Nichty, see that's just it, you can't. I am sort of surprised that one of us women hasn't touched base on this yet, or maybe I am the only one that feels this way? Maybe I am going to put myself out here and look like a total idiot, lol. However, with that being said......
I am not sure if other women will agree with me or not but here it goes. Back in the old days, my college days, I never really had orgasms, but that's not really the point here. I slept with the boyfriends because that's what I was supposed to do, or I thought anyway. But they couldn't make me cum, and I wasn't really in love with them anyway. I thought I was at the time, but I really wasn't. Once you know what real love is, things are a lot different, trust me. So sex for me well, sucked big hairy monkey balls. If they couldn't make me cum, and they couldn't, then eventually the relationship would end. Them not being able to make me cum was for lack of better terms very frustrating to say the least.
Then along comes the good Doctor. I am 38, a bit more in tune with my body and my own sexuality, plus I am probably in my sexual prime. So those things along with the fact that yes Doctors and nurses really are better in bed, especially when we are having sex with each other, and Doc knew exactly how to touch me, I started to cum as a result of sex. We fell head over heel in love with each other. We have a love like neither of us has ever known, or felt, it's the kind of love that makes you better than what you are, not worse. So this is the point I am getting at here. Sometimes he doesn't always make me cum and the reasons for that could be any number of things none of which have anything to do with him or his lack of trying. But even when he doesn't make me cum, it's okay. I don't need to cum every time. Feeling him on top of me, loving me, making love to me. The way he kisses me so deeply and passionately. The way he looks into my eyes especially as he orgasms or the way he whispers in my ear that he loves me so much, I don't need to cum. Feeling all those sensations, knowing that we have a love and an understanding of each other that is so rare is enough for me.
He has told me more than a few times that he feels so bad when I don't cum, but I feel just the opposite actually. Sometimes I am to emotional to orgasm, and when we are done I cry sometimes. At first he thought he had hurt me, but no, I was crying because I love him so much, and he me. I can't really explain it, I am not sure why I cry sometimes after we make love, and it's always when he is on top of me in regular missionary position which we don't do much. But it's that position, him on top of me, I can feel his entire body on mine, skin on skin. He takes my breath away still, after 8 years.
So Nichty, yes, toys that buzz and what not make me cum, but they can't ever give me the love, the passion, and the deep sensual feelings that my Doc gives me every time we are in the same room.
Putting it simply, in my opinion, you men are not replaceable, period!