How many STRAIGHT men would spank or be spanked by another man?

Maybe we should add "Bi-Curious" between Heterosexual and Heteroflexible.

Straight/Heterosexual--sex only with members of the opposite sex

Bi-Curious--a heterosexual person who has sex with the opposite sex but is interested in homosexual sex despite never having it. This still IS NOT STRAIGHT.

HeteroFlexible--sex primarily with the opposite sex (minimal homosexual activity) and will occasionally engage in homosexual activity

Bi-Sexual--more or less equal interest in having sex with same and opposite sex

HomoFlexible-- Primarily homosexual, but with a limited amount of attraction to the opposite sex, or willingness to take part in a heterosexual activity.

Homosexual/Gay/Lesbian--interested or having sex with members of one's own sex

The above are NOT my made up definitions. These are widely agreed upon. You can google them.

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BTW Keep in mind other threads here where we discussed women and men who were homosexuals married to someone of the opposite sex who have children but never came out of the closet about being unhappy in their heterosexual relationship and wanting to have a homosexual relationship. The consensus here was that despite their straight/heterosexual appearance, they were in fact homosexual even though they never had homosexual sex.

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What it all boils down to is the original question posed in this thread:

How many STRAIGHT men would spank or be spanked by another man?

Some people who described themselves as NOT STRAIGHT or heteroflexible or bisexual in their profiles felt the need to answer the question which usurps the essential and specific topic of this thread

Susie

You can't get enough, can you? Why don't we just drop the topic before we shout at everybody again?

Susie has a different opinion than the rest of the forum and thats fine. But we know your opinion now and you don't need to keep posting it.

Why don't you do you work as all the other moderators? They just involve in a thread if there are big problems. And don't do what you do. (I know you know what I mean) so please just stop it and drop it.

Perhaps we should all change our orientation to leaving it blank. That would prevent anal retentives from throwing a fit if we answer a question on the forums.

No, that would result in more unwelcome approaches than already happen now. It would only make matters worse.

I think we (including myself) should take DrZ's earlier advice and get back on topic.

This is an interesting conversation because with a infinite number of sexual orientations (note the "+" after lgbtq), there are no clear cut definitions. Each person decides for him/herself which label applies best to them; this part of the thread a testament to the problem with labels.

If a woman engages in a lip lock with another woman and enjoys it because it turns her husband on, does that make her bi, lez, heteroflexible? Is it her choice?

A guy allows a man to take his temperature rectally because it would turn on his wife, or give him a spanking for discipline, but it's not sexual...what label are they? Who gets to decide.

I think the point @RichardAsni was making is that he's never engaged in sexual activity with a man and doesn't dream about it, but he might consider something sexual with a guy, under some circumstance, though he's not really curious about it.

One may consider himself hetroflexible or bi-curious for some situations, but for the question of taking a disciplinany, non-sexual spanking from a man, he's straight. That, to him may not reach into the 'curious' or 'flexible' realm.

I can understand the reason for not mislabeling oneself on their profile, but I really do think the distinction, especially as explained by the member here is unimportant.

I recently had a conversation with someone on another site about trans' and that in one situation I would consider the person a female and in a different situation, I'd consider the same person a male. Complicated times we live in.

I actually just spent time reading over 30 of the most unnecessary, pointless, and unproductive posts on Zity.

Can the webmaster please create the following Zity profile sexual orientation category...

Heterosexual-Spankingflexible ??

RotfLmao !!

Let's face it... adult spankings (M-F, M-M, F-M, & F-F) -- even supposedly disciplinary-only spankings -- are at least to some extent a sexual fetish.

I'll tell you right now that if anybody replies that they voluntarily engage-in or fantasize to engage-in 100% non-sexually motivated adult-adult (A-A) corporal punishment (a form of sadomasochism), you're either lying or you don't fully understand the psychology of your own fetish.

I've considered myself a straight male for my entire life, with the SINGLE exception that I enjoy giving and receiving A-A spankings/discipline. Giving or receiving M-M spankings may cause me to have an erection, but does NOT result in me having ANY desire to engage in ANY additional M-M sexual behaviors.

M-F or F-M spankings (with my girlfriend), on the other hand, are usually foreplay that turns us on big-time! Occasionally, severe Domestic Discipline will cause the recipient to lose his/her sexual arousal temporarily (until the bare bottom cools down a bit), but it usually returns within 1-3 hours, with a vengeance!

So, according to @SwitchableSusie, I should no longer consider myself a straight male on Zity. And I'll expect to be yelled at with capital letters, bold typeface, and colorful text (red, blue, etc).

Or... we could take this opportunity to get this discussion thread back on-point?

Heterosexual-Spankingflexible ??

RotfLmao !!

I am in the category of having done both giving and receiving, to me, it is a matter in being secure in who you are and not being threatened by the other person's orientation. I even had an invite from one of the senior gay guys to come play with them if I wanted too. And for the record, I get along with almost everyone, whether gay lesbian or straight, because I also believe in building communities and learning from one another.

......Yawn.

How on earth is it that so many people can't seem to fully grasp the concept of being straight without getting confused about things. It is so damn simple. If you are straight ANY sort of "play" with someone that is the same sex as you would not interest you if it does you are not fully straight. End of story, no more debate on the subject is needed.

Thank you, all. I think I understand now.

If I now your perspective, Susie, given the title of the post ("How many STRAIGHT men would spank or be spanked by another man?"), the answer is: zero. No one can possibly reply to this post and still correctly follow the Zity guidelines for sexual orientation.

As DrZ posted, "'Straight' is defined as having sexual attraction to the opposite sex only."

- So it is not possible for a straight man to want to spank or be spanked by another man, correct? If he does, he is not straight.

- Therefore, no straight person can possibly reply, or else they have misrepresented their sexual orientation.

- And no gay, bi, heteroflexible, etc. person can reply, because only straight people are allowed to reply.

- Hence, there's no possible legitimate person who can answer this post's question.

I do very much appreciate the kind, educational, civil replies I did receive from some people.

@RichardAsni ...

You nailed it ...

Every post in this thread is INVALID.

Women (ie: @SwitchableSusie) and Non-Straight Men were not invited to participate in this discussion. The question was directed to Straight Men only!

Straight men cannot respond (other than to say, "Not me."), because no "fully straight" (whatever that means -- maybe a contrast with "partially straight" -- RotfLmao) men would EVER participate in a Male-Male spanking. On the day that any man gives/receives, or even contemplates, a M-M spanking, he ceases to be straight. And, if at that time, he's a member of Zity with an indicated profile sexual orientation of straight/heterosexual, he should IMMEDIATELY update his profile to indicate a non-straight orientation.

Furthermore, IMHO, this entire discussion thread should probably be considered a violation of some sort of rule against asking questions that cannot possibly be correctly answered by any member (other than to say, "Not me.").

The question was ...

How many STRAIGHT men would spank or be spanked by another man?

THE answer IS... ZERO !!

It's a FACT that NO other possible correct answer exists for this question. Of course, the same will hold true for females... no heterosexual/straight woman has EVER given/received, or even contemplated, a F-F spanking, because ALL consensual same-sex adult spankings are BY DEFINITION a homosexual behavior. There isn't any room for opinion or discussion.

THE END

RotfLmao !!

On the day that any man gives/receives, or even contemplates, a M-M spanking, he ceases to be straight.

Not necessarilly. That would assume that ALL spankings have a sexual connection between the spanker and spankee.

- So it is not possible for a straight man to want to spank or be spanked by another man, correct? If he does, he is not straight.

@RichardAsni You stated that you are straight and would allow a man to spank you if your girlfriend wanted to watch and it was a turn on for her. That doesn't necessarily make you "non-straight" (albeit a little bit kinky!).

Spankings don't have to be erotic or sexual - and there may be many situations where a truly straight man would receive or give a spanking to another man. Some people are into spanking for discipline or reasons other than sex - and a male or female administrator is immaterial to them.

Here's an article about a professional "spankologist" who has men pay him to get spanked. I admit it is a little quirky but it illustrates that, for some instances, spanking is non-sexual.

https://melmagazine.com/en-us/story/my-afternoon-with-dr-don-the-male-spanking-therapist-2

Perhaps the title/question should be understood as: 'how many otherwise STRAIGHT men would spank ...' or 'how many men who normally/usually consider themselves STRAIGHT would spank ...'

That is how I understood the question the first time I read it. I thought it pretty straightforward and easy to understand.

@RichardAsni

Thank you, all. I think I understand now.

If I now your perspective, Susie, given the title of the post ("How many STRAIGHT men would spank or be spanked by another man?"), the answer is: zero. No one can possibly reply to this post and still correctly follow the Zity guidelines for sexual orientation.

As DrZ posted, "'Straight' is defined as having sexual attraction to the opposite sex only."

- So it is not possible for a straight man to want to spank or be spanked by another man, correct? If he does, he is not straight.

- Therefore, no straight person can possibly reply, or else they have misrepresented their sexual orientation.

- And no gay, bi, heteroflexible, etc. person can reply, because only straight people are allowed to reply.

- Hence, there's no possible legitimate person who can answer this post's question.

I do very much appreciate the kind, educational, civil replies I did receive from some people.

Touche.' Good old fashioned critical thinking skills win again 😃.

@agracier

Perhaps the title/question should be understood as: 'how many otherwise STRAIGHT men would spank ...' or 'how many men who normally/usually consider themselves STRAIGHT would spank ...'

That is how I understood the question the first time I read it. I thought it pretty straightforward and easy to understand.

I think most people understood it the way it was meant, as you did. All was well until someone was called out on a technicality between his posted sexual orientation and the subject of this thread.

Hopefully common sense and good judgement will return and we'll be able to get back on track with the topic.

If I now your perspective, Susie, given the title of the post ("How many STRAIGHT men would spank or be spanked by another man?"), the answer is: zero. No one can possibly reply to this post and still correctly follow the Zity guidelines for sexual orientation.

No, a straight male can legitimately post a valid answer of “Not me!”, which was done several times in this thread.

Spankings don't have to be erotic or sexual - and there may be many situations where a truly straight man would receive or give a spanking to another man. Some people are into spanking for discipline or reasons other than sex - and a male or female administrator is immaterial to them.

I dont know about this. Spankings are pain and humiliation. If it wasn’t sexual, who would enjoy it? Do spankees enjoy getting hit with a baseball bat in their back? Sliced with a knife to the bone? Punched in the face? Most likely no, so its only certain KINDS of pain... involving their (usually) bare bottom, and an embarassing situation. If it wasn’t some form of sexual pleasure, why would it ever be enjoyed?

Granted, the situation of doing it STRICTLY for your female partner is murky. Are YOU submissive, so that anything you do, even if it disgusts you internally, is exciting because you are submitting to her? Or are you just equals, and open enough to do something that turns you OFF, just to please your partner?

FWIW, I was about to say the same as Susie, that two posters in a row who identified on the their profile as straight, said they would do M-M spanking, although maybe I would have used less CAPS. 😁

OMFG!

I just read the logic used to purport the argument with the conclusion that no straight man would ever do it. Really?

Some of you have no understanding because you have never been around gay people and gotten to know them. Your premise is so flawed, you make the assumption it is all about sex and attraction. Spankings do not have to be about sex, emotions, or attraction. You never heard of a woman or man who want disciplinary spankings from the same or opposite sex with no sex involved whatsoever? I suggest some of you get out from behind that computer and into the real world. Most of you don't know the history of the well known BDSM groups in this country and how much the gay and lesbian community played in helping the heterosexual groups develop. Even today there is much common ground between all the groups and sexual orientation. Grow up!

@Master_Dorson

If you didn't intuit any sarcasm in some of the recent posts to this thread (from me and others), you may want to reread some of the ones that have apparently caused you to become cranky.

Having said that, I would also suggest researching the well-established connection between consensual adult spanking and sexual tension/arousal.

The number of adults who would enjoy giving/receiving, or even fantasizing about, adult spankings, absent the sexual tension/arousal, is insignificant compared with those that know/understand/admit that there IS a sexual component at play.

Heterosexual-Spankingflexible !!

RotfLmao !!

Everything that might cause sexual arousal does NOT have to be considered an indicator as to one's sexual orientation. It is possible for men and women who identify as straight to occasionally find themselves sexually aroused by specific same-gender encounters. Similarly, it is possible for men and women who identify as gay to occasionally find themselves sexually aroused by specific cross-gender encounters.

Furthermore, it is possible for sexual biology and psychology to play a role in causing an individual to enjoy spanking in such a way that the individual INCORRECTLY THINKS that there isn't any connection to sexuality, when iin FACT there IS such a connection.

I saw enough when reading a page or so in fast reading to make my head hurt. I wasn't about to read 5 pages worth of stuff, got better stuff to do. I might have missed the sarcasm in some of the posts but felt it necessary to post. Yes, I am well aware of the stats of those that are sexually aroused and those that are not. I have been in the active BDSM community for 27 years, and have been in leadership roles too.

The logic posted here made me remember the "Battle of the Wits" scene in the movie Princess Bride: 😄

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rMz7JBRbmNo

I am a stright male, and beyond my wildest and most vivid fantasys, would never even dream of that happening. Of course I am only speaking for myself.

In regards to this question, the man's sexual preferences are not of ANY concern or remotely related to the purpose of spanking his bared butt! If he needs or desires a spanking, he might have a preference as to who gives him the spanking but in the event that choice is not available to him then he can either accept it from the giver or not. However I can say this with absolute certainty, the spankee's butt will not know any difference! So, with that being known, across my lap he goes and his pants & underwear are coming down so I can get "IT" done.

Who would disagree with this?

@RaytheGent said

In regards to this question, the man's sexual preferences are not of ANY concern or remotely related to the purpose of spanking his bared butt! If he needs or desires a spanking, he might have a preference as to who gives him the spanking but in the event that choice is not available to him then he can either accept it from the giver or not. However I can say this with absolute certainty, the spankee's butt will not know any difference! So, with that being known, across my lap he goes and his pants & underwear are coming down so I can get "IT" done.

Who would disagree with this?

Of course you may believe that because according to what YOU SAID in your profile, YOU ARE NOT STRAIGHT

Here we go again!

I just have to laugh condescendingly AT @SwitchableSusie

She's just plain silly!

She needs a good spanking! Lots of welts, BLACK & BLUE marks, and BLOOD. Because SHE SAID in a recent post that these are the attributes of an interesting spanking...

"Without welts, bleeding or black and blue marks, it is an easy albeit BORING punishment."

And we don't want Susie to get bored. She may find that she has nothing better to do than to compare members' posts with how they identify their sexual orientations in their profiles. And then pass judgement when, according to her, a specific opinion or behavior is less than 100% consistent with an individual's identified orientation.

Oh wait... she already doesn't have anything better to do... Silly!

RotfLmao !!

@BottomFromTheTop said

I just have to laugh condescendingly AT @SwitchableSusie

She's just plain silly!

She needs a good spanking! Lots of welts, BLACK & BLUE marks, and BLOOD. Because SHE SAID in a recent post that these are the attributes of an interesting spanking...

"Without welts, bleeding or black and blue marks, it is an easy albeit BORING punishment."

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You can laugh all you want but YOU WOULD STILL BE WRONG

You are taking my statement out of context and the post to which I responded ASKED who would disagree. I disagreed, but apparently you can't accept my simple straightforward response.

Furthermore, the statement you quoted was made regarding punishments you can perform without having to worry about legal problems from the corrupt and self righteous child or adult protective services when the point of the punishment being "torture" was brought up.

I have neither the desire to spank a male of any description nor be spanked. I do love a nicely turned up female bottom however. I am somewhat surprised by the amount of passion in the thread and remind everyone that they are all entitled to their own opinions. Please keep your replies civil and we can get some more mileage out of this interesting thread.

However I can say this with absolute certainty, the spankee's butt will not know any difference! So, with that being known, across my lap he goes and his pants & underwear are coming down so I can get "IT" done.

Who would disagree with this?

@RaytheGent My hand is up! It’s very easy to disagree with you. Following your logic, the penis doesn’t know if the lips and tongue on it are male or female, so every man should want a blowjob from men as well. Not does the clit know who’s licking it, so every woman, straight or not, should enjoy oral from other women!

Spankings for most (or everyone) here are sexual. Why is it so hard to understand that straight people don’t want to sexually interact with members of the same sex?? Just like a 100% gay person doesn’t want to sexually touch the opposite sex.

And we don’t want Susie to get bored. She may find that she has nothing better to do than to compare members' posts with how they identify their sexual orientations in their profiles. And then pass judgement when, according to her, a specific opinion or behavior is, less than 100% consistent with an individual's identified orientation.

@BottomFromTheTop Sorry you are wrong. When someone, to whom the question is not posed (a bi/gay person when the question specifies straight), answers, and presupposes how others, who do NOT share their sexual orientation with, should think about something... they should be called out! As a straight male I would never think that I should talk about how bi or gay people or any women think, especially on questions regarding sexual partners and attraction.

@SwitchableSusie wasn’t passing any judgment, she was merely pointing out why someone’s answer was, in effect, wrong.

As a Dom I wouldnt do it. I have been asked and I think its too close to a sexual act, as a mind set but also physically touching a man ass.

I have considered whipping a man but not his bottom part, but then it never happened.

We need to remind some that bdsm is also a mind control and not always sexually motivated. Some straigh men feel they prefer being dominated by a man, key holder for example or being cucked.

Just about the ONLY way you are going to have a GENUINELY STRAIGHT MAN spanking (actually CANING) another man is in Singapore if he throws a piece of gum on the sidewalk. (remember that news story???)

Never thought of that and would not be interested.

Similar - but slightly different spin on Straight Men getting spanked by a man:

https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;topic=72097;firstnew