Sex or No Sex in a Play Exam

Yes. What’s the point in having a play exam if there’s no sex at the end? I mean, whether it’s sex or orgasms or both, my play exam needs to have that sexual component. ?

This depends on your definition of sex. When it comes to medical exam fetish, I prefer no intercourse because to me it is more psychological than physical. It doesn't imply that there is no happy ending for a patient.

The power exchange, humiliation, vulnerability, the feeling of being exposed, embarrassed are my primary interests.

Humiliation does nothing for me ever, but that's me, play time is different for everyone. Maybe some pain/pleasure mix or something very clinical. It depends on what the doc and his/her patient agree

on.

Also what gets you HOT is what matters!

In my opinion, play is about helping your patient to enjoy the examination in whatever style she/he wants.

Long ago, in my medical and sensation play, I drew the line in the sand; I, personally, am not about casual sex.

That said, I will support my plày partner's need for sexual gratification without oral sex, or penetration.

Play can be very sensual. As a play.docologist, it's my preference to help a patient enjoy themselves to the fullest extent, without crossing boundaries

And, yes, there are those that believe for play to be real in its purest sense, it should not involve sex or sensuality. My play is tailored to bring pleasure to my partner, however she/he desires to receive it.

For me, it is all about the patient.

Just my 2 cents...

Dr Marcus Welby

Not into sex during a play exam. I like things to be as "professional" as possible with a bit of line crossing when it comes to the genital and rectal exams (the kind of thing I fantasise about during a real exam actually). There is someone powerfully erotic about an older man in a white coat or scrubs while I am naked, doing things to me that would not happen in the course of a usual day. That said, I love a nice explosion at the end as a "test" of my sexual function. My play doc is very thorough!

Depends on how you look at sex... For me, I'm usually the patient and I will let the doctor finish with collecting the sperm sample using his mouth. One 2 occasions, I have let the doctor bend me over the end of the exam bed and do the probing with his personal tool. It all really depends on who I'm playing with and how the exam goes.

I like to keep it as real as possible! If I went to a real doc I wouldn't expect sex so therefore wouldn't expect in a play exam.

Saying that I do get very easily aroused and I am a very heavy pre cummer so it is difficult! I also sometimes suffer premature ejaculation but luckily I have never experienced much of this with a real doc, but I have in a play situation. I guess there is a big difference in these situations.

No sex. I like it to be as realistic as possible

I would never expect sexual advances from a medical professional. I had to leave another site where I was constantly uncomfortable being pressured to include it in RP. Happily, I have found friends here who make me comfortable as I explore my fascinations.

I dont think its a case of sex or no sex, its down to the individuals playing and what they like to do together.

The answer to sex or no sex is entirely dependent on the situation for me. If I am playing with a romantic or well established partner where we already have a sexual relationship, then yes the exam is often used as foreplay for sex at the end or afterwards. If I am performing an exam on someone with whom I do not already have a sexual relationship, then sex at the end of the exam is not likely to occur. I have had patients ask to include sex at the end of the exam before and my standard answer is 1-2 exams with no sex so we can see if we click. If we do and the desire is still there after the "trial period", then we can re-examine to question of including sex at the end of or after the exam.

If playing with a role-playing doctor then no sex. Ever.

If I had a boyfriend that was into it, then sex could be incorporated into an exam, but NEVER EVER with someone who was simply a role-play doctor.

Of course sex

The sex after the exam feels different .. it's kind of more enjoyable .. more energy .. more connected with your partner

For me, it's totally up to the partner (participants). No always wins, both must agree or it's a no go. I prefer not to have sex and, yes, while it is a huge turn on I'm there for the medfet only. If my subject wants to cum I will be happy to masturbate her at any time she so desires. My rule is no intercourse. Again, that's not why I'm there.

If the subject feels intercourse is a must, then I will decline a meet.

Anything else goes, no holds barred. :-)

I prefer not to have sex during or after a play exam . as I try to keep things as clinical and realistic as I can

I agree a play exam should be as realistic as possible, so no sex, or oral, but a semen sample extraction would be okay

An observed semen sample yes, but no sex.

As the name implies a play exam in my opinion should be based on reality, since a real examination does not incorporate sex , I feel a play exam should not include any sex.

In reality a play exam can go somewhat further and have aspects of sexual response included but it really depends on what the individual having the exams really wants.

No sex but masturbation would be ok.

I agree with RN1993 that sex shouldn't be a part of a play exam, if the exam is supposed to be realistic (which at least for me it really should be). On the other hand, there's always a limit to the level of realism. So after completing a thorough but otherwise mostly realistic exam I will generally tell the patient that I need a semen sample or that I need to assess his response to sexual stimulus and "obtain" the semen sample myself. I consider it an addition to the play exam.

I also generally play with my boyfriend, so in that case the exam often does lead to sex, but only after the realistic exam is over. When playing with other people, we have never had sex with them afterwards, except for the semen sample.

In my own experience of play exams, which is quite considerable, because the examination is very intimate the woman does become sexually aroused. There's no point in going to the trouble of having one if you don't find the experience pleasurable. And because of that an orgasm or two is normally given by manual stimulation. It can be called a sexual heath check or a sexual response test, if you will, but women want that pleasure to complete the experience for them. What doesn't happen is more intimate contact like kissing, cuddling, and sexual intercourse. That only happens when the examination is being done by the woman's husband or partner.

I think I would be disappointed if no sex followed the exam. But a handjob would be ok for me. But I think - at least for me, that ejaculating is the peak of the exam. But maybe I have misunderstood something 😃

My first play session was with a lady that absolutely did not want sex. It is detailed in a story I wrote here but we met for a specific session we worked out in advance. She said she would replay it when she got home although she did have an orgasm during some of the sessions. I think that is up to the partner.

What percentage of play exams involving a male doctor and a female patient end up with the two participants having sex during or after the exam? I have had many fantasies about this kind of role play but it seems that it would be very difficult to keep sexual desires in check. Is there generally some kind of “pre-exam” agreement between parties in this kind of play? This question has probably been asked before, but as a new member of this group, I’m most curious about it.

In a play exam with my husband, I expect my sexual arousal and response patterns to be tested by manual and oral masturbation to orgasm and a good hard fucking to finish off the exam because the prior orgasms make me want to get fucked. It's also "payment" for the exam.

At a play party, other people may thoroughly examine me but they are not allowed to touch my genitals with their mouth or sex organs. I AM NOT A WHORE! 😁 😁 😁

@SwitchableSusie wrote,

At a play party, other people may thoroughly examine me but they are not allowed to touch my genitals with their mouth or sex organs. I AM NOT A WHORE! 😁 😁 😁

Just how turned on do you get at these 'play party' gatherings and are those who examine you thoroughly allowed to masturbate you? And if they are not and you get very sexually aroused and just have to 'have it' does your husband 'make payment' for the exam(s)? Right there and right then in front of the party goers?

I'd like to know because I AM A WHORE 😁 😁 😁 and don't particularly care to 'delay gratification'. 😈

@Ms_Lila, I get very turned on when we have an S&M party. It's not a crowded event, just a handful of couples we have known for 15-25 years. I like all the people and we do turn each other on and they are allowed to masturbate me. My vagina and rectum is accessible to a number of people we play with using toys or their hands, but the only penis filling my vagina or rectum for many years has been my husband's.

@Ms_Lila, I get very turned on when we have an S&M party. It's not a crowded event, just a handful of couples we have known for 15-25 years. I like all the people and we do turn each other on and they are allowed to masturbate me. My vagina and rectum is accessible to a number of people we play with using toys or their hands, but the only penis filling my vagina or rectum for many years has been my husband's.

Thank you very much @SwitchableSusie I really wanted to know. Have you been 'into' the S&M for 15-25 years or just have known the couples for 15-25 years? I ask because my husband and I are fairly new, less that 5 years, maybe less, into or intimate with other couples. I am not counting my, once, long standing relationship with another woman, but there were no threesomes with her or my husband.

As a matter of fact my joining zity.biz is probably the 'official' beginning of our 'sexploration' in earnest.

@Ms_Lila said

Thank you very much @SwitchableSusie I really wanted to know. Have you been 'into' the S&M for 15-25 years or just have known the couples for 15-25 years? I ask because my husband and I are fairly new, less that 5 years, maybe less, into or intimate with other couples. I am not counting my, once, long standing relationship with another woman, but there were no threesomes with her or my husband.

As a matter of fact my joining zity.biz is probably the 'official' beginning of our 'sexploration' in earnest.

I have been into S&M since I was in my early teen years--around 11-15 when I started tying up my friends with my jump ropes, later going to the hardware store and buying 100 feet of sash cord. I liked bondage. My parents got a little concerned when they would come home and see a kitchen chair in the den with all the rope around it or a restrained person sitting in the chair and they questioned me in the beginning. I was told that everybody better keep their clothes on because they knew there were a few times where I was naked, like at my friend's middle school graduation party when I was 14. My mother knew what I was doing and my father told me to keep my pants on. I got very good at tying people up and I liked that I could control them by tying them to the kitchen chairs or their hands behind their backs or hog-tying them. In the early years, they kept their clothes on, but by the end of high school I was regularly tying up my boyfriends naked, defiling them and having sex with them.

We met the people we play with in college, graduate school and at TES, but we haven't been active there in years.

@SwithcableSusie wrote

I got very good at tying people up and I liked that I could control them by tying them to the kitchen chairs or their hands behind their backs or hog-tying them.

Isn't that cowgirl? 😉 And would you have or have you become interested in Shibari or Kinbaku-bi?

What is TES?