Spouses Who Tolerate Our Enema Passion

For many of us who enjoy our enema passion,we have a spouse who doesn't enjoy, yet they understand our love of enemas and allow us without question to indulge . So I ask, "Do you have a spouse who tolerates your enema passion?"

My spouse just accepts that I like enemas, but that is as far as it goes. I believe she thinks it is somewhat perverted. She will give herself enemas for constipation; shut the bathroom door during the process and apparently does not want any assistance. I on the other hand would be glad for her to give me an enema, but I wont hold my breath waiting on that to happen.

Bill

My spouse thinks enemas are taboo and will not even think about taking them but she doesn't hold anything against me taking mine.

She just says she don't care what I do, that is my business.

I was into enemas because I got them as a child. My wife did not have that experience. Several months after we married, I told her I wanted an enema for constipation (we were traveling). She was with me when I purchased the enema equipment at a drugstore and she helped administer that enema and also several others. Once she asked me to give her an enema when she didn't feel well but apparently she did not like it because she didn't ask again.

After several years, my wife figured out that I also got sexual pleasure from my enemas and she does not appreciate that aspect. I eventually asked her to give me enemas that we both knew were strictly for pleasure and she did that periodically for a year or so. She really hated it but didn't say so to me until I figured it out for myself (men can be slow to understand). The strain was actually hurting our marriage.

Now I keep my enema activities strictly to myself. My wife is a great woman, a wonderful wife, and a hot sex partner even after all these years. For that reason, I respect her aversion to enemas and hope she will respect or at least ignore my affection for them.

I was an closet enema fan for the longest time, I had not been in a relationship in the past where I felt comfortable enough to let my partner in on the secret. That being said my wife now is a very understanding woman and after being informed as to my habit she actually bacame involved, she will actually prepare a night of treatments for me as a special treat. We have an amazing sex life and when we include enema play into it its even better.

My wife is also one of those who just tolerates my enemas. She has given me two that I asked for during our long marriage but has never volunteered. She did allow me the privilege once of giving her a series of enemas, but I think I enjoyed them more than she did. She has walked in on me various times in the process of filling. Once when I had the bag suspended from a cabinet door handle above the toilet and was standing near it. I moved it to the shower curtain rod and continued filling while she used the toilet and then left without any big fuss. I sometimes fantasize about her giving them to me, but I guess her not freeking out is as good as I can expect.

This is going to be a bit of a reversal on everyone else's experience. I had been taking enemas since college and continued the practice after my husband and I got married. He wanted absolutely nothing to do with them even though he knew that I took a couple a month. After we were married for over 10 years and he was told to take two enemas before a sigmoidiscope exam and had me give him to him did he change his mind. It was a day that I though would never happen, but since then we have given them to each other on lots of occasions. I still like them better than he does though.

We both learned of the other's enema passion shortly into our marriage. My hubby would self-administer, a fact I discovered when I came home from work early one day. Since that time, we've totally enjoyed our e-recreation. We both have a hard time understanding why people can't enjoy a nice, medium-sized enema just for the pleasure of the session and the relaxing relief it provides. This also opens up a whole new avenue to relaxing and enjoyable "post session recreation," if you know what I mean.

My suggestion, and also my hubby's, is for people who haven't tried a nice enema (no two or three quart job at first ... or maybe ever) of about a quart, relax, take it, hold it for a while and when you have the urge to go, GOOOOOO. After that, take a second or third just for fun.

There should be no pain, only pleasure. We both enjoy the total pleasures of an e-session and everything after that.

My wife is a retired RN who has given several enemas to patients who were strangers. Now she says she loathes enemas. At least she accepts the fact that I use them.

An enema a day keeps the Doctor away!

73

Bill/K2MMW

My hubby appreciates that I like to be super clean for anal play and allows me to prepare but he has no interest in being part of it at all. What he doesn't appreciate is how much it excites me to prepare this way. I have learned to enjoy my private time alone and with him too.

As a child, my mother used to give me an enema most any time I was ill. Of course, at that age, I didn't associate enema's with sexual stimulation, but neither did I mind them. Because I've always found anal stimulation to be pleasurable. By the time I got into high school, I began to pleasure myself with enemas, and have continued ever since.

I shared this with my current wife before we married, just so I wouldn't spring it on her later. She seemed to be fine with it then, and did oblige me a few times. Unfortunately, because she's not into them, she's now decided my sexual fantasy of receiving a nice warm soap suds enema isn't really that important any more. I'm back on my own again when it comes to this activity. Very frustrating, to say the least. Giving one's self an enema is certainly pleasurable, but it is really enjoyable with a fun partner who enjoys it too.

Sometimes I think nurses have problems with enemas for erotic stimulation, because they associate enemas with simply cleaning out the colon, and nothing more. My wife is a nurse, and has no interest in receiving one, or giving me one either, which is really frustrating, considering how much she knows what a turn-on they are for me.

My wife is not an imaginative person sexually and that includes giving enemas. She only tolerates giving me enemas and occasionally. I always have to ask and when I do it's clear that there is no enjoyment in it for her. She has though, started to lube and stoke my shaven cock and balls while she is slowly filling me and she will use toys, plugs or a dildo in me after the enemas, but I always have to ask for whatever I want.

Still, this is a lot better than it was. I hid my anal desires from her for a very long time. It all started to come out when we were watching some porn (she finally admitted that she does like it) and there was a scene where a man was ordering a woman around and he made her bend over his desk and he lifted her skirt and pulled down her panties and proceeded to lube and finger her ass. My wife sat right up in bed though when he produced a fairly large butt plug and slowly worked it into her while she moaned and sighed. By the end of that movie he had his cock in her ass and my wife couldn't take her eyes off of the movie. She still doesn't like to admit it (she's a catholic schoolgirl), but she does like anal touching and our occasional anal sex, but she's still reluctant to give and receive enemas.

She will tolerate my giving to her, but she always says how uncomfortable it is or how the cramping hurts and how embarrassing it is to expel. I told her that I thought that's what the point of enemas was.

Having said all this I will never understand why someone that truly loves or cares about their partner won't cheerfully do whatever makes the other happy. Sex is the only thing that doesn't cost money and we should enjoy it.

I also feel it is not fair to either person to marry someone without all the sexual cards on the table. All you BFs and GFs and fiancees out there need to read the posts from unsatisfied spouse who thought it would be OK after they're married. I don't think many change their minds after it's final. Get everything out on the table before marriage and if the other person leaves you then it couldn't have really loved you. I love the idea of leaving the equipment hanging out for the other to see and comment on. And don't forget that there is a lot of excellent counseling out there. Like everything you introduce someone to, MAKE SURE THE FIRST EXPERIENCE IS FUN AND ENJOYABLE. This rule holds true whether it's fishing or ass fucking you're trying to introduce. Many people have hangups about many things because of bad first experiences.

I am also willing to discuss any of this with anyone through email or IM too.

I am truly thankful for this excellent forum. If I would have known just how many people felt like I do years ago, my whole life would have been different.

Well Wandrin, I know how you feel. Because I was well aware of my enjoyment of receiving enemas, I did bring it up with my then wife-to-be over 25 years ago. Frankly, I was concerned that she might not have the same level of sexual adventuresomeness (if that's a word) that I did, so I made a point of discussing my love for enemas with her, as I didn't want to get myself into another boring sexual relationship. At the time, she said she was fine with it, but I could tell that she realy wasn't into receiving herself. She did indulge me just a few times after we married, and actualy the sessions were quite good. That was years ago, and now she simply ignores my enema fantasies. If I kind of hint that I'd like one, all I get is a smirk, and an answer something like: "is that all you think about?". So today, I'm strictly solo and in private again. In fact, she doesn't even know that I regularly pleasure myself with enemas when she's not at home. Very frustrating to be sure, since it's a topic that I brought up BEFORE we were married, just so this wouldn't happen. I think that she believes my enema fetish is somewhat weird and perverted, which is why she refuses to indulge me today. Hey, I realize enemas aren't everyone's "Bag", no pun intended, but I'm also well aware that there are plenty of people like those of us on this site who receive a great deal of pleasure from receiving and giving enemas. Yes, very frustrating, since sharing is certainly more fun than being solo.

I see from this discussion that many of us have spouses who do not share our enema interests. I totally agree with wandrin that discussion of sexual interests should take place before marriage. That did not happen with many of my generation, however. I think many of us had the same experience that I did. We considered our enema fetish something too weird to discuss with anyone. We thought we were alone in this interest, so we hid it from everyone, and particularly from anyone in which we had a romantic interest. I didn't know anyone else liked enemas until I saw articles about enemas in magazines in an adult bookstore. I was probably in my mid 30s at the time. Of course, now, with the internet and this wonderful website, we know about the others that share our interest and we can even communicate with them.

My wife hates everything about enemas for herself - even though she has trouble with constipation. She's pretty understanding about my wants for many things anal including giving me enemas, but I've only been able to give her a couple in nearly 40 years. She'll allow me to massage her tummy, back and bottom and sometimes insert suppositories to help her go on the pot, but enemas are out. She will give me a prostate massage, insert suppositories or a dildo for me as I masturbate. She just thinks I'm weird and lets it go at that. I love to walk around with a cucumber stuffed up in me, after pushing it in for me, she just shakes her head and smiles as I go about the house. I'm going to get cleaned out with a colon tube enema tonight.

As a child i received enemas and early in our marriage my wife indulged me in enemas, dildos and butt play but would never permit me to do it to her, ever. So now i pleasure my self in private.

I had enemas for years and then when I got married the second time, I would give myself an enema and that was fine. She asked one day, I said I love enemas. So she just tolerates me doing it. I gave her one once, I asked to do more again and she said she didn't like the first one. So I just kept doing them. Since she doesn't really care about having sex, I just do it when I want. I used to hide a bit, now I say, I am going to have an enema. She comes in the bathroom while I am getting filled, I have no problem. I let my bags hang there, in fact I have come to to conclusion that if someone comes over and sees the bags, they will know that one of us enjoys enemas. I have quit putting them away. I enjoy my enemas a lot, I have long since quit trying to explain why or how great it feels. Now I want her to watch, it helps a lot. Now and then she will.

Wandrin I agree with you about laying all of your sexual cards on the table before marriage. When my wife and I were dating she had been having some bowel symptoms which turned out to be nerves from her job. However, the doctor she was seeing wanted her to have a barium enema and part of her prep was to give herself a rather large bucket enema. I had found the equipment in the bathroom and was looking at it and she asked me if I wanted her to give me an enema. I declined the one and only invitation I ever had from her to recieve an offered enema. I have been kicking myself about this for 33 years. I think early on in our marriage that things (enema) would have been much less stressful had I leveled with her, let her give me that enema and not held back my enjoyment of it.

Yup Diamond, you should have jumped at your opportunity 33 years ago. Sorry 'bout that. See my comments a couple of threads previously. Unfortunately, my wife has never enjoyed enemas, and doesn't bother to pleasure me today with them. Oh well, we go on.

I have a spouse who isn't remotely interested in enemas for fun. We have been married almost 46 years, and pretty much know what there is to know about each other. Yes, we have changed quite a lot in those years, but my pleasure in enemas has only grown. She quite placidly tolerates it now, but there was a time when it was a huge threat to her as a woman. "Aren't I enough to satisfy you?" was her question. I explained that although my pleasure was sexual, it was different to our sex life (which is good, even now). And I suggested she notice when she found my attentions to her especially exciting. It didn't take her long to discover that we usually had the best ever lovemaking after I had had an enema.

For the last few years she has had a bowel problem. It oozes without her being aware of it. We spent a fortune on gastroenterologist, scopes, the pill cam, the lot. Pill cam is where you get to swallow this camera that photographs the entire digestive tract and transmits its data to a wearable recorder via a harness you wear. When the pill emerges in the toilet you take the lot back to the lab. After that the doc gets to watch the MOST BORING movie ever, and charges you accordingly.

Anyway, all we got was broke. So now she takes an Imodium clone drug, and every time we go out, I give her a couple of squirts with a bulb syringe to ensure that at least we have a few hours before the rectum fills again. But she doesn't enjoy it at all, at all. So, nothing's perfect; but we'd be fools to let this spoil the great marriage we do have.

We get on just fine, and it has been like that ever since we learned to be open about what we needed and how we felt. Time was when she liked a pretty hard spanking. I could handle that! But it passed, and other things took it's place. Time was when I would ask her to put an inflatable toy in me as part of our lovemaking. It passed not because I stopped liking it, but because she began to find it unpleasant. And so on. Now we are both in our seventies; sex is much gentler and less demanding but still there to be enjoyed along with much else that life (and God) have given us.

I hear the frustration some of our younger members are having and I do understand it. Some of the hassles I have with my other half really ARE her fault. But a lot of them are mine; like not really coming clean about how I'm feeling; blaming her for it when I might have got her sympathy if I'd been more honest; hiding stuff I needn't and so on. Sometimes I've been scared to press for how she's really feeling in case I couldn't handle it (what if she rejected me?). Relationship has to be worked on every day, not just when things get out of kilter, and it's very like managing money: you must invest if you expect to draw interest. Don't put up with a lukewarm love affair. As the Aussies say, it's not worth a pincha shit, mate.

Johnny

My wife, while not very anal herself, gets very hot while giving enemas. At this point (more than 20 years) she knows exactly what kind of psychological cues and physical movements to bring me to erotic ecstasy. Occasionally she even lets me give to a woman who enjoys receiving. I'm a lucky guy.

I have been taking enemas solo for years as my ex wasn't too keen about them but tolorated my "need". Things were kept rather quiet with my current girlfriend/fiance, until she moved in with me. One morning she caught me and we had a long chat. She knew about my "hobby" as she had seen my bag in it's hiding spot in the towel closet. Being a nurse, she was pretty cool with it and required that once a week, she supervises (just to make sure that I am doing it thoroughly). If she is inclined, she administers or supervises more than once a week. She has also given me prostate messages and introduced me to the sheath urinal. I don't know about most nurses, but she is more kinky than I am. Once a month, I help her with her enema (during her period). So, I include myself with the lucky ones.

My wife is anally erotic; we have anal sex, she sometimes screws me with a strap-on. She knows I enjoy enemas but I like to keep them as something I enjoy alone. She hasn't expressed an interest in giving me an enema nor in receiving one but I'm fine with that. I count my blessings and I really think I prefer keeping my enema play as something completely personal. 😃

I am blessed with a girlfriend who join me in my very broad interest in sex. At the core of our relationship is a shared value of openness and rejection of prejudice, which over the last 12 years has allowed us to travel the realms of sex and sexual variations. My interest in enema goes back to my youth but is newlt acquired taste for my girlfriend. I play solo - she does not. She will give, but only on request. She are happy to receive but only as a preparation for sex. She does not find any direct sexual pleasure in enemas, but like them as a way for us to be close and intimate. Enemas was for us a lesson as we here discovered that two people can share sex without necessary sharing the perspective (feeling the same about it) - a thing we also experienced with golden showers which we also both enjoy but for very different reasons.

My wife has been a giver since I started asking. She occasionally asks for one for medical reasons and is always appreciative of the care I put into it for her. She understands my very different view of the process. She also knows that if she has one, she will be giving me one very soon after. And she understands what follows is good. So what started out as a scary revelation turned into more than a tolerance for my needs / wants, but also a better thing in both of our lives. She gets a caring and sensual enema when she needs one rather than a rushed embarrassed affair, and I get one later that gives us both a rush.

I have a very understanding and loving wife. We have been married for 19 years and it's been the best 19 years of my life. She knows I take enemas once every two weeks for relief from constipation and sometimes I take them for pleasure. On occasion, she will administer an enema to me and once in a while I give her an enema. I grew up with enemas and she didn't. In fact, she never had an enema until after we got married and she had a bad case of constipation which I helped her by giving her an enema. And I don't want to force her in doing something she doesn't want to do.

Eleutherous: I have a similar problem from radiation colitis. I talked to a proctologist I used to call on and he said it was fairly common among elederly women who had had many babies in their youth. The combination of multiple epiotomies and the weakening on the muscle tissue in the perineum with age, caused leakage by the rectal muscles. He said he suggested daily enemas to empty anything down low, so leakage didn't happen. (Depends work to catch the solid stuff, but nothing will stop the smell). I tried his suggestion and it worked- but my job doesn't allow me to take the time to do it daily. So, I've found that a large flush-out every 2-3 days works fine for me. My other half understands my situation and it doesn't half to be sexual-just a necessary thing I do to reduce the laundry load. Works for me!

Yes I do have a spouse that swears by enemas. She takes them herself and gives me enemas if I am sick. My 2 sons and daughter got enemas from her and from myself. They are used to enemas since getting them as a child. They are now grown up and have families of their own and give their kids enemas too. So enemas in my family go way back we all feel that they are a way of life and a healthy way to go on living. Enemas are better than laxatives that can upset the stomach and make one feel more sick than when started taking laxatives. Have a healthy enema experience.

My wife is not into enemas in any way. Anal is very rare but she does seem to enjoy it.