Do I love my wife? Yes, I sure do, She is my best friend. Would I do anything to hurt her. Certainly not intentionally, but I have needs.
No, if you knew she would be hurt by you having sex with someone else you DID do something intentionally to hurt her. The only issue is if you were caught or not. As for judgement day, it doesnt exist, so your conscience and morality is all you have to answer to.
If you don't get what you want at home because your partner refuses to do what you want, the partner shouldn't be surprised when you look for it elsewhere--and they should permit it.
@SwitchableSusie What if the partner wants you to have sex with dogs, or sex with 20 other men, or be a glory hole ‘hole’ for countless anonymous men?? Is that something every wife should do or else feel she violated her marriage contract?
Look, if your partner refuses to have ‘regular’ sex with you, then sure, they violated the marriage ‘contract’. Or if you insist, require or demand some form of sex to be happy, and they won’t do it, then END THE CONTRACT! Find someone you are MORE compatible with! Oh, its too complicated, money is too difficult, we have kids... all excuses! If you aren’t happy in your relationship, tell the person and either find a solution (even being allowed to ‘cheat’ is fine if both agree) OR END it and MOVE ON!