Are you really who you say you are?

Does that happen alot?

We find them from time to time.

You certainly experience it on this and probably every similar site. I guess what I don't understand is that the imposter is on a fetish site, where sexual tastes and sexuality run rampant, yet they feel compelled to disguise themselves in their alternate reality to a point where I truly question whether this behavior goes beyond "fetish" into the realm of obsessive/compulsive.

I would have no objection to, and I have had play partners who have done so, a male telling me that they want to play a female role and experience things, at least mentally from the female perspective, or do their best to. Some have done so with great success and realism.

On the other hand, we have the jokers and players who think that their mask is on so securely. Well, I have three test questions that I fit into the conversation, and obviously I'm not going to write them here, but these questions are strictly "girl talk" kind of questions, and I have yet to find an imposter who responded to any of the three when sild casually and subtly into conversation, correctly. Sorry, boys! Some of us ladies, do have some brains to go with our beauty!

HUGS

Becca

It can also be quite frustrating for those of us who are openly male and think we are chatting with a female, when suddenly something doesn't add up. I have no objection to males playing as females if that is their thing, but please be open and honest about it.

If you read my profile you have a pretty good idea about me. No BS in there. If you read my posts you will find them consistent because they are based on things that have really happened to me. Again, no BS there.

For a long time on Zity I assumed that people were as honest and open as I am. Than some people started rubbing me the wrong way. I don't have a photographic memory, but I do have a pretty good memory and I started noticing inconsistencies, and there is another entire group that joins in one of the fetish discussions, in their profile they would always seem to be new, female, and what many male users would consider having attractive attributes in their profiles. Oddly enough every one of their posts seems to fan some kind of a male wet dream. And even more interesting, the don't seem to last long here, though they seldom go out with a bang.

So, now I try and give people the benefit of the doubt. Being here for perhaps over a year is a big positive attribute, and if one reads their posts their age remains consistent, and their attitudes seem realistic.

It is sad that some peoples lives are so vacuous that all they have to do with their time is mis represent themselves instead of actually letting their true freak flag fly (and I meant that in a positive way) and actually make some meaningful contacts on here.

On the other hand, we have the jokers and players who think that their mask is on so securely.

I have been taken in by a few of these over the years. Usually, though, not for very long. There have been a few who claim to be actual medical professionals, freely giving suggestions and advice, and RAPIDLY exposing themselves as imposters to the credentials they claim in their posts and profile. Most of the time once they've dug themselves a deep enough hole, they disappear from the board, either never to be heard from again, or popping up with a new profile after laying low for a while.

The people who do this hurts the trust many people have for their friends in this community.

Doc

I find it sad that people act like the descriptions in the two posts above this one. It makes it hard for the genuine ones out here. Also, I don't see the point in being anyone who I really am. It would turn people against you and then what fun is it being here?

As boring as I am, I'm just me. And honest about my experiences.

Jim

@Jimmy_1

No shame in that!

I am sure there are people here who aren’t who they say they are. I sure don’t hold that against them. I just assume they are fantasizing. I find myself fantasizing while looking at posted images and writing about them. However, I do not claim to be someone I am not. I feel safe putting myself out there for all to see and when fantisizing, the reader is well aware of my content. Since the majority of my posts are truthful and I am writing them to sincerely express my thoughts and experiences to members, I feel the ability to recognize posts which do not return to me the same respectful content. I just move on.

The question: "Are you really who you say you are?" I shall and will answer with one word: Exactly!

Since everyone's affirming their honesty and truthfulness, I'll go ahead and say it. I've told everyone here what I feel appropriate for you to know. My profile pretty much says it: no secrets, no lies. Of course, my vanilla friends don't know my total weirdness. My wife/gf (same person) certainly does, and it's a part of our life, one that we both enjoy. I appreciate all the people I know who are on here, & I, like others, am puzzled as to why anyone would lie. If you have fantasies, tell us. If you want to be a girl, that's on you, but why not just let us know? Nobody's going to judge you, not here, for goodness' sake! If you think someone you meet is never going to find out, you're definitely wrong. Anyway, we're probably all odder than you, and further toward the end of the bell curve. My wife & I have often discussed this--that in our society it's "okay-er" to be gay than to be "bdsm-ers" --at least it was until "50 Shades of Grey," which popularized bdsm but never really explained it, and the lame explanation the author tried to give was actually pretty diseased. I've come to the conclusion that some of humanity is just wired differently. And I'm GLAD I'm different. Vanilla sex is fun and fulfilling but it gets boring sometimes. With folk like us, the possibilities are endless--as I've found out from all of you. So why lie? For some, I think it's because they are so secretive about their interests in all the rest of their lives. For others, I guess they like deceiving people. I've met people like that in the business world. Otherwise, who knows?

Thanks to all of you for being here.

Totally who I am, why hide, all my posts are based on real time experiences and all contribute towards my medfet. It does help me understand it, especially when other peoples attitudes and experience resonate with mine.

Sorry i must make a confession....my name is Not really Turkey1. There I've said it.

My take is this, why lie, who the fuck can keep up with lies?

But i am truly female. My post are my thoughts. My kinks. My opinions. As far as posters i think i can sniff out most fakes. The real deals are consistent in their style of writing, content etc. Fakes get 'trolly' on you after a while, they cant keep up the lies.

Outlandish stories claiming to be true is of course a dead give away as well as copy and pastes from Literotica or other erotic sites.

Know it alls, although there are some on here that are totes obnoxious KIA, i do believe many of them to be truthful.

The web is full of posers and trolls. But also grand people. On Fetlife i have met several bdsm kinksters and belong to a few groups. On Zity i have recently met a person in real life.

You have to hone your 'knower'.

Yep, that's me !

No catfish here.

@Turkey1

Sorry i must make a confession....my name is Not really Turkey1. There I've said it

Dangit! It was on my bucket list to meet someone named Turkey1! Shoot!

It's me, yes. Although you won't actually find the name JON listed first on my birth certificate.

Yes, I am what I yam.

I am exactly who I say I am. My sexual activity has always been limited to my wife - first one and then the next - with the exception of when I was in Vietnam and a whore on liberty seemed like something that would take my mind off my life at the time. I have fantasies that I can share here and nowhere else. My sexual experiences are a lot more limited than many members here; but, I enjoy reading what others are into and enjoy sharing what I'm into. I trust nobody has ever questioned the sincerity of my posts as my imagination is not good enough to make up anything extraordinary.

It is who I am ,not the name though ?.

Well I think it were PopEYE that said I am what I am.

It took me about 8 months before I joined and lurked if you will and found this site to be really entertaining-hum a bunch of people with a bunch of really interesting kinks. I can share mine and enjoy all of yours. If you could get a footprint it would be recognized as my DNA. I know it hard to prove but not impossible I did 23 and me and discovered I was highly Neanderthal relative to their population. I wonder if there are a lot of Neanderthals here...

Just for the record, I am 100% male and 100% me.

What you see is what you get. I am what I am and that's all that I am! No reason to be telling lies and being someone that you are not. So here I am in all my glory. As my father once said, because I have always been outspoken, The kid, meaning me and I was about 15 or 16 at the time, The Kid calls a spade a spade and sometimes he calls it an F'in shovel. I can honestly say I came by it honestly because that's the way dad was. A very honest, hardworking Vet from the Korean War and he pulled no punches. He told it like it was, and so do I.

I think the majority of people here are real (as am i) and their experiences are real (as are mine). Sometimes its easy to tell other times its not but there are indications to look for. I am confident in who i am and my experiences which may be out of the norm for some people in today society but if you are true to yourself you will always be fine

I am real, though I share stories that involve myself and my wife.

I have been enjoying this site for 10 years now and have chatted with many who come in here on a daily basis. After chatting for a long time with others who have also been in here a long time you get more confident that they are who they say they are. Its kind of an intuision thing. I think that most in here are here because they want to chat with others about our fetishes. Most seem really sincere when you get into a conversation with them. The chat room is where you find that out.

I can assure you I'm who I say I am, and frankly happy to be me. I proudly mention my accomplishments, and admit any disappointments and failures that I have dealt myself in iife .....What can I say?......... You live, and you learn.

I never Understood why people go on line to prented to be someone else. It anonymous anyway unless you choose not to be. I am Really isaac and I really Love enemas end of story

Am definitely the real deal! Enjoy sharing any and all experiences with others. This is a great sight for meeting others and learning new ideas and techniques!

I am who I describe in my profile. Happily married to a great man. He is a disabled Vietnam Veteran with some health problems but will do "whatever it takes" to give me sexual fulfillment. He has ED, COPD and diabetes - with a heart of gold. He is well aware of my kink but also knows I am dependent on enemas to have a bowel movement. He sees or hears me having the occasional orgasm from enemas and loves to know that can happen for me. He knows that I am a klismo and I have told him that I was very stimulated and even orgasmed occasionally while my Mom gave me enemas. For most of my life, I have been ashamed and embarrassed about this, thinking it was incestuous until I came to Zity.biz and read about other's experiences. Then I didn't feel so weird. I appreciate the Webmaster and the great Moderators here. And many, many nice people just like me who love enemas and just have to have them for sexual pleasure (besides the obvious cleanout). ?