Enema vs. sex: what is more intimate?

This is a tough one. Humm, lets see, first the girl needs to have a naked butt. For me both are very intimate. Sliding a finger in her butt to get it ready for a hard cock or a enema nozzle, both can squirt into the butt. Just the enema bag can squirt a lot more hehe. If she needs to go, I will let her be if she wishes. For me, its much more fun putting it in, more intimate going out.

I think more intimate, because it means your partner is willing to allow you entry thru a “door” that many (most?) people consider verboten.

@Janice42 “I had sex with my husband long before giving him an enema. However, I had way more butterflies in my stomach the first time I gave him an enema.”

I had the same experience with my husband. We had sex for two years of our marriage before I gave him his first enema. I knew what I was doing, my husband had given me enemas, but I was so nervous the first time giving to him.

I remember being anxious and excited at the same time. Maybe even a little aroused. I don’t think he was the first time. He was pretty tied up, and the enema wasn’t all that comfortable. The following day I gave him a second enema, and magic happened. We both felt the intimacy, which got very intense and satisfying.

Toss up I can’t have one without the other it seems

I went back and read the first several posts in this thread. It is amazing that many are still amongst us over 15 years later.

It does seem that the prevailing opinion is that enemas were far more "private" but sex was always an intimate activity until both became intertwined in those "lTR's.

Many of us secretly enjoyed enemas from childhood to adulthood as a way to experience those sexual releases but tried to diminish the activity once engaged in those "normal" relationships. Enemas were only introduced when a level of trust or an actual or contrived need developed.

My level of stimulation increased in more obvious ways with this "aphrodesiac".

I vote for enema

Enemas are definitely more private and consequently more intimate. I didn't have sex with every Tom, Dick, or Harry that I dated in high school and college but I did have more than one sexual partner. However, only one male has ever given me an enema and he is my husband.

To me, the biggie was getting someone to give me an enema. The very idea of laying on ones side, having ones balls, scrotum, arse, arse crack and pubic hairs on display was a big intake of breath to me. This then was followed by their lubricated finger sliding into my rectum to grease it, then by the tube's insertion. All of this was very erotic and intimate for me, because someone else would be seeing all of the private sex parts of my body while the process was being performed! This I think makes me more at ease with another man and him me; especially later when he'll allow me to do the same to him.

I would have to say laying naked on the floor and being stroked by someone who just shoved a nozzle up my arse and started the water flowing into me is rather intimate. Later they are going to take it out and rub my belly while I shit. That is more intimate. I have quite a few girls I do enemas with but just one guy I am comfortable enough with to to stick the nozzle up me and watch me poop. It is not something I let just anyone do. Sex is just something I do.

For me enemas for sure

Enemas more intimate…. I can have sex with anyone if I choose but to give/receive an enema requires feeling comfortable with another person on another level

I recieved way more enemas before learning about sex, enemas would cause me to have dry orgasms untill about 12 yrs old then one of my pals taught me how to jack off and my orgasm felt just like the ones i got while recieving enemas!, after that enlightenment i would beg mom for an enema when i got horny and complain of being constipated or some stomach problem!

To me, both enemas and sexual intercourse are very intimate. As teenagers, my siblings and I swapped enemas from Junior High through the end of High School. I also had a girlfriend during the same time frame, and we not only swapped enemas with each other, we engaged in sexual intercourse as well. After I was married, my wife would take and hold a two-quart rinse enema while we had sexual intercourse. Other times, I would take and hold the two-quart enema while we had sexual intercourse. Occasionally, we both took and held a two-quart enema while engaging in sexual intercourse.

When I was a child, the enemas that my Mother gave me were very intimate. (There was nothing sexual between between Mom and I, but the way she administered them to me, she made me feel loved. My enemas never hurt, but I must admit they were special.

When, I became a teenager and started dating, I began to have intercourse and eventually one girlfriend I had included enemas into our activities. Both made me feel loved.

Today, my wife, bless her soul, will give me my daily enemas. She knows I like them, but will not show many me any special care like my Mother did. I prepare the bags, she comes in and puts the water up into me. No encouragement, no rubbing of my back or stomach.. She just gives me my enemas.

As for which is more important to me now. Well, neither. After my prostate surgery last December, I have no interest in Intercourse any longer….

For @sirensong and I, enemas are part of our lovemaking.... and for her, sometimes a necessity due to damage to her colon from years of what we thought was IBS but turned out to be a twisted colon; and from multiple childbirths which hurt her rectal muscles and prevent her from pushing. So much for the medical discussion....

Giving @sirensong an enema turns me on. And getting them from her has been very exciting for me. So it has become part of our lovemaking - how could it not be? We love eachother!

But that's not all we do. Sometimes enemas are erotic foreplay leading up to anal intercourse or stap-on play; sometimes we just fuck; sometimes we masturbate each other; sometimes we just solely masturbate in front of the other..... to us, it's ALL lovemaking. It would be impossible for all of this to be anything else.

@miker .... have you told your wife that getting an enema from her turns you on??

There is no doubt in her mind .. she just does not want to get kinky

@chelle300 I can have sex with anyone if I choose but to give/receive an enema requires feeling comfortable with another person on another level

Probably easier for a woman to reveal their enema interest to a man than vice-versa, no? A guy hearing of a gal's interest, simply figures it's something do with periods and douching... A woman thinks the guy is perverted.😈

When my siblings and I were growing up, we spent four to six weeks with our grandmother during summer vacation. When our two young aunts were preteens, our RN grandmother taught them how to take care of us. Afterwards, they were given the responsibility of doing our evening bath, included spankings and enemas when needed among others. Being anal erotic, the finger lubrication we received from mom, grandma, or our teenage aunts before an enema helped satisfy that itch, but not completely. As we got closer to puberty, something else started happening deep within us, that we didn’t understand. It was like being anal erotic but different and impossible to describe or put into words.

My brother and I got a hard-on when we found out we’d be getting an enema. Something our sister and teenage aunts didn’t missed. Grandma had a large bathroom with a big walk-in dual head shower, making it convenient for the girls to get in the shower with us. So, it was routine for us to get totally undressed, including both girls. If we’d gotten in trouble during the day, grandma told the girls to spank us at bath time. That was taken care of first. So, once we had all our clothes off, the girls put each of us in a corner of the shower, to wait for a spanking. When they were ready, we got called over in turn and spanked. Once it was over, it was back to the corner, to wait for an enema with a sore behind. It was during the wait for an enema, that my brother and I got our hard-on back, after being spanked. Having lost our first hard-on, while waiting in the corner to get a spanking. When called from the corner a second time, it was back across their bare lap naked for an enema to help calm down. There’s no way the girls miss feeling our hard-on between their bare thighs, and we sure didn’t miss it. As puberty got closer, our penis got even harder and really started tingling. Making it hard to stay still, while laying naked across a bare lap. The girls never said anything about it other than, “Stop wiggling around, you're tickling me.” Occasionally giving our bare bottom a pop, to slow down our wiggling, especially if things got really intense.

My siblings and I realized early on the girls were aware we enjoyed getting enemas laying naked across their bare lap. Just as we were aware they enjoyed giving us and themselves enemas. To that end, they made up excuses every opportunity they got to give us enemas and make them pleasurable. The girls knew a lot more than we did, but at the same time, they were just as innocent as we were. It would be years before we realized what was taking place. However, at the time we all enjoyed it because it really felt good, but naughty at the same time. If the girls knew what was going on, they never let on, they just let it happen.

Getting enemas as kids growing up was definitely intimate, especially after getting a spanking. As we got closer to puberty, enemas started scratching a new itch, that we didn’t understand. It was the beginning of our sexual awakening and getting turned on. This happened during the fifties when sex was a taboo subject, but enemas were common and a topic of conversation among kids and adults alike.

Definitely enemas. I think you have to have more trust to receive an enema from somebody than to have sex. It puts you in a much more vulnerable position and you are giving up control.

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You can have sex with a lot of people, even on the first date. How often do you give someone an enema on your first date?

There is no doubt in my mind that for me enemas are more intimate than sex by far and you have to really trust the one giving you an enema. I can see where some people give themselves over to having an enema from someone if not for just for curiosity's sake. But I could not see doing that unless and until you had established some sort of relationship based on communication and trust.

I am fairly new to thinking about enemas as something sexual or erotic and I doubt if I would have submitted to an enema, as I have and will continue to do so, if I had not been privy to their thoughts on the subject. Sex with them is very intimate and that was the first step in getting to know them and feel what kind of trust level I could have in them. My first experience with a member here involving an enema was me as the "giver" because I felt that confident in knowing how they felt about enemas and intimacy. We had engaged in sex before and I was not nervous about that at all but when I wanted to give the enema I was much more nervous about their comfort with me in administering it.

There definitely is that element of "submitting" yourself to receive an enema from someone and when I was allowed to actually give the enema first, that was beyond intimate for me. Having sex with them was and is very intimate but not taboo and almost all of earth's population does it and I had no problem giving myself to them for sex. But when my suggestion of giving an enema was accepted and became a reality I was amazed at the closeness I felt and the trust in me from my first person ever to be given an enema by me. If I had thought the sexual intercourse was an "ice breaker" the enema and being trusted to give it was off of the charts.

I have been sexually active most of my adult life with my husband and a friend and that is definitely intimate, but it is sex and it is acceptable and not taboo. Asking and being asked for enemas is something I cannot see myself asking anyone else for without really knowing them. So my vote is that enemas are far more intimate than sex but when I think about it, enemas are now sexual for me and part of my sex with those I really trust.

Well said Asteria! You captured it perfectly.

There is no doubt in my mind that for me enemas are more intimate than sex by far and you have to really trust the one giving you an enema. I can see where some people give themselves over to having an enema from someone if not for just for curiosity's sake. But I could not see doing that unless and until you had established some sort of relationship based on communication and trust.

Great and in my opinion - very true - comment !!

Many thanks for that from the other side of the ocean - from good old germany !!!

I'm going to have to be different here. While I did not get any enemas growing up but certainly had had sex a few times, I will still vote for having sex as more intimate. As a mom of two kids nothing quite compares to having unprotected sex and learning that that act fertilized one of your eggs. Don't get me wrong because I love getting/taking an enema, too.

Depending on how it's happening.

Laying on my back legs up having a long feminine douche nozzle pushed in slowly and the person giving you the enema realizes that you are actually enjoying it watching you getting hard and is talking to you telling you

(Look what you like I can't believe you are getting hard !! Do you realize that women take douche ? Do you like taking a douche ? Look how hard it's making you? And starts stroking you as the warm water is flowing in spraying inside and she is actually Encouraging you to let go and cum .

Yes I want to say yes !! Very intimate and erotic. It was life changing for us .

That's a difficult question.

I’ve never had an erotic enema partner to share with, the few I’ve given to my wife were out of necessity and not erotic, although both of us are very into anal play. Many who do share enemas on Zity have a unique intimacy and quite frankly I envy them. Given the context of the enema, I see where it could be more intimate than sex. Butt for us, it was sex.

That's a difficult question.

It's hard to compare - I had my first enema as a small child, I started having sex as a teenager.

Sex

No contest

They both have a degree of intimacy. Sex and enemas involve penetration into the body. It is just that many do not penetrate into their or another's ass.

As enemas do not affect my sub as they once did they are not as intimate as they once were - involving sex and the enema. Now they happen separately, but are both intimate. They are still a physical reconnection between the two of us. That is sometimes just what we both need.