Age and attraction.

Why do older wealthy men look more attractive to younger women then poor ones? Do consider this is coming from a 60 year old man on the verge of retirement from a long professional career.

I am very interested in the conversation this thread will stir up. I have often been told it is the good provider instinct of the breading age female of the Human Species. That just does not cut it for me, lend me your thoughts, all the Learned folks of the Great Zity.Biz.

Just as I have said in other posts that men can be pigs at times, so can women.

The "good provider instinct" you mention accounts for part of it, but MOST of it, especially where money is concerned, is LEARNED. Hence, some women just want a sugar daddy and aren't willing to carry their load.

I agree with Susie! Some girls are just no good for nothing gold diggers! It is quite sad for the rest of us young ladies who actually love older men for who they are and don't care about how much money is in the man's pocket! *Sigh* 'Nough said 😃

Money can make life a bit easier at times. But there is more to life than that. Company, friendship, intimacy, support, care, and so much more that money can not truly buy. These are things that are important to me. They just may not be as important to someone else.

Oddly enough, I was just having this conversation the other day with someone. I said something to the effect of how a persons wealth or job greatly influences their "hotness" factor.

The example I cited was Bill Gates. Is he cute? Heck no. Talk about total nerd, geek, and basically ugly, in my opinion at least. But the man is one of the richest in the world and can have any gold digger he wants. If he didn't have money, would any hot chick look at him? Probably not.

Same goes for professionals. I have noticed a few things about doctors for example. Ever notice that often times their first wives are ugly and their second wives or girlfriends are not? My theory is because they were not doctors when they got married. There are just certain professions that when someone is one, their "hotness" factor increases ten fold.

I can't tell you how many times I have been out with the doctor/boyfriend and somehow it comes out that he's a doc. Our seemingly normal waitress suddenly tends to get a bit blushed and lo and behold the kitchen can miraculously make anything we want. Her voice raises slightly, she starts batting her baby blues and so forth. Crazy thing is, this is happening right in front of me. Women don't care. They see money or they see a profession associated with money and suddenly they want to be on his "menu" for the evening.

Lucky for him, or me maybe, he doesn't even notice, lol. And when I point it out to him, he blushes and tells me he's old and I'm nuts. Okay, maybe slightly nuts, but I'm not crazy, lol. And he isn't old either. Distinguished, he is that absolutely, but far from old.

Women see him as an older guy, established, distinguished, easy-going, intelligent and a doc, that automatically puts his hotness factor at the top of the scale. But on a more primal level they see success, they see a good provider, they see security and safety. Now when they flirt shamelessly right in front of me, I see a gold-digging bitch, lol. But, hey, that's just me, lol.

And there's my two cents for tonight, lol.

Money doesn't buy happiness and that to me counts oodles. As we have seen here in the UK, some lottery winners go from having it all to nothing, and have admitted they wished they hadnt won the money. Attraction is in the eye of the beholder, age or monetary relevance, or not in my opinion. Agree with Mashie regarding Bill Gates lol!

This is a thought-provoking topic and like many other topics, I'd like to share my observations.

My mom and dad were quite wealthy. It didn't make either of them terribly attractive and it certainly didn't make them happy. I love my dad dearly and miss him every day, but he was not a happy man and I think that caused him to die earlier than he otherwise would have. My mother is a widow, and although she rarely cracks a smile, I think she's really blossomed since my dad passed. Sometimes I wonder what they would have been like if they had been with people that they actually LIKED.

Until just recently, I haven't spent much time with men that were truly wealthy. I've spent time with guys that were hardworking, honest, and dirt poor. I spent five years with a guy that was a superior con artist and sociopath, I terminated my relationship with him after he frittered away $10K of my money. I'll take the hardworking, honest ones any day of the week.

The man that I currently spend time with is extremely well-off by my standards. He's worked hard and built a solid professional reputation. Because of his work, he's able to travel, take nice vacations, drive nice cars, have nice toys and live in a beautiful home 40 miles from a major metropolitan area. He's no Bill Gates financially speaking, and he's no movie star in the looks department, even though I think he's stunning. Basically, he's able to enjoy himself when he wants to and doesn't have to worry about how to pay for it.

To be honest with you, I rarely think about that for a number of different reasons. It's not his lifestyle that I love, or his money. It's his imagination and the way that he makes me feel that turns my key. The fact that we share the same kinky tendencies is a super-bonus. If I were to meet the same man and he lived like a pauper, that would be fine with me too.

Elf, I guess the answer to your question is that it depends on the woman involved. Heaven knows, there are plenty of gold-diggers and trophy wives (or girlfriends) out there. And I'll admit, there is an instinct to find a good provider. For some of us though, our instinct is just as strong to provide for ourselves and be independent. I could spend several hours a day turning myself into a tidbit of arm candy, and I'm more than happy to do so for "my guy", but really, I have other priorities and that's just not who I am.

At the end of the day, I think it all depends on the chemistry between two people and the signals they send out to one another. For all the gold-digging women out there, there are just as many guys sending out the signals that attract them.

Just stirring the pot a little more!

LadyDoc

I knew this would generate some interest and I was sure of the names and avatars that would appear on this thread. It is very interesting how folks live and react through out their lives. Interactions do change as we age and the concept of happiness and or what will give us happiness is very wide and varied. Gold diggers maybe, or just fighting to achieve something they have learned they think they need to be happy. Maybe just bait on the hook of life. Thank you all for your input, I would love to see a lot more of these conversations. Good stuff one and all.

Just on the quick side of this .

i fell for a man 14 years my elder and ended up with him not without differences from time to time though. but its like a house on fire. he has not got a lot of money . ok so he owns a apartment and a house 100 miles apart and i live in 1 of them. he lives in the other but he could only afford to buy them when his parents left him a property as an investment when they past on . although he works hard and we have nothing else due to his ex wife taking everything as in child maintenance . but he is funny and very bright .

i didnt know i was in love with him and just wanted to be with him but we are happy and enjoy a fantastic fetish together .,

by the way guys its nice to be back .

love you .....sherrie

It is love gyno slave - when you just want to be with him.

And welcome back to you too - its only been short but seemed too long since you posed an interesting question for us

There is nothing wrong with being attracted to wealth. Wealth buys power and security both of which are attractive. Can it be overdone? yes definitely. Should it be the only thing one considers...no way. There are plenty of people that are without wealth and in great and lasting relationships.

As has been mentioned in this thread, both genders can be quite piggish and the behavior we refer to is learned. That is why I put the specific wording in my profile information in the manner that is presented.

G.N.

Age shouldn't matter either way, but it does become suspicious when it is so many younger women with only wealthy older men.... does that say something about the women or about the men? Or both....

A friend of my husband has been seeking to find a younger woman. He's in his late sixties, strong and healthy, and I would find him appealing if I weren't already married. (Who are you kidding, Diane, you do find him attractive.)

Strange, in seeking a younger woman he isn't having a lot of luck. Here is a handsome kind man who has a five-figure a month income, and seems to be exactly what younger ladies would be looking for if they were seeking security, financial stability, and appreciation. Yet so far he has had very little luck attracting younger women. Most of us know, or at least know of, couples with large age differences. Being in love with an older guy myself, I can attest to the value of a little aging of the testosterone. I find it surprising that a guy who would be such a great "catch" is not drawing the gold-digger type like flies.

The ladies should have some credit here too. There are some sacrifices to be made, sharing life with an older guy. Maybe it's too harsh a judgment to call such ladies gold-diggers. Maybe they are just seeking happiness like all the rest of us. Is it wrong for a girl to seek a man who is likely to be solid and dependable? Is it wrong for her to want to enjoy financial comfort and stability?

Some women are seeking smooth skin, six-packs, and biceps. But some women, like myself, simply find maturity in a man to be an ultimate turn-on. I was blessed to be able to marry an older wealthy guy who shares his money and his toys with me, and who let me teach him to be my enemate. Curiously, the age difference between us (I'm 38 he's 6😎 is actually not often a factor. Adults are adults.

Somewhere out there is a woman like myself who would love what my hubby's friend has to offer. Spread the word.

Hugs,

Diane

This is an interesting topic. If you are an older person, youth has a lot of appeal to you. If you are young, an older person represents security, especially if the older person is wealthy. The older person likes to show off his "trophy" in public. I you are really a, young and goodlooking person, you can get rewarded for this difference in age and looks. In other words, money will buy you a false love but will also provide you with a pleasure you could not get any other way. That is sort of the "real world" we live in...actually since the beginning of time.

Women are attracted to men with money because subconsciously they know their baby will be provided for. Women tend to be attracted to older men because it takes men so long to actually "get it." They want men who actually understand what women want.

Being an older man myself I think that our minds still think we are young. I also think that its okay to look but you have to be mature enough not to let your dick do your thinking for you. If that makes any sense.

As one of the older (age wise anyway) members who is an active playdoc, one of the first things I reveal in a chat is my real age. It's available as 70+ in my profile anyway but I seem to want to make sure my correspondent is fully aware in case its a bother to the person I'm chatting to. Another fact I reveal of course is that I'm married.

Only once has someone ever said that either of those facts bothered them and that is when one said she suffered from gerontophobia - I had to google that but its a fear of the elderly. Otherwise, universally, my correspondents have said that they prefer older men, for various reasons such as 'not as pushy', 'more considerate', better mannered' than younger men.

Now I'm not particularly claiming to possess any of those attributes - they're all subjective matters. I do though claim to behave respectfully to people which probably automatically encompasses them.

Of course I do kid myself that I'm still young - its a sort of defence mechanism I guess, which is invariably a prophesy unfulfilled. I agree with anthonylabrada that seeming wealth may subconsciously attract women as being likely effective providers for their offspring and themselves but it could be a false premise if the money doesn't come with respect! It's not a 'given' either that older men will know more of what women want - I assume that to be mainly in the sexual sense - but its probably more likely!

I've learned over many years, with very many ladies, gents too, that respecting them, taking nothing for granted, brings immeasurable reward - for both parties.

Beyond all of that - age is but a number!

It's for the money and a good provider.

I do not wish to offend with me being new here but the best explanation I'v heard is 124seconds every guy should hear on youtube....Now I do not think its allways right but I do think this is a lot of it..

Speaking from my personal experience,I was married to a man 20 years older for 15 1/2 years and will never do that again!Money or no money,it was a mistake I made and wasted years of my life on.Not everyone feels this way but I,for one,can't be with another man that much older for any reason.Kudos to the ones that don't have any problems with it.

My husband is one month and 1 day older than I am, and it's like I have another teenager to raise. LOL! My first dominant, 4 year relationship, was 19 years older than me, and it was so refreshing. He was mature, polite, respectful, and he knew what he wanted and how to get it. (Unfortunately, after 4 years what he wanted he felt he had to lie about. It's such a pity...) The whole relationship had nothing to do with money. If I ever married again, it would have to be to an older man. I'm very tired of raising someone else's child because they didn't take the time to do it themselves. I'm sure other women will disagree, but to each his/her own, right?

Always attracted by older and mature, experienced womens, married two times and spouse were 10 and 11 years jonger as me . . .

Wealth=Power. Older rich men are "perceived" as strong, motivated, successful, authoritative, go-getters, smarter, good providers, and can spoil a younger woman.

Wealth does not always equal happiness or true love. Some people cannot be bought. Some people are not for sale. I am speaking for both genders, btw.

Who knows ? maybe financial security plays a big part in it.

I think part of the answer may be in the word look.

Wealth buys nicer products, nicer cloths, face lifts, personal trainers, more time for ones passions rather than working to simply stay alive.

i think when you mix all of that together you get someone who carries themselves very well, is worldly, and looks younger than they are.

There are also the older guys who accept aging as gracefully as possible and accept it as part of the process of living.

They don't look as good, but they have a sense of inner peace about them that I think many women find relaxing.

I think the wealth part (for me, any way) plays more into power. I personally don't care about riches, but a man who wields power wisely is incredibly attractive. Young men with equal money or power tend to be foolish, a very unsexy quality.

Also it has been my experience that older men are much better in bed. there's just something so sexy about a man that carries himself like a man, and not like a kid. Skinny jeans and the whole metrosexual thing - not manly and certainly unattractive. Men over 40 just know what works, I suppose that comes from experience.

When this thread was started it was to see what kind of ideas are out there, not expecting to get a definitive answer.

Now, back to the topic boys and girls. There is no right or wrong answer so just go at it!

As a younger woman (21 if that still qualifies) I dont find wealth that attractive. Of course more is better but after hitting that "financially secure" line, it doesn't really matter all that much any more. That being said, I still find myself drawn to older men (30+) more often than guys near my age. I guess they just seem more confident and are less likely to be insecure, immature or jerks.

I'm 30 and I like women a little older than me....not for gold digging purposes but for playful purposes!!! plus a lot of older women know what they're doing!!!