MARRIED MEN: How often do you masturbate, and where?

Wife and I have sex about 2 to 3 times a week. We also masterbate from time to time in bed together. Usually once a week. She usually goes first . She uses a vibrator on her clit. I usually put a finger in her vagina and do the “ come hither” on her g spot. She usually has an intense orgasm.

I then masterbate beside her. She gently rubs my balls . She then goes lower To perineum and massages. Just before I start to ejaculate , she rubs my prostate externally with 2 fingers in then presses hard on it when I start to spurt. Great feeling and tension relief.

That’s a lot of sex, Proximo

Since my wife went through menopause years ago she lost her desire for sex so I have been a regular masturbator for years. Since I am retired and she still works I have plenty of time. I masturbate in the bathroom while reading porn or taking an enema.

Not married, but in a nigh on five-year relationship here. Not living with my girlfriend, sex life pretty slow. I'd say I masturbate an average of once a day, sometimes two.

I like to orgasm every other day or more frequently. Wife and I only have sex about 2-3 times a month for various reasons. There's a lot of backlog there to make up with my hand and toys.

Once or twice a week.,,where l masturbate,depends,,in bed,,the tub ,,my favorite place is in the computer room,,on skype ,with a friend. l enjoy it more as a mutual act with a friend.

Masturbation It's a big waste of energy in vain. In marriage, the duty of women is to prevent it.

Why? Because then every man loses his desire for sex. And this is the beginning of the end of any marriage. Solution: chastity cage, with key on neck lace. When you make the new order in the house, you will notice a great positive difference in behavior.

How many men or "women" read articles in Zity as an aid to masturbation?

Several times a week on average. Sometimes while doing a prostate massage, which is always very intense and feels so good!

Masturbation It's a big waste of energy in vain. In marriage, the duty of women is to prevent it.

Why? Because then every man loses his desire for sex. And this is the beginning of the end of any marriage.

I disagree... why would a guy who has lost interest in sex masturbate?? That's his sexual outlet. More likely, he's lost interest in having sex with his partner for whatever reasons. I think women tend to lose interest in sex more than men - so masturbation for guys becomes a substitute. I'm sure this isn't always the case. There may be other reasons a couple loses interest in sharing sex. If a woman or a guy is feeling denied - they should talk about it. A chastity device is a kinky way of keeping a guy from getting off unless you let him - but it doesn't address the issue of why he is doing it alone and if he is avoiding - or not getting - sex with his partner.

Agree. A chastity devise is a fantastic kinky way of keeping things happy. The more you think about it the harder it be omes when you wear it. However you cant. Become stiff. A vicious circle.

Recommend.

When you do cum its an explosion.

How many men or "women" read articles in Zity as an aid to masturbation?

READ while masturbating???

How do you read while masturbating. I masturbate with two hands and/or use a toy with my other hand.

MOVIES sometimes yes, reading DEFINITELY NO.

Masturbation It's a big waste of energy in vain. In marriage, the duty of women is to prevent it.

Why? Because then every man loses his desire for sex. And this is the beginning of the end of any marriage.

My vagina and anus, and my husband's penis strongly disagree.

Masturbation It's a big waste of energy in vain. In marriage, the duty of women is to prevent it.

Why? Because then every man loses his desire for sex. And this is the beginning of the end of any marriage. Solution: chastity cage, with key on neck lace. When you make the new order in the house, you will notice a great positive difference in behavior.

Do you mean men do not want sex any more if they masturbate? I do not think that is true really, I am sure they will still want sex.

I am sure my husband does not need to masturbate, we have a lot of sex.

Masturbation It's a big waste of energy in vain. In marriage, the duty of women is to prevent it.

I like your attitude but in reality it just doesn't happen. Most people are also not in a relationship that uses chastity devices either. Interesting concept though. "Honey if you don't blow me RIGHT now I'm going to go jack off. So there!"

"Honey if you don't blow me RIGHT now I'm going to go jack off. So there!"

At a comedy club in Denver the guy said his wife was pretty well trained. "If I have a hard on - my wife gives me a blow job or jacks me off....if I don't, she makes me a sandwich!"

I think every healthy relationship includes each person masturbating, whether it be together, in front of or solo. It can be because the other person is not available when the desire strikes or for whatever reason.

I can be in a relationship that includes sex whenever I want it or he wants it but I may also want a quick release and I would think nothing of it if he did the same.

I think it just means you have a healthy libido.

Its when one person prefers to mastubate instead of having sex with the other that its a problem!

READ while masturbating???

How do you read while masturbating. I masturbate with two hands and/or use a toy with my other hand.

MOVIES sometimes yes, reading DEFINITELY NO.

I only need 1 hand to masturbate. I also find I masturbate more often with a good erotic story, rather than pix or movies. With a good story on the computer screen, I can scroll down with the other hand as necessary.

The way I masturbate is equivalent to a man jerking off while getting a ball massage. One hand for the clitoris and one hand for the rest of the vulva and vagina. As far as reading is concerned, the page on a computer screen would go by too fast to make changing pages reasonable. The mouse or track pad would get all slippery and slimy. Besides, I like to lie down when I masturbate, not sit in a chair--unless it's a recliner and I'm watching a video on a decent sized TV screen.

Have masturbated all my adult life every few days or so, and am now in my Sixties. I enjoy solo masturbation reading a good erotic story, or also enjoy mutual masturbation with my partner.

Where? Mainly at home or in hotel on holiday/business.

Different situations, different opinions., Many places, many people, a mixture of cultures, a billion of characters, countless combinations. Everything starts innocent and harmless, but develops in unexpected directions.

For example. 1. The husband remains late on the computer to watch the news, when the wife goes away, he continues to watch the pictures, then follows the porn movie, then he satisfied himself, and came to bed without any desire. 2. The husband goes out to watch a match - game, he get used going outside and not telling the wife where he is going out. The 101 match will not be soccer, will be with a beautiful woman playing with his two balls. 3. A husband stays up late at night on the net, and find a soul mate, Then he began frequently to go on a business trip ...

There are a hundred ways to avoid coming into this situation. If you're a woman who thinks for herself, and knows that the situation makes the opportunity. Then someone knows, and somebody does not know how to control it. My opinion is FLR, never leave the husband alone, require a constant sex at your wishes and command, put him in a chastity device. It's a psychological fantasy game that will bring your marriage to a new level. There are other possibilities, everything is up to you...

Miriamvee, sounds as though you are interested in sex and keeping things fresh though. Relationships where that is not the case tend to be much more frustrating for the other spouse. If your attitude it "I will MAKE you not have sex because I don't want to have sex and therefore you should not either" it's not going to end well.

Different situations, different opinions., Many places, many people, a mixture of cultures, a billion of characters, countless combinations. Everything starts innocent and harmless, but develops in unexpected directions.

For example. 1. The husband remains late on the computer to watch the news, when the wife goes away, he continues to watch the pictures, then follows the porn movie, then he satisfied himself, and came to bed without any desire. 2. The husband goes out to watch a match - game, he get used going outside and not telling the wife where he is going out. The 101 match will not be soccer, will be with a beautiful woman playing with his two balls. 3. A husband stays up late at night on the net, and find a soul mate, Then he began frequently to go on a business trip ...

There are a hundred ways to avoid coming into this situation. If you're a woman who thinks for herself, and knows that the situation makes the opportunity. Then someone knows, and somebody does not know how to control it. My opinion is FLR, never leave the husband alone, require a constant sex at your wishes and command, put him in a chastity device. It's a psychological fantasy game that will bring your marriage to a new level. There are other possibilities, everything is up to you...

One could easily switch the sex of the characters in your post.

While my husband and I switch on a regular basis, everyone who knows us knows I am very domineering despite the fact that my husband and I are pretty evenly matched in most situations, especially when we don't agree. I don't always get my way with him and we both know when to pick our battles. He is a hard negotiator in business and gives me a good run for the money in daily life debates. He and I don't spend every living moment together either, in fact after being out of town for the last six days, after dinner he went to his music room without me to sit and listen--alone--he needed that. There is no talking when he is listening. We both relaxed in different rooms and when he is done listening we will go to bed. There are many nights that he goes in alone for hours before coming to bed, but he always satisfies me and I always know where he is--in his listening room. Even if he were to masturbate there, I wouldn't care because he enjoys it and he doesn't deny me my sexual pleasures. He's way too involved with what he is doing to go on the internet and watch porno movies, let alone have the interest or time to seek out other women. I am not naive (I am a cynic) and I totally trust him when he is out on business. As far as "constant sex at my command" is concerned, we are often in the middle of doing things at home when one of us looks at the other and gestures to have sex. 90% of the time, we do it--any time of the day.

People have different ways of keeping harmony and their sex lives active and interesting. A FLR isn't the only way to protect the viability of the relationship or to keep the man interested. Trying to keep such tight control on a forceful man will usually cause the relationship to end. While I hate cliches, I will use one here: If you love someone, set them free. If they return they are yours, if the don't they never were.

A FLR isn't the only way to protect the viability of the relationship or to keep the man interested. Trying to keep such tight control on a forceful man will usually cause the relationship to end. While I hate cliches, I will use one here: If you love someone, set them free. If they return they are yours, if the don't they never were.

I like that bit. You are right @SwitchableSusie, I would be silly to try telling my husband what to do. He is strong and we are with each other because we want to be and we like the same things, we just love each other and we like our shared life.

@SwitchableSusie said, 'While I hate cliches, I will use one here: If you love someone, set them free. If they return they are yours, if they don't they never were.'

My husband is mine only so long as he wants to stay mine. No chastity device, no FLR, no external influence is going to make him want to stay with me. The way I treat him and am towards him does have an influence, of course, but he is his own man and knows when to give and take, listen or talk, stay or leave, and that is the man that he is and I love him for it.

There is a cliche that my both my husband and EB, and I hate:

Lead, follow or get out of the way. - attributed to Thomas Paine

EB was pretty to the point when he said, 'Fuck you! I'm where I want to be. Go around.'

To answer the question as it pertains to my husband, when we're apart for a couple of days he will masturbate, he says, about once a day. We do our phone thing at night when he's gone and he masturbates then, as do I. But sometimes he will start to masturbate when we are together and he will let me know if he wants me to 'finish' for or with him.

@Ms_Lila writes, "

There is a cliche that my both my husband and EB, and I hate:

Lead, follow or get out of the way. - attributed to Thomas Paine

EB was pretty to the point when he said, 'Fuck you! I'm where I want to be. Go around.'

Amen! And also AMEN to @SwitchableSusie and @Amethyst!

I jack off when ever I need to. No sense in letting pressure build up and make you miserable. My wife does not want sex and sees all sex as germophobic. 😧

Been masturbating since about age 4 and coming since age 8-9. I was good for 3-4 orgasms a day until I hit 50; now at 59 I still seem to need at least 1-2 a day. Wife is willing, but menopause problems reduce frequency of sex. Generally in bed - usually with internet porn, photo collection, or some hot post on zity!

Several times a week. Usually in bed with some open.

Several times a week and usually in bed. That's the most comfortable. Put a sock on it to catch the mess plus the texture of the sock feels good. I'm not cut but I hold the foreskin back tight to masturbate dry and the sock rubbing on my glans feels good.