Spouses Who Tolerate Our Enema Passion

A postscript on my reply below. The frequency of sexual relations with my wife has diminished over the last year or so. She knows I like enemas as a sexual release. Over the years I have given myself an enema when I know she will be out of the house for a couple of hours or more. If she knows about these solo excursions, she's never said anything about it. A few months ago, I asked her if she would object to me giving myself and enema whenever I wanted one. She responded that she would have no problem with that, so long as I could attend to her needs whenever she wanted. To date, I haven't flaunted my enema sessions, and she hasn't commented about them. All I can say is that being more open with her and it has released some of the sexual tension between her needs and my own. .

Sure, I got enemas while growing up, but what kid in that era didn't? There was that point in life when I never even thought about enemas. Then I got married and my wife was a regular user. That was fine because she did her thing and it didn't mean that I had to participate. Then when we had been married a year or two I got sick and had constipation to boot. My wife insisted and I finally relented to her giving me an enema. It was a very different experience from those that I had endured growing up. Things changed.

If all childhood enemas had been given like your wife did, there would be a lot more of us today.

Yes, I do have a spouse who tolerates my passion for suppositories and enemas.

Actually we have even played some times together, but it has become more and more evident that he was playing more to make me happy than for his own pleasure, and this is not what I was looking for, so for the time being our activities in that sector are suspended to say the least.

I guess that the issue here is that I would probably not like to be involved in some sexual activities just for the pleasure of my partner. I make an example: I am not into catheters at all, and would not feel comfortable at trying that just to please my partner. So, reversing the roles, I don't want to be the one who puts my partner in an uncomfortable position just to satisfy what appears to be only a passion of mine.

So, to respond to the question, yes I do have a partner who tolerates my passion. But I would also respond to a question which has not beed asked, and that is no, this is not totally satisfying though it is clearly a sign of good understanding!

My wife doesn't understand my love of enemas, she received them as a child, her and her sisters received yearly spring cleanings and she hated the feeling. She is up for about anything and has given me a few but as of last summer we were on vacation and I said I am going to do a quick clean out before we play and to my surprise she said maybe I should too, so I grabbed the bulb enema and a large bowl of warm water. She took four bulbs and explelled and came back and wanted a few more. I still don't think see understands my love of ememas but she tolerate it and now sometimes joins in.

My wife has embraced my passion for enemas since we were dating, and even helps me sometimes. She'll rub my back and stomach and penis while I fill with water, and keep me updated on how much water is left in the bag. If I ask, she'll add more water to the bag (it's only 2 quarts) while I'm taking it in. She will even insert and remove the nozzle for me if I ask. However, she has been very clear that she does NOT want to partake.

Until recently.

One day last week I got home from work, and she told me that she was very constipated and her guts hurt. She hadn't pooped in about a week. I told her an enema could give her relief very quickly and with little discomfort, and asked if she would like to try. She said yes!!

I told her to go relax for a bit while I get everything set up. Fortunately I had recently bought a new soft silicone nozzle and hadn't used it myself yet. I hung my 2 quart bag from the shower curtain rod and connected the hose, nozzle and shutoff valve. Then I filled a water jug with warm tap water and added a bit of baking soda, to be sure the water wouldn't upset her colon, and poured the water into the bag. I told her to strip down naked and get on her knees and elbows in the bathtub, then I spread her cheeks open and lubricated her and inserted my well-lubricated finger. After adding more lube to the nozzle tip I gently inserted it about 4 inches then started the water flow. She gasped because she was startled by the flow, the moaned as she began to relax. I went to the sink to wash my hands, and she said she was feeling really full, and asked me to stop the water. Since she had only taken about a quart I really took my time washing my hands, which she noticed but didn't complain about. After washing my hands I stopped the water and gently tugged the nozzle out then let her move to the toilet.

I gave her privacy to expel, but could her that the enema had done it's job. She made a few more trips to the toilet that evening, and felt totally relieved by bedtime. Now she says that she will definitely let me give her an enema again next time she is constipated and maybe even just for fun!! Finally, after nearly a decade, I think she is ready to start embracing the joy of enemas for herself!! 😃

Not a spouse, but I have a girlfriend currently who I introduced to enemas (and anal sex) this year. She has come to enjoy them and now we take them together and take turns administering. Compatible partners are definitely out there, just maybe not as vocal about it as men.

She doesn't understand why so many straight men are uptight about anal play or think it makes them "gay". Which is lucky for me, because I enjoy it!

@superlotus, what a wonderful story! I'm happy for you and your wife. I guess in a way her being constipated was a good thing as she was willing to accept your suggestion and help. So the door has been opened for future happiness! Another step toward a more excellent marriage! It's things like this that break down barriers and open minds to a love that is deeper and stronger. I'd bet you feel quite a bit closer to her than before? Good for you both! I like stories that end happy for both parties. Enemas down a one way street are not much fun, especially for lovers and married people. A two way street is something very special and only people who share mutual enema fun can relate to that. Have a great day! I love to know people are happy.

My husband and i both like to give and receive.

What is typical with this?

My wife hates enemas, and won't even give me any. Whenever she sees that I have taken one, she starts off on the various lectures; you need to drink more water, eat more roughage, etc. I would be very surprised if she was to ask me to give her one.

C

Last week I told my wife that I needed a good cleanout. She responded “eat prunes!”

End of discussion.

She is an RN and Certified Nurse Practitioner

I have read numerous times that the urge to have sex is physical (that is why God made male and female), but enjoying it is mostly mental. I think enjoying enemas is also mostly mental. Some of us get past the temporary discomfort of a full belly, and the noisy, smelly result to enjoy the feeling of well-being that follows a good enema. Most people, including many of our partners, can't get past the few minutes of discomfort or embarrassment to get to the good part.

My spouse does NOT tolerate my enema passion. She has never had one and never will unless ordered by a doctor and signed off by the Surgeon General of the United States. So she does not know what it is like to be given an enema.

Most of the time I take my enemas when she is not home. On occasion, I will take one in the early evening when she is here and am very feeling really lousy and need to do one. I tell her I need to go and "do my thing", as she likes to call it. She does not say anything when I head up the stairs, and after 30-45 minutes when I return, the only thing she will ask is "Do you feel better?" I reply, "Yes, I do". Nothing more is said. It is almost if she does not want to encourage my talk of enemas.

If I take one and she is not home, and she sees that I have taken one, she starts off on the various lectures; you need to drink more water, eat more roughage, etc.

My ex-wife #2 not only enjoyed giving me one or more enemas per evening, but after we'd been married several months she confided that she wanted to be sexually submissive to me. The even more fascinating revelation at the same time was that her most secret sexual desire for years had been that she wanted her husband (me at the time) to give her enemas. I received many delightful submissive enemas from her (we switched) over a couple of years but we divorced for unrelated reasons before I could start giving her her desired enemas wish.

My enjoyment of both partnered and solo enemas is both from all the intense physical sensations as well as the perceived feelings of submission (real or fantasy Domme) and humiliation. I suspect she would have been the same. When she gave me enemas as her sub, it was almost always two or more per session, stacked on top of each other. She took intense delight (as did I) in making me hold my enemas while performing various tasks and exercises, culminating in giving her whatever kind of sex she wanted to give her orgasms. I always had to hold as much solution as she wanted in me at least until 1) I'd been humiliated and begged enough for release, and 2) I'd given her her required lot of orgasms, and 3) she'd had a post-orgasm rest/nap. Sometimes it was brief, only holding for a half hour or 40 minutes. Other times she had so much fun watching me be distended and sub for her it lasted most of the night. She'd frequently threaten me with sleeping while holding my enema (DBC fully in place) all night, but never did. I never used a safeword, but there were definitely a few times I wondered if I'd need it. Great memories.

Eric

My wife is aware of interest in enemas but has no desire to give or receive them. I am hoping that changes one day but I have my doubts

No, my husband laughs when I say I need an enema. I usually give myself one when he's not home which is rare nowadays because he got this "brilliant" idea to work from home....

I'm constipated and nothing works as well as 3 enemas, one soapy, one warm water, then another for a nice washout. It's also very relaxing.....

One time he had to go for a transrectal US for his prostate. I offered him an enema, he declined and cancelled his Dr. appointment. Oh well.....not everyone likes it.

My wife and I had a fairly active e-life going. It was occasional but consensual both ways. Very intimate and loving. Then one night she caught me “siphoning” the closed top bag to get more water into her enema. Well, that didn’t go over well. Seemed a bit too BDSM for her. She’s never asked for another enema since and I don’t bring it up. My bad.

My wife knew about my enema fetish before we were married but didn't enjoy them. One afternoon, I fixed a bag of warm water, convinced her to let me insert the douche nozzle and have her roll over on her back. I had her put her feet on the bed and spread her legs. Next I knelt between her legs and licked her vagina & clitoris then slowly started the water flow. She was so absorbed in the vaginal stimulation, she forgot that a quart of water had flowed into her. We heard the gurgle as the bag emptied and she then realized what had happened.

This is her favorite method for taking enemas. If anyone has problems with their SO accepting enemas, try this method. It still works for us.

Are you kidding? My wife hates all things anal especially enemas. I have given her a few. Once she hadn't gone in over a week and agreed to a bag after 3 days of fighting it. This was 25 years ago and the only other time was prep for a hysterectomy which also had the effect of killing her sex drive.

From time to time, my wife Diana enthusiastically embraces my anal fetish. She thinks I have an enema fetish, but really its an anal fetish .... I love to have her play with mine and an enema is just part of the playlist, along with fingers (diana's are incredible), and dildo's of various shapes,sizes, and functionality. And it goes both ways, I love to play with her bottom too.... although because of her bowel resection two months ago, that's not possible right now. But, I digress.....

Somes diana sees my fetish as competition. I think in her mind she see's love making and enema/anal play as two events where I see it as different versions of the same event. Regretfully, we still struggle with these issues. Perhaps if I treated it as a separate event, and just asked her outright if she would play with me....

My wife tolerates my enemas and the fact that I enjoy them. For some strange reason, she no longer wants to have sex or do all the stuff we used to do sexually. She would ask from time to time to be screwed in her anus, but all of that has gone by the wayside. Why, I don't really know. She was molested by her father years ago, so I guess some of that has come into play at this time in her life.

I don't know how or remember how she learned that I love enemas. For a long time she just tolerated the fact that I gave myself enemas. We used to work different shifts so I could have enemas in the morning and she was at work, I worked second shift. I let my bags dry and she knew that I had an enema when she got home from work.

We then got to work the same shift, both on a daytime shift and I would come home and start an enema and she would get home later. Many times in the evenings we would have sex and it was a great time.

She did once allow me to give her an enema, but after that, she said no more ever. I said they always made me feel better, I would give myself an enema at the first sign of a cold or anything like that.

She will not give me an enema, now and then, though rarely she will pump the ball I have to get water into me. She doesn't mind if I give myself an enema any more.

So I enjoy my enema times a lot, since she doesn't want or desire sex, I masturbate sometimes while being filled. Usually it is the last filling after having cleaned myself out.

She can see that I am giving myself and enema, since we live in an old log cabin that is falling apart, there is a living room, kitchen, bathroom is off the kitchen and a sleeping porch where she sleeps. When she is sitting in her chair watching TV, she can see me in the kitchen filling myself up. The bathroom door is open because I have my enema cans hanging from the kitchen ceiling. They hang there all the time, so anyone who comes into the house can see my enema cans. They are two 2000 ml enema buckets. I have yet to empty both of them in one filling. Soon that will happen.

She just puts up with my enema love.

Luckily, yes; my wife has tolerated my enema passion for the past 40-odd years of marriage. Before that had a steady GF who was into enemas a bit more, and before that was married to another who had zero tolerance. So, experienced a few side to this question.

My wife just tolerates me giving myself an enema. She does't want any sex anymore. I have tried to get her to have sex now and then, she said that sex hurts, she has no lubrication and has zero desire. I will say there were times she wanted to screw and even asked for anal sex. I was glad to oblige her any time, any place.

So now knowing she has no desire, sex hurts and she has no lubrication, I asked if my giving myself enemas was a problem. She said no. I also asked if she cared if I masturbated in front of her and she said she doesn't have a problem with me masturbating. So now I know why she doesn't want any sex. I am sure she won't do anything about her non-desire to have sex. While early in marriage she enjoyed sex and we had lots of it. When she didn't want sex, she didn't care if I had sex with other women. So I was lucky in many ways, I could have sex with her, then other times sex with other women.

So now I will play with myself when I want and give myself enemas as often as I want. I didn't get married for this to be happening, but that is life. I can't afford to leave, nobody wants a 76++ year old man. So I will live with what I got.

I am glad that she tolerates my enema use and I really enjoy anal pleasure. I like as much water as I can get in me often. Almost to the obsession.

Czorro:

When I first looked at your post I was thinking I wrote it, had to make sure. I'm in about the same boat, but I'm just a few years younger than yourself. I do two enemas a week, Sunday mornings and Wednesday mornings, she usually just sleeps through. I'm not going anywhere, have to enjoy what I have. the hoseman1

@Czorro said

she said that sex hurts, she has no lubrication and has zero desire

Haven't you heard?

They have this stuff called lube that is available in different varieties and can be found in every drug store and all over the internet.

You should buy some for her.

Every time I read these posts, it is so sad that many spouses that don't take part in our fetishes. Taking part in your spouse's fetish can really lead to a happy relationship. For so many years, i lived with my fetish in my mind. I was lucky to meet my husband that allowed my fetish to flourish without ridicule.

SS, Good idea. a bit of background as to why not.

My wife doesn't like sticky anything. Lube to her is sticky and so she doesn't care for it at all. Yes I have tried to use some in years past, she was not very happy about it.

I am sure there is some medical way to change her situation, but she won't follow up on what or how to do it. I would help her out in any way, but for her, not doing anything solves the problem.

She won't masturbate me at all because of pre-cum and to use lubrication on me would be even worse.

Also she believes that her father molested her as a young woman. He kept track of her periods on a calendar in the kitchen where everyone could see it. I have no reason to doubt her. We were in the foreplay stages of sex one day and I asked that she suck on me and as I moved towards her, she had a "flashback" to her younger days and all desire that night went out the window. I never pushed from then on. I was happy that she didn't shut down any sexual encounters after that.

I have lots of lubrication, jelly, personal lubricant, I have almost all of it. She won't use it.

I'm in the over 70 club, no sex with wife club... Been married 40 years now (second), first marriage 10 years, and between 5 year live-together with a 3rd.... What they say that our mind is our biggest sex organ is true. It's all in the noggin for the most part. How to get inside your mates mind to get her or him to be all fired up sexually for you - requires motivation to do so and truth-be-told it's so easy for me to take the easy way out by surfing the web and jo'ing and bemoaning, my wife's not into sex anymore.. (I'm not saying your doing that, just speaking for myself.)

@Czorro

Maybe you should try to change some things instead of asking for sex. Do something you didn't do before, maybe go somewhere for a weekend where you will be alone, give her a full body massage with some effort. Make some change which might bring a spark. Long foreplay and teasing is as good as sex. You could try to give her pleasure without penetration, use your mouth, vibe etc.

After thought, I'm going to give my gal some hugs and kisses and ask her where she wants to go for dinner; life is short and I want to enjoy being with her...