Are pain fantasies normal?

I love the pain that comes with butt plugs. :😃

For me, pain from butt injections. What a delight those needles!

For me pain fantasies are very normal. We are heavy in to BDSM play. We have a whipping post and a cross in the playroom. I have been cuffed and attached to the post and whipped until I bleed. When he does that there is alway a puddle under me to be cleaned up. I find it near impossable to get off without the pain. By the way I am female not that it makes much difference but it just seems that most of the bottoms that talk about their experiences are male.

We have a number of whips and floggers as well as canes and crops. One must have a good selection to choose from.

Definition of terms:

NORMAL: I do it and you do it.

ABNORMAL: I don't do it, but you do.

PERVERTED: I don't do it, you don't do it, but that guy over there in the corner does!

In other words, normality is in the eye of the beholder.

Speed

I think its normal ....... for me ...... at least

I hate to be a wet blanket and keep bringing up this point, but if you want to know what normal means, you have to look it up in the dictionary. You can't use your own definition and what is normal for you DOES NOT make it normal for a population of people, which is how "normal" is defined.

Normal means conforming a a standard or what is usual and typical or what is expected.

Pain fantasies ARE NOT NORMAL. The fact that you can name a bunch of people who like pain or pain fantasies, does not make it normal. It only means you have perverted friends. 😁

The fact that many of us here enjoy pain and pain fantasies still does not make it normal. It is just something many of us enjoy that ISN'T something that is bad or necessarily harmful to us.

My point is that things like pain fantasies are not something that can be judged as normal or abnormal. They are what they are, pure and simple. The concept of "normal" has become a pejorative for anything that one finds unpleasing to that person. Let us lose these terms as they are not relevant.

Speed

Not sure about it being normal - who really knows what others fantasize about? - but pain is an essential and enjoyable part of my life. 😁

I agree with SS pain is not normal but I belive that the number of people in the general population who are into pain is greater than we think but not near a 30 to 40% participation rate which could move to the mainstreem or normal.

A

Pain is such an EROTIC sensation anyone who says that it doesnt stimulate them more is crazy!!! and being restrained is anouther way to boost it even more

I have been thinking about the pain fantasy for a few days now, cannot stop, in fact. I have lots of pain fantasies. In real life, I have a low pain threshold and hate having a headache, or when my joints hurt, stuff like that. But if I am masturbating, I find I need a pain scenario to make me come. I can get really elaborate, too, lol, so it often takes me quite a while to come, because I am having so much fun inside my head.

My best fantasies involve bondage and discipline, however I've never been able to carry it over into real life.

Outside of fantasies I love my labia to be nibbled and sometimes bitten but only after extended foreplay.

The U.N recently announced that there are now seven billion people on the planet. how could that many folks agree on what is "normal"? suffice to say that a very large minority of those seven billion enjoy being restrained and having no control over what happens to us. relax. enjoy

Pain without hurt, pain without anybody can seen physically

Pain fantasies are hot to me, but I'm fairly sure I'm abnormal 😃

the U.N recently announced that there are now seven billion people on the planet. how could that many folks agree on what is "normal"?... . . . .

You don't need people to decide if something is normal, all you need is the statistics to tell you how common something is.

You say abnormal like that's a bad thing. 😃

Abnormal or normal has nothing to do with bad or good. It only has to do with frequency in a population.

PEOPLE make the decision of something is good or bad.

I don't really have pain fantasy, but I have restraint fantasy were I imagine myself in heavy restraints..that's it. No spanking, poking, etc. just kept in restraints for long periods. Strait jacket or slave chains are frequent topics for my fantastic consideration.

As Switchablesusie says,"you (respondants) refer to abnormal as if it were bad". what a dull, boring world if we all adhered to a single "norm".

I would say it is normal. As others said, some just have a high tolerance. And in the end, who cares what anyone else thinks, as long as you enjoy it.

I would say "normal enough". However keep in mind that fantasy isn't necessarily an accurate prediction of reality.

I won't take pain but I do like to give some through spankings.

Rather than answer the normal question, perhaps I will answer the question that seems behind it - others have these sorts of fantasies as well, so you are not alone.

There is good pain,and bad pain. It's normal to want both at times. I think you have to TRUST your partner when pain play is involved

I used to have fantasy about painful injections in bum. I love it.

Pain fantasies are a big thing for me, however when speaking about pain, its also important to not be too generic. For example, having my fingers trapped in a closing door is certainly not a turn on for me, nor would it ever form part of a fantasy, it's not the right kind of pain. However, the thought of having a high power electrical current put through my testicles for several hours IS something that would firmly reside in my fantasies. Indeed for me pain fantasies are common. I would go as far as to say they are normal FOR ME. But to just ask if they are normal? I think switchablesusie has covered the base fully on this point.

Every night before i sleep the only way i can sleep is to have fantasies about pain and some "weird" stuff (weird to people without these kinks, i guess). it became an obsession to me i think its embarrassing sometimes when i get new bf to explain to him that pain is fun for me maybe because of weird childhood i had with no father i like to receive discipline from men its huge turn on for me.

Normal is a relative term - sometimes I like submission and service, and the idea of pain is intolerable. Other times, I feel like a brat because all I want is the pain and the dominance. So - what you're feeling, in my world, is entirely normal 😃

Earlier someone said the definition of "normal" is 'conforming to a standard' and concluded that pain fantasies are not normal. A quick check at http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/normal revealed a number of definitions that are apropos and could be used in this discussion. I'm not as experienced in real life or even fantasy kink as many of you are, but I'd guess that pain is a standard within the community, and is, therefor, pretty normal.

Normal or not normal, if you enjoy it, go for it. It sure isn't my place to judge what you do, or don't do, unless you're taking something from someone else without their permission.

I love a good spanking, the ones you feel after it's done, and I'm sure it's abnormal, but I also like getting slapped across my face in the heat of the moment. But to me it has to be done without tools my Master does it with his hands. And I fantasise about it normal or not!

I have found that enduring pain is a great boost to my male ego. The harder and longer I can take a good ass beating from my girl friend the better I like it. Pain in itself is the body's teaching tool. When touching a hot object your body reacts by pulling away to avoid further injury. By having pain inflicted on a part of your body that was actually designed to withstand it without permanent injury is a proven behavior modifier. I think that pain is a useful tool in learning life lessons. One who willingly submits and accepts pain as a part of life is not "abnormal", just a realist. A person who has pain fantasies is more interested in living life on a real level. In our society today we abhor pain, at the least sign of it we take a pill or go to the doctor. I think that's why more and more people seek out pain in a controlled environment to fill a deep seated need to "feel" it. Pain that is produced internal to the body is a sign of some possible physical ailment. Pain that is inflicted from outside the body tells the body to flee the situation. When the person willingly suffers pain, it can produce emotional healing by assuaging guilt for some misdeed. Notice the inclusion of ass. 😃 Suffering for ones sins is an age old human response and I find that completely "normal". We all have a conscience down in there somewhere.