Women & Enemas - Why are most women put off by enemas?

@Vicki_V said,

I‘m thinking that more women are taking enemas, but not openly talking about it.

A number of years ago, I got in the habit of getting a colonic once a quarter. The lady I used had her office in the basement of their home, accessible from the street, before she and her husband moved to SeaTac, Washington due to his job. She an I would talk, as she massaged my stomach and repeatedly filled an emptied my colon. We discussed many different topics, among them enemas, colonics, and who’s doing them today. During those conversations I ask her, “do you give more colonics to men or women?” She replied, ”two thirds of my business is women and only a third men.” Then I asked, ”in your opinion, who does more enemas at home. Men or women?” She replied, “that’s easy. Women.” I said, “oh, really. I would’ve though it was men!” she added, “most men are reluctant to discuss the subject amongst themselves, let alone someone else. So it’s kind of hard to gauge them, but women aren’t, their more open about it. You’re one of the few men thats broached the subject with me.” I replied, “even the men you give colonics too?” She replied, “of all the men I have as clients, you and four or five others are the only ones willing to discuss the subject openly. Women on the other hand, are quite open about it. I hear everything about their kids, husbands, friends, family, and neighbors in the constipation/enema department.”

I was a client for a number of years and these conversations took place over a span of time, not during a single visit.

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At least two. The devil made me post it. 😈😈

Who would want an enema unless it was for something medical and all but pooping on yourself trying to get to the bathroom. The ones I’ve given to patients I told them to let me know when they couldn’t hold anymore so they could go to the bathroom! Some didn’t make it! I put pads on the bed and some pooped in the bed and guess who got to clean it up? Me !

I’m retired and I would give a family member or friend if they needed it or ask for help, but I sure wouldn’t volunteer ! That’s not sexy to me !

@Vicky_V , she was running an enema business in her house? How much did she charge or how did she advertise for business? That’s to funny !

Ariana, you are right if they full of poop the smell will gag you and crap on the tubing! Maybe they have taken a laxative before they meet someone for a enema! They want be full of it! That’s not a turn on! I don’t know how you can be romantic running to the bathroom! Oh no! 🥴

Ariana, you are right if they full of poop the smell will gag you and crap on the tubing! Maybe they have taken a laxative before they meet someone for a enema! They want be full of it! That’s not a turn on! I don’t know how you can be romantic running to the bathroom! Oh no! 🥴

The act of pooping isn't what is sexy. What is sexy is the fact you have to bare your bottom and expose that most secret place. The first one is given to clear the decks and can be given in the bathroom. The second one on the bed in knee chest with a good nozzle will keep you from leaking while I work my magic with a Hitachi wand. It can be sexy and in the right circumstances, result in hard orgasms. I get it that you've never had one in that situation and medically oriented enemas are just no fun for the receiver or the giver.

I'll add a slightly different take: I've seen too many insertions of objects into one's backside in the name of pleasure gone wrong to ever wish to try it myself.

Source: I used to work with a pack of emergency room providers and techs.

I am not really sure they are turned off. They just dont talk about it like men do. It’s more of a private affair

Do you have this backward. Not the guys here, of course, but most men I've dated if I bring up giving them an enema it's “Hard stop. Hell to the no.”

I am not really sure they {women} are turned off. They just dont talk about it like men do. It’s more of a private affair

Outside of here on Zity - I don't think very many men talk about it at all - I would suspect women would be more open to talking about it with other women - not as a sexual thing but as a health thing.

Look at YouTube. I realize that's not an “average audience,” but there are lots of guys on YT discussing them & recommending them.

@gwhap Outside of here on Zity - I don't think very many men talk about it at all - I would suspect women would be more open to talking about it with other women - not as a sexual thing but as a health thing.

My naturopath has initiated a womens group on Zoom to talk about health issues. We can drop in once a month. There were 12 participating at the last session, ranging in age from mid 20s to early 70s. Those of us with digestive issues, and that’s nearly all of us at one time or another, were talking openly about everything including the use of enemas. A few giggles and snickers here and there, but I think women can talk about these matters among ourselves much easier than men.

Do you have this backward. Not the guys here, of course, but most men I've dated if I bring up giving them an enema it's “Hard stop. Hell to the no.”

Miss Sarah, if we were dating and you asked me this, without hesitation my answer would be something like “my place or yours”!

Miss Sarah, if we were dating and you asked me this, without hesitation my answer would be something like “my place or yours”!

@WET I think @Miss_Sarah was referencing NORMAL people!!! 😄 We don't fit in that bubble. 😜

In the 1940's, 1950's and 1960's the nearly ubiquitous fountain syringe found in homes was universally categorized as a feminine item. While everyone knew its dual purpose, in 99% plus of the population in the US, it was distinctly a woman's product.

Enemas, while not rare, carried the connotation of being a feminine matter as it was a popular pain relief during periods and almost universally administered by a Mom, spouse or nurse (nurses of that period were overwhelming women).

Even marketers did not miss that dominant societal perspective in their advertising. Magazine ads for enemas that used imagery almost always included the demure woman or nurse (again female). I cannot remember a single magazine ad from that period that ever included imagery of a male other than a young child. Even packaging for many fountain syringes during that era when using imagery depicted a woman, nurse or woman holding a small child in their arms.

Boys and men did not miss this focus on the femininity of the product and loathed discussions of the product. Men and young boys aspiring to be men would never engage in girl's activities. That same attitude is still deeply ingrained in males today.

@gwhap You have an excellent point when you mention we don‘t fall into the norm when it comes to our interests in enemas. I posted years back on this thread. This just showed up and made me think of a few things. I’ve never talked to any men, ever, about an enema. (except here). In all the years of conversations with men while dating about getting laid, getting head etc, I never brought it up or was it referenced by them. Never heard from a buddy, ” wow beebe, last night Jackie gave me a 4 quart enema and I came all over the place.” Lol. Never heard it and I never shared it. Every woman I have ever had a relationship, when I first met them, never talked to me or referenced enemas in any way. I always initiated the conversation. Though on many occasions it was easy to break the ice since they left their douche bags or bulbs out for me to see. Once I started dating them and felt comfortable sharing my enjoyment of enemas, there was plenty of discussion between us. Good,honest, sexy talk about it. The majority of women would rather give to me than receive. I also felt the woman who I shared enemas with never felt an aversion to to the act or thought me “not normal.” At least to my face anyway. I suppose the act isn’t sexy or romantic all the time. Is regular sex romantic all the time? I’ve asked my wife what she thought of me when I brought up the subject of enemas in a sexual context years ago. She said she thought it was cute I wanted to share what excited me with her. I kinda think that might have been the same for partners in the past. Here’s a guy going all out sharing his “non normal” fetish with me. Wow, he must think a lot of this relationship. I have no idea what the heck is going on out there in the world these days about enemas. I just hope people enjoy their sexuality and find a partner to share in it.

In the 1940's, 1950's and 1960's the nearly ubiquitous fountain syringe found in homes was universally categorized as a feminine item. While everyone knew its dual purpose, in 99% plus of the population in the US, it was distinctly a woman's product.

It was true then and still pretty much today. After we got married my husband knew that I took a couple of enemas each month, but would not even discuss the topic and managed to stay as far away from it as possible. Yes, the purchase of a syringe was a woman's task and I suspect that there is still an element of that today. I can only imagine the dialogue if I happened to tell my husband, “While you're out running errands please pick us up a new enema bag.” He'd probably show up back home and then try to convince me that he forgot. Yeah, right!

@Victoria1951 In the 1940's, 1950's and 1960's the nearly ubiquitous fountain syringe found in homes was universally categorized as a feminine item. While everyone knew its dual purpose, in 99% plus of the population in the US, it was distinctly a woman's product.

Enemas, while not rare, carried the connotation of being a feminine matter as it was a popular pain relief during periods and almost universally administered by a Mom, spouse or nurse (nurses of that period were overwhelming women).

Even marketers did not miss that dominant societal perspective in their advertising. Magazine ads for enemas that used imagery almost always included the demure woman or nurse (again female). I cannot remember a single magazine ad from that period that ever included imagery of a male other than a young child. Even packaging for many fountain syringes during that era when using imagery depicted a woman, nurse or woman holding a small child in their arms.

Boys and men did not miss this focus on the femininity of the product and loathed discussions of the product. Men and young boys aspiring to be men would never engage in girl's activities. That same attitude is still deeply ingrained in males today.

I was going to follow the rules and trim Victoria's post, but every one of her sentences is worth repeating. It's a textbook description, well thought out.

We do see more men on the internet today talking about coffee enemas and alternative health, so the “attitude” that Victoria describes may not be quite as prevalent today. At the same time, in recent decades when women who have not grown up in homes where Mom used an enema bag – they haven't had that experience. They have to be “introduced” to what an enema is and does, and I'll bet resistance is high, at least until the more adventurous actually experience it.

I kept my attraction to enemas very secretive until much later in life. Having grown up in a female dominated existence, I was very embarrassed and often on the end of the nozzle if I teased my sister.

Enemas, and douching equipment was always in my face in the bathroom. I secretly came to love the sensations, but then only in secret.

My mom never hesitated to embarrass me, nor did my sister. I was sent to buy feminine hygiene items as well as an enema bag. When I finally got enemas in the hospital from a couple of friendly nurses, I was hooked forever. I still was pretty secretive, but seldom passed on any opportunities to discuss or subject myself.

Machoism was still common, but certain procedures were worth capitulation.

Why ? Not sure..the only experience I have had off giving enemas was professional. One of the residents I looked after a few years ago had daily enemas as part of her care plan. I was the first time I had seen this in practice ( and obviously administered) other than the theory during our course where there was only a brief mention. So administering enemas in my mind has no kink factor.

Receiving one? No thank you. Only time I was Penetrated analy was non consensual so it has become a real turn off.

Do I think I may enjoy some anal play in future? My answer used to be absolutely not, no way, never ! But I must admit some recent experiences is starting to make me rethink and now I would have to say, maybe.

Like many things we experience in life, if those initial experiences are very negative, we may develop some degree of loathing.

Certain procedures, if clumsily attempted, cause pain, discomfort, or calamity, may well create a very negative attitude. I think those 3H enemas in labor turned many away.

Forced penetration may well be a cause to avoid subsequent experimentation. Others point out some methods to overcome the negative sensations and turn that simple procedure into a far more enjoyable experience.

Many of us have found those sensations to provide very significant reactions that enhance sexual response. An enema may be the best aphrodesiac around without resorting to those blue pills.

I can only speak for myself but I have never had one and I will explain why.

I am not in the least bit shy about the bodily functions that visit us, indeed in my time I have changed my tampon in front of others and shit and peed with the stall door open talking to someone in front of me, but I am worried that I would start by using one to clear me out when I am constipated, but like a lot of people I speak too here, I would use them instead on my normal bowel movement, and whether my bowel would get lazy and stop working.

The term Douche Bag was used by men in a significant social bucket designating an unproper judgement of other men.

Two questions about women and enemas:

Your questions remind me of the old college joke, “Do you smoke after intercourse?” The girl replies. “I never noticed.”

The fantasy story you read was written by a male with one hand on the keyboard and the other on his sex or probably his real brain. I don't believe females fear enemas. In fact, my sister, Amy, who worked in an X-ray clinic, when she was going to grad school and barium enemas were more commonplace than today always claimed that females were much better patients than males.

While I don't have an answer for your second question, I doubt that females have any more trouble retaining an enema while aroused than a male in the same state.

• A fantasy story mentioned that women fear enemas because they would feel like ejaculations in the “wrong” opening (especially when administered with a bulb syringe). Do you think there is something true about it?

No. That's why it was a fantasy story!

I think you may have it wrong… personally I believe enemas are way more popular among ladies than most folks here think. I've actually had that conversation with folks at OHN - a very enema friendly site. The lady I spoke with - on a number of topics mentioned that 60% of their clients are female.

Regarding orgasm and enemas - enemas increase blood flow to the genital region in both sexes - most of the ladies I've known over the years that use enemas find it very easy to orgasm from just touching your clit while holding - this is VERY old information.

BJ

Where do all these myth's come from, I have known quite a few women that enjoyed giving but were well into receiving, as well I also knew one that enjoyed giving herself an enema while I watched, after which she gave me a couple and then I gave her one more. If you take your time to know the other person and allow them to express themselves, the subject just might come up (no pun intended) and if approached properly you will both be winners. Any one looking to Play? PS BigJane Whats OHN

Whats OHN

Optimal Health Network. Site and online store for Enema Supplies:

“Home Colon Cleanse: Supplies and Expertise for Better Health”

Let’s see if I have this right. The bottom line is there are women that do not talk about subjects when they are together. Plain and simple. Enemas, getting banged up the hiney, period problems and giving oral sex. You men might think we do but sorry to bust your bubble.