Women & Enemas - Why are most women put off by enemas?

It isn't just women with an aversion. Just as many men are put off by the subject. The reasons are myriad. Probably the foremost reason is intense parental conditioning to inculcate in small children rulesets for personal hygiene in an effort to avoid diseases. The same aversion is observed in adults with sexual dysfunctions where parents characterized the vagina, penis and even intercourse during critical phases of maturation as filthy in misguided aversive conditioning.

It can be conditioning like that or they just don't want to expose the anus or even like me they just don't like the feeling. For every person that doesn't like it there is someone somewhere that does. This site wouldn't exist if there wasn't.

It is sad to think most women might be put off by enemas. I don’t believe it. I do believe a majority of women would rather give than receive. It is in their nature which makes them the fair sex.

I do believe a majority of women would rather give than receive.

That is how I am, I am a giver. I love to give to my sub.

So to answer the question why women, this woman, do not like enemas, I do not enjoy the feeling of getting/holding an enema. It only makes me feel even more ready to poop. It doesn't flip/push any sexual buttons in me. I can't think about sex when I'm getting/holding an enema.

That is how I am, I am a giver. I love to give to my sub.

So to answer the question why women, this woman, do not like enemas, I do not enjoy the feeling of getting/holding an enema. It only makes me feel even more ready to poop. It doesn't flip/push any sexual buttons in me. I can't think about sex when I'm getting/holding an enema.

That's true for you and also for me but there are plenty here that love nothing better than a buttload of suds. What works for one doesn't for another. I've tried one since I joined the site and I still hate them. Love to dish them out though. There is nothing more appealing than the browneye to me.

MissStress' reason in message 154, for not liking to receive enemas as part of sex play could have been written by my wife. My wife said she was too afraid of making a mess and too uncomfortable with the urges and pressure to enjoy it. She said she can't understand how I can find that pleasant.

For me, I was taught at a very early age that you did not mess with that area because it is dirty! I never got rectal temperatures, enemas or suppositories from my mom. In regards to enemas, I saw them as messy and what happens if I cannot hold and I expel it everywhere. But lucky my boyfriend now husband had to patience to introduce me into enemas which I love and find them highly erotic!Another aspect is that sometimes we think people will think that we are weird. Even though my boyfriend now husband gave me an enema and I love it. I did not tell him right away that I found enemas highly erotic. But when I wanted one, I was just tell him that my tummy was not feeling well and I thought I needed an enema. He did not know until some years later that I found enemas highly erotic. I thought he would think I was weird. As a child growing up, you are taught to be lady-like and you just did not play with that dirty area down there. Now that I am 50 years old, I see three different thoughts on enemas (1) women are programmed as kids not to play with that area (2) bad experience with enemas in the past or (3) they just don't like it.

I agree with Allie80, start with the nozzle, nicely lubed and be GENTLE, at least youll get one of 3 reactions;

1, "Sweetheart; This isn't so bad, in fact I kinda like it".

2, "I don't know if I can get used to this, but I'd try it".

3, "This is out or the question! If you like it knock yourself out! Fill yourself 'till the water comes out of your ears. But not for me, and I want no part of it"!

At least, if you can get one of those answers, you'll know what your possibilities are, and what you can expect.

It is my sincere hope at least a few of you get answer #1

If your married that one thing , but if you're early in the relationship,

and you feel the answer is closer to #3. Then seriously ask yourself if this special interest is that important to you....Do yourself and the other person a big favor; Just ask yourself if you can be a lifetime partner with that person, and be happy, without constantly looking around for someone else that just maybe, would be more receptive to the nozzle.

I wish you well

I’ve tried for many years to get my wife into enema and anal play to no avail. She is very vanilla sexually and looks at anal as taboo unfortunately. I don’t think she’ll ever be into anal it seems

My wife never had taken or been given one when we got married and refused to consider her having one or giving me one. She would let me watch her to give herself a douche, even letting me hold the bag while she douched her pussy cleaner. She never agreed to even just put a lubed nozzle up my ass. Not married now, but still crave an enema!!!

All my girlfriends that were anally erotic never refused to let me give them an enema. For the most part they got as much out of it as I did and learned to love the snick sound of a hose clamp. They knew they were going to have a seriously heightened sexual experience

Always tell them you want to give them an enema while you are making love to them and stimulating their ass. Get them hot and horny while you describe what you want to do. I am batting .999 with that technique

I never did before for the reason many have already mentioned: nice girls don’t play there; it’s dirty and just wrong. Now that I’ve tried a couple, I just find the wait time boring!

Maybe I'm delusional about this! Maybe not. If the Internet is any indication of the number of women doing videos on their experiences taking enemas, plus what appears to be lots of enema bags being sold on websites, I'll wager that more women are lying down in their bathroom on their yoga mat and towels, listening to music and giving themselves coffee and other cleanses up their behinds.

Maybe times in fact are changing, especially with younger women who are taking enemas for the first time for their health and find themselves enjoying the sensations and getting beyond the yuck factor. They may be attracted by the health benefits of colon cleansing and detoxing – from personal experience, there are benefits – but we also know that enemas make more happen “down there,” which is being delightfully transmitted to our brain and getting us hooked.

Gals are not put off by enemas like you may think because they are very much alive and well. Women will always continue to enjoy enemas.

I personally, am glad that many of you gals appreciate that simple pleasure and procedure.

I agree that many of the younger generations have begun to appreciate the detoxification aspects and may fuel a resurgence of equipment.

The sensual/sexual aspect that many of us enjoy, may still be a ways off, but hopefully can be accepted as more mainstream!

I still believe that enemas during labor and childbirthing created a significant loathing for many. The hectic nature sure didn't allow for any intimacy or sweet expressions as the 3H procedure was carried out.

I agree with Annie2….I don't think most women are put off by enemas at all, they are just less prone to actively talking about the subject as a man. My wife is a big believer of enemas as are some of her friends. I just wish that younger women would get more involved with enemas. They just were not raised like us boomers were. The enema bag was as common as it could be. Never attempted to hide it as they do today.

Most women put off by enemas?? Not on my watch!! What poll did you conduct? lol Denise

Denise - just saw your comment, I totally agree. I use to be much involved in the gay/lez community and many ladies I met (and some of the guys) used enemas as part of their play/and-or for health reasons. Additionally Barb and I have been gym members for years at a local gym with about an equal number of guys and gals. MANY of the gals I met take enemas for health and yes a little fun too.

Bottom line is I cannot agree with the main title of this thread. Most ladies I've met over the years like enemas once they try one.

In my experience women love giving enemas, they just don't like receiving them. But there are exceptions to every rule, and you can find some who are quite happy to receive as well as give.

My Mother was one of those ladies spoken of in the previous post. She, at first, did not mind giving me enemas. She followed her doctor's instructions of giving me my enemas. However, once her doctor got sick and had to give up his practice, her new doctor told her that she should stop giving me enemas immediately because enemas were barbaric and had no place in modern medicine with possibly two exceptions. She was then instructed to start giving me oral laxatives instead. Yuk!

On the other hand, Mom once told me that she had had only one enema in her life and that was right before she had me. And that if she ever had to be given another one, someone would have to catch her and that would not be easy. She was real fast!

Finally, Mom never could understand why I loved taking enemas so much!

I don't know if it's right or wrong, but times and women are changing. Even in the past many girls hated enemas ... but they did them anyway, because that's what people older than her had decided. (personal experiences) !!

I think it's just the opposite.

I‘m thinking that more women are taking enemas, but not openly talking about it.

Stress in our society is enormous, and one of the first areas affected in our body is our gut. Women are notorious for having GI issues, bloating and constipation. Today’s millennials were not brought up with enemas, but this is a generation more openly considering alternative treatments than ever before, and they are discovering the enema.

Women are not put off with enemas like you may think in fact just the opposite but what guys don't understand is most times when they have the opportunity to explore anal with their girlfriend or wife they totally blow it and then that door is forever closed , men are Mack trucks and women are Ferraris , so guys when you go to work on a Ferrari you need the right tools and not the same jack hammer style truck tools but you need proper tools when attempting to work on a sensitive exotic sports anus

Women are not put off with enemas like you may think in fact just the opposite but what guys don't understand is most times when they have the opportunity to explore anal with their girlfriend or wife they totally blow it and then that door is forever closed , men are Mack trucks and women are Ferraris , so guys when you go to work on a Ferrari you need the right tools and not the same jack hammer style truck tools but you need proper tools when attempting to work on a sensitive exotic sports anus

@Annie2 I resemble being compared to a “Mack truck” - I'm am more like a “Peterbuit"

Still, a good post and analogy. How many guys have shut down pathways to anal and other adventurous activities by allowing and satisfying their lust without concern for their partners physical and emotional needs. Rushing into it vs gently easing into it. It's their loss in the long run by selfishly satisfying an urge.

Zoom! Zoom! I'm a Ferrari! No bumper stickers!

Zoom! Zoom! I'm a Ferrari! No bumper stickers!

Don't Ferrari's have two or more tailpipes?? Ahhhh, the possibilities! 😈

A woman could be totally freaked out by the thought and never look at you quite the same again.

Yup! That was my first wife who when I explained my love of enemas called me a pervert.

Ladies, there must be something you thought was a total turn off, you wouldn’t be caught dead … Then, for whatever reason, you had to do it, or at least try it. Maybe you didn’t like it the first time, it felt weird, but you didn’t hate it as much as you thought you would. You got up your nerve to try it a second time, then a third, and that’s when you thought to yourself, “this isn’t so bad after all.”

I know what you’re thinking, based on the current posts here — and that’s certainly OK. I know about that. What I’m talking about here is how my naturopathic doctor explained how most of her patients react to when she prescribes probiotic enemas for bowel inflammation. There is a psychology she uses, and she says it works a vast majority of the time, but not every time.

I think it's safe to say that it's not just most women that are put off by enemas, it's most men too. We're a special group, us klismo's, and clearly not a meaningful percentage of the population. For many of us aging boomers, the enjoyment began in childhood by a nurturing mother. We discovered at an early age the pleasure that can be derived from anal stimulation along with mom's encouraging words during those ritual enema sessions. And with the onset of puberty, combining an enema with masturbation became the focus of our erotic activity that, for many of us, provides a lifetime of enjoyment.

I also think if your sexual activities include the use of erotic enemas, you've already found this website.

My guess is “converts” to our favorite pastime are rare.

If a virgin the word creates terror or don't even think it psychology so take the long way if she is giving oral massage her there very gently ever so slowly introduce your finger tip only to just the interior side if she unjulates her hips to your movements theres a win when you are giving oral same deal slow let her get used to and comfy with you playing there then graduate the finger insertion slowly then as time goes by get a 7/16 flex from optimal health network soak it warm water when you're sucking her clit slide it in an inch at a time

In my opinion the 2nd half of the enema is where the OMG comes in a few moments ago your completely attentive and your there now she is on the throne alone and getting disgusted because she is follow her sit her down open her legs mouth kiss her turn the vibrator to 11 just like the marshall guitar amp tell her to hold for just a minute when she's ready to let go the vibrator full gallop Ang don't stop until she is sweating don't let her thought and memory process take over and erase everything you worked at make her cum repetively make her so horny she want a to screw you blind but DONT LEAVE HER ALONE or it'll be the invisible chastity belt for you McGoo have fun kids higginsbulb