Why do men enjoy giving an enema to a woman?

@reddevil asked,

Another thought about this - wonder how many who like to give women enemas also like to spank them? The two kind of goes hand-in-hand. if you pardon my pun...

I definitely enjoy both activities with MrsFn.

First I love the view that you can never forget.. Next, I enjoy the feeling of being in control . It is great if she really wants it.. Love the sounds and the moning..

I think Cardinal hit on it. I love the look of a woman who is really into it. The small noises, the curve of her bum when she is in the simms position. The white/red/ whatever color hose snaking out of her ass. I suppose control is important too. I just love it when a woman is loving the feeling of the water filling her while I munch and lick her pussy and clit. I love to rub her back and tummy when she cramps, and after she has released, the loving is so sensual. Sometimes too sensual! Quite often I have to stop while I'm sliding in her bum because I'm just sooo horny. I am a courteous guy though. Ladies always cum first.

I think a guy will say yes to anything if it has a hole and they can stick what every they can find in said hole !!

I would love to give a women an Enema and would love to receive one foe her also.

Might wanna qualify that question: "some" men lol.

i don't. But i'm on the sub side of D/s and i'm gay.

i was married to a woman for 31 years though (bad religion, sigh) my wife didn't have an ounce of kink in her... well, maybe an ounce. i learned early on about her anatomy and how to give her physical pleasure. i've got a decidedly kinky soul, so i did finger her from time to time. She was ambivalent about that, since it was always mixed with multiple orgasms, she didn't disallow me. But, my suspicion is she tolerated it more than liked it.

i can't imagine ever giving her an enema, that never even occurred to me in my psychological wiring (or vice versa for that matter). However, i have fantasized often about a guy giving me an enema, and since i am a male, i can offer my male perspective on guys liking to give enemas?

i think that part of the wiring most men have (something that went missing from mine) is the need/desire to penetrate. To me, intercourse is about penetrating, inseminating and impregnating. i see all three of those as connected, overlapping, not individually distinct. I.e., i see the act of penetrating as also having inseminating and impregnating attributes, even sans semen/ejaculation. To me, it involves the mental and emotional (dare i say 'spiritual'?) parts of us as well. i think there is a drive in a Top/Dom person to plant and leave a part of their self in another, and i don't see that as a solely physical act. i think that is more clear in D/s, where a Dom needs/wants to influence so much more than the physical, and the complimentary opposite "sub" needs/wants to be affected more than physically. Each wants/needs to orgasm emotionally as well as physically. i know, nothing to substantiate this, just how i think and feel i have experienced it.

The term "mind fuck" is very real to me, as i suppose it is to most kinksters, in some way or another. To me, a guy who loves giving enemas is just more in touch with His inner need/desire to penetrate/inseminate/impregnate. i have been with guys who used dildos, their fingers/hands, an enema... you name it, the point is how connected He is to whatever He is using. To me, it just becomes an extension of Who He is and what He needs/wants. i see it as a different, creative way to express His need/desire to penetrate, inseminate and impregnate the person of is affection (which is a double entendre).

Male, straight switch here. I love receiving enemas as a sub from my Domme GF, but by the same token, love switching and giving them back to her as well. The mixture of her enema sounds (moans, groans, complaints, begging for less enema) and squirming added to her arousal and orgasm sounds and movements is irresistible. That's it. Sexy, exciting, moving, arousing and irresistible. We both love it and used to repeat it often.

Eric

Because a woman's

derriere is so damn hot...mmmmm

For me, it's all about the intimacy. Playing with a woman's butthole is always fun, so focusing on it as part of a procedure is even better.

I can't say that I fully know, but here goes (my personal thoughts, not some "philosophy):

1. My bdsm and medfetish sessions have always been enema driven or at least involved. I've personally enjoyed them since my early teens, love the sense of penetration and fiiling, the inexorability of the water entering, forcing it's way into me until I must get relief. Give to myself mostly, but love to receive from a woman when there is opportunity.

2. I always wanted to give. That urge was a precursor to sex, often anal sex, but given the choice, I often picked giving a girl an enema series over having sex or getting a blowjob. I love the control, making her take it, inserting the nozzle into her bottom (or colon tube, or plug/nozzle, or, and especially, the inflatable nozzle. I am very much into volume in giving, especially if there is lots of moaning and begging, but I never push it so as to cause harm. I love the idea of training my sub to take 4 quarts, but two is much more realistic. So I would say I am a straight Dom klismophile, with a love for anal and rectal stimulation.

3. My favorite scenario is to receive multiple large enemas and prostate massages from my girl, then to give her "enemas till clear," as much as she can take, and after she's empty & enough time has passed so she's no longer sore, vaginal & anal sex with her.

Additional thoughts: while I fantasize about enemas a lot, I don't consider children a target, not even those in my family. I am utterly opposed to pedophilia, even though I had a number of sexual experiences on my own from fairly early on, and I knew I was anal erotic from my early teen years. I always fantasized about giving girls enemas, from the 7th grade on, because to me that was one of the height (depths?) Of my sexuality. I got my chance with my first gf, when I was 16. I never had the courage to make mutual enemas a part of our sexplay, and that may have been due to the fact that I also instinctively knew I wanted her under my control. At the time I had no theoretical understanding of BDSM, but I was certainly aware of its practical applications, though I couldn't name it. I broke up with my first gf, and I have always regretted it.

For me its always been a few factors of my own, meaning how I would feel if the role was reversed, the embarrassment with her knowing she needs to be given an enema, then the preparation with getting the enema bag ready, prepping her bottom and then insertion of the nozzle. I happen to feel that embarrassment can cause you to become excited as well and so as she is taking the enema I am always looking for wetness and if given the opportunity I love to bring her off and take her mind off the big enema thats filling her.

Yes, I do. I have given enema's to my wife a few times and each time it leads to sex. I like having her get ready by taking her clothes off and put towels down in the bathroom. I have her start on her left side and lube her anus very well and the tube, then I start the enema. While filling her nice and slow I massage her stomach and rub her lower back and ass. After a few minutes I have her turn over on her back and do the same but this time I have a great view of her pussy, which usually starts to get wet by now (even though she said it isn't). I also rub her clit to add to the feeling and help her relax. Sometimes even finger her wet pussy. I will stop and start the flow to make sure she takes as much water as she can. I will have her then move to the right side and do the same. When she cannot take any more I have her try to hold it and then I will have her release on the toilet. I will help her clean up when she is finished and do it again if she wants a full cleanout or if she feels like she is done we stop. Sometimes the cleanup is a shower. I am very horny during the whole process and cannot wait to fuck! It has been a while since we have done this but I do like to remember the last time, still make me hard thinking about it!

Because she has to sumbmit to it, give up control of her bodily fuction , and be entered in a very intermit fasion.

The few times when my husband gave me an enema early in our marriage, I was still too inhibited to show any hints of pleasure. Both of us were late bloomers sexually.

We still joke about what we affectionately call our enema "breakthrough" when hubby's gentle fingers unexpectedly brought me to such a massive climax that I think even the neighbors could hear. I had a full bag in me. Thank God for towels and a Chux under me. Our mattress would have been ruined for sure.

What's so insane is that I had some exotic flu at the time and was really sick. What a crazy surprise for both of us!

There is something very intimate about giving an enema to a woman that transcends the mere act. The atmosphere created by two people of the opposite sex getting together, to savor the the act in the knowledge that both want to experience the pleasure of the intimacy is almost unworldly.

Men enjoy because it reveals all intimacy and engages ass play, a fantasy of a lot of men. It is also a form of domination.

Men like play with and sticking things up a woman's ass - and all the better if it shoots out something non-stop that's a bit difficult to take!

Because we enjoy the fine view of a woman's cheeks spread. 😜

Because we enjoy the fine view of a woman's cheeks spread. 😜

Oh so true!

I fully appreciate what an enema lady is going through when she is being given an enema.....what is making her need or want it.....why she wants it.....all of the myriad of emotions that she is experiencing before, during and after her enemas.

I can transfer or exchange her thoughts with mine so that both of us fully enjoy and appreciate every aspect of the erotic enema.

In my case, she usually gave me an enema first. I had been submissive and allowed her to do her will. When I was asked to please give her an enema, I knew we had completed the circle.

There are a lot of reasons... But certainly one of the the best thing of administer an enema to a woman, especially if she's new to them, it is the embarrassment she has.

When they look at the bag full of water and they knows that they will have to take it all!

I have only given one enema to a woman. It was a Fleet and it was too cold, so it acted WAY too fast. My bad. I would like to have another crack at it. I could now do a better job of it. I would MUCH prefer to administer a proper high-volume water-based enema because it would last longer and be more erotic. It would be a nice way to begin a night of rumpy-pumpy - if you can't make the partner enjoy it, it is just not good, "Enjoy" is, of course, a matter of personal preference as to what she likes.....

Always clean....we are ladies and gentlemen and we have very strong interests in enema; however, those proclivities are not mutually exclusive; to the contrary, they are quite compatible.

Admittedly, I am driven to give enemas as much as I need to be given enemas...extended, erotic enemas. I feel you understand that; although I very much want to help YOU achieve the heights of fulfillment with regard to your anal, rectal and enema needs and desires.

For me, there is nothing more erotic and arousing than to be told, or to watch a woman's response - her facial expressions, her nipples and her vulva - when she is told she is going to have to take an enema...that she is going to have to have an enema...and to watch her reaction as the enema is being mixed and heated....then watch her reactions when the enema is brought to the bedside and presented; to watch her when I put it in - put that black bakelite nozzle all the way up her - and to study her while it is lodged deep in her rectum and she waits for it to be given: her facial expressions while she waits for it....the way she looks back and forth at me and the bag, and resigns herself again to another large, hot full enema.

Each time I see this topic pop up under new replies, I pause to think about my reasons.. It's a control thing, and making a woman have a bowel movement is (I'm embarrassed to say) exciting.

Each time I see this topic pop up under new replies, I pause to think about my reasons.. It's a control thing, and making a woman have a bowel movement is (I'm embarrassed to say) exciting.

It isn't exactly that but it is a dominance thing in my case and the fact that she has to bare her most secret place for my perusal and penetration. Nothing finer!

"Why do men want to give an enema to a woman"

You first need to understand the relationship about the couple involved, Take for instance, a woman wants to give her man an enema maybe she enjoy's the dominance, or maybe she is a secret BDSM person, or maybe she is anal erotic, and wants to explore, her own tendencies. The thoughts could go on ad-infinitum.

Case in point I have always been anally erotic, given enemas as a child whenever I found a new woman to date somehow it never went anywhere without anal play, and the longest lasting ones have been because of enemas, along with uninhibited anal sex.

My wife was very smart about how she introduced the idea of enemas into our relationship, one night after we had been out having dinner and drinks we came home (her house) and very playfully she asked if I had ever had an enema, to which I said, yes when I was a child (a lie, I had them through my first marriage, and many female friends) and I asked why, she responded that she wanted me to give her one while having intercourse, I quipped how, she said (already planned) doggy style. I exclaimed that I was not sure how, and she explained, just how. Once we had done it the games were on, after she came out of the bathroom, she was carrying another full enema bag, and said OK now it is your turn. From then on until she got sick we went every where (vacations) and never left the bag at home. We found many new ways to have enema's and sex, some of her orgasms were so explosive we had to change the sheets because she could not hold the water, and it happened to me also.

So this is what I say find out if your woman is anally erotic and go for it you might find out that she has been thinking about it all this time. and just waiting for you to say Honey I would like to give you an enema. Just my opinion

And ya know what @sundaybrunch God made a woman's derriere just like a snowflake there aren't 2 the same. NIce !

I love giving an enema to my wife, but every one was because of a constipation issue. She has a great butt and i love the entire process, but i don't think she was turned on by any enema, just a way to eliminate a problem. she has no problem giving me an enema or taking one if she needs one, but all on a as needed basis , just a standard medical method. She views enemas as a treatment to be done to fix a problem, nothing more, nothing less..

Personally, I think it’s a two way street. I think women love giving men enemas just as much as men love giving women enemas. Think back to when you were growing up, who did you receive enemas from, be you a boy or a girl, normally it was mom or grandma, rarely, if ever was it dad. That’s what it was like at house or grandmas when we were growing up. The only male I ever received an enema from, was my brother, and my sister was always in the bathroom, because we three were trading enemas with each other. The same was true for my brother, too the best of my knowledge. If it was just my brother an I at home, we never traded enemas, we both went solo. However, if our sister was home, it was a different story. The one thing I can say for sure, our sister loved giving my brother an I enemas every bit as much as we loved giving her enemas as teens. Enemas were the excuse we used to investigate our sexuality and response to different stimulation we gave each other, because we only had ourselves as teachers. Grandma taught us personal hygiene at puberty and that’s where our sexual education stopped.