I was talking with another Zity member about those times growing up when we were ashamed and embarrassed but adults thought this was amusing, or cute and even encouraged more shame by teasing. This has left a lasting impression on me and I wonder if this is the same for others?
The Zity member and I had both had experiences when we had been naked on the beach growing up and been seen by others.
I was bought up in the 50’s and early 60’s and we had our holidays in a rural seaside town in the UK that didn’t that have many people around. My Aunt would brush aside any concerns as I got older and she expected me to be naked on the beach. Her reasoning included there being few people around (true), drying a swimming costume in the hotel would be impossible (again true) and that other boys and girls were not interested in me. I knew this to absolutely not true and that any opportunity to see an older boys penis and bottom would be taken by others.
If another family arrived, particularly if they had girls then I was very embarrassed and wished there was a big hole I could disappear into. Even at 9 or 10 years old sometimes my Aunt would tell me to stop making a fuss and go in the sea or play on the beach naked. Often the mother of the other family would point out my embarrassment and my Aunt and the woman would laugh at me which would make my cheeks go bright red.
I recall when I was slightly older seeing a younger boy with his grandfather buying an ice cream from a van beside the beach. He had been happy playing with no clothes on the beach but was now in a different situation and looked very ashamed despite his grandfather clearly thinking he was just a little boy and there was no problem with him being completely naked. I recall the boy standing there holding his grandfathers hand and in his other hand his ice cream (so unable to cover himself) and older ladies saying how cute and sweet he was. Of course, other children were looking at his bare private parts with amusement and he was blushing bright red with embarrassment.
For me I remember staying with a married older couple who looked after me from time to time. Even at 11 they always bathed me with their younger grandchildren, two girls and a boy and would tease me about my embarrassment. I would hate the girls looking between my legs, for that is what they did. I also recall being dried after a bath with the other boy in front of the living room fire (no central heating in those days). Sitting around were their friends, older women and men sitting drinking tea. They teased me because I was embarrassed which everyone thought was very funny and I was left with my bare penis and bare bottom in full view of their friends for what seemed like ages.
I was also spanked in front of their friends for being rude My school trousers were pulled down around my ankles and underpants to my knees and I was given a good spanking standing in front of them. As I have said elsewhere, I was a small build and late to have hair below but I was about 14 and most certainly not a child down below. My shame standing in front of the assembled company with my bottom burning and the front of my shirt tucked up to my navel resulted in no sympathy but laughter and painful teasing at my deep embarrassment. There was no hurry to cover me up and the laughter and teasing at being an older boy being spanked on his bare bottom hurt my teenage pride even more. An experience I have relived many, many times.