Do men find a "fat" pussy to be repulsive?

No there is nothing wrong with you.

It is not believable to me that a pussy can be not attractive however presented.

Am I fucked up?

Course

BELIEVE IT!

If you do not care about the presentation, it makes you seem needy and with low standards on appearance.

As a woman who plays with women on occasion, the presentation is very important. I don't care what the shape of their labia is---thin, thick, long or meaty---but their body must be in good shape. Being in good shape, regardless of the genitalia is important.

I prefer them that way. I find it quite attractive and feminine when they're ample and obvious.

I guess some of the responses could be considered a glass half full or half empty kind of outlook . I do not see how saying someone does not have standards if they chose to find the beauty in something as opposed to finding something hideous . Like they say its in the eyes of the beholder .

I on the other hand would find a " fat guy " extremely attractive if he was confident with himself , had a loving heart and beautiful soul . Add a sense of humor and he could easily sweep me off my feet . Beauty is only on the outside and when the soul is ugly it makes the most physically attractive person look disgusting .

For men who actually love pussy, I figure it's a bit like women who love cock. The more glorious, the better.

I guess some of the responses could be considered a glass half full or half empty kind of outlook . I do not see how saying someone does not have standards if they chose to find the beauty in something as opposed to finding something hideous . Like they say its in the eyes of the beholder .

I on the other hand would find a " fat guy " extremely attractive if he was confident with himself , had a loving heart and beautiful soul . Add a sense of humor and he could easily sweep me off my feet . Beauty is only on the outside and when the soul is ugly it makes the most physically attractive person look disgusting .

This thread asks about the attractiveness of a "fat girl's pussy", not whether someone has a beautiful soul or ugly soul. A person can be fat (the OP's term, not mine) and still be a great person.

I'm not going to be a hypocritical politically correct snowflake social justice warrior and say being fat (the OP's term, not mine) is OK or that real beauty is on the inside or having a good sense of humor makes being fat OK and/or that you can still be attractive. Someone can like, or love someone wonderful that is kind and loving who is out of shape or fat, but that doesn't mean they are necessarily sexually attractive.

A FEW extra pounds (like a maximum of 5% of normal body weight) could be OK but being in shape is important, at least to me. Carrying more pounds than that shows a person values eating more than their health or appearance. Just put down the fork. I could easily eat a pound of New York cheese cake or a quart of Hagen Dazs vanilla swiss almond for desert every night, but if I did I would be as big as a house. I would still be self-confident and have a sense of humor (characteristics posters have considered important here for attractiveness) but if we're calling a spade a spade, a fat Susie with any shape labia/pussy would not be so visually appealing unless you weren't getting ANY pussy which might make any offering seem attractive.

I'm with Susie on this one. As someone who still works out relentlessly and placing a high value on my physical health and fitness (and appearance, for that matter), there is nothing that repulses me sexually more than a very fat (my own term) woman. Fat is fat - no matter by what euphemistic term anyone wishes to label it to avoid offending somebody. I have plenty of fat lady friends whom I dearly love and respect as individuals and by whom I am not repulsed in the slightest bit, but I certainly wouldn't consider fucking any of them even if I had every opportunity (and were drunk enough) to take them up on the offer! No thank you, Ma'am, no fat pussy for me.

Gimme a thin, athletic, even muscular woman (okay, not those over-the-top testosterone monsters) of any age - that's the kinda pussy that'll turn me on in a flash. Of course other supplementing characteristics such as a good personality, sense of humor, etc, will enhance the experience - but I'm talking about the purely sexual side of things here.

@flburst58, You expanded on what I said and I agree with you 100%.

I realize the question the OP asked is directed at men, but being bisexual I think my opinion of what makes a pussy attractive is valid enough.

As for a fat pussy (not a fat person's pussy) great, love it. I actually prefer when lips have some fullness to them. But my only 'turn off' for any pussy is if it is really hairy, and that is just a personal preference, which at times I can, and have, looked past. The only time I would be repulsed (as mentioned in the title) was if it was unclean.

On a fetish site with such diverse interests, preferences, and opinions, I think the only thing we can actually agree on is that whatever you have between your legs should be clean. Repulsion is perfectly valid if it's not.

As for a fat person's pussy (or just a fat person in general) I would not be attracted to. Nothing to do with their pussy, just what surrounds it. I agree with Susie and the others on that (though I can accept a bit more than 5% above normal body weight). Most people are, and should be heavier than I am. I'm 5'2. If you have GG boobs, they're not going to fit into a size 6 (US size 2) top. I'm not asking for a ballerina body, just slim (I would actually prefer a little heavier than normal to a ballerina body). My body is not perfect, and I don't expect anyone's to be.

The bigger issue is healthy woman. A clean reasonably proportioned lady that presents herself as passionate, fun loving, smart, and can engage a guy showing similar traits can make a great partner. The vagina is a great organ, so is a penis. The whole person is what makes a great relationship. Excess fat is not best for either partner. Get real.

In my experience, all pussies fall on a spectrum from aerodynamic to cushioned. Personally I prefer cushioned, aerodynamic, and the ones that fall somewhere between the two ends of the spectrum.

I have also found that some come pre-moistened, while others respond well to additionally added lubricant. I find those two types to be quite enjoyable, as well as those which land in between.

I'm straight. I love all pussy. Yumm. 😃

I wouldn't worry too much. Once I saw a study that came to the conclusion that men, given a choice, preferred slightly larger women to toothpick-sized ones, and in the discussion they noted it was odd that women's magazines tended to idolize thin women.

Also remember that your husband will be marrying you, and it's your pussy. Again, he'll probably love it - I love what my wife has.

I would say the most important thing for both of you is to be fit enough to be healthy and to enjoy sex. This includes quickies, long and slow romantic sessions, and extended but more athletic sessions. If you can do that and continue to work on your relationship (including words and affectionate but not necessarily sexual touching) then the sparks will fly for many years.

Unfortunately Kookie doesn't seem to be here any more, hopefully she stopped worrying.

I've never met a pussy I didn't like. Seriously. They do come in all shapes and sizes. I do love big pussy lips and large clits. Puffy is nice too, particularly if the lips are swollen with lust. Makes me hungry just thinking about it.

I understand why you asked this question here, but I'm afraid your answer lies with your future mate. Attraction is extremely subjective. What some find unattractive or neutral, others find very appealing. If you're in a relationship with someone, that means he finds you attractive. You mentioned "future husband" so this isn't a question strictly based on a one night stand stemming from physical attraction. This is about someone with whom you will be in a relationship. He already knows, and likes, your body type. I'm sure he will not be repulsed by your pussy. If he likes you UNTIL he sees your pussy, and after that, decides he's not attracted to you, tell him to fuck off!

On a side note, love YOURSELF. Be confident. If someone doesn't like you, it's about their personal preference. Move on to those who do like you!

The OP was "Last Online: 1 year ago", leaving the rest of us to....wait for it....."weigh in" on the subject.

She was worried about her "fat" pussy being repulsive. I was more repulsed by her spelling "afraid" with 2 f's.......

Why is this even an issue? Personally I am very attracted to larger women and I find that their pussies are more attractive. Most of the large women I have been with have smaller lips leaving better access to the clitoris and vagina. I love the taste, smell and look of all pussies but larger women have much hotter pussies.

On "The Real Housewives of Atlanta" there was a discussion of "camel toes." Apparently this is preferred among some women. In fact, "puffy pussies" are now in vogue, I am learning. There are even prostheses to create a camel toe, if a woman's labia majora are not puffy enough. There are also cosmetic procedures to plump up the labia. On the other hand, seeing a bulging mons pubis on a woman tells me her pants are too tight. Same with a camel toe, IMO. Gravity and childbirth cause the pussy to get fatter. Little girls seem to have puffy pussies and they're cute.

Please forgive me my vice of watching several of the Real Housewives series. I learned about vaginal rejuvination from the New York housewives Who knew? Also, this conversation has been discussed under the camel toe header.

Like many topics on Zity, there is much overlap.

Last time I posed on the topic, I said I found it unattractive. But what I really like is a pussy that's kinda in between not so thin and not so fat. I like it with a lil meat on it lol.

Fat is a subjective adjective in this day and age. What was normal size in the past is now considered overweight. This can be shown by the fashion industry. Size 10 12 was considered average in the past now size 10 - 12 models are in the plus size catalogs while the average size of a woman is size 16.

The original poster said that she was afraid that when her future husband saw her pussy he would think it was too fat and find it disgusting. She did not say whether or not she felt or was overweight just that she was afraid that he would think so. This may be based upon the fact that most of the models in the porn industry are thin.

Reading the posts here I have notices that everyone has their own ideas as to what constitutes "fat" and that does not necessarily coincide with the medical definition or body condition.

Most of the replies mentioning BBW, "larger", the now positively asinine politically correct "people of size" and similar descriptions are the definition of FAT whether or not they admit it to themselves.

If you want really good sex and to be in a good shape to be healthy, a low/moderate weight is the goal.

It's been said, "Big girl, big hole, Little girl, all hole. Speaking from experience, and I apologize if this hurts some feelings as I DO NOT mean for it to hurt feelings. I am only sharing an opinion and my own observation! Men are "visual" creatures, no doubt about it. But it has been my experience that I would rather be intimate with a woman that is carrying a few extra pounds. In the heat of intimacy it doesn't matter if one is on top or standing behind in the "doggie position". In the heat of the moment when the thrusting becomes intense the next day I feel like I was banging my groin against a brick wall! Those thin girls don't have any padding and a fellow is then banging against their pelvic bone. That doesn't feel good! Ladies, I am most interested in the person inside and not the package the person comes in. Rest assured ladies we are also consience of our bodies and how we "measure" up. God knows that playgirl isn't going to be asking this guy anytime soon to be the man of the month! So relax and enjoy yourself!

Are the men who say they love the shape of all women, "big" [read "fat"] themselves, and don't get offers from trim, well toned women?

I wouldn't be interested in a fat guy no matter how fast and frequently he said he could make me orgasm.

No. I prefer to look at a whole person-looks as well as personality. I've played with larger women and never thought about size when we were having fun.

Are the men who say they love the shape of all women, "big" [read "fat"] themselves, and don't get offers from trim, well toned women?

I wouldn't be interested in a fat guy no matter how fast and frequently he said he could make me orgasm.

I'm not sure why you keep repeating the same comment and emphasize the word "fat" in every post, but it just might be possible that for some people, size really doesn't factor into determining whether someone is attractive or not. There's no doubt a lot of people fine fit, toned bodies ideal, but you seem to think it's impossible for anything other than a toned body to look attractive which is not fair.

Tastes change over time. The definition of "Rubenesque" is a plump or voluptuous, fleshy woman, after the style of painting of Peter Paul Rubens.

Most people in long term or lifelong love affairs with the same person notice a change in weight and fitness over time. Age happens. They may or may not still find their partner attractive. Genetics and sometimes medication influence weight control.

Madison Avenue and the proliferation of porn have glorified skinny, young bodies. Obsession with diet and exercise, sometimes stemming from extreme narcissism, can be a turn-off, too. Maybe someone needs to be "hot" to attract someone during "happy hour." I wouldn't know. Being like-minded and honest ought to be a big turn-on.

I am 73 and reasonably trim . My lifelong struggle is keeping my weight in check. I like fitting into my size 10 "skinny" jeans. However, I enjoy good food too much and have grown lazier. I enjoy other "foodies" and people who are up-to-date on their TV watching. As we age, much is forgiven.

Correction: I thought BBW stood for Big Busted Woman. I just learned it is Big Beautiful Woman. I have used that acronym in previous posts to describe myself. I would never call myself "big" or "beautiful." I am petite, at around 5'2". It is up to someone else to call me beautiful.

Let me be the first to say @Mathgirl , that your sense of humour, honesty, and realistic world view are beautiful to me.

Being petite, wearing skinny jeans at 73 ....that's just a bonus 😁

Tastes change over time. The definition of "Rubenesque" is a plump or voluptuous, fleshy woman, after the style of painting of Peter Paul Rubens.

It wasn't so much that tastes changed, as that people came to admire the physical results of being affluent. In simpler terms, being plump and voluptuous in the 16th or 17th centuries, meant that a person had enough wealth to be able to afford buying food in both large quantities as well as in times of scarcity or famine (which because of the Small Ice Age were quite prevalent)..

So, what people were admiring wasn't a plump body as such, but the wealth and money that were behind creating and sustaining the plumpness. In other words, they were admiring the lifestyle.

Oddly though, in Antiquity, when segments of the population were just as poor or even more so than the poor in the mentioned 'Rubenesque' centuries, being plump was not considered an esthetic ideal at all. Our ideals of beauty still reflect those of Roman/Hellenic times.

Agracier said:

. . . . when segments of the population were just as poor or even more so than the poor in the mentioned 'Rubenesque' centuries, being plump was not considered an esthetic ideal at all. Our ideals of beauty still reflect those of Roman/Hellenic times.

ABSOLUTELY!

Just look at the statue of David, The Thinker, Aphrodite, Goddess Aurora. The bodies are relatively lean (not skinny) and muscular. That is the classic beauty.

I've been watching this thread for awhile and I don't always jump in right away which gives me time to think and formulate a response. So here are my thoughts...

1st it is your body, you need to learn to love and accept it. If a guy really loves you, then it should not matter.

2nd I would suggest maybe working on your self worth and self esteem. I would also add getting to know yourself more and develop an internal strength.

3rd is if you think you are fat, then do something constructive about it. Stay away from fad diets as they don't work and last. Recently my wife and her son and daughter in law started the Ketogenic diet and has had great success with it. My wife was on insulin and changing what she eats and losing weight got her off of insulin much to my delight. The other two did it under the supervision of a doctor and has lost over a 100 lbs.