And I did man-up and raise the issue with her. I have wanted to give enemas and spankings for at least 60 years and except for a couple of abortive attempts, have never been able to get what I've dreamed and fantasized about.
But I'm taking the risk. Just my personal decision. While the risk is not trivial...not by any means...the reward thus far has been breathtakingly fabulous. I will not be shuffling off this mortal coil without having experienced some of the things I have always deeply longed for. In keeping with this political season I will be fully forthcoming by noting that this message has been approved by Curious.
@rayme - I'm in the same boat, except that some of my dreams are just now coming true. I think - feel, that a lot of my progress where my husband is concerned, stems from having a partner that feels the same way about things like I do. That translated - into my feeling good about myself, confident, sexy, wanted, and knowing I was making Him feel that way too. I kind of compare the way I feel - to me going out to dinner, with no panties, my anal jewel in me, and only me and my husband knowing. I feel beautiful - and very sexy when I do this, and my friends would notice something different, ask me if I changed something with my hair, new shoes, or something, they just noticed, and it was the way I felt about myself.
I got up the confidence in myself - then the courage, and approached my husband with what I had been learning, experiencing, and approached him differently, I know what I want, and I now know how to ask him for it. Don't get me wrong - rayme, I'm cheating on my husband, but now he and I are creating our own style, approach, and ways to make the most out of the time we have left together, and to put aside any reservations and just come out and ask each other for it. I honestly don't know - if I would have had the 'maturity' before I started cheating, to make my kink needs make any sense to my husband. Now I do - and now he knows he can ask me anything, do anything, try anything, and that I will.
I didn't have anything close to the - sexual 'maturity' needed to even half way voice to my husband what it was I wanted from him or with him. There are people here - some are moderators, who seem to have always known what it was that they wanted and were willing to just haul off and get it. It wasn't until I cheated with Him 🌹 - and came here and read about what He was feeling and how I made Him feel that I started to 'mature' and have some confidence in myself. What really helped - rayme, was when I started writing about my own feelings right along with His posts here. The feedback - the comments, of others who were more 'sexually mature' than I was also helped to make it possible to finally help me get my 'kink on' with my husband. My husband - I am in love with him, he's bow legged, short, but I'm nuts about him. 😃 And now I have my - head and ass wired together, in spite of being blonde, and I found out how to get him to understand and buy into what I have become.
Just a suggestion - rayme, maybe you and Curious1313 can write about how your encounters play out with each other. In a way - it is like a diary that you two could look back on and learn from, and help each other find your own kink. Sure rayme - some will people may call what you write a soap opera, or criticize you, or, like with me, wonder why I was wringing my hands so damn much about taking Him vaginally. But it was part of my - processing what and who I was becoming, and like you, I admit to myself that I am cheating on my husband. If someone doesn't like that - fuck them and the horse they rode in on!
You said it best rayme - you don't want to die wishing you had tried something your heart desired. I hope you and Curious1313 - share your journey with the rest of us, I would really really like to hear how the two of you make your journey. Best of luck - to BOTH of you, it's worth the trip. 🌹
Lora