.

Did I take a chance doing that on the 2nd time I met this guy? Sure. While strung-up like that, they could have done anything that they wanted to me. I was pretty much helpless. And they jokingly reminded me of that fact several times. But I felt safe doing that for two reasons: First, I had communicated with the guy doing all of this ahead of time and felt that he understood my needs and wants along with my hard limits. He didn't seem like the type of guy that would suddenly ignore all of that and do something beyond my limits. He, and everyone else there, wanted to have fun, not abuse some old married guy. And second, I felt there was safety in numbers. This was done out in the open in front of a fairly large group of 15 or so guys. I felt that if I did suddenly run into a problem, someone there would be able to come to my rescue. I figured that even if the people around me turned out to be brutal psychopaths, it was unlikely that everyone in the room was like that.

As an aside, the next event is this Saturday and at this point I'm planning on acting out my strung-up fantasy again (with a few changes that we've discussed).

I went to someone recommended by my tantra mentor so there was a level of trust. We also had a safe word and discussed the overall idea ahead. It was great. But I would be wary of bondage with a random stranger off the internet. Tell a friend where you are and agree to call them in whatever minutes or they call or come for help. etc.

See Dossie Easton's books, the Ethical Slut or on Topping or on Bottoming for good stuff on this

I don’t believe I could let someone tie me up or restrain me the first time we met it takes a level of trust for that to happen and I think you will also know inside yourself when that level of trust is met

No. NFW. Yeah you can get to know someone online etc but no. Only way I could conceivably envision that would be if I had a wingman with me - like at a group venue or something like a rope class maybe.

I did allow someone to restrain me the 2nd time I met them, so that's close. This was at the male-to-male spanking event that I've now attended twice (I've written about my experiences in another thread).

Good for you! Was this held in some type of fetish dungeon? I wonder if you might also find some people interested in med fet when you are there.

Good for you! Was this held in some type of fetish dungeon? I wonder if you might also find some people interested in med fet when you are there.

Yes, this is in a local dungeon here in the Atlanta area. They do have a medical room with an exam table, but I have yet to use it.

My ex boyfriend sometimes tied my hands behind my back. I felt comfortable with it, because I asked for it, and because I trusted him never to hurt me. I probably wouldn't go there with someone I had just met. Some of the stories people have shared here are quite frightening.

It was the summer after 4th grade. My mom took me to visit an old friend of hers for a few days. She had a son a couple years older. He and I got along OK, but he liked to tease me and show his dominance. He wanted to tie me to a tree saying it was a game he played with his friends. I didn't mind being tied, but after I was secured to the tree, he began to walk off saying that "maybe" he'd come back later. I didn't panic (my mom would ask him where I was), but I had never played like that with my friends. He really didn't leave me alone more than about ten minutes. He wanted to know I felt about being tied up. I told him that I wasn't worried, and I could tell he was disappointed. He also liked to take bathes and showers with me, and I did like that, but we were both prepubescent, and it wasn't very sexual.

Yes I enjoyed it very much ! My mistress (wife) ties me up and blindfolds me also she also gags me . She is the only one ever to do that to me . I truly get so excited when we do this ! I’m blindfolded so I never know what she planned it’s never the same so it keeps it very interesting. Sometimes she has a crop or a whip . She will tie my balls up use nipple clamps use a ball gag or a cock gag . She tie my hands and wrists and hang me from them . Sometimes she will let me hang there for 20- minutes before she she starts crazy but I Love it !!!

When I was a young teen I was very good at getting out of rope knots when being tied to a tree one day my 2 trusted friends took me into the woods over by the river and tied my arms and legs separately to 4 trees and then took off laughing.Shortly a man came by and I begged him to release me he laughed and undid my belt and dumped a can of earthworms down my pants! Then he sat down near me and lit up a cigarette and watched me squirm. The worms were wiggling around causing my dick to get hard I begged him to take them out he said “ aren’t you afraid I’ll see your pee pee “ I said I don’t care! So he unbuttoned my shirt and pulled my pants and underwear down to the ropes at my ankles,my dick was in full view! I was embarrassed ! He removed most of the worms but put a small handful on my chest to tickle my nipples then he jacked me off After I came he untied my arms and left me to undo my legs while he took off. My so called trusted friends were hiding in some bushes and saw the whole scenario! Bastards! I was pissed at them especially when I found out that they had coerced the man to dump his fishing worms down my pants!