Am I gay?

I’m 72, always been straight, but lately have been wonderingly about having a real cock up my ass, but the fear of getting an STD (or HIV) really scares me. I have ED as a result of prostate cancer and radiation and sex with a real warm body after many years would be nice. My wife won’t peg me thinking it is perverted. Behind her back, I do love my butt plugs and dildo, however.

I know some boys/men who suggested being straight but enjoying sexual experimentation with same gender. One of them also liked rimming and prostate massage very much. But none of them wanted to be the passive part, so they always fucked me (and my impression was they do it in another way than gay guys). However, they said that the romantic feelings never came towards men but only to women.

Having thoughts of being penetrated in the anus by a man does not make you gay, it just means that you are becoming aware that your anus is a source of sexual pleasure and that you can choose to act on those thoughts or choose to ignore them. I have enjoyed having a penis in my anus at different times in my life ever since I was a fourteen old softball player who had my first experience being a bottom male to a top male, a sixteen year old softball player, who had become a close friend. My early sexual explorations with men, as a top male and bottom male, and with women, as a top male, resulted in my becoming a heterosexual male. It was only when I became divorced from my wife that I allowed myself to develop a sexual identity which is bisexual. When I was married, I was always faithful to my wife and did not have any sexual experiences with men. I enjoy sexual and emotional bonding with both women and men, however I have observed in the last ten years that I become more sexually aroused when I am in bottom role with a man, especially if he is dominant or has a big penis that he knows how to use to create pleasure for both of us. You will become what you believe to be true, thus I suggest that you learn the definitions of sexual gender orientations by studying a gender glossary online as there are many more gender orientations in addition to heterosexual, bisexual, and gay, including pansexual, gender fluid, etc.

For the most part,

Am I gay?

Is the WRONG question in this thread.

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In almost all cases in this thread, the question should have been

AM I BISEXUAL?

and many of the men who responded ARE bisexual despite their replies.

From one bisexual to another, I wish many of you guys would stop lying to yourselves.

As long as you are happy in your current relationship why does it matter?

I guess you can even be unhappy but if you don't immediately want to change things why does it matter?

People get very worked up over this and as I get older it just seems as though it doesn't matter that much. In almost all cases in the developed world you don't have to have sex with anyone you don't want to.

It's not like cancer where it will possibly kill you, it's not like mental illness where it will possibly remove your volition. Have sex with whom you have chosen to have sex with and don't panic about your fantasies. Do guys on here panic because they have a fantasy about having sex with a different woman? Do women panic because a thought of a different man came into their mind? Not usually.

For the most part,Is the WRONG question in this thread.

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In almost all cases in this thread, the question should have been

AM I BISEXUAL?

and many of the men who responded are bisexual despite their replies.

From one bisexual to another, I wish many of you guys would stop lying to yourselves.

Thanks Susie for telling it like it is! Men who do things with other men as well as women are bi. Simple as that.