Enema vs. sex: what is more intimate?

Curious to know what was a bigger challenge first enema or first time having sex?

To me, so much more intimate.

I think sex was because I have been doing enemas for 14 yrs before the first time having sex.

My enjoyment of enemas started about 10 years old, and i did not get my first orgasm till 14 years old, which was in a female. Then i knew the feeling was the same, showing me why the enemas was so much fun.

No one in my lifetime has ever known about my love of enemas....not even wife 1 or my present wife of 10 years.....I will have to vote for the enema.

I think enemas are more private. i am less shy or concerned about having sex with a person than i would be about doing enema play with them.

For me first time sex is far more private than an enema. First enemas are often in childhood and there is no acknowledged sexual conotations. It is just you are getting the business end of that bag that occaisonally appeared in the bathroom. It was your mother most likely and most kids do not associate mom with their own sex. People talked about enemas openly with relatives and probably neighbors, but in my household I never heard sex mentioned. No one talked about sex, except your friends and maybe the school nurse if you were lucky. I do not think there is any comparision.

Enemas are much more intimate and private than sex. Just how many of you gave your partner an enema before you had sex with them? ? ? ?

You can have sex with a lot of people, even on the first date. How often do you give someone an enema on your first date?

I think the enema is. It take a lot to trust someone with that.

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Charlie

Fanny, I agree that childhood enemas are not near as private or intimate as intercourse, however, as an adult, giving and receiving an enema in a non medical situation can be even more intimate and private than sex.

The enema for the nerves of the first time.

Fanny and Susie: In my much younger days I had the the pleasure of giving 3 females an enema before our first date and/or sex. One was on a camping trip and used a still packaged gas siphon with bulb pump on her for constipation as she wouldn't go in the woods. We had our first date and sex about 2 years later. Enema was during the day and she stripped in front of me. Sex was at night, lights out and she got into bed with bra and panties. #2 was a close friend of my sister who got them at home and was spending a week with us while parents were away. She needed an enema badly, afraid to ask my mom and sis asked me to do it as I also did her. Three years later she asked me to go to her cousins wedding about 45 miles away. Her parents stayed overnight to visit family and I took her home. She didn't need but wanted an enema anyway and I was more than happy to take care of her. She had developed from a late blooming 5 yo to a sexy 18 yo in the 3 years since I first gave her an enema. I filled her bag and walked into her bedroom and she was lying on the bed in her birthday suit. Gave her the enema and as she was cleaning up she yelled to me to take my tux off and get into bed. I found out a short time later that was her first time and wanted the enema for comfort during the shedding of her virginity. Never another enema nor sex though was still joke about it openly with other people present. #3 was on the first when all evening judy complained about cramps and upset stomach. I told her when she got home she should take an enema. "MAYBE" was her reply. When we got to her apt she said she had never had an enema and would I help her. Being a gentleman I said sure and Gave her a 1qt enema using her douche bag and nozzle with only her bra on. While talking after I was asked to spent the night and give her one in the morning. At the bedroom door her robe hit the floor and her bra the dresser. A night of sex and 3 enemas later I left for home. The next night was at my place and she gave her first enema but not her last. We married a year later had 4 children exchanged hundreds of enemas and finally divorced. For two years after the divorce we met weekly for enemas and sex until she met her next husband. Three women and three different reactions.

Moral of factual story: everybody is different, we view enemas, sex and nudity as it suits us. My wife will walk around the house naked, have sex in any room, any position and any activity but no anal contact or enema help. Go figure.

I contend that enemas and sex are not the same think..Yes enemas are "sexual" but in a different context than "intercourse"..I think one of the most common mistakes one makes, especially when attempting to "hook-up" with someone for enemas, is to assume that the other also want "intercourse"...

For most here, enemas are a solo thing (the S/O is not interested) but "intersourse" is obtainable just about any time if you ask....

However, and this is a big "however" , if the two having intercourse do not understand the needs of the other the "act" itself is not as pleasurful as it can be if both enjoy the same types of stimulation....Its the same with enemas..Just having someone give you an enema, without really understanding what it is you want and need, makes the enema less pleasurful and sometimes actually may turn one off...I know as I have had that happen...

A date not really understanding what it si i feel or need..

and that is for both enemas and Intercourse....so I really feel that both are different enties and need to be thought of as seperate things...Probably everyone enjos intercourse, but only some enjoy enemas...

Michael2

Enemas are far far more intimate than just sex. It takes a lot more trust in someone to share with them that you love enemas than laying with them for sex. Sex isn't as taboo of a subject as enemas seem to be. Enemas are the very example of intimacy and allowing someone to have access to you and you having to trust them with your body and your "secret." As some have said here, their wives or husbands don't know and never will know of their love of enemas and yet they have sex together.

My vote is that enemas require a lot more intimacy than sex.

While both require intimacy I think enemas are more private.

First time sex was more private to me because I had been doing enemas

for several years before sex.

I agree pretty much with what everyone has said here, an enema is alot more private, sex can happen the first time you meet someone, you dont even talk about enemas much less give or receive one when you first meet.

It takes me awhile before I can even bring up the subject, you know what is sad for me is I am the one always bringing up the subject of enemas

I have yet to meet a female that has brought up the subject first, cmon girls surprise us for once but, make sure we are sitting down first, ok

Exclude childhood enemas over which you in any event had no control.

Having sex with a partner was much easier than getting to the enema thing. Sex everybody wants but with enemas you have to carefully broach the subject with partners and try and determine how they feel about it and then how they feel about participating

Yes enema in more intimate...

In a bar, pub or else, i can talk about sex with everyone... not about enema!

Key words...first time. Definitely sex. Giving yourself to a guy as a virgin is usually a pretty big deal for a girl...at least it was for me. (I don't know if I would call it a "challenge" though.)

Arianna

😁both enemas and sex both are private and fun

I have to agree with blueadept. I can (at this time) be more open with sex than enemas.

I don't remember the first time I had vaginal sex. I remember clearly the first time I had anal sex. I don't remember my first enema, but I remember the first enema that I gave.

Enemas, its always been enemas.

Enemas are definately more private for me and enjoy these pleasures alone and enjoy videoing myself sometimes and keeping these recordings to enjoy whenever I am in the mood. This usually gets me very horny and planning my next enema at the first private opportunity I have!

Oh yes, my first time enema definitely. i didn't really know what i was doing. i probably made a bigger mess than i remember. i knew i had to put the enema bag, hose and nozzle back and make it look like it wasn't used. And hope no one figured it out.

But it sure was fun!

I defer

I'm going to say enema. Sub and I had sex before he admitted his love of enemas.

I've had sex with lots of people. I've only shared enemas with one.

Enemas are more private and intimate to me than sex. Sex seems to be more casual and enemas are anything but casual. Maybe that,s just me though.