Am I gay?

@agracier , @SwitchableSusie I guess I don't really care if it was a proper language... "Con Dom" just sounded funny.., LOL

But thanks for the lesson... ?

@agracier , @SwitchableSusie I guess I don't really care if it was a proper language... "Con Dom" just sounded funny.., LOL

But thanks for the lesson... ?

What is also funny is that I didn't get the joke until now ... I am often too literal and serious for my own good.

And to complete the joke, you do know that there is a town named Condom in France. It is halfway between Toulouse and Bordeaux. Surprised me and my wife when we first drove through there in the late 70s.

Agracier said

What is also funny is that I didn't get the joke until now ... I am often too literal and serious for my own good.

And to complete the joke, you do know that there is a town named Condom in France. It is halfway between Toulouse and Bordeaux. Surprised me and my wife when we first drove through there in the late 70s.

That's funny too!

And to complete the joke, you do know that there is a town named Condom in France.

LOL! No didn't know that... it must be the sister city to Intercourse, Pennsylvania!! Yes, a real place...

Slide over and let me sit next to you. I am married, heterosexual, and only had one male encounter which was many years ago, but like you, I find myself looking at some of these men in the group, especially in the enema field with a certain amount of anticipation. Am I gay? Definately not. I am simply looking to expand my horizons and to look elsewhere for the sex that has gone from my marriage. This is my first posting of what I think may be many.

LOL! No didn't know that... it must be the sister city to Intercourse, Pennsylvania!! Yes, a real place...

There is also a town called Colon, Michigan.

LOL! No didn't know that... it must be the sister city to Intercourse, Pennsylvania!! Yes, a real place...

Don't forget Cumming, Georgia. Oh my!

Don't forget Cumming, Georgia. Oh my!

Also Erect, NC...which happens to be near Climax, NC

If sex were removed from this conversation, it could just as easily be about regarding preference in foods. If eating had the same religious and social implications as sex does people would be just as guarded on whether or not they'd refer to themselves as vegan or a carnivore.

Once the stigma that ALL religions seems to give to sex (with any gender) are removed...who cares at that point?

I'll have a Big Mac and fries, please. -- WHO CARES

Gimme the veggie burger with roasted cauliflower, please. --WHO CARES

Hey Bill, I'd like you suck my cock, please. --NOBODY SHOULD CARE 😃

As mentioned earlier by one person, I can't even process wanting kiss another man, but I'll sure sit on his cock for a ride to heaven. For me, it's all about the sensation. I'm still relatively new to playing around with men, so I can say that I've had my cock sucked as well as sucking a few myself and I've fucked men and been fucked by men. Am I good at it? Probably not, but I do it for the pleasure I get and give. Straight, bi, gay are just words that mean nothing to me. I love women and I love making love to them. I like having sex with men at this point because it's new and exciting, but I won't give up women for men.

Short answer you are not technically gay, most sex studies consider gay to be someone who has had sex with a member of the same gender in the past year. Unless you are fantasizing about men I would say you are dead straight, if you are dreaming of guys then you might be bi-curious.

Anal play can be stimulating for both men and women regardless of sexual orientation.

In recent sex studies a new category has been introduced, "men who have sex with men". These are typically married men who identify as being straight but occasionally like to fuck other men, they are typically tops.

In recent sex studies a new category has been introduced, "men who have sex with men". These are typically married men who identify as being straight but occasionally like to fuck other men, they are typically tops.

This isn't all that new a phenomenon, but it is coming to light, and has health services VERY worried. Straight men who have sex with men (and NEVER use the word gay) often think of themselves as invincible, and practice some dicey sex, thinking 'not gay sex- can't catch anything, cause I'm not gay...'

Since men who have sex with men are usually on the down-low, they won't get tested either.

In gay neighborhoods, where straight men are cruising, bottoms outnumber tops by a huge margin, so the weekend migration of tops into the city is welcome. Since these men are just visiting, they often pickup more promiscuous men, or sex workers.

Aids/HIV is not a gay plague- but men having sex with men, no matter what they call themselves, are always at risk.

Have fun...but stay safe!

Good to see all contributors have said that anal sex from a man is not being gay. As a man we are always experimenting with our sexuality. I think because we all have this enema fetish which is anally stimulating we want to extend this anal eroticism to anal sex with a man. I have received anal sex from a man and yet even today I love looking at a woman's bottom and how I could give her an enema, anal sex and rim her.

Good to see all contributors have said that anal sex from a man is not being gay. . . .

It is being Bi.

It is being Bi.

... because to be straight is to be attracted only to the opposite sex.

I think because we all have this enema fetish which is anally stimulating we want to extend this anal eroticism to anal sex with a man.

Not to be argumentative; but, I love enemas, I love riding my dildos, I do not want anal sex with a man.

I am definitely attracted to females. However I love the sensations of taking a guy's penis up my bottom. Have also Topped a couple of guys because I couldn't find a female into anal. I have no interest in kissing a guy or doing oral with one or making love to one. So I don't consider myself gay or even bi.

rtbliss said

I am definitely attracted to females. However I love the sensations of taking a guy's penis up my bottom. Have also Topped a couple of guys because I couldn't find a female into anal. I have no interest in kissing a guy or doing oral with one or making love to one. So I don't consider myself gay or even bi.

You are just lying to yourself.

Heteroflexible is still Bi and your specific activities don't matter.

Like you, I listed myself as heteroflexible in my profile.

It means I'm Bi but I don't do it very often.

I have always reckoned myself to be sexual, rather than hetero or homo, as I enjoy physical sex in either form. With men I never reckon to have a romantic attachment of any kind - one of the attractions of men is that I have a much better idea of how they are feeling erotically, since I can imagine myself in their position much more easily.

I also reckon that men are generally more able to just enjoy the act, and the sensations, without there being any strings attached, whereas with a woman I expect a residual wish for continuing romantic connection.

There is quite a difference in my mind between long-term companionship, with added sensual contact, which reinforces the feelings of closeness and mutual care, and purely sexual acts.

I should say that like some others here I shy away from any form of kissing, specially with another man, apart from with my wife. Indeed I have never been keen on oral sex, either with her or with others, but I am increasingly happy with anal stimulation in any form. This is of course the main reason why I have come to enjoy this forum.

@harryf_k said

I have always reckoned myself to be sexual, rather than hetero or homo, as I enjoy physical sex in either form.

That makes you bisexual.

Most people fall into the bisexual range, even I would consider the right guy at the right time.

@ShamanE said

Most people fall into the bisexual range, even I would consider the right guy at the right time.

In that case, perhaps you need to change the orientation stated on your profile from straight to heteroflexible.

It isn't so much that I am gay; it is that there are so many 'straight' people who hide behind labels.

Dan

The way I see this is. If you are a man and like receiving pleasure from a woman(even though anal stimulation) your straight.

If you are a man and want your pleasure to come from another man and you your not straight.

It isn't so much that I am gay; it is that there are so many 'straight' people who hide behind labels.

Dan

A better description is

so many "straight" people LIE behind labels.

Wow this really isn’t that complicated. @SwitchableSusie and @DrZ and @James3333 are right. If you have sex with men and women your are bi. Not a big deal... just please don’t cheat on a partner.

@ShamanE and @harryf_k and @rtbliss and @receive ... you are BI and it’s no big deal. No straight man would ever want sex from a man, Period! If you do it’s fine, but don’t call yourself straight.

As a man we are always experimenting with our sexuality. I think because we all have this enema fetish which is anally stimulating we want to extend this anal eroticism to anal sex with a man.

No no no! I love enemas. I love anal stimulation. I love experimenting. But ONLY with a female because I am hopelessly straight. If you want sex with a man, just understand you are at least bisexual.

The way i look at put what ever tag you want on it as long as all parties agree to be willing particapts and what happens behind closed doors stays behind closed doors.

It all boils down to; if you are a man that identifies as a man, and you are ATTRACTED TO another man that identifies himself as a man..to the point where you want physical intimacy, then that is a gay/bi tendency. It’s all in the attraction. I personally have NO attraction to men at ALL, BUT the IDEA of bottoming to a man or trans woman is very arousing.

Anal stimulation in and of itself isn’t a sign of male homosexuality. Some homosexual men don’t even like anal stimulation. What makes them homosexual is their ATTRACTION to other MEN who IDENTIFY as men. That’s just simple semantics.

You can be straight and crave anal stimulation. I LOVE and DESIRE WOMEN, NOT men. However, I fantasize about bottoming because I LOVE the sensation of having my anus and rectum stretched and full. I’ll take a pegging from my wife in a heartbeat because it FEELS GOOD.

If I was single, I’d consider bottoming too just because it feels SO good, but I won’t cheat on my wife.

This is an interesting topic to me. I'm not a fan of labels but as far as sexual orientation goes, I consider myself pretty squarely bi. I am romantically and sexually attracted to men and women and I have had and intend to continue to have sexual relationships with both men and women.

I also know for myself that being fucked by a real penis is so much better than being fucked by a fake penis. To the extent that I'd pretty much rather skip all fake penis action.

Knowing that, if a guy who likes receiving anal sex wanted to experience it from a real penis, and that interaction was the only sexual sensory experience he wanted to receive from a man, I don't know that I'd expect him to label himself as other than straight. That said, if we're discussing his sexual history, I'd expect him to be upfront about being an MSM.

ls

No, just because a man enjoys his own anal/rectal stimulation does not mean you're gay. I'm attracted to women and the female body. I simply enjoy the feeling of anal/rectal fun. I let my wife have fun with my opening. She's double fisted me. Just feels awesome!

........BUT the IDEA of bottoming to a man or trans woman is very arousing.

That’s at least being bi-curious. Enjoying anal stimulation isn’t gay or bisexual - it is great. Wanting to feel a real penis, that is at least a bi-curios fantasy. Doesn’ Mean you are gay, just not totally straight.