Am I gay?

Okay so this is old and you probably don't need more advice, but here goes anyway!

In terms of labels, if those are important to you, you're not gay. Enjoying anal in any way is incredibly common, and fantasizing about men in a same-sex encounter is too. Sexual curiosity doesn't put you in any categories.

Jumping on a string of discussion, broadly speaking, bisexuality is more of a sliding scale than a definition. Most people have attractions to more than absolutes. My partner for example is "majority" straight, in that he's in a monogamous relationship with a woman. That doesn't stop him from liking twinks in porn or having the occasional conversation about cock (not his own). I love men, but not only men. It's all very much about personal comfort.

Don't think so, you're just curious about trying new things that make you feel good. Dont worry that doesn't make you gay or anyone else in this forum who might think of trying new and unique way to have fun.

This is a funny topic and it addresses my own conflict. I have a strong sexual attraction to women but that does not mean that I will not let the "right guy" fuck me up the ass! (smile)

You are who you are, and what you are. Why the need for labels?

@Corinne I agree - I fully believe in the Kinsey Scale!

I myself experienced the same sensation when I was 8 y.o. When mother yelled get ready my stomach would fill with a butterfly feeling and my anus became very sensative. My penis would immediately erect feeling the long nozzle entering my puckered anus. I too wondered of feeling another boys penis in me? At 11 y.o. it happened with a 13 y.o. boy. Back then at the Boys YMCA while swimming allowed you to swim without swim shorts, nude back in the mid 50's. No girls were allowed they had their own YWCA.

For me, I can say i'm not gay and not even "Bi".....I am just anally erotic an straight.....although i love enemas, love being fingered in the ass, and even love a dildo in the ass.....BUT BY A WOMAN! I have no desire to touch or be touched by a man......I know about she-males and they still are not for me........even the softest gentlest guy is a deal breaker for me, not because of homophobia but it just doesn't turn me on.........until I find a she-male with an 18" cock that's 4" around, I'll be stickin with the chicks.......

Go get penetrated a few times by a nice penis and get back to us...........

agracier said:

Hmmm ... I'd go with the emotional aspect, like jce3106 describes. It's not so much about doing specific same-sex things that makes a person innately gay, it has more to do with feelings, however intense or not they tend to get.

How for instance does one classify someone who likes she-males/t-girls/transgenders (or whatever the term is nowadays). I'd say that the overall femininity of a transgender body indicates that someone attracted to them is not necessarily gay as in same sex, celebrating-masculinity gay. Quite different appreciations and attraction and arousal factors.

And perhaps people who engage in same-sex acts are simply indifferent to gender, it's all good to them.

The engaging-in-same-sex-acts-and-therefore-being-gay sounds a bit too much like a contagion thing. A concept that seems to be used by people and groups with an openly anti-gay agenda.

I'd say that at most it makes one bi, indifferent or open. Or easy to please since it's all good ... ha ha.

Are two men who are strangers to each other who go into a bathroom and fuck each other in the ass NOT homosexual or at least bisexual???

Feelings of love have nothing to do with what makes you gay. Two guys fucking each other makes them at least Bisexual.

I received anal sex from a guy once (with a condom of course), he went too hard and fast though. Was done in about 3 mins. Would like to find the right guy and try it again, this time going slower so we could both enjoy it more. So yes, I'm bi.

Are two men who are strangers to each other who go into a bathroom and fuck each other in the ass NOT homosexual or at least bisexual???

Feelings of love have nothing to do with what makes you gay. Two guys fucking each other makes them at least Bisexual.

I would agree with the exception if a guy did this once in his lifetime, determined it isn't his cup of tea, and never again did it with a guy then he isn't even bi. He was bi curious at one time and solved his curiosity problem.

^^^^ I'll grant you that everyone is entitled to try most things once.

Interesting that this topic was started 5 years ago, and the debate continues. Since the originator hasn't been on in several months, i won't as yet bother addressing his specific concerns in the original post.

Seems many folks have different definitions or "qualifications" as to what constitutes whether a person would be considered as "gay".

I notice a lot of the discussion is centered around anal activity.

But how about this:

Say a guy was getting sucked or jacked off at a glory hole, and couldn't see who was on the other side. If it turned out a guy was the one jacking or sucking him, would that make him gay? Likewise, if he's with a friend who decides to go down on him or wants to jack him, and he passively allows it to happen, would THAT make him gay?

Did I notice anybody on this thread reveal having sex with both men and women, yet not exactly have "bisexual" listed for "orientation" in the profile ?

Feelings of love have nothing to do with what makes you gay.

I didn't say anything about 'love' - so difficult a concept to define I would never think of using it in discussions about sexual activity. I said that it has to do with feelings, how you feel about yourself and how you perceive yourself and identify.

I know that people often say 'I have feelings for you' and that it is often interpreted as meaning: 'I love you but am too shy to say so'. But that's not what I meant. Maybe I wasn't too clear.

I'm Bi but do like anal sex, if i'm the one getting fucked i do like to suck dicks

In these days we are way to much absorbed with identifying ourselfs as gay/straight or however many different orientation there is than actually enjoying sex. I'll say if you are single try everything that makes you happy. If you are in a relationship, raise this with your partner and see what she/he says. Maybe she will be more then happy to help you to achieve this fantasy. There is nothng wrong with exploring our own sexuality.

Bisexuality doubles your dating pool! 😃

Just my humble opinion but anal play is a wonderful thing. It brings so much to entire sexual experience. I have enjoyed using dildos and been fortunate enough to have several gfs use various sized strapons and administer enemas to me and me to them. I a have also had the good fortune of experiencing the real thing and enjoyed that as well......that does not make me gay. I consider myself bi have not been with many males but would love to again if I ever get the chance again.....enjoy no harm no foul.....

You are right that no dildo is as good as a real penis. Don't worry about labels and find yourself a partner. I've bottomed for some guys who considered themselves pretty straight. It's just sex, enjoy it. Be safe, use condoms.

I don't think it makes you gay, as i don't think it makes me gay. Just another expression of human sexuality

A very old thread but sexuality is about who you are attracted to. Your primary desire may be exclusively homo or hetro but the vast majority are bisexual to some extent... I am gay, I have been with several hetroflexible men they claim to be straight but want sex with a guy for one reason or other. You may love something in your butt or even a man and still be straight... being on the receiving end of a good f*ck can be exceptionally pleasurable. Some guys who are straight will get pegged by their female partner... Try to worry less about labels and enjoy what you want.

I consider my self strongly Bi. While I am not a huge fan of sucking cock, I don't really like having mine sucked either. I love anal play and all its pleasures. I do enjoy sinking my cock into a ready and willing butt, but more than anything I love sitting on a huge dildo or getting a good cock in my ass while I am laying on my belly. And the cum is......

Because everybody has one, assholes are not gendered. Enjoy them to your heart's content without worrying about your sexuality.

There are some old wive's tails about determining your sexuality-

If you've asked yourself if you're gay more than three times- you are.

If one in ten people are gay, and you can't figure out who it is in your group, it's you.

Please accept the LOL intended.

I looked this up on the internet so forgive me if it is inaccurate.

Anus in French is MASCULINE.

Asshole-the person- IS gendered-- con (masculine) or conne (feminine)

😁

Asshole-the person- IS gendered-- con (masculine) or conne (feminine)

😁

So a French idiot who harasses women on sites like FetLife is a "Con Dom" and the female version is a 'Conne Domme"? LOL

I looked this up on the internet so forgive me if it is inaccurate.

Anus in French is MASCULINE.

Asshole-the person- IS gendered-- con (masculine) or conne (feminine)

😁

No, it is not inaccurate at all. You are correct.

However the word 'con' is originally and normally translated as 'a cunt', a vulgar word for female genitals. BUT - it can also indeed mean something like asshole or twerp, stupid, jerk, dickhead, fuckface and so on and then it can be gendered into masculine and feminine forms. You can also add the extra insult of calling a man 'une conne' - sort of like the Brits do when calling a jerk a cunt or a twat. Con can be a mild insult or an intense swear word, depending on the context. It can also be used for buttocks in general and then it is both somewhat insulting or merely childish, again depending on context.

The word for asshole in French is 'cul' which is not all that polite, but not that impolite either. It also ends up appearing in words like cul-de-sac which were absorbed into English in the past.

If you want to go a bit further, in French there is le vagin (vagina) - which is masculine and also the popular la bite (a prick) which is feminine in grammatical gender.

Silly as hell if you ask me, but gender in French partially depends upon the spelling of the word, not necessarily what it represents in real life. But if you don't know the gender, just guess - you have a 50/50 chance of being right.

So a French idiot who harasses women on sites like FetLife is a "Con Dom" and the female version is a 'Conne Domme"? LOL

That's pretty funny!

That's pretty funny!

Every now and then I get lucky... 😁

So a French idiot who harasses women on sites like FetLife is a "Con Dom" and the female version is a 'Conne Domme"? LOL

Don't want to spoil your joke, but in French - postulating that the word combination even makes sense - you would first of all need to reverse the word order. Adjectives normally follow a noun. They don't precede a noun as in English.

So you'd get 'un dom con' or 'une domme conne' ...

Sorry to be so literal on language, but those are the rules in French grammar ... 😃

Agracier said

Don't want to spoil your joke, but in French - postulating that the word combination even makes sense - you would first of all need to reverse the word order. Adjectives normally follow a noun. They don't precede a noun as in English.

So you'd get 'un dom con' or 'une domme conne' ...

Sorry to be so literal on language, but those are the rules in French grammar ... 😃

I missed that when I said it was funny. I was too busy laughing. I forgot the adjective goes after the noun.

"Dom con" and "Domme Conne" in the correct order in French is just as funny as the words in the wrong order.