Do enemas make me gay??

Uh , NO.

not there would be anything wrong with that.

"Gay" is generally defined to mean sexual attraction to people of the

same sex as yourself. I think the Pet Shop Boys are brilliant, but I

do not desire them as sexual partners, does that make me gay?

When my wife fists my butt, I do not think 'if only that was a man's hand up my butt',

nor do I wish that SHE was a man while I'm buggering her.

Still not gay, (still not anything wrong with that)

Once upon a time, before the internet, someone did a study about

buttsex, the final ANALysis was Lesbians had the most, followed by

married Hets, and the gay boys were bringing up the rear so to speak,

along with the single Hets, (this was around 1965-75). So yeah,

I still wouldn't mind being a lesbian, in my next life.

I suppose a better question might be "does jacking off make you gay?"

Jacking is all about The Penis, and I think gays like penis, therefore -

I'll leave the math up to you.

this vid might cover most of what I've missed-

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U_gm1h0i0i4

OK? thanks,

No. Sexual preference has nothing to do with enemas, in my opinion.

I sure hope not. I have been married for 34 years. I love sex with a woman, I have had gay friends, yet I get my pleasure from enemas and I enjoy them a lot. Many times I would rather have an enema than sex. My wife is not into sex all that much, so I give myself enemas to get satisfied. When she wants sex, I make love to her, but that is not very frequent and so I masturbate with my enemas. I enjoy doing that a lot.

Never tired gay sex, don't think I would like it.

I sure hope that because I love enemas, that doesn't make me gay.

If it's "gay", then I guess all of us on here are "gay"!

I don't think enemas are a gay thing at all. Anne and Berken had good comments on this as well.

Jimmy

To be gay (a homosexual) is to like like men. To have sexual attractions to your sex. So any anal activity has been dubbed "gay" because mainly homosexual's do it, but not only they can enjoy it.

I happen to be bi, Asking if it's "gay" to like enemas is like asking if liking bondage is straight. It's simply a fetish/activity that many straight and GLBT people enjoy. If an enema enthusiast or an avid fan of anything happens to be a gay person, is simply insignificant in my opinion.

Definitely not gay,, its well known the we men also have a g spot and its located inside the rectum . Doesnt metter who stimulates this spot, or with what,, it simply feels fantastic.

I'm not gay at all.

But i do like my enemas. Also like fingering my ass while watching TV.

With an occasional candy thermometer stuck in me.

Not at all. I think it would be pretty much impossible to find a male who didn't enjoy some sort of stimulation of the prostate. Some men are quite caught up in believing that any buttplay makes them gay. My husband didn't open up to me playing with his rear till about 3 years into the marriage, he was horrified after I used the strapon on him, because it felt so good. I asked him if he was sexually attracted to men, he said no, and I said there was no possible way he was gay in that case. I haven't tried to turn him into an enema fanatic yet, I don't want to send him running. He was SO vanilla when we met, hadn't ever had anal sex. I felt bad for him when I learned of his misfortune, grabbed some lube, and guided him to the backdoor. I've managed to slowly get him into all of my other perverted interests, so I'm sure I'll be able to do it at some point. You'd think that after 8 years of marriage I would have had that hose in his butt by now.

I would give anything to have a guy into enemas, there's nothing gay about it. It means you're someone who is in touch with your sexuality, you know what you want, despite the fact that it may not be popular, and that in itself makes a person a better lover. Wonder what the best way is to ease a guy into that. Better still, I wonder why the hell I want to do it to him. If only someone could answer that question.

People who are attracted to persons of the same gender, i.e. male to male, female to female are gay. Activities are not gay, straight or bi......Jimbeaux

Is it gay for men to like enemas?

No.

Gay men may have been the first to discover the sweet pleasure of having their prostate stimulated, but that pleasure itself experienced during an enema doesn't make you gay any more than swimming makes you a fish.

Personally, I was concerned about this very question myself, enjoying enemas since the age of 12, until I discussed this with my lover in college (who was a USAF Flight Surgeon, board-certified gastroentrologist and gynecologist). She was the first to show me what prostate massage really was, and could bring me to a devastating orgasm each time that she massaged it. (This art she happened to learn from some of her male gay colleagues... though I never asked her how she learned it.)

Enless you like having sexual/romantic relationships with people that are the same gender as you, then you are not gay...period...regardless of whether or not you are a butt slut. Women and men can be butt sluts and anally erotic, and it has nothing to do with sexual orientation. Nuff said.

Definitely not gay in reality, although I do have fantasies about being fucked in the ass. But I'm straight, at least for now.

I am repulsed at the idea of kissing a man, sucking his woodie also disgusts me. I would like to give any male or female an enema or receive from either, but the guy is going to have to get himself off. Anal sex I guess I could be a top or maybe a bottom, but have not tried that. My definition of Gay is someone with a predisposition to a homosexual relationship like a marriage. I am str8 by definition and happy about that.

I am straight but am anal. I like enemas and dildos. Being Gay or Straight is about WHO you want sticking something in your ass NOT what is being done to your ass. Enemas, dildos, cucumbers or watermelons are things and things you play with are no reflection on who you wish to have with you while you play!! By the way for those of you that are wondering, I'm a country boy and have had sex with a watermelon but don't consider myself a vegetarian because of that either!!!

Female here. I'd say it's got everything to do with one's desires when it comes to the participating partner of their choice. I look on it as being analogous to a oral sex. If a man enjoys getting oral sex from a woman, or fantasizes about getting oral sex from a woman, how in the world does that make him gay? Same principle with enemas, right?

I'm a country boy and have had sex with a watermelon but don't consider myself a vegetarian because of that either!!!

😁 And the person whose gender and hair color shall remain unnamed asks,"How the hell did you get a watermelon up your ass?!" 😮

ROTFLMFAO...In this case I was a GIVER and so the watermelon took it in the butt. When you are male, 15, oversexed and under-appreciated a warm watermelon rates as "Any port in a storm" of lust!!!

It's not what you do, but who you prefer doing it with, is what I think defines your orientation. Does having a woman give you oral make you gay? I don't think so. Enjoying stimulation of your anus, rectum, prostate and colon is no different than playing with your penis!

Exactly. We all (both male and female) have nerve endings in our anuses and rectums that have the potential of giving us exquisite pleasure. I would definitely say that those of us who'd prefer someone of the opposite sex to stimulate these nerve centers are therefore heterosexual in orientation.

And another thing - with all that I've said as to gay/straight stuff in this thread, I'd like to add that I think ALL citizens of this country should have completely equal rights.

I thought that I had that post figured out, but you raise the same doubts in my mind, too, Lady Di. 😉

Seriously, though...

Why is it that men are concerned that pleasure derived from an enema or rectal play somehow makes a man gay? Just because something penetrates his anus? Because an inanimate object in his rectum produces sexual pleasure? Have any of us tried to think this through for ourselves?

I personally think that it's because we refuse to recognize that we actually have very fragile egos --egos threatened when we think that we're involved with something we believe to be the exclusive territory of gays -- such as the anus or rectum -- where enemas or rectal play cause sexual pleasure.

As men, we have very weak egos when it comes to behaviors that we mistakenly believe are exclusively gay, straight -- or even male. We traditionally, perhaps culturally, think that women are the ones who are screwed up when it comes to ego.

The truth, guys, is that we are isolated, remote, shallow, fragile and very uncertain of ourselves where there are threats to our egos associated with a given behavior: women (from my observation) are grounded in relationships with others when it comes to their egos and are in truth more stable psychologically in this regard.

When we see weakness of character or purpose in another man, what do we call him? A wuss. A pussy. We've got it all wrong, bros. (I've seen more character, perseverance, inner strength, determination and raw courage in single mothers that we'll ever understand...)

We are our own worst enemies, too, guys -- something that goes way beyond our egos being threatened by a rectal finger wave. With the exception of those who have had combat shape them into tight-knit, cohesive groups of men trusting each other with their very lives, we don't know how to trust and depend on one another because we're such cutthroat jerks.

When we develop that trust in one another -- and in ourselves -- the same way that infantry soldiers bond together as a "band of brothers" -- and have the same, sound, self-confident egos to match, see how little we're threatened by a nozzle rubbing our prostate or our girlfriend/wife wiggling their finger in our butt.

Of course not. I venture that more'straight' people than gay have enemas.

No, I don't think it matters what your sexual orientation is. Gay, straight, Bi...if someone enjoys having something inside their bodies then good luck to them.

I could imagine more Gay men would have had experience with enemas because they have had more exposure to having things put into their rectum. I would guess most straight men would not want anything pushed into their rectum even if someone (their wife?) wanted to introduce them to enemas.

As we all know, anyone who doesn't take enemas is missing out on one of life's greatest pleasures!

I am a 61 YO married male. Because of our culture and being raised in a repressive religious household I stifled my anal desires for a long, long time. If I had a fear of being gay it was because of the way gays were portrayed and the odd ways overtly gay men acted. I know now that we have the internet that there are gay and bi people all around me everyday.

I don't feel anything a woman can do to or with a man to be gay. And that goes for using a strap on to have anal intercourse with him.

I also think same sex contact would be more normal if men weren't afraid of being branded as something they're not. Now that I'm older and have become more comfortable with my desires I do wonder what touching and giving oral to a man would be like. I don't think being bi-curious makes me gay.

Luckily my wife and I saw an adult video that showed anal play and sex and we were BOTH aroused by it. That changed our sex lives for the better. After all, the anus is a common set of nerve endings for men and women. And I sure wish I would have discovered anal play decades ago. Actually I think I did, but I was too repressed to enjoy it.

How I look at it, it's complicated and over time it only gets more complicated.

I like various toys anal. Some of these things are rather penis like.

But I'm indifferent to men.

And yet, I sometimes fantasize about having sex with femmie T girls.

Still, play with T girls in the local BDSM scene doesn't work very well for me. (There are plenty of highly available T girls here in SF.)

To the extent that it does work, the particular T girls involved are quite womanly. Their flesh actually feels like a woman's flesh.

You might have to experience it to know what I'm refering to.

Absolutely not, I am not gay and I love enemas, for pleasure and health. I also have discovered the pleasure experienced from anal play and the male G-spot (the prostate). I am very much turned on by the thought of a woman with a strap on but have no interest in sex with men.

It is complicated. i would never have any sexual contact or give or receive an enema from a man, but when take enemas myself or when my wife gives me an enema, i always fantasize that i am a woman. it has been this way with me since i was a little kid. but in every other way i am totally straight.

Definately Not.

Something that is Loved by both men and women is NOT Gay.

I'm a 66 year old guy. I've always been turned off by the thought of having sex with other guys. I think that qualifies me as straight, although the women in my life have often thought I was gay because I enjoy anal stimulation and enemas.

I have had the good fortune to know many gay people, both male and female. Many of the females have had bad experiences with men, and turned to other women for their sexual activities. They are gay by choice, not need. Most men, on the other hand, are not gay by choice. They are gay because they are attracted to men and not women.

I think the story of one male in particular, really defines gay for males. I met this man when I remodeled the two bathrooms in his home. He had a sweet and attractive wife, and two young children.

The day I started the job on his home, I asked which bathroom he wanted me to begin with. He told me to begin in the master bedroom bath. Upon entering the room, I noticed it was full of little plastic dinosaurs and such. I laughed out loud at the sight, whereupon the man came into the room and asked why I was laughing. I replied that this was the first master bedroom bath I had ever seen that was decorated in dinosaurs. To that he replied that they lived a different lifestyle.

He explained that the master bedroom was shared by his two little boys. His wife and himself separately occupied the other two bedrooms. He went on to explain that although he had tried everything imaginable, including marrying a woman and having 2 children, that he was only attracted to men.

Finally, he had come out of the closet. The short term result was that he and his wife were good friends, but not sex partners. He explained that eventually they would divorce, but they had children to raise first. In the meantime, they were both free to pursue other lovers.

This man was clearly distraught by his own needs, but he could not change the way he felt. All of the gay men I've known, and spoke with, say the same thing. It's not a question of choice. It's a question of attraction and need. Many of them also admitted enjoyment of enemas.