Women & Enemas - Why are most women put off by enemas?

Emom is "spot-on"!!!

Emom, you are probably right that on average girls get more enemas than boys growing up. I have no sister so have no direct comparison but I have no reason to doubt that. And certainly most times it is the mom who attends to the needs of the children also when an enema or the like is needed. It certainly was for me. By time I had grown out of the stage where I was too busy playing outside to go to the bathroom resulting in constipation, I needed very few enemas. But at the same time my “mental need” for enemas was increasing. If mom and dad left me home while they went out, or shopping, the car was hardly out of sight before I was filling my butt with warm water.

There were (and now even more) families that did not use the enema as we did. My wife came from a family that did not. After we were married I tried to get her interested in enemas as sexual foreplay. After taking the big step of admitting to her that an enema turned me on, she said she never had an enema. Ever. Her opinion of an enema at the time was that it was a very embarrassing and uncomfortable procedure before surgery. How could a person find that pleasant? Keep in mind that this was before the internet so I had no way of showing her there are lots of others who use enemas on a fairly regular basis, for a variety of reasons, including sexual play.

It was a slow process with me convincing her to watch me give myself an enema, then her giving me one, and eventually (with lots of sweet talk and begging) she let me give her a few. She said it was too uncomfortable and she was always afraid of making a mess. So then for a while she would give me one if I sweet talked her but would not let me give her any. Eventually I was on my own again.

So I think that exposure to enemas when growing up is a big factor in your attitude toward them. Don’t you agree?

Well I am sure a lot of women back in the days of 40's, 50's and 60's found enemas very useful as well as douching . But now women don't see enemas that way because like they said they find them to embarrassing and uncomfortable . But when some women try them they find they like the over all enema thing . I am sure also their are more women out their into enemas . An would join a WONDERFUL site like this . But they get over loaded with the guys on here wishing to know them or may even ask to meet them . That is why they don't come out an tell more about their love for enemas . I have been so lucky to meet a woman . That her hole family was brought up on enemas . They all still use them . An all the people in their family give their kids enemas . So you see their are a lot more women into enemas . But we guys just don't know it .

I don't think women are put off at all. My mom was open about enemas and my sisters were too. It was not until I was in my mid 20s and ill that I was reintroduced to enemas by my wife, who has been a regular enema user since long before I ever met her. As a guy I was hardly enthusiastic about having my wife give me that first one.

Most women ... you should preface that with "ALERT: STEREOTYPE FOLLOWS"

Maybe it's "most women whom you talk to" and they would give you the same answer if you asked them if they liked just about anything.

Women of necessity are cautious about being too open to men as to their eroticism. I believe women are essentially similar to men in sexual pleasuring but probably more private. The still relaxing puritanism has allowed freer 'open' sexuality for women especially. Still they are wise to be wary of predatory males.

When a woman is menopaused she usually does not show much interest for sexual matters. This is the natural result of hormonal disorder and obviously there is not much to be done. However the anus remains as it was that is to say it is still subject to nice feelings due to the numerous nerves endings. Therefore while suffering from menopause a woman should supposedly keep the ability to be or remain anal erotic. Am I right or wrong ? If the answer is positive I guess that a menopaused woman can still enjoy enemas and can ultimately have enema induced orgasms. This is quite an issue and any comment and or advice will be greatly appreciated.

Ha Westy you were so lucky to have a MOM into enemas BIG time herself as well as giving you and your sisters enemas . I am sure it was wonderful having your sisters help with your enemas . An hope you also got to see them get enemas . It's nice they shared their love for the enema also to you . An boy were you ever so LUCKY to also find a wife into enemas an giving them to you . I have looked all my life !

Jason I think that you're entirely wrong about libido in menopausal women. Many women report increased libido because fear of pregnancy is gone. As for the idea that anal sex can become the new seat of erotic interest remember this. The brain is the seat of desire not the crotch.

Many thanks for your comments Liquidsky, which I will surely consider.

I don't know that women are put off by enemas as much as men are. I have brought up the subject of enemas with most of the women I dated and found almost all of them were at least willing to discuss them without revulsion or disgust. Some had a bad experience in the past, some were just not interested and a surprising number had tried them and enjoyed them on occasion. I have yet to find a woman who liked enemas more than sex but several thought of them as normal sex play or foreplay. Some used them before anal sex as a matter of cleanliness. Men on the other hand don't even want to talk about enemas except as voyeurs of porn sites. They seem to consider submitting to a woman giving them an enema a loss of control. I haven't had as much of an opportunity to gather men's opinions as I have women's as I am "straight" and men only seem to want to discuss sexual acts with women as brags about conquests or desires to do so. Men, as a general rule, do not seem to want to discuss techniques or kinks as much as women. Just a few thoughts

Well your right on a lot of what you said about women and enemas an their likes or dislikes Irrigator . I have been lucky to come across 3 MOM's into enemas BIG time . An they not only LOVE enemas both giving and getting them . They are all 3 making their kids into ones that well also LOVE enemas for life . I am so happy to of met them . Yes I am sure a lot on here well say it's not right to turn your kids onto enemas . But then again that is the MOM's right . She brought them into this world . An if they wish their kids to learn all the joys of enemas . Then I PRASIE them all for doing that for their kids . An hope they teach their girls that enemas are wonderful and healthy . Besides sexual as well . An they'll keep the love for enemas going .

Liquidsky and Jason2012 have good points. I don't know about all other women but my wife and I have enjoyed enemas since we were dating. Our early married years involved enemas and anal play. When she entered menopause, that all came to a screeching halt. Now THAT is over, she has recovered her missing libido and desire for anal play. YEAAA!!! We're back to frequent enemas and plenty of anal play. When I was single, I would sometimes mention enemas to girls I dated. Most had no interest but a couple engaged in klysmo fun.

Well I can give you my point of view as a woman. I sometimes enjoy enemas but mostly only when I am not alone. I take them sometimes when I am alone, like maybe 4 times total my entire life, but I don't really want to and I don't really look forward to it either.

With this being said I love anal sex and pegging and playing in butts all day long. I love giving enemas a lot and could do that all day long as well, lol. But bottom line here boys is that we just don't have a prostate.

More of us would probably be into enemas if we had a clit inside our fannies and the tube putting pressure on it or running over it was hitting our clit all the time like it does to your prostate.

Another reason I think, and I might just be guessing here but it is this way with all the women I know anyway. Pooping for us women usually isn't an everyday occurrence like it is for you boys. Pooping for us is often a major event that happens once or twice a week. And often it's a big ordeal. For me personally, when I expel an enema it takes me a good hour to do so, and I only take 2 quarts, no more. Then when I am finally done my legs are numb or asleep and I am absolutely exhausted. Then an hour later we are starving but too tired to either fix something to eat or don't have the energy to even go down the steps, lol.

So that might be why women are not always as eager for enemas as they are for other things. Now personally speaking my ideal enema session would start with Doc getting me "ready" back there, then actually taking me back there, because you know I just love that there, and then a nice warm enema on my back with him doing all kinds of fantastic things to my front until he sends me into a fantastic orgasm. Then I can go and take care of business, then a shower, then he takes me out to eat, lol.

Mashie

Wow! Have not read all the contributions to this article (so far) but I've got to say the originator and folks like "Mashie" have given us some very provoking well written, and interesting thoughts. Tomorrow I will read the rest. For now might I say, enemas may not be romantic to some (#1) but they sure can be sensual to many of us. Thanks to all for their inputs.

Mashie you said:

More of us would probably be into enemas if we had a clit inside our fannies and the tube putting pressure on it or running over it was hitting our clit all the time like it does to your prostate.

When I first learned about anal activities, I read a book, by a woman, that included a diagram showing how anal insertions can stimulate the prostate for a male in the same way anal insertions stimulate the g-spot for a female. I have also seen quite a few articles and diagrams that demonstrate how the internal "legs" of the clitoris, the crura, can extend all the way back to the anus when a woman becomes aroused.

So technically, these features of the female anatomy should theoretically provide sensations analogous to the sensations experienced by those with a prostate. The only difference is that the clitoris must first be sufficiently engorged from sexual arousal for the crura to extend back toward the anus, and of course the g-spot also must first be engorged from sexual arousal in order for its stimulation to be pleasurable.

I may be jumping to conclusions, but the fact that you mentioned that you do not bother with enemas much on your own suggests that you are not as aroused by an enema in itself as some people may be. Perhaps it is this lack of arousal when you do an enema by yourself that is the only reason why you do not get the "pressure on a clit inside the fanny" sensation that we occasionally see a more enema-inclined woman mention?

I wonder if women are not put off by equipment in general: they prefer romance, not toys. If instead of mentioning enemas early in a relationship you were to mention dildoes (saying they turned you on) you might get an equally chilly reception. -- it's a "thing," not soft music, fine wine, romance, travel, etc. Just a thought.

Hoseman, I think that you are on to something there. Women are sensual creatures, we are turned on by soft music, soft touches, what's going on inside our minds, and things like that. Men are aroused by what they see, what they can feel, and taste. And yes I am generalizing horribly. But I am trying to make my point here. In my opinion we don't often find things as sexy i.e. dildos, or in this case enema bags and equipment. If men want to get women into enemas more or at all they need to turn a cold enema bag into a romantic item. They need to over romanticize the bag and how it will make them feel. A good way to do this is for example for both of you to be naked and for you both to be spooning under the covers. You can be rubbing her softly, playing soft romantic music and every now and again rubbing her in all the right places. All the while running the water in very very slowly until she gets used to them. Trust me, if you approach it that way you I am sure would find more women would be accepting of enemas or trying them out. It's just a suggestion.

HC, okay yes, you are right that the crura, or the legs of the clitoris do on most women extend back to the anus. But what you need to understand is a bit more of the anatomy in a sense. We can and do have "anal" orgasms if you want to call them that, or we can have orgasms "inside" the vagina, and then we can have them through direct stimulation of the outer clitoris.

When you have an orgasm inside your vagina often times it's from stimulation on the "G" spot, which by the way really doesn't exist. What a G spot is really is just the place up inside the vagina where the internal portion of the clitoris is closest to the surface. But it really isn't an anatomical place. Anyway, so that's how that works.

When we have an orgasm through rectal stimuli it for most of us takes a bit. The legs of the clitoris are a lot deeper and much harder to stimulate for most of us which means it takes a lot more pressure and action for lack of better terms to get us into an orgasmic state. An enema tube would never be enough to usually even give us a tickle of pleasure. Where as for you men, having an enema tube running over your prostate is not quite, but almost similar for us having a vibrator buzzing on low over our panties. See what I am saying? Have you ever tried to rub one out with a snowsuit on? Well, that's about how much stimulation as we get anally from an enema tube in our fannies. Maybe that might put it a bit more in perspective for you?

Mashie

Hoseman, I think that you are on to something there. Women are sensual creatures, we are turned on by soft music, soft touches, what's going on inside our minds, and things like that. Men are aroused by what they see, what they can feel, and taste. And yes I am generalizing horribly. But I am trying to make my point here.

That is indeed true, at least in very general terms, in my experience, and it probably does explain quite a lot re. the topic of this thread.

However that fact that it's often true and people base their behaviour on it is probably the most annoying thing in my sex life - because I have a more typically female response pattern despite being a guy - emotional intimacy, soft non-genital touch etc. etc. are all really important for me. With new partners I have sometimes found myself wanting to say "you do realise that there's a whole person, including a mind, attached to this cock don't you?". Sorry for the rant, but your post touched a nerve (not your fault), and yes, given this I can definitely relate to the approach you suggest! (at least, if someone tried that approach on me it would drive me absolutely wild).

Apollo, yes if it was first introduced to me that way I am sure I would have been a lot more open to enemas a long time ago.

Also, yes, I am sorry I was generalizing, but like you I also don't like that it is more often than true. I guess I have never treated anyone like they were just a cock. I am just not wired like that, with the exception of play medical patients and they wanted to be treated that way.

And for the record Apollo, it's guys like you, guys that think, feel and act like you who are the good boys. Please never feel bad, weird or anything else beside pride for being that way.

Mashie

Wow Mashie, what a fantastic post! Kudos for that one.

Yes, Mashie did a couple of great informative posts there. Thanks very much to her. The one about "a women's guide to turning her on with an enema" was terrific. Now, just to be contrary, I've never tried to rub one out with a snowsuit on (Michelin Man?), but I've rubbed more than I can count out wearing either a wetsuit or latex suit. However, even in an extremely horny state (which always happens to me after diving or in a wetsuit) it's really hard to rub it out through 7mm of neoprene! So for those wetsuit times, it gets pulled down to get to the fun parts on me or my ex-GFs. In a thin latex catsuit, there's usually a strategically placed zipper, but it's thin enough rubber that you can rub one out with the suit still zipped (you know, just in case you CAN'T WAIT to get it/her unzipped)! And trust me, speaking of enemas, I've done a pretty fair number of solo or his/her orgasms in rubber while filled with a nozzle in my backside - fantastic. Again, thanks to Mashie for the great ladies enema advice - I might need it if I can ever meet another fun lady to love.

Eric

Thanks guys for all of your nice comments. You know, I wish everyone could have what Doc and I have. That would be my wish for everyone here who doesn't already.

I try to give you guys honest up front, accurate thoughts and feelings that I have. I know that I can't represent all women, but hopefully the majority anyway.

I sometimes have to sort of shake my head at the women on here actually, and I mean no offense. I just don't understand why more women are not willing to share their advice to men about topics such as these. You guys only want to make your woman happy and pleased. That really is something that you boys want. Men and women are wired differently and you always hear the argument from women that they are not getting pleased enough in bed or that their man really doesn't understand what she wants or what turns her on.

Well that's where posts like these are important. You guys, or us gals are not mind readers. Communication is vital and the key to knowing how to please your partner, no matter what sex you are. I try to go out of my way to explain to you guys, inform you, give you a window into how women think in the hopes that you can sort of gather that information and take it out into your corner of the world and apply it. And again, in the hopes that someday all of you can have what Doc and I have already found.

And please, feel free to contact me privately about issues and or questions you have concerning what women want or maybe how to approach a situation differently. I am no relationship god but I am more than willing to help you boys out when I can.

Mashie

I have also been thinking about the recent discussion here about women being typically turned on by romance rather than toys.

That is an interesting theory. When I was a teenager, I always thought that sex toys and enemas were mainly for women, since women are typically in the receptive role during sex. Eventually, of course, I realized that sex toys and enemas can be enjoyed by everyone, regardless of their gender(s) or the gender(s) they prefer their partner(s) to be.

I also realized that, as Hoseman and Mashie brought up, some people, male or female, are most aroused by being with a person. When such people are by themselves, even the best sex toys are dull and lifeless compared to the excitement they derive from another person's presence.

On the other hand, however, there are actually people, both male and female, who prefer to just play with a sex toy on their own and find that having another person there just stresses them out or distracts them from what they are trying to experience.

Perhaps a lot of women are conditioned from a young age to associate sexual pleasure with romance rather than with anything tangible, until they form an association between romance and some tangible object or activity. Perhaps Disney(TM) movies and romcoms are to blame. Then again, it's obvious that even if such conditioning occurs, there are still a lot of women who are apparently not susceptible to it and they have always enjoyed dildos, vibrators and enemas.

The bottom line, then, must be that of course everyone is different and there is nothing wrong with that. If one thing does not turn you on, it doesn't have to. If another thing does turn you on, then that's great, no matter what it is, as long as it does not hurt anyone else in any way.

Romance and toys - it can all work, and it does for me, all this is a lot better when two people are open with each other, maybe better open TO each other. I'm not real new to enemas - or toys, but I am very new to the feelings I get when I finally dropped the 'social' expectations, and went with the flow, all puns intended.

@ H C - you are right, you can be very aroused by being with the right person, and I have found that there is more than one right person. One person who arouses me - is very vanilla, traditional, rock solid, but does not like toys, he's open as much as he can be and that is ok, it's who he is. I'm nuts about him. Another person - is open, sweet, sexy, naughty as hell, and knows what it is to be a woman, a mother, because she is all of those and more, and my friend. I am different with both of them - only one knows of my 'other' side, and that is the way it is. I am very - very different with another person, He is also rock solid but we explore together in every way we want.

I am a Disney fan - and in 'real' life, nothing I do here touches my 'other' life, it is my own private 'Disneyland'. It keeps me sane - makes me realize my value to myself, and that was a big step for me, realizing I am a damn good person, regardless of what I slip up my ass, or put in my mouth. I am just me - take it or leave it, I don't care, I crossed that bridge a while back and I'm not going to cross back again. There may be a time when I have to make a choice - but if I have to make that choice, then the person had better know that I want more in my life, as much as I have now, and I'm not going back.

You can have romance - and you can enhance it with toys, enemas, cunnilingus, fellatio, (I cleaned up from saying eating pussy or sucking cock) 😉 but it all starts with being open TO each other.

I think all women are different to some extent. Unlike others, my libido has grown stronger over time. Many women (friends and relatives) have admitted that they lost their sex drive after menopause, but mine became more urgent. Once aroused, I can hardly say no to erotic suggestions. I've always been anal erotic, and the mere word 'enema' is highly arousing to me. I used to be able to achieve an orgasm from an enema alone. Although that's no longer true, I get a lot of pleasure out of the extreme arousal in itself. I enjoy giving and receiving enemas. My lover's ecstasy really turns me on. I think being a product of the Golden Age of Enemas has given me an advantage that much younger women didn't get. But if they are anal erotic at all, I would think they could be coaxed into accepting an enema.

My advice to men who are frustrated with their women would be to get them well-aroused before mentioning enemas. Start out with anal play, then wheedle them into accepting a small enema. Prove that it doesn't hurt, isn't hard to control and that a mess isn't likely. Gradually, over time, they may come to love enemas as much as you do. Be patient and take your time.

Sally, I love your post.

I appreciate the honesty...this is one of the best threads I have read here on zity..thanks to all

I'm with you Sally I think sexual libedo has gone up after menopause because I feel a lot more sexier now than I did before. It could also be that because I'm bi-polar that it has shot up too especially when I'm in a manic state and really feeling good. But guys can also be turned to kinks like enemas because I've dealt with it before, thinking that I was some kind of sicko for liking things like that.

I don't believe that women are put off by enemas.

But I think some of them (like myself) don't wish to share their experience with men; they consider it is a private (though enjoyable) activity.