Men using vibrator on women

This is a serious thread, so I'm not typing this lightly. Maybe part of the issue is the words we use.

Mashie, Susie and others have used the phrase "make me cum". I think that is a disservice to the orgasmic process. A man, a woman, a device doesn't make you cum. Enable may be a better fit, but still it is lacking. Your mind and spirit has to be into it. Absent that, you just get sore.

This is the exact point I was getting at with the female porn stars and my interpretation of what they meant when they were talking about saving their orgasms for the people they loved. I couldn't agree with you more, especially for us women. Both our mind and spirit has to be in the game or having an orgasm just isn't going to happen. Even when it is in the game, it still doesn't mean it's always going to happen either.

Mashie

Why does this come to mind

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DUKaRpSMuAA

LOL, exactly.

Mashie

Having a really large open mind is a key to recognizing the real thing

I wasnt referring to coca cola

I agree with Edison. The "real thing" is whatever a person feels real pleasure in response to. There are a wide variety of things and activities, including sex toys, that could be the "real thing." What is commonly assumed to be the only real thing is actually not effective at all for many people. So for them, it's not real at all.

Mashie said:

toys that buzz and what not make me cum, but they can't ever give me the love, the passion, and the deep sensual feelings that my Doc gives me every time we are in the same room.

Putting it simply, in my opinion, you men are not replaceable, period!

Mashie

Mashie, I think that is beautiful. But the emotional aspect of sex is not the same for everyone. Even for some women, the emotional aspect is not always important. Just like how sometimes it's all about the emotions and not about getting off, sometimes it's all about getting off and not about the emotions. It depends on who you are. Everyone just has their own way of operating, and it's not even the same every day. I'm sure you understand, after all that is what this site is all about.

This is a serious thread, so I'm not typing this lightly. Maybe part of the issue is the words we use.

Mashie, Susie and others have used the phrase "make me cum". I think that is a disservice to the orgasmic process. A man, a woman, a device doesn't make you cum. Enable may be a better fit, but still it is lacking. Your mind and spirit has to be into it. Absent that, you just get sore.

If there is nothing wrong down there and you normally have an orgasm after a certain amount of stimulation, and a vibrator is being used on you, you won't be able to avoid having an orgasm. It will MAKE you cum. If you have a hard time getting an orgasm, a vibrator may ENABLE you to have an orgasm.

A vibrator will make me cum every single time.

Using the Womanizer ( http://www.womanizer.de/shop?___store=en&___from_store=en )who works like a air depression device, there are no vibrations, I am pretty sure that no one woman can hold on, use it without having a orgasm in a very short time. There is no physical contact between the clitoris and the device.

Some T-Shirts shows " Hike or Dye "

Using this device is like " Cum or Scream and cum "

I have a 50 years long experience in vibrators, I never used a such pleasure device.

Expensive , yes it is, you will enjoy your expenses, use protections for your matrass and sheets ladies, it will make you squirts all the fluids you have, and make you dry, until recovery.

If the Hitachi Magic Wand and the Eroscillator makes you orgasm by contact with your body, the Womanizer will make you cum by reaching your erotic soul, and awake it if it was sleeping, bringing to a second life if it was dead.

Arthur, Great find. That toy looks amazing. Definitely went to the top of my wishlist. How did you discover it?

It is a ZB member who posted about this device asking if anyone had any experience some monthes ago. My GF was not really into it, having allready a Hitachi Magic Wand, using a Eroscillator and a HMW with my wife, knowing the reactions of the two ladies, I supposed it must be a expensive judicious purchase. After multiple usages with my GF I will "erase" the word "expensive" because it lead to limits of the pleasure. Variating the intensity of depression it is possible to please her on the orgasm border, and when she falls in the orgasm you unlucky if she don't squirt.

The W100 look to have a wilder suction and less power adjustments, I am sure that most womens will prefer to use the W500 or Pro who have more power adjustments and seem to have a more feminine suction.

I will choose the W100 for BDSM and violent erotic games, prefering the W500 / Pro for hot sensual erotic loving experiences.

I enjoy using different toys on wife and she enjoys being pleasured with them as well. It adds a lot of variety to our sex life. Equally enjoyable is the shopping experience. We look forward to those special occasions when we go to a shop looking for the next toy that we will both enjoy.

I love using a vibrator on my wife, I bought her a "rabbit" a while back and she will ask for it on occasion, she doesn't last long. I love to make my wife cum by what ever means. It's all about making each other feel good.

Since I have a habit of cumming to soon, I use both a dildo and a viberator on my wife and she is fine with it

I love using a vibrator on my wife, but I must admit - it took a LONG time to figure out the joy they can bring. For 30 years, we almost never used one. When we did, we used it more like a dildo. Not the most effective use for a vibrator. Once we figured out clitoral stimulation - we almost always have 2 or 3 ready to choose from when we have sex.

Though I enjoy using them on her, I prefer when she uses them on herself while I tend to things with fingers, tongue, or cock (and sometimes a nice fat dildo). When she finds the right vibe and position on her clit, it takes very little effort to get her pussy contracting to the slightest stimulation.

My favorite is her on her back and me lying perpendicular on my side and slowly fucking while she uses the magic wand. After about 30 minutes, we have to switch to a We-Vibe Touch while the wand cools down - which is ok because it allows me to get more aggressive with my stroking. The same position is great for anal also, which she really gets off on - after years of abstinence from anal sex.

I love using a vibrator on my wife. I will use it to stimulate her clit while I use my fingers to stimulate her g-spot, or use the vibrator to stimulate her g-spot while my tongue stimulates her clit. And there are other variations on it's usage, of course!

Giving my wife earth shattering orgasms turns me on so much more than anything else, even medfet. Which is saying something because medfet really turns me on!

Get rid of him.

Seriously.

This immature attitude will manifest itself in many other ways if you continue on in this relationship and they won't be pleasant.

I enjoy using a vibrator on a woman so she can have hands free pleasure

Can't speak for other or most men but I'm here to please. If you want me to use a vibrator then I'll happily use one. To me, sex should be open to asking for and receiving what you like and giving what you're asked for. At least be open to trying it. Nothing turns me on more than to turn on my partner. Seriously, I can't imagine anything more exciting than going down on a woman and have her squirming and moaning with pleasure. I would give anything to have a woman ask me to use a vibrator on her, or a dildo, or a feather duster, or electrodes, a cucumber, or my fist, or whatever. I'll even dress up like a doctor, cop, fireman, or T Rex. I just want to have fun and be free to do whatever. Do you have any idea what it's like to be not asked for anything? Life's to short for "No, I don't want to."

I would absolutely use a toy on my partner if she wants. I believe that anything/practice that increases sexual pleasure is the way to go.

My late wife and I decided after a dry spell for her that something had to be done . She wanted more than fingers or tongue .

Well we went shopping . The purchase of vibrator and a dildo , and oh yes lots of lub , slippy lub.

She all ready knew that an enema made me horny as I usually beat off during or as I discharged , I was told not to play with myself and I would be rewarded very well . I soon learned how this was to be played out .

When she wanted extra attention , I was given an enema and ordered to get the toys out and to get her ready.

She was off for bath and I joined her .The touchy feelie stuff started ,I do not need to tell you what that means .

She came three times in the tube the first time we tried . I know my wife has highly sexually arousal . While we passed away a few hours , she said that she had enough and if I wanted too I could have seconds , but not to expect much from her .By the time I finished she was getting ready for some more .

So guys if she wants a vib do not be afraid of it , you will be the winner and so will she .

As you become seasoned citizens some parts of your body don't work as well as they used to, either due to age or surgery. That's what has happened for my wife and I. We still enjoy sex and still enjoy our individual orgasm's. In order to achieve them we use vibrator's on each other. She loves the way I use it on her and I love the way she uses it on me. It works for us.

My Lady Friend enjoy my human toy and vibrators too. We buyed vibes the first was a Hitachi, one year later we buyed a Womanizer, recently a Eroscillator arrived at home. The feels they generate are very different and the pleasure very strong for each vibe and for us two, after one or two intense orgasm( and a little rest, I can give her more orgasm if using a different vibe, first that surprised me, she tells me it was because the feels are differents.

Me and my partner often use various toys and vibrators esp. hitachi wand on her as she finds this stimulates are before and after we have sex, other times we find this helps during mutal masturbation or just to bring her off and even over her panties too. I do not fee that it makes me inadequate quite the opposite in fact and that i am providing her with the stimulation that she needs. We are both happy with and unless that changes we shall keep enjoying this type of play together

I don't know about most men, but I would be very happy to use a vibrator to bring pleasure to my wife. As yet, she doesn't want me to use a Magic Wand that I bought a couple of years ago, but I am hoping to introduce its use to massage her shoulders and then move on from there.

I would in no way feel less manly in using a vibrator. On the contrary, I would feel more loving and caring by finding a good way to create pleasure and express my devotion.

I certainly do not have a problem using any form of sex aid if it's pleasurable to both parties.

My wife and I both love it when I use a vibrator on her to make her cum. We do that just to get ourselves warmed up for normal sex. I am truly blessed by this sexual animal. She cums so easily. I used a vibrator on her this morning with the typical response. In under two minutes she had a rapid series of multiple, violent orgasms and begged me to stop because they had become too intense. I was rock hard by then. She absolutely couldn't wait to get me inside her to give her more orgasms. She was cumming again in two or three minutes, and on her 3rd or 4th orgasm I couldn't control myself and it was all over in about five minutes--short and sweet. I think I might fire up the vibrator again for us tomorrow morning!

My boyfriend and I use toys and we love it. I've never understood men who say it makes them feel less than. I really can't wrap my head around it and I've never been able to be with someone who feels that way. I've left people for saying exactly that. Somehow it even makes me feel a little bit angry.

Nothing wrong with using a vibrator. A woman needs a variety of ways to get stimulated. A pocket rocket on the clit during sex is fun.

Using toys is always a good aid.

Most of my girls have loved it and we work new and different one in to our sessions.