Are you really who you say you are?

P.S.

100% woman ?

I’ve always been 100% honest on here - with the exception of some details that could identify others. Looking back at some of the information I’ve given I could probably be identified myself from what I’ve said. That doesn’t really bother me.

What has caused confusion in the past is that who I am has changed. I’ve been around this site, not always posting, for a number of years now and when I signed up I was female. It was soon after that I realised I was trans, and when I came out in the real world I changed my gender on here too. There was never any intention to deceive - if anything it was myself I’d been kidding for years!

There’s been a few times I’ve been challenged on what I’ve said because I’m talking about breasts or my clit and the name on my profile is blue. The experiences I’ve had also mean that I’ve had some unusual experiences - and I enjoy sharing them. This is one of the few places I can. I don’t see the point of posting here if you’re not being honest. Having strangers sitting reading about my true thoughts and experiences is part of the fun of this site for me.

I do feel like I’ve been challenged less the more I’ve posted. Think sharing some photos helped too. When someone can see with their own eyes that I’ve got body hair, breasts and a larger than normal clit that backs lip what I’ve said.

I have been a Zity.biz family member for many years, acquaintance to many, and play-partner to a few beautiful women.

Zity.biz is Fantasy-Centra! I don't know that I am a 99 - 10, but it is my thought that in so many of the stories, and/or posts, people are living out their fantasies and probably getting off on them too. ALL of which, I have no problem. I cannot count the number of orgasms wherein Zity has been the precipice for my explosions of pleasure. Many of you have contributed to a very active sex life, and I thank yoy...

We are a community, and each of us comes here with different expectations. We live in a world where many people would probably not understand our interests, and/or call us perverts. I think that is a misnoner, for we are seemingly overall happy and content with our particular piece of the pie, coupled with our esoteric interests, within OUR COMMUNITY.

I applaud each and everyone one of you here, for your courage to explore, and more. God Bless!

Ryan

This for me is a very important Question on many levels.

When i opened my first account here 5 years ago,I was a member of a very highly controlled religion and that was my life and in many ways i loved it or i thought i did.

When i first started chatting with others from here it was all a secret from my congregational friends,my husband knew but he had to keep it a secret too.

I hate secrets and lies and those that pretend to be your friend while they are getting what they want and when they have had enough just drop you...

In order for me to be the person i wanted to be I worked my way out and away from religion,Now i can be honest with any one i choose and i always am.

The saying, I have on my profile is very important to me..

I would rather be hated for who i am. than be loved for who i am not.

Peace.

Caz.

I am me. I just use the name Breaze here, just because I don't like to share personal information with just anyone. It's not my real name, like many people on here do not use their real name. But, I am honest about myself, and my information is true. I will tell you if I don't want to talk to you or discuss something. I am just....me.

Except for not using my own name I am who I say that I am. I'm 100% female, a health care professional, wife and mother. What I have posted is the truth.

Every time someone talks about "honesty", I picture the following site demographics:

1. A lot of members into "medical realism" (of an obvious fetish).

2. Many, who confuse this site with Facebook to hang out with their friends and relatives out of boredom: post updates and talk about food, cars, music, etc.

3. Others, who complain of real medical conditions and seek compassion; and real medical advice.

"Honesty" is not important for me at all. IQ is. Like many, I am tired of countless "questions to straight guys" (or "married women" ) and other cheap probing. But if someone impersonates a woman enough for me to believe him, I'd gladly hang out with that person. That of course depends on the IQ: a) to understand and impersonate the opposite sex, and b) to say something worthy of a conversation.

In fact, easy impersonation of different characters/personalities should be essentials for "playful" kinks sites like this. Most of us will never meet in real life. Why not have fun online?

What you are complaining about is just the low IQ of some transvestite or transsexual harassing others.

In fact, easy impersonation of different characters/personalities should be essentials for "playful" kinks sites like this. Most of us will never meet in real life. Why not have fun online?

The simple answer is there in many of the earlier posts. What you are suggesting is seen as deception, and people don't take kindly to being deceived.

It's the same as when someone posts fantasy events on a reality based discussion thread. Members tend to also object to that.

The issue is not black and white. It's the matter of taste and skills/IQ. E.g. the infamous snowpants posts (the remnants I found anyway) were typical drag crap, while many hard to believe abuse stories are well-written and entertaining. Tell me you came here for something other, than entertainment. Uhm... real medical advice? Food and music discussions?

Many here must remember a few voy forums: on RT, spanking, pediatric care and similar topics. There are also similar (fake) polls e.g. on tickle torture punishment (for kids). I enjoyed those a lot more, than the majority of "honest", but boring (not to mention off-topic) discussions here. Why not just go to Facebook or similar mainstream social network, if you don't post about kinks? Why not go to an official rape or abuse support board, if you think people post those memories (on a kinks board) to seek compassion.

I do conceal my identity, and also find the most interesting members doing the same, since they post rather controversial content. I also find members who value their privacy most outgoing and sincere in their posts. While those with seemingly real names and locations have empty profiles, and tend to post short sentences like "Never happened to me".

Really... if you only see this community, as a place to hookup for IRL (in real life) meetups, typically to engage in a vanilla DL or BDSM (if not just get laid, since you have no kinks at all) politically correct FetLife was created just for that with its insistence on real profile pictures and no fantasies about being younger than 18.

On the topic of impersonating a girl, the most credible thing for me is the frustrated "negative" profile. Women have crystal clarity on what they don't like ("no this", "absolutely no that", "I'm not into that at all", etc. etc.), but rather vague idea, what they are into ("just exploring", "kinda into butt plugs", etc.). Only a woman would start her profile with a long list of things she doesn't want, to drops a few hints what she's into at the end.

The issue is not black and white.

Oh but it is. There is plenty of supporting evidence on the forum, especially on the Medfet boards. Go and see.

It's the matter of taste and skills/IQ. E.g. the infamous snowpants posts (the remnants I found anyway) were typical drag crap, while many hard to believe abuse stories are well-written and entertaining. Tell me you came here for something other, than entertainment. Uhm... real medical advice? Food and music discussions?

Members join here for many reasons, not only one. They are looking for different things. Some want to discuss their own personal experiences - real ones - and read others' accounts of their own real experiences. When they are reading such threads, they no doubt find entertainment in reading the posts, but it changes to annoyance when they detect fiction contaminating the reality.

Others come to read fictional stories, which may or may not be realistic in content. No one will mind that, and many will enjoy it provided it is posted in the correct area and not masquerading as reality content.

Any discussion of food and music is only part of the friendly discourse present on the site. If you dismiss that, you'll find yourself outnumbered by those who enjoy the sense of community it brings.

Many here must remember a few voy forums: on RT, spanking, pediatric care and similar topics. There are also similar (fake) polls e.g. on tickle torture punishment (for kids). I enjoyed those a lot more, than the majority of "honest", but boring (not to mention off-topic) discussions here. Why not just go to Facebook or similar mainstream social network, if you don't post about kinks? Why not go to an official rape or abuse support board, if you think people post those memories (on a kinks board) to seek compassion.

Those who are happy with what Zity offers stay here as members and many make good contributions. This is a thriving community.

On the other hand, those who aren't happy here for some reason aren't compelled to stay. They are able to leave if they so wish.

Really... if you only see this community, as a place to hookup for IRL (in real life) meetups, typically to engage in a vanilla DL or BDSM (if not just get laid, since you have no kinks at all) politically correct FetLife was created just for that with its insistence on real profile pictures and no fantasies about being younger than 18.

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Again, you are generalising, and incorrectly so. Some might be looking for that, but the majority probably aren't. It can be seen on member profiles what individuals look for here, whether they seek playmates, relationships or not. This is not a 'hook up' site as such.

It seems to me that you are repeatedly complaining about what Zity actually is while wishing it was something else. But this community wants what it has here. I'm afraid your own personal wishes and preferences do not override those of the majority.

As a contributor, you could write stories that I'm sure would be enjoyed by many members. No doubt they would be entertaining and well written. Everyone reading them will understand that they are not meant to represent real events provided they are posted in the appropriate places among the 10 'New stories and text submissions' boards. You are obviously quite capable of doing that.

I also understand that your own particular set of interests might be rare even for Zity. Yes, that will be frustrating, and I also understand that.

But those who feel they dislike or cannot abide by the site's customs, ethos and rules are free to go and start their own site and set their own agenda. It's really that simple.

I am absolutely who I say I am . I have a pet peeve for bull shit. There is absolutely no need for it . If you dont want people to figure out who you are its pretty simple , dont divulge personal information. I have never witnessed a zity member pressure another to answer something that they did not want to. That would not fly well with me and would not go un-addressed .

I totally agree with drZ in regards to keeping posts where they belong. They are either fact or fiction and it is black and white . There is absolutely no gray area, we are a very intelligent community here at Zity and if someone does try embellish a story to make it more interesting or they blur the lines of fantasy into their " true accounts" you can guarantee one of us going to call them out . Its pretty simple .

I also whole heartedly agree with DrZ

"Those who are happy with what Zity offers stay here as members and many make good contributions. This is a thriving community.

On the other hand, those who aren't happy here for some reason aren't compelled to stay. They are able to leave if they so wish."

^^^Hmmmm I am seing a pattern of this sentiment .

Oh but it is. There is plenty of supporting evidence on the forum, especially on the Medfet boards. . . . Some want to discuss their own personal experiences - real ones - and read others' accounts of their own real experiences. When they are reading such threads, they no doubt find entertainment in reading the post, but it changes to annoyance when they detect fiction contaminating the reality.

Others come to read fictional stories, which may or may not be realistic in content. No one will mind that, and many will enjoy it provided it is posted in the correct area and not masquerading as reality content.

@DrZ I totally agree. If you want to make stuff up, then that is perfectly fine, AS LONG AS the person (or group) you are communicating with KNOWS you are making it up! Fantasy and stories are great, just don't pass them off as being real.

Lying and being deceptive is just stupid. You are going to get caught, sooner or later. Maintaining a whole different persona is quite difficult if you have a lot of communication with someone. If it wasn't real, it is not easy to keep everything straight and consistent. And what actually is the point? To get one over on someone else? Woo-hoo! Wow, how awesome is that!

I also find it very annoying when stories related as true on threads are just TOO unbelievable. It just leaves me shaking my head saying 'What an ass' and disbelieving ANYTHING else that person says.

I assure you I'm who I say I am. Especially when it comes to my kinks. I'm not allowed to in real life due to repercussions. I'm here on zity so I can be myself and talk about my kinks. It you don't like me, don't chat with me. This site is where I can be myself without worrying if I'm accepted.

Yay! Zity!

Members join here for many reasons, not only one. They are looking for different things. Some want to discuss their own personal experiences - real ones - and read others' accounts of their own real experiences. When they are reading such threads, they no doubt find entertainment in reading the posts, but it changes to annoyance when they detect fiction contaminating the reality.

Others come to read fictional stories, which may or may not be realistic in content. No one will mind that, and many will enjoy it provided it is posted in the correct area and not masquerading as reality content.

Very well said. Just put your posts in the proper place so that everyone here can enjoy this site in their own way. That's all we're asking.

I for one am who I say I am . Totally agree with posts here. Screw around and lie , you will get in trouble. Too many good people here to chat with, post with, and hang out with. No need to lie , pressure, or mess around with members here .

I agree that most people are far from truthful here. I haven't listed as much stuff as I do on my Fetlife page as I didn't want to bore people to death. I am part of one of the 3 largest pansexual BDSM groups in the country, Black Rose in Washington, DC. Not only just a member but I served on the board of directors, currently an Emeritus Board Member for life, former arbiter, and awarded the community elder award.

I agree that most people are far from truthful here.

I can't prove you wrong, but what makes you think so many people here are lying?

Eric

I can't prove you wrong, but what makes you think so many people here are lying?

I have to agree with this. I have to wonder at the mind-set that disbelieves so much of what others tell about, especially since we are anonymous here.

In the US at least it seems to be that this is the age of conspiracy theories, where people see all kinds of things and goings-on that are clearly not true, exaggerated and very unlikely. Does this spread to all aspects of daily life too?

Mind you, this isn't about embellishing things or presenting yourself in the best light - a common enough human trait and understandable - but about more fundamental things.

especially since we are anonymous here

That's a good point. Since everything here is anonymous (unless you willingly divulge personal information), why would there ever be a need to present yourself as something other than what you really are? If you're a young female, then present yourself as such. If you're an old man (like me), then present yourself that way. It doesn't matter what your fetishes and kinks are, since we all have one or more of them (otherwise why would be be here!). Just be honest and you will very likely be accepted for what you are.

I belonged to a very specialized kink site, and it took me a couple of months to figure out all the members were 15, male, and jerking off. Some of them faked it quite well, others, you could tell, learned their whole world from porn, and Nintendo.

So Buttwoman, given that pretty extensive experience with discovery of site members faking or intentionally lying, what is your impression or evaluation of the validity of members of Zity? Have you ever discovered or called anyone out here for being a fake? This is only the second kink site I've ever joined. I've never seriously suspected anyone of this, but I have seen a few instances where other members have claimed certain other members were BS'ing if not outright intentionally lying.

Another similar aspect is that a few times I recall seeing someone tell another to change a posting to a Fiction/Fantasy category when they felt that it was too fanciful or improbable to be real.

Eric

I have 25 years of experience both in the cyber world and the real world...

I don't see the point in lying about who you are. If there's something I don't want people to know about myself, I just don't talk about it, I don't make something up.

I agree with bbw4doc

I don't see the point in lying about who you are. If there's something I don't want people to know about myself, I just don't talk about it, I don't make something up.

Why lie, as they say the truth always comes out . Its very easy to spot reality from fantasy if you have real medical experience.

Carla and I are real people. We have really been anal only since January of 1981. She really did fulfill my greatest fantasy later that same year. We really have had anal sex about 3000 times.We really have worked together for decades.

What I posted last Friday about our plans for Sunday was true, but we did it Saturday instead. She really does enjoy enemas and deep anal sex, with clitoral orgasms every time, but she can't hold more than 10 oz. of water or lube. She really does need a week to recover from her weekly enemas and ass-reamings. Her ass really is loose, we both really like that, and we both really do attribute her flaccidity to the thousands of times we have shared anal pleasure

Of course, we're careful to change any details which might expose us as the wild perverts that we are in the bedroom. I don 't use our real names, say anything about our work together, give our ages, or reveal any info except things we have in common with many of you. Sometimes I will omit or change facts, but only to protect our privacy.

I make no Bunyan-esque claims about Carla taking five-quart enemas, a fist up her rectum, or sigmoidoscopic dildo penetrations. Ordinary women probably can't do things like that, any more than I can still bench press my weight. Buttwoman, you're extraordinary, but Carla's the love of my life.

I’ve suspected a few people aren’t who they make themselves out to be over the years, lol. I’m really me though. :p If there are details about myself I don’t want to share, I just don’t. That’s that. No need to lie or make myself out to be who I’m not! It’s just childish!

I fail to understand why I would try to pass myself as a man. But then it seems everyone has their own little fantasy world some of which are never quite explained.

I think it's more a case of males passing themselves off as female

I think it's more a case of males passing themselves off as female

Does that happen alot?

I have found a few cases over the years