Would you let your partner watch you Masturbating?

I like doing it myself, of course, but do prefer someone doing it for me! I like masturbating someone else too, though I'll admit there are several activities I prefer more, it's nice to change things up.

As for knowing what I want exactly, I'm quick to let someone know if what they're doing isn't quite right, or just grab their hand and move it so it's perfect! And I'm not exactly a quiet one so you KNOW when you're doing it right. So that's not an issue for me, I'm rude enough to tell you if you're just doing a shit job and tell you what to do instead.

@CJ1999

Wow! Descriptive enough for me to picture every bit of that!

It all depends on the other person's technique when being masturbated. I have a very sensitive uncut penis. The very first time someonea woman took it in her had, she pumped it so aggressively that it wasn't arousing and started to gurt. I think I came just so that she would stop! The second time was with a woman who seemed to know how to read the person she was stimulating. It was truly an amazing, magical experience. She was gentle with her technique, stroking me for many minutes until I came so naturally.

Even though I can masturbate to climax, I find that when my "mommy" masturbates me I climax more quickly - more so after a sound spanking while still over her lap.

Like it Cold said it best. I prefer to be masturbated.

I have to agree that being in control of masturbation is nice, but bring masturbated by your partner is such a turn on for me that I prefer it.

I don't have a wife or a girlfriend but I like to watch porn with young women 18 to 25 playing with themselves and using penis shaped toys on themselves and they moan and cry out. I like to see them take the toy and suck on it. It's very sexy to see them hump and ride a pillow or toy.

I absolutely love to watch my wife masturbate! Unlike most here though, she will not just do this on her own. She will only masturbate when I get her aroused and worked up first. I have usually been fingering her or massaging her clit first, then I take her hand in mine and move it down to her pussy, holding her hand under mine and continue to massage her clit. After a couple of minutes I will take her other hand and do the same. Once I have both her hands working on her clit, I will back away with mine. She still likes for me to whisper in her ear, a thought or fantasy she has, to help her along.

More often than using her hands, she likes to use her Oster brand massager. Again, with the massager I have to get her going, but she eventually likes to take over holding it and she actually presses the round pad pretty firmly over her clit. When she is using the massager, she likes me to whisper to her how hot and beautiful and sexy she looks pleasuring herself.

I love every minute of watching her do this. It is so dang HOT and she is so beautiful!

I've had the wives/girlfriends that generally didn't masturbate. At least not to my knowledge, & they were not as much into sex as I would have liked or hoped.

I don't really derive any enjoyment in watching anyone masturbate. There's no turn on for me as a voyeur. To see a woman being digitally penetrated by someone else might be a different story, but still not really much to watch.

However, the dynamic of someone masturbating to me, whether it be watching me live or looking at pics, that IS a turn on. To know i'm having that affect & effect on someone. I would then enjoy watching her masturbate as I knew I was the / a reason she had to.

Absolutely yes!! I have always been fascinated by female sexuality so watching a woman masturbate is an amazing experience. Seeing what she does, how her body moves, listening to all the moans and whimpers and the way her breathing changes... very erotic! Then the voyeur aspect is really hot too, that she is letting me watch something that is so personal and private for her, something so intimate and usually hidden is now on display for me to watch. Finally it's a great way to learn what kind of touches she likes so when it's my turn to play with her I can do it right/better!

And this is sort of related - something I find very erotic and sensual is to kiss her as she is cuming. To give her the breath she needs for her climax and to breathe in her gasps and grunts is amazing. It may sound silly but when I take her exhaled breath into my lungs as she orgasms, it's like part of her sensual soul and energy is now inside me. It's very intimate and connecting...

I know my guy enjoys seeing me masturbate because he gets an immediate erection, and often leaks juice.

My wife and I masturbate together regularly. We both find it arousing. I usually start off though. She orgasms WAY faster than I do. But once she starts I don't even have to see her. If I can hear or smell her I peak almost as fast as you could imagine. The sounds and the other senses are way better than the visual in my opinion.

I prefer myself as I know what I like and others do not. A former girlfriend was the same - I tried, but she knew what she liked and how to do it. I'm always willing to try another person!!

In reading these posts, I see a lot of people, myself included, like masturbating themselves because we can control it better and get the desired results.

But I also am reading that those who allow someone else to masturbate them. When I masturbate is me doing me, by myself. But if I allow or want my husband to masturbate with me and do it on each other, then that is us engaging in mutual masturbation. To my mind, that is having sex with another person.

When I masturbate it is just by myself and for myself and I enjoy it. My husband will manually stimulate me as part of foreplay and I can still have full-on intercourse with him when we decide to take it to the next level. Sometimes, though, if I am manipulating him and he cums, then it will cool that for awhile.

When I masturbate is me doing me, by myself. But if I allow or want my husband to masturbate with me and do it on each other, then that is us engaging in mutual masturbation. To my mind, that is having sex with another person.

Agree 100% Masturbation involves yourself and only yourself. Mutual masturbation involves at least one other person and would be considered (in my mind as well) a form of non-penetrative sex.

Masturbating in the same room with another person masturbating him/herself is NOT having sex with the other person.

If two people are going to the bathroom at the same time does that mean they are excreting together?

So, am I misunderstanding what "mutual masturbation" is? I am taking the meaning as two people stimulating each others genitals without, or, mainly in my case, as part of foreplay before the sex act.

I agree that two people just masturbating in the same room is just what it sounds like. I just understand, from what I have in my mind, that "mutual masturbation" is helping the other person orgasm without "regular" intercourse.

Am I getting that definition wrong? I'm here to learn.

No, masturbating in the same room with another person masturbating him/herself is NOT having sex with the other person.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Non-penetrative_sex#Mutual_masturbation

"Mutual masturbation (also called manual intercourse) usually involves the manual stimulation of genitals by two or more people who stimulate themselves or one another."

I was going by the "stimulate one another" part of this. If two people are touching one another, then I believe that is a non-penetrative type of sex. On the other hand, if they are in simply in the same room and stimulating themselves, then I agree that is NOT sex.

on the other hand, if they are in simply in the same room and stimulating themselves, then I agree that is NOT sex.

Let's take a hypothetical and say that the two people in the same room are masturbating themselves, but not each other and in walks the spouse/partner of one of the two.

I would really love to hear how they convince the (probably quite surprised/outraged) partner that they were really and truly and in no way at all having sex. No sex, cross their little masturbating hearts.

I'd really like to see how they talk their way out of such a situation. :-\\

Giving someone a back rub in the nude isn't "having sex," either. But I wouldn't want to have to explain my way out of it if my wife barged into the room.

Giving someone a back rub in the nude isn't "having sex," either. But I wouldn't want to have to explain my way out of it if my wife barged into the room.

There you go.

Sometimes the technicalities don't really make much of a difference. Experiencing life is not like being in a courtroom where you can get off on a technicality or by brilliant argumentation based on straightforward logic and narrow interpretation of written rules.

Sometimes and with some people, even giving a peck on the cheek outside of the socially agreed upon occasions can cause lots of trouble, or holding hands. Granted the offended person may be being unreasonable, but - whatcha gonna do about it if they are? Chances are you are never going to be able to convince them of anything else.

I would really love to hear how they convince the (probably quite surprised/outraged) partner that they were really and truly and in no way at all having sex. No sex, cross their little masturbating hearts.

@agracier I agree. It's not so much as having 'sex', but it's a matter of cheating. IMO you can cheat by having a phone call, or lunch, or just IMing with someone. If you are in a monogamous relationship, and hide something from your partner, then it's cheating, plain and simple.

No, masturbating in the same room with another person masturbating him/herself is NOT having sex with the other person.

People masturbating EACH OTHER I might consider non-penetrative sex with another person if you held a gun to my head.

Are pubescent adolescents masturbating in the dark together (NOT each other) having sex? I don't think so.

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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Non-penetrative_sex#Mutual_masturbation

"Mutual masturbation (also called manual intercourse) usually involves the manual stimulation of genitals by two or more people who stimulate themselves or one another." . . . .

That's nothing more than Leftist Snowflake Orwellian Newspeak Bullshit!

Give me a classical dictionary any day-preferably one printed ON PAPER. Don't even bother showing me a newfangled politically correct definition to make a point.

A BIG problem with Wiki is that ANYONE can say ANYTHING and the reader takes it as the truth.

A BIG problem with Wiki is that ANYONE can say ANYTHING and the reader takes it as the truth.

Perhaps it used to be somewhat of a problem in the past, but obvious misconceptions, confabulations and plain mistakes do end up getting corrected and edited out.

Subjects on which there is a broad, social disagreement will naturally tend to upset one side or the other, but here too, except for the lunatic fringe, most entries are not obvious lies or untruths.

Wiki's main 'problem' as I see it, is that it is far from comprehensive or complete on many subjects, that it just provides basic info that is useful for simple referencing (like dates and locations) and is more of a starting point for further reading.

But otherwise it's handy as can be. I remember hours long discussions when I was young over a city being where or what a correct date was, and not being able to find corroborating evidence in a book until days later, when no one cared anymore or even remembered the conversation ... ha ha. Now you can settle these things with a few clicks.

I talked my wife into it on vacation about 20 years ago and told her how erotic it was for me, so she has done it for me ever since. At first it took her a long time to get off with me sitting between her legs watching. Once it took her an hour and twenty minutes to get off, but she kept at it just to please me. She doesn't do it as much now that she has a magic wand, but I get to sit between her legs and watch the magic wand at work. I always get her started with my tongue, but after we pull out the magic wand, she has a wonderful orgasm in about 5 to 10 minutes. Life is good.

I had an exciting opportunity to participate in a small group masturbation party and it was incredible. There were 4 guys and 4 girls and we all got naked and self masturbated. There was lube and a few toys but mostly hands and fingers and lots of looking at each other. Pretty wild but definitely thrilling.

My exwife loved to be caught masturbating. She made sure that I walked in on her several times, and never made an attempt to conceal what she was doing. Doris would masturbate with fingers, vibrators or, a variety of dildos. She usually had a folded towel under herself as she was a gusher. It was always a great turn on for me. She would also masturbate for select friends if we were swimming nude.

For me, it's not as much about watching as it is about sharing. She seems to go off whenever I touch her breasts or place kisses on her shoulders. During an orgasm, she loves to grab my hand tightly and pull while I pull in the opposite direction, as if we were arm wrestling. I don't know why, but she says it makes her cum harder.

Engaging with her while she masturbates always gets me rock hard. Then it just becomes a matter of deciding how it gets put to use.

Yes, actually very very much.

I love masturbation with one or more people watching. I especially like it if I am the one masturbating or receiving a hand job and the other(s) remain fully clothed. I have also done some masturbation on cam and phone chat.