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I'LL TRY SUBTLE

There's a new year coming up - and this old girl is going to try to get my husband, I'll call him Tom, convinced that enemas can be fun. I thought about starting a blog - but they don't give me the feed back that I am going to need to hear when I start this.

We got the news Wednesday - before Christmas Eve, that Tom is going to have a round of chemo beause of those polyps they found. This isn't our first rodeo with this - we hate the fuck out of cancer, pardon my French, but I really hate cancer with a purple passion. We haven't told the kids - and grandkids yet, and we ain't really tuned up for another round. We thought we had kicked it - probably have, but the polyps were precancerous and so we elected to go with chemo to get the jump on it.

That's not the point - not why I am writing this, this old girl got turned on to something that I want to follow through with. I want to take my husband with me - there are things I want to do that need someone that isn't just part time. I saw how really important it is - for me to write about this here, I can get some feed back, and this part of the forums on 'How to get her/him to share the joys of enemas' is the place for me to start. Like I said in another place - I think it will be easier for me, as his wife, a woman, to get him to help me with them and maybe get turned on a little or a lot.

The chemo coming up - it hit Tom hard the last time, but he had cancer to deal with that had been there for awhile. It was hard on his system - and looking back maybe a good old fashioned enema would have helped him out a few times. That's where I come in - maybe if I can get him to give me enemas he will be more likely to either take them or let me give him some to 'help' him. 3😃 Yep - that's my story and I'm sticking to it.

And maybe - I can get him to get his kink on.

Lora C, Very sorry to hear about your husband's polyps. I'm sure you are very thankful that they were caught this early. From what I've heard recently, I understand today's chemo drugs have far less of the nasty side effects than the drugs of five or ten years ago.

If I remember correctly, you are in the greater STL area. That gives you access to one of the best cancer staffs in the country at Barnes.

You know your husband well from all your years together. If subtle works with/for him, great. But you might want to consider the direct route. Simply ask him to assist you with your enema. From your posts in other threads, and the posts of Cedar, we know you have parts that could gain the attention of any man. You are adept at using your mouth, so suck the chrome off his trailer hitch. I bet that will help convince him to help you with your enema. Once he sees how pleasurable an enema is for you, he shouldn't be too hard to convince to try one himself.

Please do keep us posted. And some of us will keep you and him in our prayers.

In the old days, I was the social worker in the chemo unit.You would have put me in conflict of interests but I would listen to him then do a home (visit) on and with you to professionally treat you

If subtle works with/for him, great. But you might want to consider the direct route. Simply ask him to assist you with your enema.

@ quincy - I really am considering doing just that, for starters. I figure that if I can get him to - at least, put the nozzle into me, and just sit there and keep me company, then maybe he will 'see' the benefits. I figure maybe a couple of times - and if he gets comfortable with at least putting it in, then it will be a start.

From your posts in other threads, and the posts of Cedar, we know you have parts that could gain the attention of any man. You are adept at using your mouth, so suck the chrome off his trailer hitch.

@ quincy - LOL!! I've only gone down on my husband a couple of times - and he wasn't real easy with it, that 'put me on a pedestal' bullshit, and it is something I need to get him to quit thinking. BUT - something I just thought about, will it be safe to go down on him when he starts that chemo, if I can talk him in to it? The last time he had chemo - about 5 years ago, the chemo knocked him for a loop. He couldn't eat beef - he said that it tasted really bad, and made the meat taste really rancid or something, but he was able to do fish. I may be putting the cart before the horse - but if we can get on the road to kinky town, I just need to know how much he can take, and not make it any worse.

In the old days, I was the social worker in the chemo unit.You would have put me in conflict of interests but I would listen to him then do a home (visit) on and with you to professionally treat you

@ superego - I'm a little slow, ok, a lot slow, what was it you did? Did you help explain things - or what was it you did?

If u want to get him to give u enemas ... or just be there to keep u company ... forget the subtle ... it doesn't work on guys ... 😉 ... i think u will be able to get him to see it ur way ... 😄 ...

i think he will do fine with the chemo ... i will be thinking about u two ... ... ...

Lora C 🌹 - Where there's a will there's a way...a woman can be quite creative / persuasive (wiley) as you would surely know...And don't worry gurl as that serves no purpose...I can only imagine the emotional upheaval with the turn in recent events but to remain positive through thick n thin is the best option always... Very,very best of wishes for positive results & that you'll all move on to happier times

Lora C you have an exceptional way with expressing yourself as your adventures unfold. 😉

Lora:

Go with the direct approach. I think you set some good ground work with him by not hiding the fact that you take enemas. He knows about your sewing room and the hook in the ceiling and I don't think you've made a secret about what you do there.

If you can, just ask him to keep you company when you take your enemas. I bet that it won't be too long before you can talk him into putting it in for you. Just let him know that you really like enemas and that you would like to have him give them to you. Just about every guy here would love to have a wife or girlfriend that actually wanted them to give her an enema.

Also, don't forget how cool it would be for him to know you like anal jewels. It is something you can work towards.

Good luck.

Cedar

GREAT advice as usual Cedar!!!

Explain to him the two areas where feces reside the longest in contact with the colon wall are the typical areas for developing cancer:

around the cecum and in the sigmoid.

By doing deep/high enemas on a regular basis, you flush those holding areas and remove, from the colon walls, folds and pockets the toxic by products.

I had polyps in my 30's, started doing more enemas and at 58 showed no sign of polyps at my colonoscopy.

good luck.

It looks like chemo is on hold for now - next week my husband will go in for a follow up colonoscopy to check for more polyps. Right now - his doctor is taking blood samples to see if anything is showing up, and so far so good, so chemo is not planned for right now. We are both relieved - but that fear is there, and at the least he is looking at a 'scope job' every 6 months or so.

He really hates that prep for the 'scope job' - and anyone who likes drinking that goat piss needs to call 1-900-IAM-NUTS, but it does need to be done. But there is an angle to it - I think I am getting him to see that an enema will help lessen the effects of the prep, at least a little. And @charlie oneal - I have been telling him that enemas do some good. He knows I have a history with polyps - and that is one of the 'reasons' I have used to do my enemas, and he understands that, and so that is one way he knows I do enemas. And so far - knock on wood, my 'scope jobs' have been clean the last three times, I am on the every 2 year plan because of my prior history with polyps.

NOW - about getting him to understand where I am going, I did take some advice and I came straight out and told him that the enemas are now something I really like. That raised his eyebrows - a lot, and he sort of looked stunned when I told him that, I don't think he fully understood what I was trying to tell him. The look on his face when I told him - that I was now, officially, an enema lover was hard to read, and I hate it when I can't read his expressions. It really opened up a can of worms - sort of, he said he wondered why I was starting to take more enemas, before the last 2 - 3 years, I was doing enemas maybe 1 a month maybe less, and since certain things, I'm doing enemas at least 3 times a week. That night was a long one - I had to pick his jaw up off of the floor a couple of times, and with all of the other stuff going on, it was a lot to sink in. All that was a few days after the initial polyps on this last colonoscopy.

Since the 'good news' - we've done some more talking, lots of it, and I've asked him right to his face, to follow me back to my sewing room, and talk about things while I do an enema. I thought I was going to have to drag his ass back there - but he did come back finally, and sat there as I did an enema, and we talked, and talked, and talked. I've had him back to my sewing room - several times now, and it is a little easier to get him to go with me, but I get the feeling he doesn't quite get it. I asked him - a couple of times, to actually put the douche pipe in my ass, and he wasn't all that thrilled with doing it but he did it. So it is slow going - and I'm not real sure where it is 'going' to, I've also bought another anal jewel, and modeled it for him, even went out to dinner one night wearing it, and I could not get a real read on him. So far - he seems to be trying to understand, but it is like pulling teeth with him to get him 'into it'.

I am hoping that the need for more follow ups - and his hate of that prep, that I can sell him on enemas as a part of making it easier, I just don't know at this point.

Lora

Lora C, Thanks for the update.

Regarding his cleanout, when I had my most recent colonoscopy a bit over a year ago, they had me do the Miralax and Gatorade prep. While far from the most enjoyable thing I've ever drank, this combo was not bad, it went down pretty easy and did not leave a nasty taste in my mouth. Immensely preferable to the Golytely and Nulytely concoctions of the past.

Second, when he has to do the prep, before it takes effect, spread a liberal dose of A and D ointment around his anus and in between the cheeks. This will protect the skin as the chemicals come out. His butt will feel much better the next day when the doc does the scope.

Keepin you in prayers.

Thanks loads quincy - I will let him know that, and maybe that will help him, he does get a 'chapped ass' when he does the prep. I'm still working on the enemas - I think he will 'go for it' and I really think it will be easier on him.

Maybe take note of how you captioned this thread. How do you teach an old dog, or a young one for that matter, a new trick. With a treat or reward. So what turns your husband on? Use that as an incentive. If he loves your breasts, let the girls hang free when he helps you with your enema. If he gets aroused, invite him in between them. You two have had a lot of years together and have learned a lot about each other. Use everything you've learned. And when his response turns you on, let him know he's responsible for you double or tripple O.

@quincy - I think I've created a monster 😃 with my husband, and things have really changed since I posted in this thread the last time. During the past couple of weeks - maybe a little longer, something happened and now my husband is really into giving me enemas. So many enemas in fact - it reminds me of when we first got married, you know, newly weds, and how you can't get enough of each other. Well - that's the way it is now with my husband and him giving enemas to me.

The clue for me - was him putting a plant hanger over our bed, on my side, so that I could do my enemas in our bedroom instead of going down the hall to my 'sewing' room to take them. He did another thing that surprised me - he put a hook on the wall that is lower, so that when Gibby comes out for a visit later this week could hang her enema bag from it. That told me that - he knows that Gibby and I do enemas and chat, and that he is ok with that.

But the plant hanger over our bed - that is what really made it easy for us to get things going with the enemas. I did a few when we were going to bed - with him right there next to me, and we just talked. It was nice and I really liked not having to go down the hall - he asked a lot of questions, about enemas, why I was getting into wearing an anal jewel, going without panties, and where I was going with this. And we talked - I told him about my growing interests, and he listened.

It is working out for me - us, now, and I will write more later. 🌹

Lora C

Now you need a few heavy screw eyes bolted into the ceiling rafters. 😈 😈 😈

You look like to be afraid because your hubby seem to have so much or more interests for enemas as you, may be did he only act like a man and he is now your enema partner with his own fantasies, nothing more.

May be the "Enema Monster" you give life will propose you his help for participating when Gibby will be there,

Now you need a few heavy screw eyes bolted into the ceiling rafters. 😈 😈 😈

@Switchablesusie - it is one of those heavy duty plant hangers, the kind I think you could plant a tree. 😉 I almost think I could hang a 5 gallon bucket from it - he put it in and made sure it was secured to a rafter. Makes me wonder if - hmm, I've seen those sex swings, and maybe that little bow legged guy has too! 😄

You look like to be afraid because your hubby seem to have so much or more interests for enemas as you, may be did he only act like a man and he is now your enema partner with his own fantasies, nothing more.

May be the "Enema Monster" you give life will propose you his help for participating when Gibby will be there,

@arthur - I would love that!

You are also right Arthur - I do hope he has his own fantasies, and I think he does, then I need to make sure that he knows I want him to share those with me. It seems like it took forever to get here - now I get to do things, explore with him, and be open to any ideas he has.

Seriously - if he wanted to do something with Gibby included, I would be very open to that, but that would depend on what Gibby would feel comfortable with.

And all of this - needs the two of us to communicate, my husband and I, and that has been happening. This 'monster' I've created - it's exactly what I wanted.

@Switchablesusie - it is one of those heavy duty plant hangers, the kind I think you could plant a tree. 😉 I almost think I could hang a 5 gallon bucket from it - he put it in and made sure it was secured to a rafter.

The question is, could YOU hang from it?

The question is, could YOU hang from it?

@Switchablesusie - from what I've seen of those sex swings, 😧 my answer is 😈 😈 😈 HELL YES! 😄 😄 😄

Whip and ride little buckaroo! 😄

Oh WOW - they have things on sex swings on YouTube! https://youtu.be/sEqsJQv4zOs 😁

Tom made sure he was putting the hook right - makes me wonder if he has discovered YouTube. 😉

Use a SMALL finishing nail to find the stud center. The holes they make will be smaller than a drill.

Here's how to fix any extra holes

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w5h1RSyfZoo

If you are using ONE screw eye to hold s swing, you need a 3/8" screw eye.

If your swing has four chains, one in each corner, 1/4" screw eyes are more than enough.

All screw eyes should have three inches of screw thread.

Yes - Tom has already done this, he's pretty good with carpentry. He did a good job - and that plant hanger is in there good, I really think it could support me. I hadn't thought of that before but they have some pretty wild stuff on YouTube that I'm checking out.

I haven't got a swing yet - just now getting ideas, but that rig Tom set up looks like he could hoist a motor with it. 😄

Wow Lora it seems your husband is really getting the picture, even hanging a nail low so gibby your friend doesn't have problem either so he is excepting that too. That is just Great. 😃

LOL - @Switchablesusie that YouTube 'How To' video, that's one I'm going to show hubby! He like's technical - 'how to' videos, 😉 she's not bad looking.

Our swing has four chains, one in each corner. I like the stability you get from that and it still swings perfectly front to back when I'm being impaled without spinning.

My husband wants to get or make a suspended sex chair (has a hole in the seat) I can sit in as he lies on the bed and spins the chair above himself centered on his erection. We'll see if that ever gets made.

BTW, the woman in the youtube video is nothing short of gorgeous and my husband loves her "librarian" look with her safety glasses.

I've been looking at more YouTube videos - and there are those with the 4 chains, there is a lot more to this than I imagined.

Looking at the hanger over our bed - I'm not sure where the other anchor points would go, or if we need to put the chair in some other room like my sewing room. This is new to me - and I am amazed at all the stuff you can find on YouTube.

Oh yeah - that model in that video, that will do it for my husband, he likes those 'quiet' or 'librarian' types too. I've seen him checking out Gibby's ass - and a few others, and he seems to like that type. I wouldn't kick her out of bed - either, 😉

Wow Lora it seems your husband is really getting the picture, even hanging a nail low so gibby your friend doesn't have problem either so he is excepting that too. That is just Great. 😃

@Kid - my husband didn't just put a nail in the wall for her, he put a pretty nice hook there by the bed closest to the wall. He and I have talked - prior to this, and he's been suspecting that Gibby and I do the enemas on line thing, which is true. I also told him - that when she came down those times, that it was no big thing for her to do an enema. He didn't ask about details - and I didn't volunteer them, but I see that line of talk being opened up between us. I'm letting him take the lead - or set the pace as to how much he wants to know and what he wants to do.

Since he put that plant hanger in our bedroom - I've been getting 2 or 3 enemas from him a day, a couple of times right in the middle of the day. That has opened up a lot of discussions - and I think that Arthur hit the nail on the head, my husband has some ideas of his own.

I'm not going to tell him no - if he wants to try something or turn him away, this is what I'm here for. 😃

We have four hooks over the bed in the ceiling, but those are really for suspension of arms and legs.

For the sex sling/swing we have four hooks in an open area of floor space in the bedroom. He also uses those hooks to suspend me. The cathedral ceiling peaks at 16 feet so those hooks are more out of view than the ones over the bed at about 9-10 feet. The hooks near the peak at 16 feet always have chains attached because we have skylights there and actually do have plants hanging from them. The hooks over the bed we can reach with a short ladder and are mostly recessed into the drywall.

We've got a pretty big bedroom - so that might be something to consider, if my husband would like to get into that, and I think he will. Any excuse to watch that video - 😉

To be honest - this is something that has just hit me today, but, the way my husband put in that plant hanger and how well he did it, well, hmmm. :-\\ Maybe that little bow legged guy - has some ideas of his own to bring to the party. 😈