Getting your wife or husband involved in enemas

My wife of 37 years will give me enemas for medical reasons but has no interest in sensual ones and in not in the least interested in getting enemas. The ironic part is that she has chronic constipation and I, who love enemas (could you guess that? 😃) usually have no problem moving my bowels. There was a short spell where I initiated some small enemas for her in the hopes of helping the constipation problem and maybe even getting her interested in the activity. It was looking positive until her doctor told her to increase the amount of stool softener that she was using. Sigh. . .

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I disagree that one cannot teach their lady to enjoy enemas. My life partner was very apprehensive about enemas and did not enjoy her first 2-3. However, I learned what does the trick. Plan a date night, light candles, put on soft jazz or classical, do a nice dinner before this, give her lots of foreplay (kissing etc.), then start giving her oral sex. While you are doing this, use a gloved, lubed finger to rub the outside of her butthole. Just as she comes, gently slip your finger in her anus and lightly press towards her vagina from the inside of her rectum, as if you were rubbing her G-Spot. It is a proven fact that this will get her hot- I have found that it only improves her orgasm at least 2-fold. This is the case for the 10 or so women I have tried this on. If there are any real women on this board, feel free to chime in on this.

After you do this routine for a couple months, suggest the idea of giving your partner an enema while performing oral sex. Use the same routine as before. Moreover, if you are good at controlling flow, temp, and timing, you can get your lady to take a big enema without her feeling a cramp until she orgasms and realizes that the bag is empty. This will work, in fact, your lady may even associate bomb-ass oral sex with enemas, and she will want you run a scene just so she can get all the attention, foreplay, etc. If you want your wife to give them to you, that is a different game plan which I can explain in another post if anyone shows interest.

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This sounds like a great idea. I'll try this on my fiancee and see what she thinks....

The smart way is to start by medical reasons like i did i went to my doctor and complained about constant constipation,he prescribed stronger suppositories than the one you find over the shelf, when i went home i told my wife that i always had a problem sticking these things up my but and i am going not going to have it ,stayed home from work she came home next day found me in miserable condition because i cant go ,then she start getting in control and said no you have to take you med,take off your boxer and went to get it from the fridge

i pretend that i wont feel comfortable just laying down and let her do that to me and kept giving her hard time ,

until she said probably you need to be treated like a kid , OK get on my knee then ,and hell boy ,i could not turn that down ,once i did she gave me tow of them not only one ,and stick her hole middle finger up my ass, since this moment,i knew sooner or later i will get her to give me my dream enema,which it did happen but it took a while

I still havent gotten my wife into the fun part of enemas.She understands the health side and even takes colonics on occasion at the spa . ive given her one and tried to introduce sex into it but she wasnt into it. Im sure she would give to me if i ask but i guess i havent opened up enough or fear she might think im weird so i enjoy them solo just the same. its my personnal alone time

Understood the frustration, same here my wife isn't into much of anything. I tried to get her involved and she was turned off. Thinks Im too extreme doing this. She knows that I am into E for years. Nothing seems to get her excited so I gave up long time ago.

Even though I am married, still looking for E-friendship, maybe more I don't know as time will tell.

If your wife or SO is into pleasing you she will love your cock's reaction. I was able to get my wife into anal play by showing her a video depicting anal sex. She surprised herself (and me) by being very aroused by the sight of vigorous anal sex. I started soft anal touching and licking during oral sex and as she became comfortable with it over months I progressed to well lubed fingers and small toys. She was very surprised when I commented and she realized that she actually came much more intensely when she had anal stimulation during oral sex. As time went on I noticed that if I was fingering her ass as she came, her sphincter would REALLY relax. My ultimate fantasy happened one time on vacation when during on of these long intense orgasms happened I said that it was so relaxed it would probably take my cock. She said to try it gently and it was great for us both and launched us into regular anal sex and then into our present fun with enemas. Don't give up trying, but remember that during anal play and sex the owner of the anus is ALWAYS in charge. We now take turns with enemas and anal play and all I can say is I wish someone would have explained my prostate to me years ago. Prostate massage is incredible.

I am new to this forum but have been taking enemas as an adult for many years. I have always wanted to involve my wife but never had the nerve to raise the subject. Recently she came across one of my bags while in my closet and asked what it was. She really didn't know. I told her and she made a casual remark about my health. I haven't had the nerve to raise the subject again. She clearly didn't have them as a child but has had them for diagnostic purposes. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to re-raise the subject?

Hi, I am brand new here, but my wife and I have been giving each other enemas for several years. This was my idea. It was something I knew I was interested in for a long time, but never acted on. We are both pretty open minded, and now we are what I would consider adventurous in the area of sex.

How the discussion arose - it sounds trite, but we were both pretty drunk after a day on the beach. We were just talking, and the talk turned to sex, and she asked me if there was anything different I was interested in trying out. We were about 7 or 8 years into our marriage already, so this was not a fast thing lol.

Frankly, I would have never said this if I was not pretty buzzed, but I shyly told her I might be interested in an enema. She already knew I was into some anal play, and she took it really well, did not embarrass me at all, and said we should try it out.

I quickly got to the pharmacy, bought the equipment, and brought it home. We got the kids out of the house and gave it a try, and the rest is history. After giving me enemas for about a year, she finally said she wanted to try one, and she likes receiving as much as giving now. We both really enjoy the role-playing aspects, and I especially like being the submissive patient being taken by the mean nurse.

So, anyways, I guess the best advice I can give for bringing it up with a mate is to take it slow, be patient, and wait for the right moment. I think you do have to have someone who is open-minded on the topic of sex and recognizes that almost anything is OK between two consenting adults. I think there are people out there who just don't think that way, and if you are paired with one, you have a real uphill battle.

If you think you do have someone who is open-minded, I would strongly suggest trying to discuss sex in more general terms at first, preferably after a bottle or two of wine. We had some toys that we incorporated into our sex life first, and I kind of view those as stepping stones to the more complicated role-playing and enema stuff. I also did not push her about receiving one, frankly because I was more interested in receiving.

The ironic thing now is that we are talking about seeking another female to add to the mix, primarily to give me an enema. She even suggested it! This is something that I have certainly fantasized about, but we have never brought a third party into our mix, and I am not yet convinced that is a line I am ready to cross. But the point is, there is another avenue to consider and talk about, and just talking about these things can be a lot of fun too.

Good luck to everyone else. I guess I need to count my blessings with such a great wife

My wife is adventuresome in lots of things but she pre-emptively informed me several years ago that she disliked enemas. I have asked her several times to give me one and she has always found an excuse not too. Not sure why she brought the subject up in the first place, but she let me know I would never give her one. Maybe she had a bad experience with her ex-husband. I have gently suggested e play over the years and she hasn't budged.

My wife and I, I'm widowed, enjoyed both enemas and anal sex..she actually sould only orgasm with anal stimulation...We bought two "inflatable" nozzles, and would fill two bags and hang them from hooks on the wall in our master bath..The bathroom was large enough for two exercise mats placed next to each other. We'd then lay in the 69 position on our sides and both play with the others rectum,..While doing this we would do oral..After both were fully stimulated, we would insert the inflatables for the other, and pump up the ballons..We'd then open the flow and laying there on our sides do oral as we filled..She would have multiple very hard orgasms and without the inflatable nozzles she would make a mess..This allowed both of us to orgasm, then expell, and we'd have hard regular or anal sex afterwards....

I've been widowed now for a little over 5 yrs and really miss the intimacy of our sex play..At the time I didn't understand or realize how lucky I was to have a wife who absolutly loved enemas and anal play as much if not more than I did...

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After many years, my wife finally will give me a good cleaning. She understands that its a turn on for me, and she gets a great benefit also. She's not interested in receiving yet, but more than makes up for it with giving.

I introduced my wife to enemas before we got married. After the wedding, I told here that she would be getting 3 weeks of training to learn hor to give a good enema. For 3 weeks, she was obligated to strip naked anytime, anywhere, and bend over without objection for here enema. Did she learn? yes. Did she like it? eventually

Guess i was lucky in a way,my Wife is the one who introduced enemas in our marriage as a punishment for infractions of the rules.

I too got my first enemas from my sister and she let me give her enemas as well. It was not sexual but pleasurable and erotic. We were at an age when our sexuality was about to emerge and the feeling were good for both of us. Our parents never knew what we were doing and the sessions ended before puberty.It was a great memory.

My late wife was the giver! She found reasons often to Spank my bare ass RED with Belt/Strap,then give me a 3qt Enema.She would make me hold it in while I licked her pussy/anus until she Orgasimed?Or she would suck my cock to Orgasim in a69er?Or my favorite she would have me give her tight little ass a Hot cum enema with my cock balls deep up her squirming ass while I held in the big enema....The orgasims we both had were AWSOME! I never leaked a drop when doing that scenario! I'll never be lucky enough to find some one like her again,and I consider myself blessed to have had her in my life for the time we Lived/Loved,and laughed.....😃

It has taken me years to get my wife to take an enema. She screwed up big time and I told her that was her punishment, surprisingly, she excepted. One or two a month. I was good with that. The last time she had one, I gave here a little to much and she got cramps. Back to ground zero.

A lot depends on your spouse's age.As woman get older,they are more set in their ways and are reluctant to change at age thirty or more.Younger woman are eager to try something new and have less hangups.However,if your spouse truly love you and will do anything to please,well,you might just be lucky enough to have somone who is willing to give enemas a try.

You need to be creatvive and patient.

Although not married, me and my boyfriend give each other enemas all the time. I have however probably give him 5 or 6 times more enemas than he has given me. Not trying to brag, but I am much better at it than he is. Also he'd much rather take one from me and I'd much rather give one to him. 😉

I have made this coment before..Fetishs are something that are difficult to understand..If someone is not into a fetish then they have absolutly no understanding of the pleasure that someone who does gets....That makes it difficult to "change" someone..Overall, if someone does not enjoy enemas, your not going to get them too...

This is a difficult concept to get people to understand...the "Imprint" of enemas on someones mind is not clearly understood, and don't expect someone who has no understanding of the fetish ro "jump in" and become aroused...Just my observations...

In addition to being honest, you also have to be accepting of her wishes. Not everyone finds the experience pleasurable; this is particularly difficult for those of us who do enjoy enemas to really understand. But in the end, sexual pleasure is pleasing your partner, not yourself.

As said, you should be able to talk to her about your wishes.

I found it a bit awkward when i brought it up, and her first reaction was shock, but she agreed to try it out, and it didnt go too badly.

I'd suggest playing gently with her ass first. I've never gotten my ex wife to do the enema thing but I did get her to play with my and her ass. Then she got the douche nozzle and played a little but in my case, it never got beyond that. I think it would have if we remained married but that's a whole nuther story.

Showing her a site like this would be a good start. Look, communication is the secret to everything. Broach the subject by informing her of your interest, perhaps by suggesting that you found this site and "wow, look what these people are into. Can you believe it." Watch her reaction and take it from there.

Have her read this:

Hi Everyone!

My name is Naughty Nurse, and I am Naughty Doc's wife. I just signed up for the forum, because Doc asked me to get involved with the online community.

I read the postings about enemas being totally non-romantic, and I really disagree.

Now, please consider that Doc and I have been together for over ten years, and so I cannot speak for people who give enemas to acquaintances, or strangers (maybe even clients), but in my life, enemas are usually a very romantic activity.

When Doc gives me a treatment, whether for health reasons, for punishment, or for fun, he is taking wonderful personal care of me. He pays attention to my entire body, even the parts "society" doesn't want to know about. Just this feeling of closeness and ultimate intimacy is enough to make me feel romantic. He makes me feel cared for and really loved, and I get the "warm fuzzies."

Besides that, enemas, and anal attention in general, tend to make me aroused. The major muscle groups between a woman's legs are all interconnected. Therefore, when my anus is stimulated, my vagina gets indirectly stimulated. Kind of in the same way that when my clit is stimulated, my vagina wants attention too! So generally, after a good series of enemas, I feel pretty romantic and sexy, and our sessions most often end with intercourse.

There are slight variations, and after my treatment, things will feel different based on what kind of an enema it was.

If it was for health reasons, I usually feel a lot better, and more energetic. Combine that with the "fuzzies" and I am usually ready for some romantic time together, with lots of cuddles at the very least.

If it was for punishment, Doc holds me and forgives me, and tells me he loves me. Once again, I get a lot of romantic feelings. We most often will make love afterwards.

If it was for fun - then there is really no other feeling to have but happiness and love! We just enjoy each other's bodies, and laugh about everything. These enemas are obviously quite sexy in nature, and it always ends in love-making.

On the other hand, when I give Doc a treatment, I get to be the "caretaker" which already makes me feel pretty loving and romantic. He becomes my little patient, and I work really hard to make sure he is having a good time. As a result, I also have a good time. And as I explained above, if we are having fun, then we are happy and feeling romantic.

On top of all these emotional and physiological factors, there is also something to be said about enemas being so taboo. Our treatments are quite private and almost entirely secret. Sharing such a special "secret" is something that makes us feel closer and more romantic.

I know that sometimes people feel so ashamed of their "dirty" parts, that they can't really enjoy enemas, or any sort of anal play. Or maybe they don't have someone loving and trusted to play with. At this point in my life, and my relationship, I don't fit into those categories anymore. However, I can understand both those points of view, as I myself had to start out many years ago with no experience, and work my way up to feeling confident enough in my body to let myself really enjoy anal play. It always helps to be with someone who is gentle and understanding.

In MY fantasies, I am a Princess, and MY Prince doesn't always ride in on a white charger. Sometimes he worships me and my body. Sometimes he stomps in wearing boots and leathers and flogs me until I am sore. Sometimes he plays Doctor, and we have an enema-tastic time. And all of these pleasures can exist within one bedroom.

I hope that my wife feels the same way way when I finally have the chance to bring up the subject of enemas. We currently are separated due to a circumstance that is beyond our control. We are committed to a loving relationship and she knows that I like anal play and has participated with me as giver, but I've yet to reverse the role since our marriage. My pre-play preparations I have kept secret. I will introduce her to this site and show her some of my posts when I see her next time. This Closet Klis is ready to kick the door open and invite her into my world. Thanks for your input and everyone else. wetandwild09

Be prepared for a response in which they will agree to accommodate you from time to time, but leave no doubt that they do not enjoy the experience. You may have to ask yourself if you wish to impose such a "burden" on them or if "going solo" is not a more satisfying scene for both of you.

It always makes me sad to hear that one person wants to share their love of enemas with their partner and they are absolutely against the whole idea. Sharing enemas is the most intimate part of my relationship with my boyfriend, even more than the sex.

An enema is not something that everyone enjoys. In fact, probably most people don't, despite the impression around here 😃. That said, the critical thing with a partner is respect, which may lead to the security to experiment, which might then lead to enjoyment.

Well start by talking to her and telling that an enema may be the right solution for her problems.

I gotta get my woman into enemas ! She's 63 and I know she digs anal play .

Gotta approach the subject !