Enema vs. sex: what is more intimate?

While sex is very intimate sharing an enema with or with out sex requires a level of trust that i think far surpasses sex..on the other hand as we all know, there is sex and then there is SEX

Could not agree more doc

I would have to say enemas. So much easier to discuss sex but so much more difficult to even bring up the subject of enemas. That taboo stigma still attached to it.

Enema are more intimate than sex as adult. But as a child being given enemas growing up it was just part of life, as a child it the other way around.

Erotic enemas are much more intimate than plain old sex. Sure, enemas given for only health reasons are not generally regarded as stimulating sexually. However, some of us experienced some unexpected sexual awakening when we first received an enema. Hence, the fascination with enemas and eroticism later on in life.

Both are relatively private but, for me, sex is usually more private than an enema.

Would agree that sex is more private something about watching and being watched during an enema session makes it more erotic

Culturally speaking, sex is not just accepted, it's EXPECTED. Enemas, on the other hand, run the risk of 'Hey, man, there's something wrong with you'. Hence enemas are driven underground, hence for me are more private.

I voted for first enema, although it all depends on the context. Either can be a very intimate moment, and hence quite private. Perhaps because as a male an intimate enema is allowing someone else to insert things into my body, the privacy and trust are increased -- and it perhaps gives some insight into how women might feel about being penetrated.

Sex and enemas are both private endeavors as far as I'm concerned, but certainly sex is a much easier topic to discuss with a whole variety of people than are enemas. Enema conversation tends to be limited with spouses, a significant other, and this site. Sex is a pretty wide-open topic for most people today, and for most folks, sex still takes place in a private setting, as do enemas.

It was a whole easier for me to have first time sex than a first time enema.

As a child enema treatments at home or in hospital were often watched and I didn't like it (also many of the enemas were bad!) As an adult, it's been one-on-one. I wouldn't mind being watched by someone who was genuinely interested. Sex though I'd never want to share with a third party, so I guess for me sex is more private.

I would guess that in society as a whole an enema is more private. I have known many married couples that won't even go to the bathroom in front of their spouse.

Growing up in the 50's, my parents' sexual activities were always well-hidden. Their enema activities were not. Although their enemas were performed behind a locked bathroom door, I would always know about it. To them, enemas were nothing to be ashamed about and everyone needed a good one once in awhile. I, on the other hand, am equally private about both. If I had to pick one, I would say recreational enemas between two adults is about as private as it gets.

Enemas are more private and excluded from the public social network. Movies and TV depict various sex acts but very rarely, if ever, a sensual enema shown.

Movies and TV depict various sex acts but very rarely, if ever, a sensual enema shown.

This can be explained by the fact that the sexual act - in all its variations - is universally practiced, so everyone feels more or less involved if it's shown him in movies and on TV. In comparing any form of fetishism has an irrelevant percentage spread and, consequently, a very limited audience.

I think enemas are much more private than sex.

I don't know that I have ever seen a serious movie, TV show, or talk shows talk much about enema's not even jokingly. You might see it mentioned medically for constipation or imp-action but that is even rare.

Hi,

My personal opinion is that sharing enemas/suppositories with a partner is even more intimate than having sex with the partner. Of course the two things go often together, but which activity of the two would you consider as the most intimate?

The question is addressed also to those to play enemas solo, as they can also masturbate: and again, which of the two activities would you see as the most intimate when being with yourself?

I would say doing enemas is more intimate than sex. If one of the two is experienced with enemas and the other is not, then showing and sharing enemas with the inexperienced person is much trickery and requires a lot of trust and intimacy than regular sex, which both will likely have had on many occasions prior to this enema experience.

So I would say an enema session does require more intimacy vs. sex.

Is the enema more intimate or just more to embarrassed about until you know your partner is accepting of it because it is taboo. Sex has no taboo.

Any form of anal sex is more intimate than conventional sex. It's basic psychology. Therefore enemas are more intimates.

It would be very interesting to read a forum on women who have had satisfactory anal sex before vaginal sex. Or virginity and anal sex.

I think the first time having sex was the most challenging, and like all boys, I was young and dumb where sex was concerned. We have a tendency to grab and grope around and tell ourselves that she was enjoying it too. We get our climax, tell her we love her and never once check to see how she was doing. I think unaware stupidity is closer to the truth, than challenging. Enemas on the other hand, while un-experienced at that also, it was instantaneous love. Later on, in life with my wife, I found the intimacy was pretty much equal, and one thing very often led to another.

Enemas are much more intimate. It is our secret that we carry inside of us and sometimes we will never meet the right person to share it with. I believe that's why this forum exist because we can share our fetishes with likeminded people. Sex is a natural act accepted by society and discussed openly. I only hear about enemas because people get them for health reasons an occasionally some close friends will mention they clean themselves out before having anal sex.

An excellent question to ponder. I think sex is more intimate.

I can and do take an enema by myself. I can masturbate by myself too, but I never thought of it as intimate.

But sex, as I consider it, requires two people sharing of themselves for their mutual purposes. Same or opposite sex doesn't matter. It is inherently sharing.

Just my two cents worth. Thanks for posing the question.

For me, enemas!!!

I think an enema needs more intimacy and confidence in the partner. Vanilla sex is "normal", but asking for an enema runs a risk of looking like a weirdo. Plus, many people know how to do vanilla sex without pain, while an enema from an inexperienced person can probably be painful (insertion, water flowing too fast).

More intimate? Sometimes. Sometimes not. Depends on the moment. Depends on the mood. Is every mating a 10+? We all wish it were. My husband and I have shared some of our most intimate moments with and without an enema bag hanging beside our bed. Among my deep-seeded memories of intimacy relating to enemas are when I was most stressed out or when I was ill, and pampering felt soooo heavenly.

More intimate? Sometimes. Sometimes not. Depends on the moment. Depends on the mood. Is every mating a 10+? We all wish it were. My husband and I have shared some of our most intimate moments with and without an enema bag hanging beside our bed. . . .

I agree with you Vicki, some sexual episodes are absolutely magical, others are merely magnificently enthralling! 😁

Sometimes the experience is unbelievably intimate despite having done it, in our case, on average about 250 times a year for about 30 years (about 7500 times) since we started having sex together as teenagers.

My husband has only been home two nights this week while working on a big business deal at the office. I expect him home in about an hour. Maybe tonight will be one of those magical, intimate (but knowing he will be exhausted, sexless intimate) hugging nights if he doesn't run into his music room for two hours to unwind.

I think an enema needs more intimacy and confidence in the partner. Vanilla sex is "normal", ....... many people know how to do vanilla sex without pain, while an enema from an inexperienced person can probably be painful (insertion, water flowing too fast).

I agree with Pecan nutjob (#62): having sex with a stranger you usually don't risk unbearable disappointment, whereas an enema session "in the dark" can turn out terribly unpleasant.