@Lora_C left behind a small community of friends who saw her for who she was and loved her for it all. 🌹 I honestly and truly believe that she made people believe in themselves and become less afraid to take chances when it comes to love and living life. 🌹 Without a doubt I have not seen her equal when it comes to bringing out the best in a man or a lover and she truly enjoyed and relished in exploring feelings with her friends beyond the sexual realm. If you were truly a friend to and with Lora then you were denied nothing from her love and my only regret in life at this time is that I never knew what a wonderful woman and friend she was and how much more to her there was than met the eye. 🌹
My own sexuality began early with Sarah who became my lover at an early age. She was older than me and I more or less followed her lead to an extent and I do believe she was grooming me to be her long term lover. I've explored this on my own topic so I won't dredge that up again. Instead I want to keep to Lora and how we had been friends for most of our lives and certainly all through school. When my relationship with Sarah left me wanting for more, I and Ruthie became sexually involved with each other when my husband and I began our sexploration. This was before the enemas and I came to know that Ruthie was having an affair with Lora's Tom. I don't believe Lora knew of this but there were strains in their marriage and I could see it in Lora when she did some catering in conjunction with my flower shop. At that time I am certain she had never had sexual relations with another woman and I never had any indication she had feelings that way.
All I knew is that Lora's marriage with her Tom was 'rocky' but that she had remained true to him and I suspect she had an idea that her Tom was having an affair. She wasn't in the best of humour during that time and a normally vivacious woman that she was, wasn't faring well but I could only watch and wish her the best. As time past I feared that she and her Tom would part ways because I could see and feel the distance between them and I imagine his affair with Ruthie was having an effect. She was in need of a friend who would be there for her and at the time I wasn't that friend, I'm sorry to say.
But as time went on With the benefit of hindsight and having blatantly violated her privacy with outright spying on my part, and I am not too proud of this even to this day. I could have been a better friend and possibly more direct with her but that may have not been to her benefit after all was said and done. Lora was closing up herself and not the normal outgoing woman I had always known until some time a few years ago when I began to notice a gradual change in her. And that gradual change saw her struggle with questions of her own and she sometimes seemed lost but I hadn't a clue as to what to say or how to say it. I was a little too self absorbed in my own budding sexploration with my own husband and, I suppose, weaning myself away from my lover of some 20 years, Sarah. But I had chosen another woman, Ruthie, with much the same character traits and that undercurrent of wanting to dominate me, and me not knowing what I wanted.
Gradually I left my own troubles of the moment long enough to actually pay attention to Lora when I noticed that she was changing for the better in her own life. She still seemed a little at a loss when it came to her own marriage but becoming more at ease or more oriented in her own mind and heart. I was completely stunned one particular day a few years back when Ruthie, after we had sex and were in the after moments, told me that Lora had found out about her affair with Tom. Ruthie and Tom, mostly Ruthie, expected there to be hell to pay for this but instead Lora and Tom began talking to each other and it was obvious that Lora was dealing with things from a far stronger and more confident place in her life and herself and I had no idea what to make of it.
I violated her privacy on the sly and eventually found my way to here and lurked for some time until I became quite certain that she was @Lora_C. 🌹 🌹 🌹 And not to repeat so much that was written far better than I could explain, I came to know my friend as @Lora_C and she and I became fast and dear friends. 🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹
NOW HAVING SAID ALL OF THAT!
That should be the end of that 'drama' but it is not as Lora was extremely protective of @Cedar. Ruthie and Dave are married to each other and are dedicated 'swingers' who were for a short time part of my 'little circle of friends' which included @Lora_C and her Tom, @gibby and her Pete, myself and my husband and Ruthie and Dave. However that didn't last because Ruthie and Dave had another 'circle' they were part of and our little circle wasn't 'rich enough' and then there were the enemas and that may have played a part in our separating our circle. Still, there was a friendship of sorts and Lora and Tom still remained friends with Ruthie and Dave.
Ruthie has been helping Tom with his blood work and doctors care and there does remain a genuine friendship between them. I know for a fact that she still has sexual contact with him and they are more than just 'fuck buddies'. I have told here, of a 'coffee clatch' where some of the women are 'Bertha Better Than You's' and where two of the younger women had an occasion to have access to my upstairs bathroom and my having not put away any of my enema kit, or that of EB's. I haven't heard of this yet from anyone but Ruthie made the comment this past Saturday that she wondered if a patient currently in hospital had been a friend of Lora's.
That set me to being suspicious because it told me that even though Lora may have had sex with Ruthie and Dave, she wasn't necessarily intimate with them. Otherwise Ruthie would have known, at the very least, that the patient she had in hospital had indeed at least worked with Lora in the past. So that put me on guard and Ruthie further said that some of those biddies in the coffee clatch had suspected her of having an affair with him. Was this true? As if I would fucking tell. 😡 She also 'warned' me that some of the senior members of the coffee clatch had suspicions that some of Lora's rendezvous had been at my flower shop in the upstairs. And had I and Lora redecorated that upstairs?
I only smiled at that and told her that might be something to discuss at some other time. I'm not certain of her loyalties as of yet but I don't get the feel of whether or not she is a friend or a frenemy at this point. The old saying of 'keep your friends close, but keep your enemies even closer' may see something added to the 'strange bedfellows' slant.
@Lora_C made life long friends and her friends became friends. She was a magical woman. 🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹