Marriage is, and always has been, a two way street. If you love and respect each other, you both must communicate with each other, about every aspect of your life together... every thing! To be able to please your lover in bed, you must know what she likes, and she must know what you like, and that comes from being able to communicate your likes and dislikes to each other and respect them.
When I was going with the girl I married, while still living at home, the bathroom had an enema/douch bag hanging in the shower. It came up in conversation early on, because the enema tip stayed on the bag when not in use. In the early 70's, it was normal to see a douch tip, not an enema tip, when not in use for feminine personal hygiene, and she asked me, "why", and I told her, "I, as well as others in my family used enemas to keep our colon's clean, and the douch tip went on only as need, when my sisters used it for their personal hygiene". She said, "that's new to me", then said, "I only received enemas as a child for constipation". It didn't come up again till our honeymoon when we went to the drugstore to purchase a enema/douch bag for her feminine hygiene. I ask her, that evening, to try an enema for somthing other than constipation, she did, and liked it, she said, "it turned her on". I then taught her how to give enemas that evening by talking her through giving me an enema. After that, we gave each other enemas once a month to keep our colon's clean. All other times were for forplay, before and sometimes after sex. In the first few years, after we got married, we could really have dropped the once a month clean out, because we were doing plenty in between our normal monthly colon cleaning.