Crying

I can cry during a spanking session only if I am strongly emotionally connect with the spanker.

Condition 1) the spanker must be a female

Condition 2) the spanker must love me and I love her

Condition 3) only the spanker can stop spanking when she thinks is enough.

In this scenario I can cry with hot running tears and are very soothing and liberatory moments.

I don't play pain games only for pain, must be an emotional involvement like memory, feelings, needs and so on.

Happy spanks, folks.

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Only when i was spanked in my teens with dads belt

I don't cry but tears do run down my face when the rattan cane is used. worse with the dalin cane. nasty thing!

Yes during Subspace (with other hits than spanking)

I sometimes will tear up during a spanking. That is a wonderful thing and I come away feeling high and rewarded from the experience. Only on a couple occasions have I actually cried. It something I go into every spanking hopping to repeat. Seems to require a personal connection with the spanker and a good dose of humiliation.As well as a long and hard session.

I get so turned on giving my girlfriend all kinds of spankings, from erotic to just because spanking and even real ones that make her loss her composure, cry and sob. I see it as a gift of submission she gives me. She always has a safe word unless it's a real one she like to get sometimes.

Fortunately, I have a girlfriend who likes it also. She actually turned me on to it and brought out the spanko in me. Is it wrong to admit that I enjoy it? I get so turned on as I watch take her pants down knowing that she has given me full permission to spank her or sometime give her a real one. I have conflicting emotions inside. I don't like woman who are abused but I like spanking my girlfriend now.

Its like is a psychological afrodeysic to me. I love the control aspect, its like asking me to discipline her is the ultimate sign of respect and I feel honored she choose me to have that authority.

The actual spanking is exciting to me also. I mean when I turn her over my knee and it completely consensual I feel so stimulated by the whole experience. Seeing her beautiful bare bottom in front of me knowing she is expecting me to spank her and sometimes until she is crying hysterically is huge rush.

For real ones she always like to to be spanked until she cries really hard. But she has a extremely high pain tolerance so I have to wail on her ass really and fast for a long time to push her over the edge to loose her composer. Sometime with no warm up, she likes the "shock and awe" effects from the start for rhe real spankings. For real one she relinquishes her safe word. She says a real spanking isn't worth taking unless it's unbearable and doesn't make her cry, so she expects me to make her cry hard. She likes the cathartic release about once a month.

Is it wrong to feel good about having that authority and power she gave me. I also really get turned on when I start to spank her usually start out with my hand to start with. I am so stimulated when I see her clench up tight and I see all the muscular definition of her butt cheecks.

It is electifying for me to hear her react and I feel compelled to smack harder and faster. To see her feet fluttering and her ass cheecks are turning red to bright red, its like I go into a trance in my mind. The longer the spanking goes on the more I get turned on and I am not sure if I should feel guilty of that or not?

I have never seen her do the post spanking hop I heard some described but I might bring that up to my Jill. I usually use my belt over my knee for discipline and I feel the powerful sense of authority as I began removing it and I feel extremely respected by Jill as she begins dropping her pants when I order her too.

Is something wrong with me, that after experienced spanking someone that I discovered that I really like it myself? Am I the only guy who feels these things. Or is my girlfriend just weird that she loves the pain of a good sound butt blistering once a month.

I am getting old so the fact that coaches paddled guy's bare butts is a long time ago--It was back in the 60's----Coach paddled guys in the locker room---some guys cried others pleaded---some just took it. While I did not re act much when I was getting paddled bare--it really hurt bad and was humiliating-----yet I did not cry when he was paddling me---After school when I was all alone I cried not just because my butt was sore----I do not know just why I had to cry-----It was an emotional thing I guess---I think it was not pain but embarrassment and suppressed anger---It never failed I had to cry when I was alone--after I took a bare paddling----I am not sure just why

Everyone is right about crying though, for some it’s an emotional condition and some it’s a physical thing. However, I would like to propose it’s preparation, corporation, communication, will power and determination on parts. For me it about mental preparation, determination by both you and my partner. I want to be pushed over the edge about once every other month but I too have a extremely high pain tolerance. In order to get what I fell I need and want, it’s takes a resolve both for me and my boyfriend. It took him over a year to finally get it and to learn how to get me to that point.

I love the age regression but not all the role play. I’m his girlfriend not his daughter and isn’t my daddy. I’m not into being restrained. There’s no sense to force myself into taking something that I’m shouldn’t be will myself into remaining in position and accept. I’m not against him not taking charge some, locking my legs and holding my arm back. But I want to muster the will power to submit to the process. That too is an adrenaline rush and more satisfying to both me and my boyfriend. That’s just us in know everyone is different. But I challenge you consider what I’m about to say give it try.

The preparation is both mental corporation, communication determination for both of you. Once I’ve decided that I want a full blown absolute real age regressive and cathartic sobbing release spanking, I have to willingly give up all my control. This isn’t easy unless you are connected with your partner, for us it’s not about playing anymore, it’s therapeutic but is also cereal. Giving up every bit of control before you start is half the mental battle. It’s a lot easier going into it when I’ve already determine in my heart and mind to give all control over to him. Once you do this it’s easier to allow myself to give in and get that therapeutic cathartic sobbing release I want. It’s scary I know but this translates into complete and unstrained submission to the spanking process. That means no safe word, no swat limit and no time limit. Knowing before we start that I don’t have these controls starts the process. I have to resolve in my heart and know that it’s not going stop until he decides not me. It’s also a commitment and determination on my boyfriend part to make sure he’s going give me the most real and painful spanking he can without holding back. This too is hard for him to do especially because he loves me, but he’s gotten use it when it happens.

The actual spanking is intense and lengthy. I do have a really high pain tolerance and I can relate to MichalC situation with his girl. To make sure we are both in agreement we go over what type of spanking it’s going to while I push everything down to my knees in preparation for going over his knee. I keep everything on to make sure there’s a distinguishing line from anything else. But it is of course on the bare ass, absolutely no protection. Yes, I love this types of spankings too about once every other month or so. My Kevin has gotten pretty good at getting me to that point now. Yes, it means absolutely no warm up and starting right off on a cold bottom. Yes, I ask him to go all in full blown as hard and fast as he possibly can from the very first swat to the very last. Yes, I prefer the shock and awe beginning. It hurts from the beginning but it has too to accomplish our goal. Another thing, we discovered is that the thinner stingy implement are more effective in this case. His choice implement is the flat part of the handle of a bamboo back scratcher from Walmart. This allows him to wail on my backside without breaking. It’s not thick like a big paddle and gives him more control swing it. It’s long and just wide enough to really sting like all get out. It’s not just the intensity that gets me over the edge, it also about duration. He has too commit to keep up that intensity throughout the entire first spanking, until I finally loose my composure. Yes, it takes a pretty dam hard, intense and lengthy paddling to get me crying. But remember we both agreed this would happen before it ever starts. He also agreed that he wouldn’t stop either until I’m crying really hard. Than, I have to laid over the couch and he uses his belt again, until he feels I had enough, no swat limit, safe word or time limit until he feels I had enough not me.

Knowing this before it starts is half the battle lines for a therapeutic cathartic sobbing release I want. It’s preparation, corporation, communication, will power and determination on both our parts. Any thoughts?

In my experience, crying is a release to the mind of the receiver. A spanking of which the recipient has cried has proven to be far more effective and allows the mental release of built up energy, pain, and negative feelings within. When my goal is to invoke that release, I am always sure to get the tears flowing. It is also a sign of submission and relaxing.

I rarely cry during the spanking.. but i will cry after that most of the time...

I think it's a GREAT part of spanking and have spanked dozens of women to tears (which was precisely what they wanted and needed).

On the other hand while I have been paddled hard and long over the years, and while I think a good cathartic cry does one a lot of good, I've yet to cry.

I cried a lot the last time I was spanked hard. I would appreciate any comments https://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=897212

I dont want to be spanked until I cry, I want the spanking to continue while I am crying and sobbing. If he stops just because I am struggling I feel I like I am letting him down. So I make sure he knows to keep going long after I lost my composure.

But I have very high pain tolerance. So the thing is that it take a very long flury of fast furious type of swats to get me to that point. Lately he has been using the flat part of a bammboo backstratcher or a switch.

If it’s a punishment, then I would like to have real tears. Aside the fact that crying releases endorphins and makes you feel better after anyway, it makes the scene more realistic and raw. I’m not into heavy pain by any means, but real tears mean real aftercare and that true punishment has been served, making it all that more real, pleasurable and fulfilling.

I have not cried from a spanking alone, but I look forward to it. I think my partner understands that's where I want to go, but he has a hard time pushing past the involuntary gasps and yelps.... so far.

However, i have sobbed after a particularly intense D/s scene with him and that was awesome.

I think what @Wholover said, sounded so hot (BTW: Cudos for the beautiful avatar @Wholover)

"I have not cried from a spanking alone, but I look forward to it. I think my partner understands that's where I want to go, but he has a hard time pushing past the involuntary gasps and yelps.... so far."

Dang! What a lucky husband to have wife that has your kind of desire!

I have never had a sub who wanted tears during a spanking and I have used everything from bare hand to leather paddles to crops canes and floggers. I guess whatever works

he has a hard time pushing past the involuntary gasps and yelps.... so far.

I understand that. I want to hurt my sub, but don't want to at the same time. No matter what results I'd like to have happen.

I understand that. I want to hurt my sub, but don't want to at the same time. No matter what results I'd like to have happen.

For me, the crying is a release, and usually I want to cry just before a big endorphin rush hits, so continuing past the crying gets very pleasurable.

I sometimes find I wish I'd been spanked harder afterwards, even if in the moment it felt like I was right on the edge. 😃

I've always wanted to but it's never happened. Not for lack of trying. I've had sessions that have last for hours. I'm not sure why I'm unable to. I don't think it has to do with a pain tolerance. Maybe it's a headspace thing. I'm naturally very masculine and dominant but I love being submissive as well so perhaps it's an emotional block that I can't quite get past. Like I can't let go of my assertive masculinity enough to truly be that submissive... even if I'm wearing panties and a skirt and whatever else to make me feel as submissive and feminine as possible. Maybe I haven't had that level of vulnerability with my spankers. Some people cry easier than others, and I think men in general probably have a harder time with it.

The only thing that reliably makes me cry is war movies, and there is nothing kinky or sexy about that, lol.

If anyone has any tips they'd be greatly appreciated.

There are two things I have always wanted: to be spanked until I cry and tickled until I pee myself. Been spanked and even caned once but never came close. As ticklish as I am normally, when I've been in sub mode I am not.

I have read that there needs to be a certain amount of trust and "letting the guard down" before someone can cry, especially for men.

My wife enjoys pain and a good spanking. She even requests a good spanking often along with her back scratched till it almost bleeds. I am having trouble getting her more expressive during. I would like for her to cry more and even tremble and sob and beg me to stop! Of course all in role playing, I make butt red but never really cause permanent marks.

Yes jojo i agree crying in a spanking porno makes it more realistic

Yes, Absolutely. Crying only adds to the scene and everyone knows a good spanking must hurt and be administered on the bare bottom. Also wiggling and kicking legs shows that the spanking is having the POSITIVE affect to the spankee. :-)))))))

A real spanking isn't real unless it brings the person being spanked to tears.

I need the stress relief, so the person who spanks me knows exactly how to spank me in order for me to get to that point.

I have never cried during a spanking. I would like to, but it never seems to happen. If the spanking is hard, I will scream sometimes when the paddle hits my butt, but I have never been spanked to tears. Still, I find that a lot of stress is released when I am severely paddled, and I don’t mind a few bruises.

One of my fantasies is to be spanked to tears. Will it happen? Possibly someday. The problem is that when a woman is spanking me, either over her knee or over a spanking horse. I feel the pain and subconsciously grit my teeth and tell myself I can get through the punishment without shedding a tear. I guess I want to cry, but my mind machos up and won't let me.

I have never cried during a spanking. I would like to, but it never seems to happen. If the spanking is hard, I will scream sometimes when the paddle hits my butt, but I have never been spanked to tears. Still, I find that a lot of stress is released when I am severely paddled, and I don’t mind a few bruises.

Geeze. Plain and simple, you were NEVER spanked hard enough.

Spanking is a regular part of our Dom/sub scene's. About once a month we have a full on mental and physical abuse role play. It usually involves a rough spanking and verbal abuse. I LOVE it. The crying, and mental draining allows me to release anger and negative energy. I cry easily so its not hard to bring me to tears.