Guys: Which do you like: A hand job or a blow job (pick one) and why?

A handjob is really good, but for me a blowjob is much better. Does not matter if I get or give it.

Hand job. Women are nearly always enthusiastic whereas with blow jobs you frequently have to confront hesitancy about cum-in-my mouth, swallow/won’t swallow, etc.

I do love the blow jobs because a hand is always involved it's the best of both jobs 😜😃

BJs are the best. Mouths are warm & wet

Imo, a good sex session should include both, before or after vaginal or anal sex, preferably starting with a good mutual rectal temperature taking.

I'm a gay total bottom, and with my particular wiring, my desired orgasm and pleasure are those a Man has in and with me. my penis is somewhere between a penis and a clit. If a Man touches it with the intent of turning me on and opening me for penetration, then He totally gets me and is connecting to who and how i am.

So, for me, it's not so much the BJ or hand job but the intent and energy behind it. It's also not just Him meeting my desire, but connecting with it because of His own desire. There's an energy of control and ownership that i associate with 'Top,' so when His desire and nature is to use my penis to make me more receptive to His "cock," to prepare me to receive His cock and orgasm, then either one is amazing. But again, for me "amazing" is taking me to an edge with the intent of not giving me my own orgasm, but His.

I would love to have a blow job. My wife’s hand job is her laying her hand on the bed palm up and me grinding against it with my diaper and plastic pants on.

Hand. Definitely hand.

I had the best ever blow job from a partner once but despite that I think there is something more open and inclusive about the handjob.

It is a close call but an ok hand versus a good mouth is better than the reverse.

Just!

Handjob if in need of quick gratification. BJ is always better

Here's the thing with handjobs - I'd think/worry that the gal doing me wouldn't have the strength and stamina to complete the task - now maybe she could, but thinking that she couldn't would be too much of a distraction.

I like both, but can't always ejaculate from just a blow job and need to finish off with a hand job.

For me, hand jobs, and in particular 3 different positions.

1. Partner is laying next to me and kissing me while they stroke me.

2. Partner has their head on my chest and is watching, eager to see me erupt.

3. When I’m feeling particularly sinful, Im on all fours, partner is behind me, milking me while massaging my prostate with their other hand.

@SenorDG1967 number 2 is a very lovely position, by far my preferred position whilst giving a hand job

@SenorDG1967 love #4 my mistress ties me to her spanking bench for this, blow jobs are awesome but I really love a nice edging hand job.

@SenorDG1967 number 2 is a very lovely position, by far my preferred position whilst giving a hand job

Just be careful where you point things or you might end up with a surprise to the face!

That is the fun if it!!!!!!

For me it's a hand job while I lay on my back and she puts her head on my tummy to watch what happens when I cum. The weight of her head on my tummy accelerates my orgasm, not sure why, it just does. She says she knows when to speed up or slow down by how much my tummy muscles tighten.

First of all I would like to make a clarification...

Blowjob is an art that few women are dedicated to with experience. It is not enough to put it in your mouth, suck and move your head as in a penetration. They all do this. The real blowjob should mainly be done with the head still, moving the tongue back and forth, rubbing it under the frenulum, according to an ancient Japanese school. Obviously one can alternate with lateral movements, sucking, making the teeth feel (softly...), but thinking mainly of a still head and movements of the tongue. This is very satisfying for us males, but very tiring for those who do it. I know this from experience, because in one occasion I tried for almost three minutes to consume, with that movement of the tongue, a bite of bread that was too big, which prevented me from opening my mouth further to chew it. :-)

Personally, I prefer handjobs, because it's decidedly more intense in terms of sensations and allows me to see her face too, with her expressions which, if she's a fan of these games, is a celestial and extremely exciting vision.

Furthermore, she can "play" in a thousand ways with the cock, with the skin, the balls, the urethral meatus and decide, according to her fantasy, how to make me ejaculate, and many girls like to look carefully at the squirt.

Blow > 7

Hand > 10

Sorry for translation

Blowjob is an art that few women are dedicated to with experience. It is not enough to put it in your mouth, suck and move your head as in a penetration. They all do this.

You don’t know my wife or many of the other greatly talented and sensual women on this site. Don’t denigrate them with your bad experiences! Many women could say the same about men. But most (men and women) experience intense orgasms from oral, especially from true lovers. The intensity of sex -oral or whatever - is linked to the respect you have for each other, which for some is lacking.

Blowjob is an art that few women are dedicated to with experience. It is not enough to put it in your mouth, suck and move your head as in a penetration. They all do this. The real blowjob should mainly be done with the head still, moving the tongue back and forth, rubbing it under the frenulum, according to an ancient Japanese school. Obviously one can alternate with lateral movements, sucking, making the teeth feel (softly...), but thinking mainly of a still head and movements of the tongue. This is very satisfying for us males, but very tiring for those who do it. I know this from experience, because in one occasion I tried for almost three minutes to consume, with that movement of the tongue, a bite of bread that was too big, which prevented me from opening my mouth further to chew it. :-)

Sorry for translation

i want to give you space for loss of meaning with translation.

That said, a couple of thoughts.

There are some absolute sounding assertions in what you wrote, which may not have been intended, but were there none the less. E.g., no one can accurately state: "They all do this." That is a universal judgement based on individual/subjective experience, it's not evidence as i believe Rigel also points out. Also, as to method, your assertion that "...mainly of a still head and movements of the tongue. This is very satisfying for us males," is also subjective. As a lifetime cock sucker, i can attest that, while there may be similarities, no two Receivers are alike. To me, the essence of either great BJ or HJ is the mutual desire and connection, communication, followed by skill. i'll take lustful sex over skilled sex any day. As a matter of fact, if mutual desire is not there, i'll take a pass. If the man or woman doing the HJ or BJ is not into it, i think a vital element is missing.

As to your comparison of a cock to bread... no lol, no, no, no. Sorry, no comparison no matter how you slice it. Even if it's a baguette. i sort of get what you are trying to say here, but no. There's way to much missing in the comparison for it to be valid me thinks, though this is just my opinion.

To me, the essence of either great BJ or HJ is the mutual desire and connection, communication, followed by skill. i'll take lustful sex over skilled sex any day. As a matter of fact, if mutual desire is not there, i'll take a pass. If the man or woman doing the HJ or BJ is not into it, i think a vital element is missing.

@tallslenderguy Perfectly said!!! The skill level of my wife is nowhere near what it used to be for either a handjob or a blowjob. But the desire and connection we have makes every one the best I've ever had!!!! 😄

@Rigel

It seems quite logical to me that between husband and wife, or between lovers who have known each other for some time, the relationship of sexual symbiosis can be elevated to the rank of perfect understanding and mutual respect. If this does not happen in a lasting relationship based on sentimental love, then something is wrong.

In my post I was referring to situations that we can define as "improvised". I hoped the reader would understand this.

@tallslenderguy

The comparison with a bite of bread is perfect, to indicate the effort to make certain movements. :-)

If then someone always wants to interpret as "absolute", the statements that, in a forum, must always be considered personal opinions, then something has not gone in the right direction

In my post I was referring to situations that we can define as "improvised". I hoped the reader would understand this.

If what you consider “improvised” sex as being casual sex without an emotional connection, then it’s not much more, or actually less, than masturbation. The threads I read about here where people have very “open” relationships are based on respect and love. Whatever one expects in a sexual connection is different, but I wouldn’t want to have sex with someone I don’t respect or belittle.

I'm was never into getting a BJ; and as far as HJ's go, I would be distracted thinking the gal would not have the strength to do it till completion - so end result is that nothing beats my own hand beating out the beat, so to say 😈😎

@Rigel

If what you consider “improvised” sex as being casual sex without an emotional connection, then it’s not much more, or actually less, than masturbation. The threads I read about here where people have very “open” relationships are based on respect and love. Whatever one expects in a sexual connection is different, but I wouldn’t want to have sex with someone I don’t respect or belittle.

I NEVER wrote that casual sex with a recently known girl is ABSENT of emotion and respect.

I just wrote that things are certainly less intense than those that long-formed couples can experience.

It doesn't seem very strange to me, to understand.

It seems to me that you want to sharpen your pencils on issues that should belong to the psychological sphere and not in a thread about handjobs or blowjobs 😃 😃 😃

Honestly either one! They both feel great in different ways so totally down with either.

Two lips and a tongue can send me to heaven and that's what I like to be any volunteers? Haha

I love both but I'd go for a blow job. They feel so good and I can give myself a hand job anytime I like (which is quite often)

Both. I cum faster from a BJ, but a HJ prolongs the pleasure. The great equalizer is my partner having their finger up my ass at the same time, tickling my prostate. Makes me crazy.

Used to be blowjobs, but now, due to various reasons, it’s a HJ from BA.