Enema vs. sex: what is more intimate?

I think the first enema is the bigger step. Most adults have sex, but even between sexually active partners the enema requires a higher level of trust and intimacy.

I vote for enema

From my point of view it is certainly the enema. It took all of 30 seconds to get him to have sex but over a year to get him to let me give him an enema. I think it is a matter of control, or the perception of control. If the enema tube is in your ass you are NOT in control. Some have difficulty with that.

From my point of view it is certainly the enema. It took all of 30 seconds to get him to have sex but over a year to get him to let me give him an enema. I think it is a matter of control, or the perception of control. If the enema tube is in your ass you are NOT in control. Some have difficulty with that.

I agree completely! With hubby, it took no time to get down to business in the sex department, but the enema has been a long slow slog. He will occasionally let me give him an enema but only if the situation is dire and it's the last resort. Otherwise, he has no interest in the bag at all because it does mean a loss of control and that spooks him like nothing else!

Deb

I have to agree with the enema. When it came to having sex I was always ready and maybe even over-ready. For an enema it did take a bit of convincing, but my wife did win in the end (lol, no pun intended)

Going on 28 years of Marriage and my wife gave me two enemas back to back on one occasion. It was very intimate for me and I was so satisfied in the act. There was anal foreplay at the beginning as I was asleep at night. What a way to wake up. It was followed by a rectal ballon (not a nozzle of any kind). Then she brought me to climax with her hand. Wow what wonderful memories. Never has it happened again.

I feel enemas are much more intimate then sex. From my experience it's much more difficult to get a partner to let me give them an enema or have them give me an enema unless they are already into enemas.

Enemas....have had sex happen on the first date...but never enemas...

Certainly enemas are more intimate: as is anal sex more intimate than vaginal sex.

height of intimacy: enemas for both partners with anal and vaginal sex while holding.

Sharing enemas with another guy is at the top of my list of sexual activities, but it usually leads to other activities!!!

The first time enema was when I was 8 or 9 in my grammy's shower, by myself. I found her enema set and played with it when I took showers in her house, so it was not embarrassing at all. My first sex, and enema was in college. I was half drunk when for the very first time some guy put his cock in my cunny. I hardly remember most of it. That same guy showed me how to have sex while taking an enema. But since I had done both a few times before it was kinda nice and exciting.

Definitely a first time enema. That was, hands down, the biggest step for me. Sex is natural and everyone does it. Enemas, nope. You really have to be on the same wave-length to even hint at liking enemas which is a big step. The actual getting together for an enema is one where you have to really trust your partner.

So, my vote is enema.

Enemas are more intimate. By the rate at which disposable saline enemas are sold, they sure are popular. Many folks talk of sex (whether you want them to or not). I've had about three people initiate discussion about enemas with me in my 50+ years of life.

I had only one serious girlfriend (of several) who offered to give me an enema.

my wife would not let me give her enemas until after three years of marriage until she got one in hospital. I felt that she was more intimate with that nurse than with me, pointing it out (perhaps too) often until she let me give her one. Then we were on our way. Interestingly, she let me give her suppositories on our honeymoon, but disliked the effect, so was resistant for quite a while after that.

Definitely enema.

Definitely the enema is more intimate. While it took no time at all to get down to having sex with the girl who would become my wife, after we were married it took a lot of coaxing on her part for me to agree to getting an enema. However, once I had that first one there was not looking back.

Not having had as many enemas I would like I am sure for me, the enema is the most intimate. It is sexual, but the recipient I bet would usually agree. I LOVE enemas, even the FEW I have received.

Contrary to the common thrust of replies, i think sex is much more intimate. Do enemas require more "acceptance"? Of course, because sex is assumed to be appropriate in almost any committed relationship, but enemas are not. I believe the body contact of sex to be much more intimate. Oral play, coitus, anal play, and even massage are, for us, more intimate. My wife and I both like to be given enemas. In most cases it is foreplay, as well as a satisfying activity.

For me enemas are more intimate to me, for one I only let those who I really know and trust give me a enema, thats just it the trust issue. I can have a one night stand with just sex and not worry about it. But for anyone to give me an enema I first have know and trust that person.

Well enemas are more intimate. I have never let a man give me an enema,I find it to private. I can't say the same for sex.

If I think about my husband as an example, he did not need much encouragement to have sex with me that first time, but it took several years before he let me give him an enema. So I think an enema might have to get my vote for being more intimate.

Enemas are more intimate, it's about two people exploring and sharing an area of the body that most people find nasty or taboo. What a shame. 😢

Both are equally intimate in different ways. Enemas have that embarrassment factor though.

Starting as a pre-teen, I think just the prospect of an enema brought about a stiffy, and it was a few years later that intercourse produced the same result. Enema-giving moms didn't know what they were starting.

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Enemas, definitely! They are so intimate & personal. if given the choice of either having sex with a beautiful young woman or sharing enemas with her, the choice would always be the enema. As many of you replied: I can't recall much about the first time I had coitus. But, I remember every wonderful minute of the bag enemas my mom gave me as a kid....

Enemas, hands down!

Definitely enemas! To quote an old girlfriend: "I have had sex with several men but NO other man has given me an enema"!!

Enemas - no doubt about it, enemas are something where you have to connect on a lot of different levels. To have someone give you an enema - to me, means that you had to open up to each other about a lot of things, especially kink, and hope that they understand. It is a lot of communication - not just a hand down the pants, or copping a feel, to start towards the bed for 'regular' sex, which is great, don't get me wrong. But to hang that bag - and give yourself over to someone to give you an enema, that is intimacy to me.

So true Lora, you are giving your bodily functions over to someone you trust that most people think are so taboo.

To be very honest, I got married at the age of 20 and our sex life sucked, so he was a wham bam, thank you mam, roll over and go to sleep kind of man. Then after 4 years he threw me out and that the best thing that ever happened to me.

Ok first enema. It was given to me by a woman 30 years older than I, who led me into the bathroom, ordered me to strip off totally nude, then get down on my knees, hiney high in the air and she pumped water up my ass. And yes, I was very pissed that a part of my body had been violated.

Later I was sitting there, yes it was different, yes I had enjoyed it, and could not wait to be alone so I could masturbate. I will have to say that one enema opened my sexual awakening, Combined, there is nothing better.

But Tillie, don't give up on sex....there's somebody out there that'll find "your page". It's worth the look. I don't mean to preach but sex was given to us to be above the 'beast'.....our gift from our "Maker". And besides, it's fun.

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