Gender and enemas

From what I've seen and read, there are very few people at all taking enemas, at least in the US today. Fleet enemas are pretty popular (at 21 I worked in a drug/variety store. I always got a charge when a young female some with mother in tow, purchased Fleets.

I do see a lot of webpages about coffee enemas, and colonics.Maybe they're making a comeback of sorts, what do I know. I'm no expert, just interested

Why this male preference for enemas? Women know what it is to be penetrated. With priority to the rules and the buffers and then with sex. But the men are only rarely penetrated except medically with suppositories and catch of temperature. Also, it seems to me, the enemas with the cannulae and probes, are a means "medical" to feel an object we "return" inside !!! Apart from the dildos and other enjoyments gays. I am sure that number of straight men must succumb to these intimate pleasures covered the veil of modesty of the constipation or medical aid by the anus with the enema.

Your opinion ??

I think it's a lot closer to even than you think. Sexually i think men use them more but for hygiene and health a lot of women use them but are more conservative about it. Plus there are always the awful society expectations about what women are and are not supposed to like

Several years ago, I penned a letter for an enema publication regarding the use of enemas by the two genders. My hypothesis was then and still is that women receive far more enemas than men. Now I am fully cognizant that there are way more men on this site or any enema site than women but indulge me for a few minutes and let me make my points.

First, during my high school and college years, I worked in my father's drug stores. It was extremely rare for a male to buy any type of enema device whether it be a syringe or even a fleet. Whereas it was the exact opposite with females. Therefore, I think it is a safe assumption that more women have enema apparatuses in their possession than men. Granted they may be used for feminine hygiene but I have never seen a syringe or combination apparatus come without a rectal nozzle. Furthermore, does it not stand to reason that one who used water on one orifice would be more likely to use it on the other?

Second, females are constipated more than males for myriad reasons. This is a medical fact.

Third, females will look for a solution more readily than males. My husband will have to half dead before he looks for a remedy to even a cold or flu. I'm popping cold pills, Aspirin, Vitamin C, etc the minute I feel like I am coming down with something. My friends tell me that their husbands are the same.

While I believe that more males find enemas erotic, I believe that far more females use enemas than males.

Ddell2: Just a little note, but I believe that in the 1990s in the US I saw douche-only bags.

I posted previously on this subject. It was likely in a thread concerning the buying, or acquisition of enema/douche equipment. We guys generally have a reputation to uphold. It wouldn't be "macho" for one of us to be discovered buying enema related items. That's why we seem to be overly embarrassed.

Additionally, we are likely expected to put up a fuss at the prospect of getting "hosed". That includes at home or in the hospital or clinic. We keep our enjoyment of this simple procedure pretty well hidden. This probably contributed to many lost opportunities in our past.

Women, on the other hand, having been the de facto caregivers for kids, themselves, and certainly for us hardheaded egotistical guys, engaged with relative impunity. Even if we secretly enjoyed, or tolerated such procedures in the safety of our own bathroom, there was still an unwritten expectation to resist such things as unmanly.

The women could purchase, and certainly possess those wonderful rubber implements, without concern of ridicule. They might even be held in high esteem, as was my mom to the neighbors and relatives, with her knowledge of the finer points of health and hygiene. Even if the sexual attraction was discrete, there were many good excuses for a good enema.

I certainly hold all of you in "high esteem" who appreciate those simple pleasures and keep this simple procedure available. Even if the prospects of sharing such fun, are fading.

Ddell2: Just a little note, but I believe that in the 1990s in the US I saw douche-only bags.

While I don't question your memory, I will say that I have never seen one. Even the Shy Syringe, a syringe without a hose i.e. bag and nozzles, came with vaginal and rectal nozzles. You might be thinking of a bulb syringe, which occasionally came with just a vaginal nozzle.

Ddell2 said, "While I believe that more males find enemas erotic, I believe that far more females use enemas than males."

I agree with this statement. We women are more likely to use enemas regularly than men because we were far more likely to get them for constipation or otherwise while growing up. However, I think those men who do use enemas are more likely to write (brag?) about them here as sort of a sexual conquest. Based on stories and videos on this site it looks to me that men are more likely to give enemas to a woman than to receive one. Am I wrong? Is it just a perception because it is men making the videos and writing the stories?

It is only my opinion but I think age has something to do with it . Those of us who grew up in the 50's had a lot more exposure to enemas and got them. Possibly ladies who did become attracted are a bit more reluctant to talk about it .

Cheryl and some of the other ladies I think have provided some useful insights. While us guys like to talk about enemas, it is the ladies who are the most experienced. It wasn't until I thought about what some of the posts had to say that I realized that my wife probably takes 10 times the number of enemas that I do. Not only that, but when I take one it is probably at her urging if not outright administering.

Well it is interesting. I do enemas, my sister and her girlfriend do enemas. A girlfriend started me on enemas. I have started a few other girls on enemas. I think it is just not talked about by women as much as men.

I think women are more likely to discuss enemas between siblings and close friends than men are. However, I do think that when enemas are discussed by women it is likely to have some sort of "healthful" aspect to it as in needed for constipation or menstrual cramps, or whatever. I think few women will admit to others that they take enemas purely for pleasure.

Men (me included) tend to look at enemas not as a health thing but as a kind of kinky sex, whether for solo masturbation or giving to someone else. I will admit my female enema partners are nearly non-existent, but I can dream. And I think men even more than women are reluctant to admit to friends they enjoy an enema. Spouses or partners excluded.

I think it's pretty self-evident as why enemas are more likely to be erotic to males than females. Some of the reasons are as follows:

1) Enemas in a family setting are usually administer by female (mother, grandmother and aunt) so for a male the enema is being administered by the opposite sex with a female same sex.

2) Males are more easily aroused than females. I don’t think that I will get an argument on that from either gender.

3) The more instrument or spot of male arousal is more exposed than that of a female. No matter what position the enema administer is usual the penis is coming into contact with something. If it’s over the knee, which is common, it’s a warm lap of leg. If the position is over the seat or tub it’s still in contact with an object although cool instead of warm. With the knee chest or left lateral position it’s still being exposed to air. Now with a female the clitoris is concealed or protected but lips so it’s not as readily exposed to the environment.

4) And probably the most important, is the prostate gland. Warm water directly running over the gland that is responsible for male ejaculation has to be stimulating. I would think. Of course, I don’t know because I don’t have one. Now it could be argued that a female’s G-spot could be stimulated by the nozzle or warm water but the stimulation wouldn’t be direct. While I won’t argue this point, I will tell you this of all the enemas that I have had in my life. I have never felt any stimulation to my G-spot

Good analysis, ddell2. Have to agree with all of that. I'm convinced many of us senior guys were introduced to enemas by mothers or grandmothers that were matter-of-fact about being cleaned out. Being completely naked, in a totally exposed position, multiple insertions of the bulb enema together with the surge of warm water, and encouraging conversation and praise on a more-or-less frequent basis at an early age will surely leave a lasting impression. Later it was the family combination syringe that provided just the right amount of slow and steady pressure. Couple all that with a spontaneous dry orgasm or ejaculation and it's not too hard to understand a guy's enema fetish. Your final point about the prostate hit the bulls-eye. The enema-induced ejaculation is world class.

I know that erotic enjoyment from enemas is not a males-only club, but I do believe we are by far the majority.

I think it is safe to say that most of us "seniors" were first given enemas by our mother, grandmother, or other close family member with the intent of curing constipation or some other ailment we had. And most of us claimed to hate those early enemas. Even some like me that did not actually hate them claimed to hate them to friends just because nobody was supposed to like enemas.

But somewhere along the line our so called hate turned to love. Even those of you who describe very embarrassing and painful enemas as a child continue to give yourself enemas as adults when you don't have to. Why? Of the millions of children of the 50's, 60's, and 70's who received enemas as children only a small percentage of us continue to do it when we don't have to, just because we like it. The general public would consider us freaks of a sort. And I think that goes for men and women although maybe not equally. That is something I have never heard a good answer on.

Cheryl, a very accurate description of our experiences in life.

I would agree with cheryll. I was given enemas by mom and grandmother. She is correct that a fascination developed with enemas and being given one. If I heard the word enema mentioned I would always get butterflies in tummy. The sight of the bag drying in the bathtub was chance to peek at it. I also always complained but hoped to get one.

Cheryl brings up a good point. Most people would not have an enema unless a doctor ordered it, but some of us do it all the time because we somehow like it . What clicks in our mind to allow us to like something most people hate?

Do you suppose some mothers who enjoyed the erotic side of enemas deliberately decided NOT to give their kids enemas because they were afraid their kids would like enemas too much?

. . . . What clicks in our mind to allow us to like something most people hate?. . . .

I do not think we do something other people hate as much as we like something other people are too repressed and hung up to enjoy.

There is a psychological and developmental aspect that influences our attraction to enemas. While those aspects may have been indicative of something going a bit haywire when we were young, as we matured and eventually overcame any deficiencies, the attraction actually transformed into a very positive aspect of our overall well being.

In other words, rather than hating the procedure, we learned to find intense enjoyment from that simple procedure. Aren't we klismos actually far better off than everyone else...in the long run?

I do not think this is a question that anyone can really answer due to how many people would deny enjoying Enemas even if they do.

Enemas stimulate the prostate for a male.

A (sort-of) scientific investigation appeared in "Psychology Today" a while ago. Some interesting statistics and examples. (Even mentions KInsey report finding women who get erotic pleasure from enemas, but not men. Guessing back then -- early 1950's -- men would be hesitant to admit it). https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/in-excess/201403/behind-enema-lines

Hoseman, thanks for the article, very informative and a good read. I actually learned a few new things, and appreciate the references at the end.

And... I suspect that women enjoy enemas as much as men, but may be more discrete about expressing such pleasure in public.

@ShamamE I believe the contrary is true in real life. I can't fathom men sitting around the card table even mentioning enemas. The following is a conversation verbatim as I close as I can recall it of my regular foursome a few years back.

Betsy, a woman in her early 50's and usually my playing partner: "I felt so bloated yesterday that I just gave myself an enema."

The oldest woman of our foursome in her 60's like me. "Good God! I haven't had an enema in years."

Me, mimicking a line that I once her Kathy Lee Gifford say on Regis: "You don't know what you are missing. Pause. "All you got to do is grin and B A R E (Spelled out.) it!" Everyone laughed.

The youngest member (Early 30's) of the foursome and the boldest: "Yes, you got to keep those passageways open for you never know when are going to get a visitor." Pause, a little shock then some laughter.

Me: "Care to elaborate?"

The youngest member: "Don't act naive with me, Dee."

End of conversation.

Ddell2 - tres amusant!

I think men may be more persistent in this setting. I think anal play and enemas are both physical and mental. Anatomy plays a role for men - and for me!

My girlfriend and sisters take monthly period enemas to relieve cramps and to prevent constipation. They also enjoy them for the sensual pleasure. I enjoy inserting a straight nozzle just far enough so that it stays in and I feel the warm water rush past my prostate or my girlfriend will insert a douche nozzle connected to a Higgenson syringe and pump me up so that I feel the spurts of the warm, soapy enema against my prostate. Often such an enema will result in an ejaculation by itself.C

The women, in my opinion, know that is the introduction of a sex in her. But the men(people)? Except a thermometer, nothing else to insert. Normally. The rectal injection authorizes this sensation of penetration and, according to the size of cannulas, to vary the pleasures. WHO shares my opinion(notice)?