Women & Enemas - Why are most women put off by enemas?

Love your post sallyxx

Why are most women put off by enemas?

OK it's time to get real.

ALMOST EVERYBODY IS PUT OFF BY ENEMAS.

When you're a pervert you just have to go the extra mile to find a similarly perverted partner.

You hit the nail on the head with that one Susie!

As usual susie

From my experience, the women I am related to are control freaks. What seems to really happen is that they loose too much control for comfort. Moaning, begging, whining, squirming they get so wound up it seems to hurt. Tell me I am wrong

Izrd said

From my experience, the women I am related to are control freaks. What seems to really happen is that they loose too much control for comfort. Moaning, begging, whining, squirming they get so wound up it seems to hurt. Tell me I am wrong

Okay Izrd, you are wrong. You asked for someone to tell you that you are wrong did you not? So I just thought I would jump right on that.

Seriously though, you might be right, after all I don't know the women that you are related to. But from my stand point, I am a control freak. Even when I tell Doc to take the reigns for a bit I still can't ever let go completely, although I have recently started doing a lot better at that. However, when I get an enema I almost always still groan, moan, complain, fuss and whatever. It isn't a control thing for me, it's a comfort thing for me, and I would suspect other women as well.

It definitely doesn't hurt, but it is a feeling for most of us women that isn't all that comforting. It's weird to us. Aside from not having a prostate that gets stimulated during an enema, yes we have a clit part of which stems into the rectal area, an enema doesn't tickle that at all. The roots of the clitoris are a bit deep for that to happen. So it doesn't stimulate us like it does you boys. Also, we bleed every month, most of us get that yucky bloated feeling, that gushy squishy abdomen, stuff that is draining out of us for a good 7 days or so. Well, it's never really crossed my mind before, but I may have just hit the nail on the head. Having an enema for us can feel quite similar to having a period. Not exactly, but similar enough.

Plus we girls are taught to be ladies. We are not supposed to fart, burp, spit, and whatever else the body does that is gross, including pee and poop in public. It just isn't lady like at all. So even if we don't purposely think of an enema in those terms, subconsciously perhaps we actually are. Also, along the same lines, again whether we do so on purpose or not, our "special" place is in fact that, "special" and remains a bit taboo for some of us women folk.

So I maybe right and I maybe wrong, but that is a bit more insight as to how I see things from my little corner of the world.

Mashie

You know I find it interesting this came up. Women are afraid of poop it seems. (Not all of course just going off my own observations in life). I can't get women to go camping without a bathroom. I think a lot of them are afraid to look at a turd. Funny thing is they will wipe a pile of crap up from a diaper for a kid but when it comes to their own it is sort of a taboo thing. Some interesting observations in some of the responses I read so far. Going to keep reading.

True, enemas are not romantic. But they are super erotic. They can be super hot and a huge turn on for the giver and receiver. and could also be a Segway to some awesome sex after. Not a turn off for me.

Depends on how you define romantic. Getting an enema from the love of your life isn't as traditional as flowers or chocolates on Valentine's Day, but you could say it's caring for one another -- and isn't there just a little romance and intimacy in that? ? If I was sick or the time I got home from a business trip with chills and a blinding headache, getting a warm enema and some tender strokes from my husband was about as caring and romantic as life gets.

There's no excitement in my life getting a Fleet enema! In fact, if only disposable squeeze bottles were pushed into my bottom, I'd likely be "put off" from enemas, too. Not exactly a mind-blowing experience being awakened by a pre-op nurse at 6:30am and being given a Fleet enema. I was in pain already, and the cramps produced by the Fleet enema were so terrible that I threw up. I didn't want another one -- ever! I doubt that I'm alone in having that experience – although maybe not as painful. Fortunately, an angel of a home health nurse cared for me after I was released from the hospital and was very skilled (and convincing) at giving a comfortable warm water enema that changed my mind. I've shared that experience in other posts.

I can understand women's negative feelings and why they're put off. Others in this thread have covered the reasons very nicely, so I won't duplicate. What I think hasn't been stated as much, is that my generation of 50ish+ women is likely the last who keeps an enema bag tucked away among the linens or hangs one to dry in the shower. Simply by "out of sight, out of mind," many younger women in their 20s, 30s, even 40s, hardly know what an enema is, and if they do, it's a squeeze bottle associated with something that's yucky.

However, what I see among professional women in these age groups is their interest in colon therapy and, judging from what my therapists tell me, there are lots of young women coming in as clients. Stress and detox seem to be the main motivation. Interesting! Whether this translates into more enema bags in the home, we'll see. Certainly, there are many websites offering the "equipment."

@Vicki_V So, I'm not the only one who abhors fleets. It is true. A bulb with water and table salt dissolved inside is so much better, but a bag is best.

"I think therefore I am", An old quote from history, but if you think about the subject as to why women are not into, or enthusiastic about Enema's it's all in the approach. Most women are reserved when you first meet, they require some time to get used to the idea of sharing their body with a new person, and that goes for all age's. I was once told a story by a fellow worker, about how his girl friend allowed him to indulge in all kinds of play with her, but when she wanted to try something new (tie him up) he refused and I asked why, did he not trust her, his reply was He was afraid that she might try pegging, since she had once mentioned it. Needless to say she broke it off with him. My point is that all women old or young have their desires just as men do and maybe even more than you might think. So guys give her some room give her something to think about let her dictate the pace sometimes, you will never know the seething volcano that lies beneath unless you fan the fires of desire. Be creative find ways to invite her to the party maybe, fein not feeling well and how your mom gave you an enema. I could go on but I hope you get the idea. Just my two Quarts Worth

It's interesting that the men who have wives who are not interested in enemas, think that "women" (I guess that means "all women") are not interested in that sort of play.

It's like saying that men who are kinky prefer to marry nonkinky women. o_O

I totally agree with Vicki V. The attitude of women today towards enemas is quite different from when we grew up. It seems to me that today, if you mention enema, most people (men and women) immediately think of the disposable bottle type like Fleet. Any reference to an enema bag will likely make them think kinky sex toy. We grew up with the enema bulb or bag as a tool to maintain health although admittedly for many of us it went way beyond the original intent.

Getting back to the original question of why are most women put off by enemas - it is just a matter of times changing. And even looking back, those of us who really like our enemas are surely a small minority. Even in my day it was rare for a woman to admit she liked them.

My wife absolutely hates anything anal be it a toy, a finger, or an enema. I think it is a consequence of not getting anally stimulated when young. She never got enemas or anything else in her butt so it just doesn't do anything for her. There are plenty that had the switch flipped in the other direction thank God!

I think a lot of women, and men too, do not like anal activity of any kind. They were taught as kids that the asshole was dirty and not to be played with. I have known several that would let me play with everything in front, even sex, but cringed if my finger strayed too far back.

It is not that we women are put off by enemas, it's just that we take more of them, as needed. You men have most of these fantasies, as usual. Sometimes, if I feel sluggish, i will ask my husband for one. This can be a pleasurable experience, if I am not too sick or constipated.

You don't have to have your anal switch flipped as a kid, but you do need to be willing to try it out a couple times and get used to the feelings so you can process them as being enjoyable.

Enemas have another level on top of that - you have the urge and the knowledge of exactly what is going to happen pretty soon...

I really hope the man I date and eventually marry will be comfortable with enemas especially when it comes to having severe constipation, but since I'm eating more fiber and less processed foods I am able to go everyday. A bit tmi I suppose, but yes diet and exercise plus sleep changes the game.

Hey, RedBulb99 - You must have gone to a Catholic school like I did. Back then, sex education in a Catholic school was "No, to everything, until you are married." According to the Sisters, playing with your self in front was a no, no, but playing with your butt was going to send you straight to hell. I know my friends and I as teenagers and young adults, even if we had vaginal sex against the rules before we were married, we would not even think of anal sex.

But why was an enema the exception for me? Maybe because I got them first from mom and grandma it must be OK. I never felt that giving myself an enema was wrong even when I got those feelings that led to masturbation. I knew I was not supposed to masturbate or have sex, but I never felt that the enemas I gave myself were wrong. But then again, liking a good enema put me in the minority anyway.

It has changed some along the way but I think many women still avoid anal play and that includes enemas for anything other than a medical need. Am I wrong?

According to the Sisters, playing with your self in front was a no, no, but playing with your butt was going to send you straight to hell. I know my friends and I as teenagers and young adults, even if we had vaginal sex against the rules before we were married, we would not even think of anal sex.

That is in disagreement with the references here:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qAbJI2aQFqI

I had occasion later in life to shower with a beautiful lady. I was assisting her with hard to reach places and ran my soapy bare hand up her thigh and up her butt crack, being careful to soap her anus on the way. She shrieked and said that no one had ever touched her bare anus without either paper or a wash cloth between their hand and her butt. She said that even she herself had never touched her anus. I repeated the soapy gesture and she looked at my hand as if she thought it would fall off. I don't think I would ever be able to coax her into anal sex . She was OK with enemas as long as only the nozzle touched her . I guess her mom had gotten her used to that.

That is in disagreement with the references here:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qAbJI2aQFqI

Loved it @SwitchableSusie 😁 So the 'loop hole' is the 'poop hole'! And is that brunette, Kate Micucci, the one who used to be Raj's girlfriend?

I think that a lot of women are put off by anything anal for sexual pleasure for a number of reasons. I think that many women wouldn't even consider having anal sex or anal play because it's not even part of what they think sex is. I think having an open mind and being able to be open to new experiences helps too, but not everyone is going to be into anal stimulation. Just from my own observations from my female friends, most of them are not into anal anything and there was no way they were letting anybody in back there. Out of all my friends, only two of them ever admitted to me that they like anal sex.

I think that a lot of women are put off by anything anal for sexual pleasure for a number of reasons.

My wife really enjoyed - craved - anal play. Penetration, toys, fingers, licking - both giving and receiving. But she had NO interest in enemas. I have no idea why enemas turned her off. I had some enema equipment in the closet and she asked me to get rid of it.

My wife really enjoyed - craved - anal play. Penetration, toys, fingers, licking - both giving and receiving. But she had NO interest in enemas. I have no idea why enemas turned her off. I had some enema equipment in the closet and she asked me to get rid of it.

I like anal and eneamas, and I think that they are weird and I am totally embarrassed by that. I think that that most women are going to thing of a guy giving them an enema for sexual pleasure just seems too weird, even for a girl who likes anal. I just think it is an unusual thing that not many women are going to be into. I guess that even if someone was into them, wether or not they would ever admit to it is a whole other thing.

If she likes anal penetration with toys, have you ever asked her if you could just use a nozzle on her? That wouldn't feel bad... Maybe work up from there? Just a thought ?

If she likes anal penetration with toys, have you ever asked her if you could just use a nozzle on her? That wouldn't feel bad... Maybe work up from there? Just a thought ?

This is the approach I'm taking. My wife is also really into anal play but would be very caught off guard if I brought up enemas. So I bought an anal douche that I can use on her to help get things clean before anal play, and just work up from there to open her up to the idea.

I got introduced to enemas by play partners. Granted, the subject came up after a glass of wine or two, but they were nice about it, if not a little persistent.. I'm glad they were! It's now something I do regularly.

I got introduced to enemas by play partners. Granted, the subject came up after a glass of wine or two, but they were nice about it, if not a little persistent.. I'm glad they were! It's now something I do regularly.

I like a little whine when I give an enema. Very exciting

It isn't just women with an aversion. Just as many men are put off by the subject. The reasons are myriad. Probably the foremost reason is intense parental conditioning to inculcate in small children rulesets for personal hygiene in an effort to avoid diseases. The same aversion is observed in adults with sexual dysfunctions where parents characterized the vagina, penis and even intercourse during critical phases of maturation as filthy in misguided aversive conditioning.