Spreading your legs for the doctor

On my smear test the nurse always asks me to pull up my knees and than let them fall ope as far as they will go. I always hope secretly a doctor would walk in without knocking but never happend.

Like, I have said in another post that my ob/gyn actually does the pelvic/ pap first before a breast exam. So it's a little nervous when he walks in and without seeing him for a year now 3 years he will walk in and then two seconds of small talk then I am asked to open my legs up. It's exciting but nervous at the same time. I never know what's too little or too much. I like and dread it when he asks me to open my legs a little wider.

I get a little embarrased and shy then

Well my doctor always comes in and asked how I am doing and how was my summer etc. Then she checks ear, nose and throat. Then presses my finger nails. Next she checks my heart and the drops my gown in front. She does the breast exam sitting and then lays me back and continues the breast exam. Next she checks my tummy. After that she puts on the gloves while the nurse has me scoot down in position with my feet in the stirrups. Then my doctor will press on my toe nails. Then she will sit down and tell me to relax and let my legs fall to the side and she will sort of guide them. Then she will start down there. I know I posted on this before. She never does the pelvic first so this is basically how it goes.

My yearly gyn exam is very unremarkable. As I have mentioned in the past, my OBGYN and I have known each other since before I was married, he was in his residency and I was doing my MSN. He also delivered both my daughters and we became friends and see each other with our spouses once or twice a year.

I filled out all the usual medical history updates and contact information even though nothing has changed in many years. I was then told which exam room to go to, was given a gown and told to undress and hang up my clothes.

We briefly talked about our children and spouses and the latest happenings in our families. I wore ordinary slacks and blouse plain bikini underwear, but I did have a fresh wax and no mention was made of it.

He took my blood pressure and oral temperature with an oral probe, had me lower my gown and listened to my heart and lungs, carefully listening to each area. He examined my breasts both sitting and lying down. Then he had me lie down on the table and began to gently palpate my abdomen through the gown and listen to bowel sounds. After that was done he had me scoot down and place my feet in the stirrups. He gave me a mirror like he always does and started the pelvic exam. He inserted a speculum and did a Pap. He performed the vaginal exam, parting my labia and inspecting them very carefully. He then inserted his index and middle finger to do the vaginal exam with his right hand and used his left to firmly palpate abdominally. He changed his gloves, re-lubricated his fingers and the recto-vaginal followed. He slowly inserted his fingers making sure I was comfortable the whole time. He had me tighten my pelvic floor muscles and said everything was the way it is supposed to be. He gave me some tissues and said to get dressed. We said good-bye and I went home. . . . all very ordinary!

We said good-bye and I went home. . . . all very ordinary!

Is there supposed to be some sort of reaction other than that?

I kind of figured that the doctor that checks out my nuts or my ass just figures along the lines of, "When the hell will this day get over?" I'm thinking, "How much will the insurance cover and how long will I have to fight with them."

Although unremarkable and as a standard examination it sounds like many members here would have enjoyed being a fly on the wall for Switchablesusie, myself included.

How did the social relationship start of you recall?

That is nice story though, especially as delivered both of your daughters.With my first daughter I would be shocked to learn if the guy is even still alive. He seemed about 70 and in poor health when I met him back then even. With my 2nd I was deemed low risk and delivered under care of a midwife only.

Would be nice to still see the same dr that helped you bring new life into the world sort of growing up together lol.

Yes the spread your legs then scoot down

Scoot your bottom down please and drop your knees to the side. A gentle touch to the inner thigh before opening the labia and starting the examination.

I love exposing myself for the doctor. It is a joy!

I doesn't matter now that I'm post menopause, but when I was in my thirties, I moved, and found a new Gyno. On the first visit she gave me a clipboard, with some basic health questions. One question- Are you sexually active? I ticked yes. Next question- What form of birth control are you using. I ticked none.

I got in to see her, and we sat and chatted a bit. She looked over my answers, and asked if I was trying to get pregnant. I said no. She asked why I wasn't using birth control. I told her I only had anal sex. Very long pause. Then she asked if that was for birth control reasons, and I told her I just preferred it. She seemed a little upset. This was the eighties, and anal sex just wasn't talked about.

She very professionally finished the interview, and a standard pelvic, but she was a little cold, and standoffish.

It's always let your knees relax and open wide..

That first time you expose yourself to the Dr is so embarrassing

"OK, Susi, it is time for your internal. Relax your knees and spread your legs as wide as you can." YUMMY!

I think the word "spread" is one of the sexiest words in the language. I can't even think about spreading peanut butter without getting wet. LOL.

Well said, Susi. that is exactly what tips me off as well. Total exposure, spread wide. yummy

I don't tend to really care for it if it's a female doctor, but a male is a different story. I remember my last exam. I had a make doctor and a female med tech in the room with me. Her presence was ruining it for me. Then I got all embarrassed because the doctor sent her to get the bigger speculum. Ugh. Ok. I'm good. The rest of the exam goes normally, with little to no embarrassment.

I would think that in these days and times, a doctor would be very careful of the terminology he uses. "Spread your legs" would sound a bit out of place to some women... perhaps "let your knees fall apart" would be less aggressive. Also any use of the word "hon" or "dear" or "sweetie" or whatever, would also be cause for concern. Carefully worded sentences are probably the way to go these days.

I love both the comment "Let your legs relax and fall open" as well as "scoot down until you feel my hand." The first time I ever heard the latter statement, I didn't know where to expect said hand. I was quickly educated!

Where does the doctor place his or her hand for you to scoot down towards? Buttock? Vulva? Thigh? Please share more, if you don't mind. Would love to hear more details!

Thank you

Where does the doctor place his or her hand for you to scoot down towards? Buttock? Vulva? Thigh? Please share more, if you don't mind. Would love to hear more details!

Thank you

I have scooted down until feel hand against buttock however now I pretty much scoot down instantly so not needed.

Have had to spread my legs for a nurse twice recently. Had a full sti screening last week and some of the swabs didn't work so had them done again tonight.

Same nurse both times. Last week she told me to put the soles of my feet together and relax my knees and this time she just said to do what I did last week.

This time I was much less nervous because I knew she wasn't taking any vaginal samples. I'm a trans guy and really don't like anything being in there. Urethral swab was a bit uncomfortable but her swabbing my vulva was fine. My dysphoria is mainly around my chest so I quite enjoyed hearing the words and knowing I'd be fully exposed.

I haven't had to "scoot down" recently but the last time I did the doctor's hand touched my buttock

Exactly! "Relax your knees" is way more typical, I think, and it emphasizes the collaboration. My exam is MY exam, for better or worse, and my investment is what make it so compelling for me.....

Most of the time my wife just assumes the position, while having small talk with her doctor, so very little is said about positioning.

The gentle pressure of gloved hands on my thighs, urging them outward just a teesny bit more.... oh, my!

Yes! And having those gloved hands help guide your feet or knees into the stirrups!

Last summer I had my first transvaginal ultrasound, and the doctor made me lie down on the table, without stirrups. He gently pushed my inner thigh, spread my labia and inserted the probe. It helped me relaxing, it was a more delicate approach than "spread your legs a little bit more" 😄

Yes I love it. Makes me wet.

In a real exam, it still gives me a bit of anxiety, mixed with lets just get this over with. I had so many reproductive issues that I’ve lost count of the number of transvaginal ultrasounds, pelvic exams, uterine biopsies, and other invasive procedures Gyn’s and reproductive endocrinologists have performed.

In a play exam, I would feel a sense of nervous, excited energy if the doctor asked me to spread my legs, drop my knees apart. Bigger turn on if my doctor is assisting to spread my legs/position them as he is asking me to do so.

Oh gosh yes, you are all soo spot on. This is the best part for sure. I like it better not in stirrups, personally. First they pull down your underwear, then if you’re shy they help spread your legs open and you feel a cool breeze and then the warm light, and you feel your labia spread open....

You’re so exposed, embarrassed and vulnerable.

I’ve had it done by a urologist (not a gynecologist, admittedly). It was for a urodynamic test.

I found myself thinking ‘so this is what it’s like for women.’ I must say that it feels like such utter exposure and vulnerability, plus as the patient you are watching the doctor at work, unlike the usual position facing away.

It wasn’t exciting though once the attractive female nurse sat between my legs waiting for the test to end and remove the catheter and rectal probe, I was definitely paying closer attention.

Honestly, that phrase sounds trashy. I’ve been asked to let my knees fall open until I feel his hands, relax and please open my legs a bit more, he needs more room, am I comfortable as possible, please move down more, you know the drill, but never “spread my legs”. I’ve had my GYN put his hands on my knees and help guide my legs to open if I’m tense because of pain or a painful procedure being done. I’ve had him say take a deep breath and take my time if having a painful procedure.