I was open about my interest from the beginning, although couching it very much in the aspect of my personal health (as tho it was necesary) and my upbringing. (true) She had no adverse reaction whatsoever and it enabled me to pursue my love of her without the guilt that I was "odd".
Yes, I believe it was a "bottom line" thing (really-no pun intended) as would , or should be many other compatability issues. While she did not have near the enjoyment about it as I, it was very much and willingly part of our love making, to the extent she had no qualms whatsover about how I felt and her role in that regard making me feel good. I on the other hand did everypossible thing I could to pleasure her as she wanted. We had 46 wonderfull years.
I am a divorce lawyer, and number one as to why people divorce is that they did not really know each other in the beginning but let sex be the driving initial force with too little known about each other--whatever the hopes, dreams, kinks and traits that ultimately surface over time.
Yes, I believe the interest/enjoyment etc of enemas should very much be out in the open from the very beginning.
Acceptance and understanding is crucial--a vow to take an enema every day isn't essential, or even the committment that it is the greatest thing ever--but acceptance, understanding and support is essential. And you, likewise must strive to know, understand and accept your potential partner in life. It is a two way street.
Otherwise, one of you will be in my office sooner or later.
Love to all,
GDFRU