Gender and enemas

I'd have to agree that the number of women and men who enjoy enemas is probably nearly equal, but men are more apt to be motivated to get on a forum and talk about it it. A very difficult thing to quantify until the government makes it part of the census 😉

I have never met a man who admitted to being in love with enemas. I have known two girlfriends who were into enemas. One even had her blue enema bag hanging in plain view in her bathroom. Maybe women who are into enemas are more open about it.

I think it's more men than women because men are always looking for additional pleasurable ways to masturbate, and once you have experienced the annal stimulation and flow of warm water past your prostate, you're hooked. In almost all the threads in this forum, men talk about masturbating and having terrifically satisfying orgasms as part of their enema experiences.

I suspect we'll never really know for sure. Fun to speculate and exchange opinions on who does them more.

The job of care giver has tended to fall to the females of a group.

When enemas were a standard part of care giving, that alone made it unsexy.

Female orgasm was not even accepted as real until the mid 20th century. It was the late 20th century before that acceptance was universal.

I got a colonic every quarter, between 2008 and 2014, till the lady that owned the clinic moved to Washington State in late 2014. In one of many conversations we had, while receiving a colonic from her, I ask, if she does more men than women, and was told, "two thirds of my business is women, and only a third men".

We also talked about enemas and colonics and who was doing them in this day and time. She told me, 60 per cent were women and of those women, half or more were age 40 or younger, and of the younger group of women, about a third to a half were bring their kids in for a colonic and giving them enemas at home. Therefore, I'd say, more women are doing enemas than men, but that they don't talk about it, they keep it private.

No one knows for sure, but let's be real. By virtue of our physical differences and needs, we endure regular invasive exams with speculums and lovely scopes. Our GI tract varies slightly from men and thus is more prone to constipation. (According to my former colon therapist.) We suffer from IBS issues more than men and a radiology nurse told me recently that most of the barium enemas they still give are done on women.

We exist in monthly cycles for much of our lives that affect our physical and emotional states. It's a well accepted fact that women make or influence most of the health related decisions in American families. In general, we are more health conscious and aware of our bodies. Traditionally, even as times change, the vast majority of nurturers and caregivers are women.

I have nothing against men. I love you guys, especially my guy!! However, on this question, I'm suggesting that enemas are still more of a woman's domain. Accepting of arguments to the contrary. ?

Hey Rick! --where did she move to in Washington State....I'm in Bellevue, a suburb of Seattle. OVER

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Interesting this topic "woke up".

Surely Masters and Johnson or some more recent researcher has statistics on rates of male and female klismaphelia. (If anyone finds links to any authoritative clinical research, please post. Looks like most psychologists see it as a mostly male phenomenon.) There are also a lot of people who do enemas and colonics for health reasons. Those folks likely wouldn't hang out on this site. I suspect the health folks are heavily female. I do the occasional colonic and my provider has told me that her clients are 4-to-1 female. Of course, one could argue that even the "healthies" probably derive some sexual pleasure from enemas rather they acknowledge it or not.

Women have always been the enemas givers, as kids who did we get our first enemas from? Correct, "women... aka our moms". I think what you see in the clinics today is near the correct numbers for women to men doing enemas at home for any reason. That being from 60 to 75 per cent, women to men. What is interesting, is what the lady I got my colonics from said about the women who came to her clinic that had kids. About half were bring their kids in for a colonic from time to time, plus giving their kids and themselves enemas at home. As for the other half with kids that got colonics that didn't bring their kids in for a colonic, they too where given themselves as well as their kids enemas at home. It's just a subject that people today don't talk about, because it's not main stream, like it was from the 20's through the early 80's. I can remember seeing training films, while in service, during first aid training about how and when to give or take an enema... times have changed!!

I agree with Rick6981 on this topic. My exwife was into enemas. She just thought it was normal, and never mentioned it to very many people. Two of my girl friends were nurses. Neather say much about enemas until I brought it up. So, I feel women are more into enemas and personal health than most men are.

I would suspect that more males are indulging for the sexual aspect. After all, our equipment is likely far more stimulated by the process. I think this goes all the way back to our pre-pubescence. We got quite a charge out of having our package stimulated during the process, whether intended or not.

On the other hand, females are likely more inclined to indulge for the healthy aspect and feelings associated with cleanliness and hygiene. My guess is that their moms didn't have to fight them as often and their resistance was likely quite minimal.

I can only speculate that when it cums to relationships where enemas are shared, more women probably enjoy the tender moments and TLC associated with the process. Many of us guys likely prefer those times where we were engaging in a battle with the person wielding the enema bag. Ultimately, there was a degree of capitulation...even though there was likely a happy ending...all things considered.

I would say more males but maybe not by a wide margin. I think guys who do enemas for erotic pleasure are doing so because of their prostates and being anal erotic in general. I would say women might be doing them more in recent years to prepare for anal sex which has become less taboo as it once does. But all this is pure speculation.

There are so many reasons for doing enemas it is hard to see it as being gender driven. Both sexes do them for the same reasons.

An interesting question, but I don't think we'll ever really know the answer to this question.

I've often wondered if people, especially men and including myself, don't acquire some fondness for enemas early on simply because they happened to have experienced them long before they ever came to grips with their own anal eroticism, and taking an enema was merely a roundabout way of having some backdoor fun that was even considered (at one time) a healthy thing to do.

As a guy but having observed a lot of male attitudes toward anal play I have to side with Vicki. Guys are petrified of being themselves penetrated in any way shape or form but since it's more common for women it's not as big of a deal.

Nothing wrong with defying the norm though and I am glad I do!

Yes for men because of their prostates, and enlarged prostates.

Yes to women who are into the health aspect. We are so eager to talk about it on this site, and ladies are not so eager to talk about it in cyberspace. I wish so much that there were more ladies participating in our "inclinations."

I remember a letter in the paper to an advice column about it.

"No, the gils can't come out to play now. They have to have their enemas".

I went crazy over that one. Since I have never attended one, I understand an enema is a presumed part of a day spa experience. But they won't be joining us. Oh well. A sweet thing that comes on line here has got to get a million inquiries???!!!

Everyone have a good day!

Certainly males are more open about it, as they are with most things sexual, no surprises here.

I've talked every woman I have had a relationship with into trying them, and most would happily engage in occasional to frequent enema play.

Sadly, the one I married loved them for about 4 years, then one day said I'm not taking or giving enemas anymore. This was after full desclosure about my sexuality.

So, I collected porn, and paid for colonics and erotic enemas. She knew what was going on, and looked the other way. I even shot enema videos for about 6 years.

When I finally said I wanted a divorce she decided to out me to everyone we knew, went so far as to serve me with a restraing order for alleged physical abuse on Valentine's Day! She wasn't a very good liar and the judge threw it out.

So happy to be free, enjoying life.

As a friend says, in my case at least, "women are like heavy equipment, cheaper to rent than to own."

I'm sorry if I have offended with that comment, but at this point in my life I'm happy to pay for an occasional colonic, or a lady that is willing to be on the receiving end, cameras rolling or not.

Most men are programmed to have the 10, 15, or 20 minute daily ritual BM, associated with coffee, the newspaper, magazine or tablet. The whole event is looked upon as part of the day and a must do thing. Most are regular and the sensation and event give them that anal fixation. Once they branch out for anal play, whether it be massage, toys, enemas or anal sex, they find the stimulation pleasurable and want it or more or it. If they can't find it at home, they look elsewhere. Sometimes it's with another male, a guy thing with no strings attached, sometimes paid for as in a colonic, a dom, a play event with strings or no strings attached with a male or fe. Some explore the same sex attraction, others have no interest and are only attracted to the opposite sex.

Once a person gets an enema it's a love or hate thing. It's all about the sensation in the anal region. If your having bowel issues or constipation is one thing, the erotic feelings another. It's all about personal fun and pleasure. Some explore, others never touch the subject or the fun.

I really like signing on and reading the various posts, but I have to agree then most men have a morning BM as part of their ritual. I know I do and all it takes is a good cup of coffee and reading the Wall Street Journal for about 15 minutes and I'll find myself in the bathroom for my constitutional. I am seldom constipated and it does not matter where I am because this event happens at the same time of day every day.

My wife is the opposite end of the spectrum and may or may not have a daily BM, if she does it can come at any time of the day, and it should be no surprise that she has her bouts with constipation. Sometimes that constipation is associated with her menstrual cycle and more often than not her remedy is an enema. We've had an enema bag for as long as we've been married and my guess is that 99% of the enemas from it have been for her and not me.

I don't know if it has been said before, but I am going to hang it out there; I have numerous friends of varying sexual persuasions, and after numerous conversations with both transgender and gay male friends, I am certain that more males are doing enemas...for the simple reason that they all made the same comments as a general statement, I do enemas as a prep for anal sex , as a prep before going out for the night cruising the bars, etc. Almost everyone has told me that they have a showershot enema system hanging in their shower for this purpose...now I know that this is not the enema lover's idea of an enema, but it is technically an enema.

Anyway, my opinion.

. . . .Almost everyone has told me that they have a showershot enema system hanging in their shower for this purpose...now I know that this is not the enema lover's idea of an enema, but it is technically an enema. . . .

You would be surprised how many enema lovers enjoy a shower shot whether or not they are planning anal sex.

There is no way of telling ... but a lot of people do take enemas.

Look at all of the TV commercials for constipation. Think of how many Fleet and similar enemas are sold ... they package them in 6 packs!.

...and who really cares, or what difference does it make how many people take enemas....

are we not seeking a(one) person (or if you get really lucky, a few) who we can share enema preferences with?

Just because women don't talk much about it, doesn't mean we don't do it. We don't talk about monthly periods either.

I believe there are a lot of both genders who like a good bagful. Just search for places to buy enema equipment. You will find many places that sell many varieties, sizes, colors and accessories. If klismos were such a small percentage, those companies would have no interest in marketing and they certainly wouldn't spend so much on manufacturing and marketing something with a miniscule demand.

The truth be known, I suspect there are a whole helluva lot more people out there who enjoy enemas, either solo, or with a partner, than we all know. Enema's simply aren't a topic that most people bring up in conversation, so we never know where people's heads are at when it comes to liking or disliking enemas. After-all, weren't enemas supposed to be something that were "yucky" when we were younger, and if you enjoyed them, you sure as hell didn't tell anyone that you did, for fear of being called a real weirdo? Enema's weren't taboo in my family, but then neither did we go around taking to anyone about them either. We didn't tell our friends and acquaintances that we enjoyed anal stimulation either, did we? Having said all this, it's probably close to an even split between men and women when it comes to enjoying enemas. In years past. some gals I dated enjoyed anal sex, and some didn't, so for those who didn't, I didn't make an issue about it. Enema's just aren't a real easy topic to bring up with a significant other, unless you feel really comfortable with them, and don't have a fear of rejection.

Yes, it LOOKS like more males are taking them from the posts on Zity, but as Amy K said, females do more personal care in private and don't talk about it. I also think that more males take them for purely erotic reasons, while females seem to include other reasons as well. (Relief of stress, bloating, period cramping, etc.)

I think it is equal. Women are just more discrete about it. And men are just more aggressively looking for it on line.

From what I've read about erotic enemas, it's generally more of an interest to men than women. However, I'm not sure how well researched the topic is. All I know for sure is that I'm a girl and I love enemas.

I'm a guy who likes enemas, but I've given bunches of them to bunches of women over the years. Men may have a wee bit of an advantage, what with having a prostate to stimulate and all, but I've seen lots of women have the time of their lives over the years!