Are pain fantasies normal?

An ex of mine used to like pain on her nipples, she said it made her orgasms stronger.

IMO, ANY fantasy is "NORMAL". Per dictionary.com, a fantasy is:

1. imagination, especially when extravagant and unrestrained.

2. the forming of mental images, especially wondrous or strange fancies; imaginative conceptualizing.

3. a mental image, especially when unreal or fantastic; vision: a nightmare fantasy.

4. Psychology. an imagined or conjured up sequence fulfilling a psychological need; daydream.

I don't believe that ANYTHING that is imagined or conceptualized is abnormal. Just think about some of the things you might have dreamed... Would you believe yourself abnormal for just DREAMING them? OTOH, might some of those things at least border on the "abnormal" if you [tried to] do them in reality?

Fantasize anything you want. Think a bit more deeply if you want to realize some of those deeper fantasies...

I agree, who is to say what is normal and what is not, I do not think that anyone should judge others and their interest.

I have fantasies of receiving painful injections on my butts from an unsympathetic doctor. So painful that I have to be hold down. It makes me wet just to think about it. Lol.

Maybe it doesn't sound normal for normal folks out there, but hei..... who cares? Lol

Surprised that anyone cares about being normal in this forum that is why we are here.

I constantly think about hurting women erotically but only ever on the erogenous parts of the body other parts are just torture.

The temporary pain generated by a good hard spanking brings many erotic fantasies to my mind as well. When I do get spanked the pain is intense and my mind is torn between wanting it to stop and wanting more. My GF is wonderful at spacing the strokes and the severity of them to provide me with an erotic and intense spanking that I find myself longing to receive again between times. So yeah, I would say you are normal. 😃

I agree with the others who ask "what is normal?" If it's fun to the person and everyone involved enjoys what they are doing, then why wouldn't it be "normal?" It's just like anything else. I have a friend who is a hockey fanatic. He plans to get up in the middle of the night to watch Team USA play hockey during the upcoming Winter Olympics. I say that's a bit abnormal, but he would think I was the one who was abnormal to say that. 😄

Normal is really a relative and rather subjective term and one that could drive us all crazy if we dwell too much on it. Have fun and enjoy your kink I say!

I have to wonder what is "normal". I think I know where my medical fetish started and what lead me down that road. Am I normal? Does it really matter?? I do however wish I knew the psychology of it all and what causes humans to enjoy giving and receiving pain.

Don't like needles and burning stuff. But I need a strong man to tie me up to his bed or table or chair. Spread my hands, legs and pussy very wide. My boyfriend doesn't understand me he never do that.

I'd love having my clit and nipples spanked, bitten, sucked and electro tortured. Also vibrators and clothespins are required. Am I normal? Would any of you like having me? And what would you do? Can you be creative? I'm new and I don't know how to open a discussion if someone like to continue taking with me please do.

Throughout my youth and most of adolescence visits to the doctor normally ended with the painful humiliation of pulling everything down to my ankles and bending over the receptionist's lap for one or more injections in my vulnerable bare bottom. Holding me firmly in place, she sometimes reminded me that I had to get them and could do nothing about it. Even when unable to sit down later, I nonetheless fantasised about the ordeal and still do so.

There is pleasure in pain, to me and few of my friends anyway. But there is a limit for it. I don't have spanking sex with my partner. But I am genuinely disciplined by my father in law by the use of a cane on my bare rear. But I use that pain for my pleasure. Probably it is the part of the body that being caned gives the pleasure. But there is a limit. In my case say about 12 strokes. Anything more than that comes under pure pain. But I think it is still worth it.

We are all very different in life to what we like need and enjoy. Some need it all the time, others when they can for pain. The excitement of knowing why it is going to happen is like fore play in some ways. The anticipation of being spanked or tied in bed for the night puts me in place where I can only describe as a very happy place.

I see there is a very delicate balance between pain and pleasure while masturbating. I use such things as hair brushes, elastic bands, Tape and rough string to enhance masturbation. It is very difficult for anybody else to know exactly what pain you are suffering. I find the best solution is to do things to yourself under the orders of somebody else online. You need to be honest with them and tell them what you are are are not prepared to do to yourself.

I cannot have a climax without visualizing pain being applied to my breast and nipples. Also a very full bowel of enema. The excitement of someone else controlling this is my sweet spot.

In a word, yes.

I feel so at peace when I am securely tied up not being able to move, blindfolded and music playing. My mind can finally be quiet and stop turning. Then I welcome the delicious pain. Not sure how normal that is. What really is normal?

I don't think if this is not normal then any of the other kinks are, lol.

But extreme masochism is a bit ...dangerous?

I like losing control and I'd like to know more about my pain tolerance because till now I'm stuck at spankings.

The pain mixed with pleasure is a great feeling too.

I enjoy maximising my pleasure by exploiting the pain/pleasure balance while masturbating. I thnk in being solo you have a better idea about what your delicate placs can take and there is no requirements for safe words. Also, I find the simple rule is that if you keep your erection then you must be applying good pain. Pain fantasy is a different subject altogether. I can often utilise these as an aid to masturbation whil inflicting a lesser pain on myself. I find pain before orgasm really enhances the orgasm. However, at the point of orgasm most devices have to be released immediately !!

I think clearly there are so many people out there who get sexual pleasure from pain that is maybe more unusual than vanilla sex but is still pretty common! Also a fantasy is about you enjoying it and not worrying about what other people think!

I think so, especially in submissive-curious women. I find that women who experience pain and pleasure at the same time (like when having an orgasm) encounter a new side of themselves they have never known and their orgasms are more intense than when experiencing pleasure only...and they assure me they like it once they experience it. Of course, YMMV.

Your fantasies belong to you. they are yours. There is no objective "should".

There seems to be this lingering dark side that is just coming up to the surface. And I feel like I need to explore it. I don't know why at age 30 this seems to have become important to me but it is right there in the front of my mind.

I think some pain with the pleasure is my real desire. how that pain is achieved I am not sure. Must find someone to help me figure that out.

I dream about it. But in the the real world I'm not into pain of any kind.

I fantasize about that scenario a lot, but in real life i couldnt administer to much pain, unless the woman asked me to do it to her.

I have them all the time (when I've sexual thoughts) so I think that it's normal. 😉

Certainly perfectly normal to me.

Experiencing genital torture is about the closest I'll ever get to heaven on earth, especially in tight bondage, self inflicted or by another.

No, they're not normal. That's what makes them fun!

I think normal doesn't carry much weight nor is it so useful. If you find it appealing (as do I) then relish in it. For me a slow paddling which starts out as a massage and slowly builds up is exquisite. I love to give them and I love to get them. They can really get quite intense and be wonderful.

I am not sure if I get direct sexual pleasure from pain, but I know I need spankings that are painful and go beyond where I would actually like them to stop. Afterward I feel very happy and very close to the man who spanked me. For me this is better than sex and I could even live without conventional sex (oral or anal gay sex that is) if I was getting those spankings...

I don't know about normal, but I have them. The thought of being disciplined is truly arousing. But not all types of discpline.

Spankings and bare bottom whippings, and the med fetish talked about on here is what works.