How many STRAIGHT men would spank or be spanked by another man?

I would let a man spank me, especially if a woman was present too

I would have no reservations about being spanked or spankings a man. My dad spanked me until I was 18 and I have taken part in m-m spankings as an adult

Not me.

@Roddy_Rick said

I would have no reservations about being spanked or spankings a man. My dad spanked me until I was 18 and I have taken part in m-m spankings as an adult

@steve89 said

I would let a man spank me, especially if a woman was present too

According to your profiles, you guys are NOT straight.

I have met men who spanked both males and females, but no sex, strictly discipline...because they really enjoy administering spankings. I think it's like the old fashioned school disciplinarian thing. They just enjoy reddening or striping a butt.

When I have spanked a woman, I have ALWAYS been sexually turned on by what I am doing. How anyone could have a bare bottom in front of them and then spank (touch) it and NOT get turned on? I cannot understand that.

Aside from a parent spanking their young child of course.

But a parent bare-bottom spanking a teenager or adult child, I have to question that. Especially a man like an uncle or stepdad spanking the barebottom of an 18 year old.

But to answer the question, I would only allow myself to be spanked by another man if my girlfriend watched and was excited by the idea.

My first reply below was in response to @sundaybrunch who wrote:

"no sex, strictly discipline...because they really enjoy administering spankings. I think it's like the old fashioned school disciplinarian thing. They just enjoy reddening or striping a butt."

The question is

WOULD A STRAIGHT MAN BE SPANKED BY ANOTHER MAN

According to what you wrote in your profile, you are NOT straight

Not sure who you are talking to, Susie, but

1 - all caps means you are yelling, which is rude.

2 - you don't know me. I am straight. I have never been with a man. Doing something to please my girlfriend doesn't make me "not straight".

So if you directed your comment to me, please get off your high horse and stop telling me what I am or am not.

If it wasn't directed at me, then I misunderstood because your comment came directly after mine.

Thank you.

@RichardAsni said

2 - you don't know me. I am straight.

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That's NOT what YOU POSTED in your profile.

Check it out!

@SwitchableSusie

I am straight in that I:

a. am interested in women,

b. have never been with a man,

c. have never attempted to be with a man or make plans to hook up with a man, and

d. fantasize about / masturbate to / have sex with women.

However I am an open minded person, never have and never will see the world in black & white. In my life experience and intimate discussions with others & private thoughts and also reading on zity.biz (none of which you have access to, i.e. my mind), I see that so many things are possible and feel that life is unpredictable. So when I marked my orientation, I wanted to commit to the most open-minded orientation, even if my entire sexual history and thoughts is "straight". Of all the choices, I felt "heteroflexible" was best, even if I've never been with anyone but women.

For example, in the case of this discussion thread, I had read enough posts to bring me to the point of wondering -- even though I don't fantasize about men -- "What if my girlfriend came home one day and said 'I want to watch a guy take your temperature in your bottom.'" My answer to myself was "Hell yes!" Not because I'm into guys, but because that would turn my girlfriend on and therefore would turn me on. So, I'm hetero and yet flexible to consider doing such a thing. This scenario is the exact type of situation that made me choose "heteroflexible" in the first place. It's not your business, Susie, to determine my orientation or whether or not such a scenario has already happened to me or might happen one day in the future (who knows?) or never happens at all.

Frankly, NO orientation word fits how I see myself. Must I change my orientation to fit every answer that I put on zity.biz? Because I choose a particular orientation, must I write all my discussion posts accordingly? Do need to care that people are matching my answers to my orientation word? I understand that rules must be followed to keep discussions decent and hot hurtful, but there's the letter of the law and there's the spirit of the law. If I really am violating something here on zity.biz, please tell me. Seriously, if my post -- in light of my chosen orientation "label" -- has upset people or if others feel I am out of line, please let me know.

For a place that supposedly (or should in my humble opinion) celebrates the wonderful world of our diverse, private, intimate, and sensitive sexual lives and minds and souls, zity.biz can occasionally be a very judgmental, harsh place. Most of the time I love the interactions I have when I am online here, but at times I wonder if I will (for the 2nd time sadly) delete my account.

It sucks to sense that Big Brother (or maybe it's Big Sister) is always watching.

I have met men who spanked both males and females, but no sex, strictly discipline...because they really enjoy administering spankings. I think it's like the old fashioned school disciplinarian thing. They just enjoy reddening or striping a butt.

I can't help but wondering how one goes about finding someone like that.

Yes, I know the answer will be 'the Internet', but how specifically?

@RichardAsni said IN HIS PROFILE

https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=member;u=125924

Additional Information

Orientation: Heteroflexible

Relationship status: It's Complicated

YOU said you weren't straight, I just quoted what YOU wrote.

WHY did YOU select HETEROFLEXIBLE if that was not correct?

I am simply looking for a reasonable explanation for why YOU SAID you were HETEROFLEXIBLE in your profile if that was not correct; and why you have not corrected it since I brought it to your attention.

I don't care what your sexual orientation is. It's the REASON for your contradicting statements you have made that are "interesting."

I'm just going to point out how vary off topic this went. And ask one question. Why does it matter if on his profile it says one thing or the other? Does it really call to action someone to point it out for one reason or another? I did not read every part of the posts. I only saw the capital lettering (usually indicating yelling) and the numerous quotes that were entirely unrelated to the topic they were posted to. I thought this topic was asking a specific question about spanking. Not who is saying one thing when something else they wrote is telling another.

The OP was "How many STRAIGHT men would spank or be spanked by another man". If you state in your profile that you are gay, bi-sexual, or heteroflexible (i.e any thing other than STRAIGHT) - then it appears you don't fit the intent of the OP. Just like posts that ask questions for WOMEN ONLY shouldn't have men responding. I've been questioned before as to why I was posting on a thread that was meant only for WOMEN, or on a thread about a certain fetish because I didn't list that fetish as one of my interests.....IT WAS NOT A BIG DEAL!

BTW - I capitalized for emphasis - and am not yelling!!

I would NOT like to spank a man or be spanked by a man. Prefer a nice looking lady to paddle!

So who's slandering who here?

@gwhap said

The OP was "How many STRAIGHT men would spank or be spanked by another man". If you state in your profile that you are gay, bi-sexual, or heteroflexible (i.e any thing other than STRAIGHT) - then it appears you don't fit the intent of the OP. . . . .

BTW - I capitalized for emphasis - and am not yelling!!

I would NOT like to spank a man or be spanked by a man. Prefer a nice looking lady to paddle!

So who's slandering who here?

@gwhap

Thank you for being the smart one to recognize this.

@babyboy20, you know I adore you but I am going to respond to a few things you asked/said. This may seem off topic but it actually does have a lot to do with the thread.

First I want to want to point out the reason I think we are asked and answer the question of our sexual orientation. It does matter, for many reasons. It helps for statistical purposes, I’m sure as in the majority of straight females view such and such topic as ....; 75% of our male gay members responded to the topic of .....

Then it helps us as members get to know how others feel about certain questions/threads. Yes it indeed can make a huge difference and perhaps get someone to rethink their stance on a certain subject, enlighten them. If someone is struggling with their sexuality, or feeling like maybe they are not normal for liking a certain fetish but then read of others that they can directly relate to,then hell yes its important.

I think this thread in particular could very well be a good example of why its important to be honest with what you put for your sexual orientation. If you are unsure then state that you are unsure. There is nothing wrong with being unsure or curious but do not state you are strait but would engage in any kind of same sex, sexual act because that is bull shit and being dishonest. Some people would not want to get involved with someone that is bi or flexible or whatever label. Is it right ? THAT IS WHAT DOENST MATTER. But it is their personal preference and we need to respect that. Lying or not telling someone the truth, that is whats wrong.

Now I am going to respond to the little tirade you made on Susie, two fold. First I wholeheartedly agree with Susie’s philosophy of standing behind what you say. What you call her “attacking” a member I see as a moderators duty to point out what a member has said and holding them accountable. The so called member first responded to a thread asking the opinion of STRAIGT MEN ( I am not shouting but my version of emphasis) he listed he is NOT STRAIGHT. I dont care what his definition and reasoning of putting what he listed as his sexual orientation was, the FACT is he did not list he was straight. End of story as far as I am concerned. If Susie had not pointed it out I would have, not because I want to be a bitch but because I can be a stickler for detail like that.

I do not want to beat a dead horse on the whole apology thread again but for f@cks sake, if there are snowflakes that are literally offended by Susies no nonsense, blunt, truth hurts, character, too bad! You dont have to like her but I personally wouldnt trade her honest, however brutal it may seem at times for anyones pussyfooting, blowing smoke up someones ass/kissing, two face, politically correct, bull shit, fake ways any day !

@bridgette Ok now I actually understand. Thank you for enlightening me. I didn't see that perspective.

@SwitchableSusie I apologize for not fully understanding the bigger picture. I can't see every side all the time at all times. I can't perceive the intentions of others nor can I always understand the meaning behind their words.

In regards to susies comments questioning members, i think its very rude. moderators are supposed to be here to guide offer assistance with suggestions, not shout at other members and make them feel bad in front of others. this has been an ongoing problem and i dont normally respond to what she says but its out of control. and only the moderators can talk to her about how she deals with members. this is not personal, its a professional thing

Well said, toshe.

And here we go, again!

Susie is a mod, that gives her the discretion to mod as she sees fit. So she used some caps and she is being called unprofessional? Omfg get a grip ! Did she call anyone a derogatory name? Did she call anyone stupid for commenting the way they did ? Did she tell anyone to take their opinion and shove it up their ass? Tell them to leave ?

Someone needs to a reality check on what unprofessionalism is. Funny how long has Susie been here ? She is no different from what I remember but a handful and ok if it will make you feel better I will say a couple of handfuls(at best) get all butt hurt or have a vendetta against her or a friend of yours doesn’t like her and you all want to crucify her and make her change her “evil” ways. I am half laughing at this childish nonsense but sadly and a bit scary its true.

I would have told all the snowflakes to go f@ck themselves a long time ago and stood tall like the smart, intellegent, strong, opiniated, brave, confident woman I am and you could watch my ass as I walked away smiling!

As far as the mods talking to her or any other mod for that matter as far as I know there are no mods any different then any others so who gives who the right to judge each other ? Is there a chain of command except for webby being their leader ? I’m not sure the details of the politics involved or the hierarchy.

Also remember, the other member chose to respond and continued to respond.

Again, being held accountable for what you say is at play here and Susie was doing her job as a moderator. You may not like the way she does it but guess what you dont have to and I seriously doubt anything everyone does or says is in agreement with 100% of everyone 100% of the time.

Believe it or not I shut my mouth quite often.

Susie susie susie

although you won’t like it but, believe it or not, but there are some people have a real life outside the forum and not sit around 24/7 and wait until you come, shout at someone and then immediately correct whatever you have to yell about.......

I know, the truth can hurt

Susie susie susie

although you won’t like it but, believe it or not, but there are some people have a real life outside the forum and not sit around 24/7 and wait until you come, shout at someone and then immediately correct whatever you have to yell about.......

I know, the truth can hurt

Your statement doesn't hurt me one bit.

People can think whatever they like.

Okay, look. Let's just calm this down.

The clue is in the thread title, which is "How many STRAIGHT men would spank or be spanked by another man?"

'Straight' is defined as having sexual attraction to the opposite sex only.

I'm not being judgmental, and I don't believe anyone is. People are free to have whatever sexuality they have, but it would help if those responding fully consider the question put by this thread before posting.

Thanks.

I did try to explain why I chose 'heteroflexible'. No one addressed that. If I'm meant to understand, then enlighten me; don't attack me, please.

Susie, replied

I am simply looking for a reasonable explanation for why YOU SAID you were HETEROFLEXIBLE in your profile if that was not correct; and why you have not corrected it since I brought it to your attention." -- Was my explanation not reasonable?

Susie, you also wrote (in bold)

YOU said you weren't straight, I just quoted what YOU wrote." -- Need I point out that 'not straight' is not an option. I never said I "wasn't straight". And, again, I did try to explain my rationale for choosing 'heteroflexible'.

What more must I do? Was what I wrote not a genuine attempt to explain myself? Again, why is it that someone else gets to decide what I am? So, if I "fix" my profile to read "straight", then everyone is happy?

I do appreciate those who saw my point of view. Look, people, I don't log in to Zity to cause arguments. I don't know what some people's reason for being here is, but mine is to read & share very personal, sexual thoughts and experiences. Period. I can't believe that apparently I am the one at fault here because I didn't -- ahem -- Tick The Right Box. Heck, I got interested in reading a topic thread and decided to respond. And then I get ALL CAPS and bold smack downs.

Wow. Is anyone able to take a breath and step back and see a bigger picture here?

@RichardAsni said

. . . .Susie, you also wrote (in bold) "YOU said you weren't straight, I just quoted what YOU wrote." -- Need I point out that 'not straight' is not an option. I never said I "wasn't straight". And, again, I did try to explain my rationale for choosing 'heteroflexible'.

What more must I do? Was what I wrote not a genuine attempt to explain myself? Again, why is it that someone else gets to decide what I am? So, if I "fix" my profile to read "straight", then everyone is happy?

. . . . Wow. Is anyone able to take a breath and step back and see a bigger picture here?

All the choices other than "straight" "heterosexual" ARE NOT STRAIGHT.

"NOT STRAIGHT" gave you several other options to select from. You chose heteroflexible, which is NOT STRAIGHT.

I don't understand how that could ever be misconstrued.

As far as the "big picture" you make reference to is concerned, even if you had a choice of "NOT STRAIGHT" that you would have selected had it been there, YOU STILL AREN'T STRAIGHT, so why are you responding to a question asked of straight/heterosexual men??

If I ever need a spin doctor to really twist a subject, I'll give you a call.

Perhaps we should all change our orientation to leaving it blank. That would prevent anal retentives from throwing a fit if we answer a question on the forums.

@bbw4doc said

Perhaps we should all change our orientation to leaving it blank. That would prevent anal retentives from throwing a fit if we answer a question on the forums.

As far as the question in the profile page is concerned, you can always select "Not Applicable" or it can be left blank.

Having the choices in the profile is important because it makes it possible for members to see who they might be interested in meeting.

No one os forced to give an answer to those questions.

Perhaps we should all change our orientation to leaving it blank. That would prevent anal retentives from throwing a fit if we answer a question on the forums.

I have so many answers to this it would literally take me hours to reply ! I will sum it up short and sweet though.

Lmao !

Wiki: Heteroflexibility is a form of a sexual orientation or situational sexual behavior characterized by minimal homosexual activity in an otherwise primarily heterosexual orientation, which may or may not distinguish it from bisexuality. It has been characterized as "mostly straight".

Heteroflexible implies you have had homosexual sex.