Spouses Who Tolerate Our Enema Passion

My wife knows I like enemas and lets me give myself ones, but she has to be out of the house. She has an open mind and keeps telling me that some day she will let me give her one using the bag. She let me give her fleet enemas before we have anal sex, but I am eagerly waiting the day she says pull your bag out.

I too have a spouse not into enemas. She tolerates my needs but wants me to do my enema theraphy when she is out of the house. I would like to meet a women who would meet for enema theraphy sessions. I wouldn't care if she was married or single. I just think it would be nice to share experiences with another who also enjoys.

My wife has been very tolerant of my interest in and enjoyment of enemas, however she does not share the same feelings for them. Years ago, she used to give me enemas but now has many back and muscle problems and says it bothers her to have to hold up the bag and maintain various positions to administer my enemas. But she has no problem with me giving myself enemas when I am so inclined. I still have been unable to generate interest in her receiving enemas but did give her a few once during one of our play sessions. But she said it upset her bowels too much and, thus, it has not happened again.

My lovely wife of 33 years tolerates my enemas. She will give them to me, but that is it. No words of encouragement, no rubbing, no just a little more, nothing. She usually sits there reading a book while I fill. Not much fun at all. I think she would rather do that than have to accomodate me sexually. Pray for me.

Hello, I am new to all of this...yet very excited. I love enemas and anal play but my wife does not. She will put a pocket rocket in my love canal but that is about it. She did finger me one time and it was awesome...but that was it. We have a 6 inch vibrator which has been used a couple of times but she says she just feels weird. Shoot, it feels good to me. She loves me to finger her ass while she vibrates her clit. I just wish she would finger me too or what ever else. Last night I tried to talk her into a enema (you need a cleanse) No, no, no she said. She would not do me either. What am I to do ?!?!?

I have tried to get my wife into enemas and anal play for two plus years. Did get her interested in some anal play and got her to play with my butt too but I would almost have to beg her to play with me. She never figured out how to make it fun for her. Believe me she got the larger end of all our play. She has even said to me that I have spoiled her with all the climaxes I gave her.

My wife does not associate enemas with anything sexual. Just sees them as being therapudic. But hey... something is better than nothing!

I had given up hope, but maybe there is a bit of light on the horizon.

I tried for years to get my wife interested, and eventually by sort of trading favors I got her to agree to try an enema for play. She gave me a few and saw I was obviously excited by them and agreed to let me give her one from time to time. She just didn't get into it. She said it was the discomfort, the fear of making a mess, and the need to cleanup after. For a while she agreed to give me mine, but eventually told me to just do it myself.

So for years, she knew that I gave myself enemas but said nothing about it. Recently I have seen signs that she has been giving herself an enema occasionally. My syringe would not be put back exactly like I had it and sometimes it was still wet when I had not used it for some time. Today was sort of the proof. She had the day off of work, I did not. I made a point of positioning my syringe and her vibrator in a specific way before going to work. The first thing I did when I got home was check it out. There was a bit of water in the syringe. It was dry this morning. She had also used her vibrator.

By itself, her using my stuff to give herself an enema could mean she was constipated and needed relief. And her using the vibrator was a separate incident.

But, I choose to believe she used the vibrator during the enema. Sort of practicing on herself to get more comfortable with it before she asks me to give her one. Do you think?

From your story RedBulb99, sounds like you might be making progress in the right direction. I suppose the real key will be if she offers to engage you in one of your favorite pastimes, or desires for you to indulge her......then you'll know for sure.

My wife knows that I give myself enemas, but she does not really approve of my habit. She understands that I like to make myself feel better from time to time. I do not get sexually aroused during my enemas, but I do like the feeling of anticipation beforehand.

When she goes to bed I will follow her upstairs and get my enema bag from my underwear drawer. She usually tells me to take care as I kiss her goodnight. Then I go back down stairs to the bath room where I give myself a series of two quart enemas, consisting of two soapy ones and three plain water.

I am happy with this situation, because I know what it's like to keep my habit a secret.

It's interesting, though probably not surprising that the spouse involved is overwhemingly the wife/female partner.

If asked directly, as i have, colon therapists will often acknowledge that many of their male clients come in for cleanouts because of hassles at home over enemas.

Not talking about spouse, but girlfriend.

My girlfriend agreed on giving me a first enema, then after a while (weeks...) a second one, then a third one, all for medical purposes. It went so for about a year. I always asked.

It then happened that she asked me if I would need one, as she had noticed that it has been some time since I asked for one. Although I was rather excited, I surprised myself by saying that I was Ok and had no need for it. I was curious about next step ! She just said "just in case, but if you're OK you don't need it";

A couple of weeks later, as I did not ask her, she did ask again... I questioned, "I am supposed to be the one who knows what he needs, don't you think?" Then came her answer, "I just enjoy doing it to you". That was it!

From the very beginning (maybe not the first time) I had the feeling that she had some feeling in doing it to me, but we never discussed it as a fun, just because I was happy with it as it was and did not want to take chances of "breaking the toy".

But that was the beginning of a new era. We had discussions about what she felt, and she admitted that it gave her a sense of domination that she highly enjoyed. I never felt myself submitted to her, but preferred not to have an argument and since that day, enemas turned into something quite more...interesting;

She still believes it is more fun to her than to me, and I will not try to change her mind. She is quite imaginative so why worry?

My wife was over 40 and never married when we met. I asked why she had never been married, she said she had no intentions of having sex with just one man. I find the idea of a "hotwife" exciting. We dated, and she openly let me know that she was also seeing other men. Many times I was her second lover that day. I found the whole thing exciting and I loved her having other sex partners. I asked her to marry and she said NO, I pleaded and eventually convinced her she could have sex with anyone she wanted, at any time and I did not have to be consulted for her to play.

She really tested my resolve for several month before we got married. She became really slutty and had a lot of sex with her entourage of men. That is when I asked if she would do something for me. I told her of my love for enemas and asked if she would give them to me. She basically had no interest, but she did agree. That was about four years ago, things have developed into a nice situation. I get an enema from her and she goes out on dates, or has had sex at some point during the day. Her giving me enemas has become pleasurable to her, as a continuation of my submissive role.

I submit to her promiscuity, her enemas and even her using a strap on on me. I have never been happier.

Not sure how to tell my new husband that I like enemas. Maybe if I get him drunk who knows. Any suggestions on how to bring the topic up without freaking him out?

You haven't revealed a whole lot in your question KinkyCassidy about what your new husband knows about your sexual likes, dislikes, and proclivities, so it's difficult to know where to begin with a reply. I'm assuming because you say you enjoy enemas, that you probably enjoy anal stimulation (just guessing on my part). Does your new husband know this? If he does, I'd say you've got about half the question covered. If not.....you've probably got a whole lot of teaching and talking to do. You didn't say, but does the new husband enjoy anal stimulation? If so, then again, letting him know about your enoyment of enemas probably won't be that hard either. If not.......then back to the drawing board, so to speak, and start communicating what you both enjoy. You need some good "pillow talk", and a few drinks in advance might help lower the inhibitions, assuming you're both consumers of alcohol. Good luck.

Healthymale makes some good points. It does seem to me, that your ages may have some bearing on your approach. If you're 20 somethings, he may be clueless about enemas. If you've both been around the block and this is just a different relationship for each of you, he may have some background about the process that you're not aware of.

I've long believed that females could possess feminine hygiene equipment without arousing suspicions or negative reactions. A Douche/Enema bag could appear on the shower arm or curtain rod. If he inquires about it, you likely have a great opportunity to just be honest. Some education about the dual purposes may enlighten him. A reference to those enemas from your mom might trigger a response and help gauge the next step.

I was once in a similar circumstance, but had to use a ruse of extreme digestive distress. It got the initial response that I hoped for, but over time, my involuntary reactions were impossible to conceal. Ultimately, her reactions became very negative, for various reasons.

A plea for some assistance may get a positive response. A Fleet Enema would be simple enough, if that's your preference. A bulb enema should trigger any guy's involuntary reactions. A bag enema might necessitate some coaching on your part. In any case, one might suspect that he would jump at the opportunity to get some play time if your booty was in need of some attention.

Patience is a virtue and you may have to be "patient" for or at the right time.

KinkyCassidy just take an enema when he is in the house. Remove the toilet paper and put it anywhere it can not be reached for the where you are. Take an enema with the bag in sight when you call him in to bring you some paper. If he asks what you are doing tell him you use them for hygiene purposes. Then ask him if he would like to help the next time. I am in northern Kentucky. in the Alexandria area.

Well many years ago while playing around sexually, I asked my wife if I could give her an enema. She had known that I enjoyed them for years, let me give myself enemas all the time. I worked second shift, she worked what I would call first shift, so after she left for work, I would start. I could fill myself many times before having to go to work. I did this almost daily, at least every other day. She knew I loved enemas.

So the day I suggested I give her an enema, the answer was yes, I filled the bags and she sat on the toilet. I proceeded to fill her and be calm, cool and collected about it. After she said she felt full, she expelled, I refilled her some, more came out and I filled her the last time. After that day, she never had another enema. She said she doesn't like them, doesn't want one.

So now she allows me to give myself an enema, she says the smell bothers her, I have used soap, turned on the bathroom fan and everything to get rid of the smell. After me being cleaned out there is little smell left, she is ok with me filling myself. Now and then she will pull or pinch my nipples to help make me come, but as far as helping me at all, the most she will ever do is open a clamp if I can't reach it.

Now I wish she would give me an enema, but I once asked, the resounding no was the answer. She said go ahead and do it yourself. While I wish that she would help, that will never happen. She won't insert the nozzle in me, open the clamp, refill the bag. All she wants to do is for me to do it, get it over with and go on.

She used to want sex a lot, more than once a week, then that tapered off a lot. Now, she could care less. I don't know why she changed, some of it I believe that she changed her mind and I think she thinks she doesn't need to or want to. She knows I won't leave, if I could, I would. So she knows she needs to do nothing other than put up with me enjoying enemas.

So I enjoy my enemas, that is about all there is to do. No sex, so I have my own and live in my own dreams.

That is just what my wife does, she tolerates my enema desires. I do them in front of her all the time.

There's no way I can begin to psychoanalyze what's going on in your wife's head or your mutual relationship Czorro, but your post is a reminder to me of why I don't try to pressure my wife with my enema enjoyment. She knows (and has known, since before we married) I like them, but simply refuses to participate at all. Sure, I hint occassionally, but that's the extent of it. It's just a guess on my part that she (your wife) has come to the conclusion that you find enemas more sexually satisfying than you do her, and consequently for the most part, your wife is shutting you out of any physical relationship with her. I know it sounds harsh, but that's my take on what you've said. I'm afraid the same would happen to me if I pushed the enema thing with my wife. At this stage of my life, it's not worth it, and besides, it's no fun to play with someone who really isn't interested in playing. There's little satisfaction for me to continually have to say "do this", or "do that", particular with someone who's not into it to begin with. If I have to do that, the erotic aspects of enemas disappears, and I might as well take my toys and play by myself. Good luck.

I have recently become deeply involved with a lovely woman who knows about my enema use. She is OK with it and I feel no pressure or desire to involve her in this unless she brings up the subject. It is a personal matter, but not one that is secret. Our sex life is loving, intimate and fun, and that is best for me.

My spouse knows about my enjoyment and sexual arousal from enemas. About two years after I met her, I persuaded her to give me enemas with a bulb. However, she called a halt to that after a couple of years. We were still not married then, and still living apart. Neither of us were seeing anyone else. Fast forward about twelve years, we got married, but still lived apart due to job considerations. Finally, after both of us were retired, we moved and bought a house and finally moved in together. She still refused to consider giving me an enema and does so to this day. However, when we are in bed together, she often starts masturbating me. Then, she starts whispering to me about some one (other than her) giving me an enema. She has never described this person, but I fantasize about who ever I want it to be - a slim blond, or a sexy middle aged lady, or whomever. This gets me further turned on. Then, she starts elaborating on the details of the enema, the size of the nozzle, how it's inserted and how may times, etc., etc. This is follow by comments about how fast the water is coming in, or stopping and restarting the flow, and other things that she knows that get me turned on. She keeps up this whispered fantasy until I have come. So I don't get a real enema from my wife but I do get very nice fantasy that's almost as good.

I would love to meet a woman that not only tolerates enemas but enjoys them too

Well I don';t currently have a spouse. I used to. I have had two actually. The first one did try my 'interests' in our experimental phase. She didn't care for them but would continue to give them to me at times. Eventually she left me because of my fetish. My second wife gave me one once but again it wasn't her thing.

This year I finally came out as bi (mostly gay though) and I have a boyfriend that I love fiercely. He thought my interests strange but agreed to try them for me. Turns out he loves them. I've purposely limited them to small ones. it's going great so far.

It is so nice to have someone finally that I can give and take enemas with. Though he doesn't have the fetish as I do, he's becoming much more 'open' to them. We're currently in a honeymoon phase enjoying an extended vacation trip up and down the West Coast of the US and Canada. I'm having the time of my life. You can catch me in chat at times (when I'm not busy with him and well you know ;-P

The answer to the question is a big YES. She knows and we talk about it occasionally but she has no interest in participating- giving or getting.

We have been married for 32 years and not until about 5 or 6 years ago I was very discrete about my enema usage to the point that she really did not know I did them on a regular basis since we were married. Then one night we were doing some anal play with me using some anal beads and they came out with some poo. I said well I will need to do enemas the next time to make sure I am clean. "ENEMAS" she said and that led to the conversation- yes I do enemas regularly and I like them. I had come clean many years ago but she kind of did not register what I was telling her. She kind of likes to block things out that she doesn't want to hear. I realized then that she was definitely not going to participate or had any interest based on those early married conversations so I went solo underground for many years when I finally blurter it out again after the anal bead incident.

We are in a better place now. She knows I do them regularly- about once a week and I will mention my sessions in passing every now and then. I don't hide my equipment- its in plain sight in a closet where I keep all my enema equipment and the colon tubes in a bathroom draw.

I wish she was an enthusiastic participant but she is not. And as the saying goes- it is what is.

My wife and I have an interesting relationship with regards to enemas. I'll skip the history as many have heard it all before and its recorded in my profile history.

Our current situation is that I take enemas now on a weekly basis - I'll also administer a few bulb fulls whenever I'm due for a good dump. My wife know about my habit but doesn't have any desire to participate with me - which suits me fine since most of my enemas involve a lot of bowel clearing and I'm happy to keep that to myself.

The better part of the story is that my wife has become a big fan of anal. Her using the Hitachi and me with my cock planted deep in her ass - sends her into orgasm overload. Gripping orgasm every few minutes for what seems like (and may be) hours.

She learned from an early bulb enema that I gave her - having a clean butt is essential. Now when she is planning a night of sex (usually weekends) she uses a nice bulb that I gave her for Christmas. She seems to prefer her privacy as well and I'm cool with that!

Occasionally she will ask me if I have had my enema - which indicates she's interested is sticking something in my butt!

Tonight has all the indications of such a night 😃

I don't think that this 100% qualifies, but I'd say it's probably close.

For our last trip (first one in a while because of medical issues) my wife flat out told me that I'd better bring "all of my stuff" because she wasn't going to have me grouchy and irritable for my vacation. I followed her advice and brought all the stuff for bowels and pain management and wound up using my bag pretty regularly. I wouldn't call it "fun", but I did stay ungrouchy for most of the trip.

That sounds like my wife.... If we are going somewhere for several days or having family over for several days ... she'll say, bring your bags so you won't be grouchy or let me give you one of "your"" enemas so you won't be grouchy while they are here! She tolerates my obsession with "my enemas, but can't understand it at all!

I guess I am the odd man in this topic. My wife not only knew about my passion for enemas, but she was an active participant. If anything, she was more avid than I. I lost her to cancer some years ago, so I mostly flow alone, but I still have some unbelievable memories to lean on.

That sounds like my wife.... If we are going somewhere for several days or having family over for several days ... she'll say, bring your bags so you won't be grouchy or let me give you one of "your"" enemas so you won't be grouchy while they are here! She tolerates my obsession with "my enemas, but can't understand it at all!

My wife has told me she has never been constipated in her life, so she doesn't completely understand it but based on what friends who weren't so lucky have told her she has some empathy. Frustrating bit is that I was using that bag fairly regularly on the trip, but if the trip had been now my butt would have been working on its own 😢 . I still would have brought everything because I have a "moody" colon and it can change really fast, but it would have been nice to leave the e-bag in the suitcase.

...let me give you one of "your"" enemas ...

Wouldn't mind if she said that, no matter what the reason was.

"gape", my sympathies go out to you and your deceased bride. I lost a fiancée at age 36, to brain cancer and know the pain.

God Bless you.

Jim