CJ1999 said
@SwitchableSusie and @Agasmic Please stop with the women-bashing. He could just as easily empty the account and leave her penniless!! Maybe he wanted and HAD a true partner for life?!?!
If you are married, there is only one POT of money. It doesn't matter if he makes 100% and she makes zero. It's all 50/50. And rightfully so. If that is what THEY DECIDE, that she have no career, raise the kids or not, she gets credit for being part of their partnership! In today's world more men might be doing this -staying at home doing house and family while the woman makes the money. Don't they deserve 50% of the marital assets?? BOTH PARTIES are agreeing to live this away; this is what THEY want to do!!
Do you really think all/most women are just out to sucker men into marriage to screw then and get divorced? Is this what you taught your daughters?? Marry rich and then fuck them over with child support and alimony?? Don't you think SOME if not MOST women have their own brains and self respect to not only be looking at marriage like a payday??
What an awful world you live in. Every woman is out to cheat and screw over men, every single government agency and the entire medical profession is out to get you.., Go ahead, grab your AR15s with a billion rounds of ammo and find yourself a bunker. While the rest of us try to help society and correct the wrongs that have been done and try to prevent them from happening in the future.
I will try to reply point by point, so this may be more of a list than composed paragraphs:
I'm not women bashing, I know what women do and I read the news. MANY women are gold-digging bitches. Being a woman, I have been in countless conversations with women at all stages of life from being teenagers having boyfriends, getting engaged, married and divorced from high school, college, graduate school through the present. Being a man, you don't hear the same things I hear because women wouldn't dare say things in front of a man that we say to each other.
When you are married there is NOT necessarily one pot of money. It depends on your prenups and how one's money is attributed. I really don't know if I know all my husband's assets, but I know enough to feel secure and not worried about our family's financial future. I don't want to sound like I am completely in the dark because I do see bank statements if not the receipts for his toys. He goes to work every day and his income is more than what hiring people to do what I do in running a house would cost.
No, working at home does NOT give a woman a 50% right to whatever the husband brings home--especially if he has a high income--and that goes for me too.
MANY girls/women DO sucker men into marrying them. I'm surprised you have to ask if my daughters are like that. They pay when they go out and did even when they were teenagers. I asked them when they were young, and they told me they paid their share because they didn't want to feel beholden or obligated to have sex with all the people they went out with. They never expected their boyfriends to pay for them. Now 24 and 21 years old, they have both been with their boyfriends since they were each about 15 years old and they share their expenses and have also split the costs with other boys they have been out with. Admittedly, since they are both in college and graduate school, they get their spending money from us, but the girls still pay. They have been brought up to be honorable women and they will both have very good jobs when they finish school. They won't need anyone to support them.
-----The joke about the brother asking his twin sister how she always has the latest electronic toys, music, fancy clothes and always has spare cash on hand when he has none of those things. She replies, "it's simple. You have a girlfriend and I have a boyfriend" rings VERY TRUE.-----
I live in a great world. Everybody knows exactly what is expected of them and that they are responsible for their own futures. I have previously posted our family's 10 Commandments for Children. They are brought up to be very responsible. When they graduate, they will be completely independent and will not need anyone for support. Many women may not start out looking for a nuptial payday, but my how things change when it comes time for a divorce-and women institute 75% of the divorces. I have seen this happen numerous times in my community and a few times with our friends. In couples we know who have gotten divorced, I have always liked the men better and we have stayed friends with them rather than their wives.
I don't fully understand the correlation of this reference you made:
What an awful world you live in. Every woman is out to cheat and screw over men, every single government agency and the entire medical profession is out to get you.., Go ahead, grab your AR15s with a billion rounds of ammo and find yourself a bunker. While the rest of us try to help society and correct the wrongs that have been done and try to prevent them from happening in the future.
The government agencies favor the women by a large margin. How is the medical profession out to get us? I definitely don't get the AR15, ammo and bunker business.
I will say a large portion of society is not worth saving. I confess I am a cynic. My views of society are well founded. My husband and I give very large amounts of money to charities WE decide who are worthy to receive it.
Finally, I dare say your post is made in part to make you look more sympathetic to women since you are looking for a relationship, whereas I am very happy in mine and not looking for any changes in my marriage or other relationships.