Men using vibrator on women

I would happily use a toy, piece of fruit or whatever else if my wife had any interest in sex

A few years ago she got a vibrator from a friend for her birthday as a gag gift. I'm sure it was a $10 cheapie from a novelty store. (Definitely not a Hitachi.) She laughed when she got it but tossed it in the trash a few days later.

I fished it out of the trash can and used it on myself for quite a while. But she clearly had no interest in it. Sad.

It's a recurrent theme in Japanese porn, I do not know why.

I suggested a vibrator to my wife but she says that she prefers me to be very clever with fingers and tongue if not using my penis.

I occasionally use a vibrator on my wife AFTER I've cum inside her. She really seems to enjoy that and even asks for the "treatment" when she's in the mood. With the extra lubrication, things slide very easily. I'll use my tongue on her clit while the vibe hums away inside her. I often draw the vibrator out and run it on her clit putting the juices all over her. I'll then lick her clit and get the taste of our mixed juices while sliding the vibe back inside her. She seems to have VERY intense orgasms this way.

Can't say anything about 'most' men, but I certainly don't!! Men who think that way probably also 'insist' that their female lovers only cum from penetration... that it's even cheating to involve the clitoris. 'My penis should be good enough!' LOL

It's so stupid. If a woman experiences a fabulously rewarding orgasm with a guy playing with her using a vibrator, she's NOT going to think later on that he must not have been good enough to get her off without the vibe, she's going to remember the fabulous orgasm that he gave/helped her have!!! It's much more a sign of manliness that you want to do/use things to pleasure your partner.

I love to use/try any and all toys, on either myself or my partner, to find new sensations and experience different things. You never know when some toy you try could lead to mindblowing pleasure!

Have only had a couple women who wanted to used a vibrator while I was with them. The last one basically exploded when I wore a vibrating cock ring while fucking her. We used it a couple times, then "meh." We went back to oral and coitus. Besides, I couldn't get as deep in her while wearing the damn thing.

Concern is that the current GF, who say she doesn't have a vibrator - yep, I checked anyway - might get too used to it being involved in our sex life, so "vanilla" (unvibrated) sex wouldn't do it for her anymore, or would seem boring. She cums every time as it is whether through oral or I'm inside her.

Guess I'd cop to some replacement anxiety on this one.

Concern is that the current GF, who say she doesn't have a vibrator - yep, I checked anyway - might get too used to it being involved in our sex life, so "vanilla" (unvibrated) sex wouldn't do it for her anymore, or would seem boring. She cums every time as it is whether through oral or I'm inside her.

@Agasmic Why is this a concern if you've never used one together? Maybe she wont like it at all? Maybe she'll like it occasionally as a change of pace? Maybe she'll love it a lot and will want more and more sex with you, including the toy? Give it a try... have fun with her! Not many women will be unhappy with intercourse and oral just because they love vibrators so much...

And by your post, are you talking only about vibrating cock rings? The OP was about any vibrator use, like a Hitachi or rabbit toy.

I love using a vibrator on a woman. I've had a woman tied to my bed (consensually!) with a vibrating butt plug inside her, vibrating beads in her pussy and me using a magic wand vibrator on her clit. She loved it. I loved it. She came loads then I fucked her.

If you're lucky she'll use the vibrator on you afterwards!

@Agasmic Why is this a concern if you've never used one together?

And by your post, are you talking only about vibrating cock rings? The OP was about any vibrator use, like a Hitachi or rabbit toy.

Second answer first: I was referring to all such vibe equipment, whether cock rings, dildos etc.

As to the concern, our sex life is pretty good as it is. Not mind blowingly in-our-20s awesome, but very good. Why mess with a good thing, to make it "hotter" up front, but paying undesirable dividends in the long run...

I've had a woman tied to my bed (consensually!) with a vibrating butt plug inside her, vibrating beads in her pussy and me using a magic wand vibrator on her clit. She loved it. I loved it. She came loads then I fucked her.

Okay this is pretty hot.

Why mess with a good thing, to make it "hotter" up front, but paying undesirable dividends in the long run...

@Agasmic Can't that be said about trying ANYTHING new? Gee, PiV sex is pretty good, why try oral? She might cum better that way and never want intercourse again. Well, PiV and oral is good, but why play with her ass? Maybe she'll like that so much she wont my cock inside pussy her anymore. So all that is good, but why tie her up / play medfet / give her an enema / try DP / play in public / use toys... she might like all those better than just sex.

As for "undesirable dividends", why don't you post a question in the "Female Sexuality" forum and ask if any women have decided they liked the vibrator better than the man using it on them? I'm no expert on women, but with the ones I've been with, trying something new that lead to better/new/fantastic orgasms for them was always a GOOD thing for our sexual relationship!

Give it a try... I can't imagine it being a negative...

When my friend and I get together, the first thing we do is play with a vibrator. For this starting round, We use one called "Roc-Chick". It is kind of a "U" shaped semi rigid thing. It is inserted for g-spot attention with the "U" resting against her clit It has a very strong, high frequency bullet vibe built in. I sit on the edge of her bed and she straddles my leg, face to face and rocks and grinds back and forth and side to side while I tell her dirtiest sex stories I can make up. She absolutely goes crazy when doing this. She especially likes "What will you do to me Daddy" stories. This is her particular fetish when doing this. We are making out like teenagers and she is soaking wet from head to toe.She is super orgasmic and after 3-4 orgasms we stop, regroup for the next round of activities.

My guy actually likes me inserting a vibrator in my front while he is doing me in my rear. He says the vibrations even go to his penis. The only problem is that while the vibrations help me, they also cause him to cum even faster, and afterward he as to do whatever to keep his thing from slipping out until I get off.

My guy actually likes me inserting a vibrator in my front while he is doing me in my rear. He says the vibrations even go to his penis. The only problem is that while the vibrations help me, they also cause him to cum even faster, and afterward he as to do whatever to keep his thing from slipping out until I get off.

We have done that with a vibrating egg totally inserted in my rectum, but once my husband started fucking my pussy, the vibrations of the egg seemed to get lost in the action and we haven't done it in a very long time.

I guess we needed a stronger vibrator.

A man once told me that he didn't like to use a vibrator to get a woman off because it made him feel like less of a man. Like he couldn't please without "help". Sometimes I want my boyfriend to use a vibrator on me to orgasm. He said he would but he doesn't really seem keen on the idea and I don't push it.

Do most men feel this way?

Only those guys who masturbate on their own a lot. I'm a type 2 diabetic who doesn't mind a little "help" in getting a woman off, and off, and off. Some women have hangups about toys being used on them. They want the real deal. Women have egos, too. "What's the matter? Can't I get you hard?" Not the problem, babe, age and other factors come into play. It takes two to make it work.

I love seeing women naked. If I can get them off anyway that I can, as many times as I can, then I get to see them naked more often. I may not be able to cut diamonds with my dick any more, but I still have a lot to give and a woman who likes getting it from me. Whether it is the real thing or runs on batteries, just as long as it is her and me getting the most out of each other, why worry?

For the guy, don't be afraid to use a toy on her. It's YOU she wants running it. For the gal, don't think you don't "do it" for him if he can't stay hard, him watching you go out of your skull because of what he is doing to you, is what it's all about.

You'll get to see her naked a lot more. She'll want you to see her naked a lot more.

While I have only had one lover use a vibrator on me I can say it was amazing and I cant wait to do it again !

While I cant answer for every woman I am going to try to explain what constitutes a good lover .

Someone that takes pleasure in seeing their lover satisfied. Thats it , not too difficult to grasp is it ? Well unfortunately not everyone can grasp that idea and thats because their are many elements that go along in fullfilling that "satisfied"

state. There is that emotional and mental element , making her feel secure, safe, wanted, desired, appreciated and cared for. When that is there then anything in the bedroom will be that much more enjoyable. There is nothing sexier and hotter than a lover who wants you to have an amazing experience and knows you and body well enough to take you where you have always wanted to go or to heights you never even thought of .

That includes using toys, props , whatever. When I hear a mans breathing change because he is aroused from playing with me ....oh my that gets me going even more , to hear the little noises he makes , his body language , knowing how into it he really is while bringing me to orgasm that is a real turn on . Doesnt matter if its his mouth, fingers, toy or cock. Its him and what he is doing to me .

Now to say that I would ever prefer a toy to the real thing , oh hell no ! There is playing , fucking and making love . Nothing replaces that intimacy of two people becoming one . For me ,When they care about each other, making love can be almost spiritual and I wouldnt prefer any toy over that feeling .

Switchable Susie wrote: "We tried that with a totally inserted vibrating egg in my rectum, but once my husband started pumping my pussy, the vibrations of the egg seemed to get lost in the action and we haven't done it in a very long time."

Try a vibrating dildo and have your husband guide it to where he can feel the vibrations best. It should work. Then you simply need to find the position to satisfy you both

I am not sure if this is just me,but i dont really like a man to use a vibrator with me.

When wanting to orgasm with my partner i much prefer oral sex to do that,

Using a vibrator is something i prefer to do alone in my own thoughts and fantasies.

With my first play partner that i met here he would use that in our medical games and whilst it felt good as he was experienced in doing this there was a time or two that i just could not get over the edge and orgasm.

Where when we did do oral sex a time or two i always did even if he didnt know it at the time,

My play partner i am with now likes it to be used on him and i am happy to do this,

Peace.

Caz

The best thing about sex is to give pleasure to your partner.

See her pleasure, make her feel complacent and happy.

This is my thought. My pleasure is see her pleasure.

Many times I use vibrators and other objects on the partner of the moment, and no one has ever complained, on the contrary, they have always wanted to replicate at other times. :-)

Sorry for my ugly English

@charles70 Your English is fine, and I totally agree! I LOVE feeling, hearing, seeing, tasting, smelling a womans pleasure... no matter what I use to get it - fingers, tongue, cock, toy. If SHE feels great, aren't the chances that I get to be with her again greatly enhanced?!

Totally agree with Charles. Love to make my wife literally scream with pleasure while a swan vibe fills hers pussy and the haiachi is pressed against the tip of her clitoris.

I have used a vib and also used a couple of dildo's on my late wife . One night we were in bed and I was looking for something . I was handed a vib and and she asked me if I minded abut them and a few minutes later she showed two dildo's .

She told me how she liked them to be used , the hours were passing and I was getting either horner or less horner any way we tried with me using and if the sounds that came out oif her , i would use them anytime she needed or wanted .

They have been used of an on for about 30 years all together and we added many more to our collection .

I used to travel for work and when I came home she would tell me that a friend had come to visit and she just had to get done by what ever one she used . They were all named . Male names of course .

I have not any problems with this and she used right up till she died . Four days before she died she asked that I get her fav dildo and lub and help her play a bit with it as a going away gesture . Two hours later she said enought and then she said clean up the mess put away . I am going to have a nap for awhile .

Guys you arte missing a lot , go slow and work carefully , you will be rewarded for your efforts .

WC

I have not any problems with this and she used right up till she died . Four days before she died she asked that I get her fav dildo and lub and help her play a bit with it as a going away gesture . Two hours later she said enought and then she said clean up the mess put away . I am going to have a nap for awhile .

This was very moving to hear. Thank you for sharing.

This is something I don't think I have ever read about anywhere - straight media or private forums. It must be a touching way to show (sexual) affection between partners/spouses. I would say you are in some way enviable for having been able to do this for your wife. Very touching and intimate.

My goal is to make the woman reach orgasm --- any way I can--- it makes me feel like a man to make her cum

I love bringing the power tools into the bedroom! I buy a new toy for us to use for my wife's bday every year. It started out as a joke after we hear a song called sex toys for Xmas, but I ran with it.

We never travel without a good vibrator either. I recently had the Fight Club experience when 3 different TSA agents had to look at the monitor and tilt their heads. It was one of the rabbits with ball bearing that twist. It must have looked like a pipe bomb on the screen.

I think that vibrators can be used on both men and women in play, foreplay, and sex. For my wife I have found that then tip of the vibrator has to be placed on the clitoris with the hood pulled back. Have it set at a really slow speed. The same vibrator can aslo be applied to the penis when the skin is pulled back hard and stretches that magic spot !!

I personally love to use vibrators on women. I love to please. The erotic wiggle of her hips, the arch of the back, the slow but deep penetration watching her vaginal lips and anus tighten up and clench around the toy as it’s inserted and withdrawn is so incredibly hot.

Well said, Wiz!

It only gets better when a well lubed vibe is eased from her pus into her bottom and my tongue on her clit - then the real festivities start!

Well I’m afraid anyman that wanted to play or have a relationship with me would have to deal with the fact I have toys and would like him to help me play. I like to have him playing with my toy as I suck on him

Well I’m afraid anyman that wanted to play or have a relationship with me would have to deal with the fact I have toys and would like him to help me play. I like to have him playing with my toy as I suck on him

@loobyloo I am available :-) Please, PM me!

To answer the poster's question, if a vibrator helps to get you where you want to be, go for it. The bedroom is not the place for ego issues, insecurities and hangups. It is 2 people coming together for pleasure, intimacy, love and caring. My focus and happiness is about making her happy and vice versa, and we both know what works for us. And always nice when we are exhausted, and yucky, laying in bed snuggling under the covers, resting and even falling asleep. I don't think it gets any better...

In the past ive loved helping a woman use toys as part of play.....it all adds to the fun