Women & Enemas - Why are most women put off by enemas?

My wife has given me several enemas and will pretty much give me one whenever I ask her to. I have given her a total of one. And I made sure she had a nice orgasm so she would enjoy it, as described in my true story “The Best Christmas Gift Ever”. Now, my wife loves butt play. She loves having my tongue, finger, penis, various dildos, plugs, vibrators and probes up her ass, but an enema, not so much. One night I was wanting to have sex, but she declined saying that she was all constipated and backed up and did not feel like getting it on. Of course, I magnanimously offered to give her an enema and relieve her problems pronto, but no, she said “that's embarrassing”. Also, even though she knows that I love em, do you think she would ever ask if I wanted one? Hell no. I guess it's just too kinky.

@Victoria1951 In the 1940's, 1950's and 1960's the nearly ubiquitous fountain syringe found in homes was universally categorized as a feminine item.

Yes! you are spot on about the fountain syringe being categorized as a feminine item. I am so thankful for that because that's what made them so sexy to look, possess, use, and feel the scary embarrassed thrill when purchasing them.

Enemas are a taboo subject, associated with poop. Only my closest friends will admit they take or enjoy enemas, which many do. I think that in mainstream American culture, women tend to look for men who aren't into anal things thinking (wrongly of course) that this is some kind of red flag, assuming their potential boyfriend might be gay, or “perverted.” Well, unfortunately, I have been with too many brainwashed American girls who rarely travel outside the USA, some who don't like sexual experimentation, use only missionary position because they were raised by strict, conservative or christian parents. And yes, too many. I would rather not even to have gone to bed with them only to find out they are completely inhibited. One woman I had a “fling” with, seduced me in a San Francisco hotel. She was really hot for being in her 40's, and she grew up in the bay Area. She would not even let me stick my finger up her butt while eating her out! I suggested an enema for fun, she considered it, but no. She even insisted on missionary position only, and then in the middle of the night, she asked me if I was “Christian!” I had to answer that carefully, saying that most people in America today seem not to value the true teachings of Jesus.

So now, I don't just hop into bed with just any well kept gorgeous MILF. I prefer to look for the “nutty” girls, the exceptional ones, outcasts from mainstream society norms. I find women who are not from the USA to be much more open minded, less inhibited and more willing to try new things. I live near the border with Mexico and travel often. The food is much better, the pharmaceutical drugs are much cheaper and easier to get, dental care is a fraction of the costs etc.. The best lover I ever had was a Muslim woman, slightly older than me. She was all about anal, and used to wash me with a warm wet wash cloth afterwards. I would come home from work and she would be half naked, dressed like Jeannie and ready to go.

The reality is that enemas are very romantic, but not in the brainwashed sense. ( more of the butt-washed) HaHa. Enemas are immensely erotic, especially when not intended to be. How many of us have had very erotic experiences with our Moms or sisters while having enemas. Enemas are OK for your mother to give, but sex with Mom is taboo. Enemas are an outlet for erotic feelings among people you might not normally have sex with, like your Mom, doctor, nurse, Grandmother etc.. But there is more too it. As we become older and sexual, we in this sexual genre, tend to look for traits our parents had. I certainly look for slightly older women who can give a good enema. But it takes an open minded woman, someone you grow to know and trust over time to become a satisfying lover, someone who knows your kinks, someone who is not too judgemental, someone willing to understand role play, enemas, bdsm etc.. Everyone has their kink, I have mentioned christian girls, many have hidden daddy issues… It is all about being honest and open with your lover, and that is where true romance lies..

So enemas are very romantic..

I've been thinking, why are most women put off by enemas?

Thank goodness they are not put off by them here 😃😎 Outside of this place, in “normal” life, I've found it was best not to mention my love of enemas too soon in a new new relationship - best to wait till some anal play has first taken place.

I can only speak for myself but I have never had one and I will explain why.

… but like a lot of people I speak too here, I would use them instead on my normal bowel movement, and whether my bowel would get lazy and stop working.

@SouthernAnn having no medical experience I cannot offer a professional opinion, however I can offer reassurance from a very experienced enema user that my bowels remain as entirely functional as they’ve ever been.

Speaking of enemas being an acceptable substitute for sex with mom or sis, I once had a lengthy on-line relationship with a bi-sexual enema loving lady. She had a young teenage daughter, who was long familiar with having enemas from mom through her childhood. But now she was just discovering the relationship between enemas and her fast blooming sexuality. My friend saw nothing wrong with giving her daughter an enema and teaching her and encouraging her to masturbate. That was a little over the line for me, but YMMV. ~Diane

Exhausted from being the ones to clean up most of the time.

In an enema, one mistake can lead to the need for a professional cleaning!!

@azdiane My friend saw nothing wrong with giving her daughter an enema and teaching her and encouraging her to masturbate.

Got me thinking about my mom and older sister - my mom was really into enemas, but never heard her mention them to my sister or do anything with her enemas wise. But knowing my sister, and how close she was with our mom, I do wonder.

The mechanics of the procedure tend to lead a girl places she may not enjoy so through discussions I would suggest a disposable set up small diameter tubing after plenty of clit manipulation a nice playful insertion and a nice warm rigid penis kneeling on the bed or leaning over the sink remove the tube finger tip her when she sits get the angled vibrator make her clit enjoy it complete distraction until you have the vibrator in her squeaky clean honey or the anal beads after she cums do the vagina again make the right impression she'll be all over it when she says time out then you can refill the bag for the next session I like 2 want her to say by all means not no whisper in her ear kiss her ear lobe tell her it's intercourse enema time happy play higginsbulb

Speaking of enemas being an acceptable substitute for sex with mom or sis, I once had a lengthy on-line relationship with a bi-sexual enema loving lady. She had a young teenage daughter, who was long familiar with having enemas from mom through her childhood. But now she was just discovering the relationship between enemas and her fast blooming sexuality. My friend saw nothing wrong with giving her daughter an enema and teaching her and encouraging her to masturbate. That was a little over the line for me, but YMMV. ~Diane

I doubt many enema lovers use them as a substitute for sex, but if they do, so what? If more children were taught that enemas were perfectly normal, acceptable forms of erotic play, perhaps there would be less violence in the world. Instead, children are taught that it's their right to push their political/religious opinions on others no matter what, and that guns and violence are the answer when others disagree with them. Just my opinion, but your friend should be applauded for debunking myths surrounding sexuality.

My Lady friends love for me to give her an Enema, she loves it!

Could it be that women have enough other areas to stimulate (breasts, clit, pussy, and other areas of their body) and get pleasure from that they do not care to explore their anal area.

Given the number of my female friends that go for colonic therapy I’d say this is a misnomer.

@Nurse_Phillips Colonic therapy has “hype” and sounds scientific, doesn't it? In contrast, “I took an enema because I could not poop, I used to hate them as a kid” does not sound so appealing.

Colonic therapy is purposed as therapy; even if you go there for some sexual excitement (is it the case of your friends?), you can claim it's for health. It reminds me of these Victorian “cures” for women's disorders that were basically masturbation.

I agree that for me and a few girlfriends, my mom suggested I try enemas to help with menstrual cramps

Given the number of my female friends that go for colonic therapy I’d say this is a misnomer.

@Nurse_Phillips,

What’s the misnomer, “therapy?” I would agree. Retired US MD here. I LOVED colonics, but every single one of the 20-30 I ever had were for fun and closet sexual satisfaction. Period. Only the very rare large enema for constipation or preop for colonoscopy were ever medically necessary or actually therapeutic For me. All the other 55 years of my enemas and colonics were for fun and orgasms. I was 70 yesterday.

Eric

Thought about it some more.

“Coffee enema”, it's “detox", it's hype. Again, not like mom's enemas if you had slow bowels, or that embarrassing and uncomfortable enema they gave you before childbirth,

Our aunts and uncles have given enemas to me and cousins, so we all grew up getting enmas, and we all got use to seeing others getting enemas, so its natural seeing everyone naked

@Beth82 I agree that for me and a few girlfriends, my mom suggested I try enemas to help with menstrual cramps

An old-fashioned remedy that’s largely out of fashion these days, but it often works because (a) warmth relaxes the uterus, especially if a warming pad or hot water bottle is placed on her abdomen before the enema, and (b) if she’s constipated, often the case if she’s feeling uncomfortable, the added warmth from the enema moves out what‘s stuck and needs to come out. A couple of hours‘ rest and peppermint tea after an enema also helps to calm her stomach.

From a mom with two grown daughters who on rare occasions needed more than a Tylenol to get them through those days. P.S. Seriously, just a warming pad or hot water bottle is usually sufficient for relief. Most times, keep the enema bag tucked away. Mom's experience.

For All the other 55 years of my enemas and colonics were for fun and orgasms. I was 70 yesterday.

Eric

Happy Birthday @ericmacson !!!

(You are two years and two months younger than me.) ☺

Happy Birthday @ericmacson !!!

(You are two years and two months younger than me.) ☺

@Moms_Egirl,

Just a kid to you, eh? Thanks for the wishes. I always enjoy reading your exploits.

Eric

If any of my women have ever been intimidated by enemas, then I have managed to "cure" them all. After the first few times with well-thought-out solutions and the right atmosphere, I've always found reliable partners for this not-so-popular game. The most important thing is to make a woman curious about an enema that overcomes her fears.

Annie2 love the Ferrari analagi how if that is the goal to go to anal enema play could you not include oral for her followed by vibe play vaginally while ever so gently massaging and fingertipping her anus warm oil or warming gel

I after some nice clit play inserted a 1" curved tip vibrator in a lady's rectum slowly inserting and pulling it back for about 5 minutes and I was getting ready to pull it out when she whispered don't stop probably 5 or 6 anal orgasms unfortunately I couldn't give the enemas she needed but she said next play date so as you said if handled correctly and considerately sit down strap in and hang on she'll show you all kinds of big city things higginsbulb

While I've known some gals who consented to my giving them enemas, most were put off by my taking them. One gal found it so unpleasant she became nauseous! Another who watched me take an enema in an upside position mentioned (can't remember exact words) but that it looked deranged…

Maybe, we women are not as anally fixated as you men! Yes, I enjoy being spanked, but I draw the line at enemas!

Another who watched me take an enema in an upside position mentioned (can't remember exact words) but that it looked deranged…

Sounds like she knew you better than you thought! 🤡

@gwhap: Sounds like she knew you better than you thought! 🤡

Yup! I think she did! I do miss giving her enemas! Upon her leaving she joked - “I wanted your love and you gave me an enema”.

One gal found it so unpleasant she became nauseous! Another who watched me take an enema in an upside position mentioned (can't remember exact words) but that it looked deranged…

@reddevil That is their opinion and it doesn't make it right. I'm sure they probably have something that we'd find “disgusting” or “unpleasant”.

I’ve known many women who used enemas to relieve period cramps.

In college, I was friends with all the football cheerleaders because I was the school sports photographer and drove them to our away games.

After football season, they would sneak me into their dorm suite for a night of popcorn, beer, movies and occasionally a giggly game of strip poker.

Of course there was a need to relieve myself of too many beers and I would go into the bathroom to use the facilities. As often as not there was one or more enema bags hanging from the shower rods.

The girls, unembarrassed, told me nonchalantly that they took enemas for their cramps and douches to clean themselves after their periods.

By this time, we had all seen each other naked due to our poker games so a casual enema habit discussion followed. Each one admitted they used them before turning the tables on me and asking if I had ever had a good enema.

My defenses were down from all the beer and I admitted I had had many enemas as a child but nothing since my teens started.

Of course, they thought it would be great fun to give me an enema and clean me out. Half of the girls were naked from our card game and I only had on my briefs.

Before I knew what was really happening, they had a bulging bag hanging on a doorknob, had my underwear around my ankles and was greasing my asshole.

They completely removed my drawers before lifting my legs straight up and spread wide. They giggled as they pushed the long douche nozzle up my butt and opened the clamp.

My filling was uneventful but they did enjoy cupping my balls and watching my erection bobbing in the air. As they pulled the nozzle from its mooring in my ass, I jumped up and ran for the first toilet I could find. They were kind enough to let me empty in private.

Soon I was fully evacuated, I opened the door and ask if I could take a shower. They were only too happy to allow that so I jumped in the shower.

As I got out, was drying off, I told the girls how good I felt and that next time the girl drawing the losing poker hand would get an enema from me.

Following another round of giggles, the girls helped me dress and slipped me out of the dorm.