Gender and enemas

P.S. to my previous post (37). My experience is that enemas are sooo much about feelings and nurturing. Those rare times giving enemas to my husband and daughters, I've had a "Motherly feeling" that maybe only a woman can explain. Getting a huge hug of relief afterwards from older daughter or putting hubby back to bed feeling better, gives me an emotional high. And it's especially nice when he's pulled me close and slipped my nightie bottoms off. I'll leave the rest to your imagination. 😃

Pierre67 has touched on something I have thought about for years. Little girls usually learn at an early age that the vagina is where babies come from but we are told the anus is dirty and off-limits. So, why does it feel so darn good when you stick a soapy finger in there while in the bathtub? And, other than a thermometer, isn't an enema nozzle one of the very few things that are intended to go in there? I believe that man or woman, if you have anal erotic tendencies, an enema is one way of scratching that itch. Don't you think?

One glance at the membership role here would strongly suggest that enemen outnumber enewomen at least 10 to 1

One glance at the membership role here would strongly suggest that enemen outnumber enewomen at least 10 to 1

I would be willing to bet that is the case with any sexually charged/adult oriented website. Nothing specific to enemas per say.

How does it matter. Who ever enjoys it will go for it.

I have no idea? I'm one of those enewomen and I certainly being one!

This seems like a simple question but since anuses are not gender specific perhaps the question is whether men or women are more apt to be anal eroitic or aware of their anal eroticism

Until the late 1970s women were actually ENCOURAGED to douche.

Once the equipment is in our hands, go figure!!

Women are more likely to have a "kindred spirit" to talk to about such things while men are more likely to be alone in such things (except perhaps for male homosexuals). So this sort of forum is an only outlet for many men.

I think it is 50:50 with F:M.... Even though women used to say about it between each other, while men would rarely did it. Men used to reveal their secrets usually on the internet as some kind of anonymity form.

For so many , many years I thought that I was somehow ' weird ' and / or I was in a very small number that really ' enjoyed ' the erotic enema or enemas in general for that matter . I grew up in a nurturing ' enema home ' environment in the decade of the 1950's and yes .......... I am male . I think that men who enjoy enemas are more vocal as to their proclivity for an enema and we ' klismos ' are fortunate to have a ' safe and welcoming ' site such as ' zity.biz ' as a forum to share our histories and present activities . That being said , I have over my lifetime discussed , very tactfully , the subject of enemas with a number of women in all different age brackets . I think that while there are many women who have a real affinity for the enema ' out there ' that they as a group are much more private as to their personal enema activities . I am glad that the ladies on this website are vocal and like to share with our site audience both men and women . We know that both sexes have ' that little rosebud ' in common and also can articulate the health benefits , eroticism , emotional and psychological pleasure that our collective enjoyable pastime can bring . I have so often wondered how many ladies I have come into contact with in my life both professionally and personally who may in fact enjoy an enema as much as I do ............ I ( we ) will never know the answer to that thought as our ' hobby ' is still a ' taboo ' subject to the general public as to how anyone , guys' or gals ' , could ever ' enjoy ' any aspect of an enema however we who are members of this website see the scenario much differently .

In my opinion, more men than women

Hard to say, but still my impression is that a certain part of the enjoyment for men comes from the stimulation of the prostate. Even though there are some other aspects related to enemas that make us love them that is purely male.

In addition I would suspect that men are more prone to explore non-conventional way of having seual fun that women. At least on average. Of course this would not exclude that there are many women who enjoy a lot of things, but still I would assume that men do this more.

So my bet is that yes, men who enjoy enemas (and suppositories) are probably more than women. But both men and women are so grateful for having this forum where they can freely share their passion!!!

I think women enjoy enemas as much as men. However, I think women are generally more private about it.

Probably hard to know since its not something that is discussed openly, but from my own experiences I would say more women us enemas than guys. I travel for my job, so my response is based on co-workers I have shared hotel rooms with when working.

Im actually curious if anyone can suggest a way to determine the best answer to this question. Any thoughts from others?

Ellie

@shorefun, I think it may be even harder since heterosexual anal play has only recently come out of the closet. For generations, anal play was presumed to be the province of gay and bisexual men. Gay men still talk about their "mangina," which is idiotic, unless you call a woman's anus her "2ndGina." The reason that men discuss their "mangina" is the pleasure they get. Only recently, and only in forums like this, do straight men openly discuss the pleasures they receive from anal stimulation. It's a huge male taboo.

I suspect you gals are correct in your assessment. I do believe that age may influence the gender aspect. Back in the good old days, enemas were a very common treatment for many different maladies and were given upon admission in most medical or clinical circumstances. In other words, most of us of a certain vintage, experienced enemas in one way or another.

In today's world, enemas are much less common and many younger folks never had the pleasure, or the displeasure depending on perspective. It would seem that females are more concerned about health and diet issues, than most guys. To the extent that the raw food and natural health crowd may be more likely to use detoxification methods, I'd speculate that more women are using enemas today.

It would be my opinion that we guys, who use and enjoy enemas, may get more sexual/sensual satisfaction because of our equipment packages. You gals may find enjoyment, but likely have a stronghold on your guys if you indulge in these extracurricular activities.

When growing uo I had many more girlfriend who got enemas than boyfriends but not sometimes I talked bout with boyfriends when younger.

I am guessing here but I think that Lisa pointed out it is the same equipment for douching so females are already familiar with it. I know it is all out of favor now but growing up I think the girls got more at our house due to menstrual cramps and constipation that seemed to accompany that time of the month.

I am female but have no interest in taking enemas. I was constipated when I was pregnant and my sub gave me enemas to keep things moving. Hated the feel of an enema. They just didn't make me feel sexy or horny.

Which is a big disappointment for my sub because he loves and enjoys getting enemas. But he would love to put a hose up my ass for sexual fun, not alot but occassional. It just is not going to happen . . . yet.

I can only go by my experience and different partners to make a guess to the question. Most of my woman partners never flinched or seemed repulsed when I brought the idea of them giving me an enema. On the other hand, when I brought up the subject of me returning the favor, a majority declined.

beebe

There are 2 possible reasons why it would be disproportionately men..

Either Klismophelia is something you are born with and is carried on the X chromosome , and men with one X chromosome will show it any time it is there, where as women will only show it if it's on BOTH X chromosomes like it is with me

OR it's not directly genetically linked and social norms come into play I KNOW that as a middle school student it is much more acceptable for girls to "experiment" with laxatives than it is for boys So girls have the option both among their peers and generally of taking laxative when boy really don't

Remember, I've known the boy who became my husband since we were both crawling and not even walking.

I always had that one close friend who was a boy, and he had that one close friend who was a girl

Being female, I know more females who use enemas than males, so I was surprised when I saw how many males belong to this site. Actually was VERY nice to see that! I travel for my job and spend more nights in hotels than I want to think about so its just part of my job, however is also creates more opportunities to use enemas with co-workers when sharing hotel rooms

I'm not buying the genetic defect makes you a klismo theory. I was given enemas at a very young age and it imprinted me just like a lot of other folks on here. I don't believe I would have the kink today if not for that fact. A lot of folks here are anally inclined, Petal was that way and her first enema was in her 40's. She sure made up for lost time though.

As shorefun said in #117, I believe more women will admit to each other that they take enemas although most of them will claim they do it for health reasons.

I also had the opportunity to travel for work and spent many a night in my hotel room with my bag. Sometimes I travelled alone, sometimes with one or more co-workers. If I had travelling companions we always had separate rooms and none of them were invited to participate.

I doubt very much that klismaphilia is determined by a single gene. If this were so, there would be evidence of a Mendelian-type pattern of enema preference in family members. The gene would be either dominant (requiring only one copy from either parent) or recessive, requiring a copy from both parents. If the gene was sex-linked, i.e. associated exclusively with either the X or Y chromosome, the story would be slightly different, but an inheritance pattern would still be evident.

I also doubt that klismaphilia could be determined even by a complex of genes.

I suspect it is environmentally and maybe culturally determined by exposure to enemas during critical periods of development.

Candace Pert's book 'Molecules of Emotion' besides being very readable and entertaining, hints at some of the links between sexual development and bowel function.

I suspect it is environmentally and maybe culturally determined by exposure to enemas during critical periods of development.

Candace Pert's book 'Molecules of Emotion' besides being very readable and entertaining, hints at some of the links between sexual development and bowel function.

I agree with this assessment wholeheartedly. I think there are certain critical periods of development and depending on your inputs during those times determine whether you will be a klismo or a mass murderer. There are no genes related to this other than maybe the ones around your ankles as the hose goes in!!

Historically all of the paraphilias (klismaphilia being only one of many), men dominate the ranks. I do see more women online these days that will admit to liking enemas though. I know we'd like to think that klismaphilia is more popular than it is, but it's not. It's pretty rare.

Also, people dont' do enemas like they used to. I can remember when during a stay in hospital, there was a pretty good chance you'd be getting a soapy enema or two if you stayed very long as a patient. It used to be somewhat routine before most surgeries.

I had two given to me When I was having my tonsils out. the nurse told my mom that an enema was routine before most surgical procedures. Because mine was tonsils, she wasnt' going to do it until she did an abdominal and rectal exam and found I actually was constipated.

Two soapy buckets later, I was cleaned out, or so I thought. My mom stayed in the room the whole time, asking questions and hovering over me. She asked for and got an extra enema set to take home and use on me. That's probably why I have an affinity for the plastic bucket style enemas. I hadnt' had one for a long time, but found out last year that they do still use them, but rarely in hospital.

I"d told the nurse that I was a bit constipated. My record shows a 'high intolerance for most oral laxatives - esp stimulants. I was given a suppository, that didn't work. I laid and waited for another hour or two. Finally the nurse came back in and said ,

"Dr wants me to start an IV, then he wants me to do an enema"

I got one of those disposable Fleet type which also did nothing. My nurse told me there 'wasn't a lot more we could do tonight that we haven't done. I asked about bigger enemas. She said that large volume enemas are 'kind of a last resort' were 'extremely uncomfortable' and I 'wouldn't like them' but she said she would do them if I wanted to go that route. I told her to go ahead. She went to get the Drs order but he was off shift and the attending who replaced him didn't want the liability so he refused to order large volume enemas. He did order a mineral oil enema though.

A tech gave me the oil enema and I really liked it. I had to keep my butt in the air for over an hour to allow the oil to flow 'far up into the bowel'. I was waiting for what I thought would be soapsud enemas but was discharged instead. I inquired about SSE's but was told that Dr felt I"d had enough enemas and wouldn't order more.

I went home and took a nap. I was awakened after a couple of hours by the phone. It was the hospital. They said there had been a mix up and I was to return to hospital immediately. I thought it was some paperwork to sign or something. Imagine my surprise when the receptionist loudly called across the room " to let me know that The former Dr had ordered SSE's after the oil, but that order was misplaced.

Long story short, I got 2 large soapy enemas, my bowels opened ofter the 2nd

This time I got an extra one to take home because the first one the nurse took out was missing the soap packet.

Moppys jalopy wrote ...I was given enemas at a very young age and it imprinted me just like a lot of other folks on here. I don't believe I would have the kink today if not for that fact. A lot of folks here are anally inclined, Petal was that way and her first enema was in her 40's. She sure made up for lost time though.

I think anally inclined is really insightful. I had no enema experience and very little knowledge about them until my 30s when I discovered I enjoyed giving one to my partner. It's like our fetish is a dormant part of being human & just waiting to get out 😁

Long story short, I got 2 large soapy enemas, my bowels opened ofter the 2nd

This time I got an extra one to take home because the first one the nurse took out was missing the soap packet.

I've had several similar cases with self-given enemas. First one just came out with water, but I was glad I persevered because eventually it got up far enough to open the bowels. Once even took 3 times. Enemas may not be nice, they may require skill to give optimally, and they may be embarrassing, but they sure do work.