Getting your wife or husband involved in enemas

No doubt - this IS the biggest problem with enemalovers who have partners for

sex but this subject (enemas) is still in the closet.

It is not as simpple as few suggested here. I have tried some approaches: first mention the topic of enema as a habitual medical procedure, very casually and see what is the responce. second - try some very careful investigation to find out if there is an annal sensitivity.

If both are negative - it looks to me like a lost case.

If one og them is giving some hope - there is a chance but pursuing with the subject very very sloe and gentlu and gradually.

If the work hasn't been done for you since early ages by mothers or other close family (like childhood enemas etc') it will be not easy, unless the topic is raised by her discussing experiences of her friends with enemas (for medical purposes).

Good luck.

Hit the nail on the head with that Ma'am, you both need to communicate and make her understand no matter what you love her. Invite her to role play and remember its all give and take there are things you might not like that you will do for her this is the same.

Excellent advice. No matter what the subject, I find my wife is more responsive to repeat performances when her first experience is positive.

Equally important in my opinion, is keeping your wife/girlfriend happy outside of the bedroom. I have found that when I try to consistently meet her needs she often returns the favor--even if she has some hesitation as was the case with enemas.

My wife is ok if i need a enema for health but not for sex

I would like to have an enema with my girlfriend but I guess I am to shy to tell her so I take enemas without her knowledge

I finally brought up the subject of enjoying enemas for sexual reasons and that i had enjoyed them since i got them as a child. i told her that i would always enjoy them and id like her to try them with me sometime. i then asked her what she thought about what i had just told her and she said she would think about it and get back to me. its been about 6 or 7 yrs. now since i asked her that and she hasnt got back to me yet. she knows i still take them and she knows where my my bag is kept in my dresser drawer but she doesnt talk to me about them and i dont mention them to her anymore either. i wish it was different but its not. so i take them alone and come in here and other sites to chat with those who do understand the feelings i get and who enjoy them also. denis

We had been married only a few years and I became constipated. I mentioned it to my wife and told her that I might have to give myself an enema. On the way home from work I had the pleasure of shopping for an enema bag--I purchased a combo hot water bottle, enema/douche item.

When I arrived home I showed her the bag and told her that I was going to give myself an enema, proceeded to strip, and then went into the bathroom and proceeded with filling the bag, etc. I took my time and, although I did enjoy it, it wasn't as exciting as being able to take all the time I might have wish to take with several enemas in succession rather than just a bagfull.

My wife asked, through the closed door--maybe I should have left the door open so she could have seen the process?--how it was coming along? I said, "OK, but not everything's come out."

Over the years I'll just announce that I'm going to give myself an enema once in awhile--never more than evey few months and usually when everythings quiet in the house.

I'd love to be able to give her an enema when she's stopped up. She did say once that she was going to try one, did, and decided that it wasn't either comfortable or effective. I'll give a chance someday to show her the satisfaction (if not outright pleasure!) of having a lovely, warm, filling enema!

I got off from work early one day so I decided to take a nice relaxing enema. I had a few hours before the wife would be home so I filled the bag went in the bathroom and laid on my back on a towel. I inserted the tube and started enjoying the flow opened my eyes and she was standing in the doorway. I got caught in the act. After I cleaned up and went to her she asked if I was feeling OK. I explained that I enjoyed enemas since I was young. She couldn't understand how I can enjoy something that hurt so much.She had a few when she was young and they really hurt. I asked her if she wanted to give me one to see how I reacted, she agreed, I let her do all the prep laid on my back I told her what to do. when she inserted the tub and opened the clamp I started to get hard it went in slow no cramping or anything. She asked if it was uncomfortable i said would I be hard if I wasn't enjoying it. After cleaning up I asked if she wanted to try one. She was not sure, after a glass of wine and talking to her she agreed but was scared.We went to the bathroom and I fixed her a quart and gave it to her I was very gentle I massaged her stomach and breast she was really enjoying it. All I can say is it was A Very Wet Night the enemas really turned her on

The issue is: some people loves anal games and enemas.

Other don't.

Some people enjoy enemas and they see it like a pleasure.

Instead, other people think that anus is an exit only hole.

Those people, don't enjoy enemas and they think this one only for medical reasons or like a discomfort one.

For me, enemas is a solo pleasure.

Unfortunately, my wife don't understands and, at the time, I don't share my passion with friends or other people...

Perhaps some friends have my same passion but, like me, do not have the courage to confess and when we talk about enema is only considered a joke

I hope, in the future, to find an enema-girl-friend or enema-boy-friend for play together

Good luck and enemas at all.

libertino1965, Italy

Before I became a Widower, my Wife would respond to my request for her to give me an Enema with great Enthusiasm, but the reverse was never an Option. She would not take an Enema much less let anybody giver her one. Strange but not unusual based on all I have read about the subject.

I think the word "all" might be key here! All women don't like ass play! In fact, to use the word "all," when talking about a woman, is not a good opinion. I think that you better try what your partner enjoys, maybe lead her, as she leads you, to enjoyment!

If it is not mutual enjoyment, then you better forget it!

Until about a year ago, I occasionally took enemas sometimes in secret and sometimes with my wife’s disapproving knowledge. My wife wouldn’t consider enemas for any reason. Then we both started going to a medical doctor who gave up conventional medical practice and surgery about 30 years ago, and started practicing Nutrional Therapies and Preventive Medicine. He recommended coffee enemas for both of us along with diet changes. My wife really likes the doctor, and we both now take coffee enemas.

I really wish that I had found this MD years ago, but as he said, “better late than never”.

That story is way too hot. My wife brought up sexual fantasies with me last night and asked if I had any, I said absolutely I do. I shared with her about enemas, which I had told her in the past also but she had forgotten. She is not up for an enema but does not mind if I enjoy them.

I have been very lucky I guess then . I have had two partners who didn't object too much . My late wife would help if I really wanted .The other iffy at best , she knew and would know when I went for one . Constipation always wins or some medical thing will always come up that Enema is needed ,just wait , it pays off .NO BIGGIE .

It took me a long time. kitchen duty for a week helped. and starting very slow, not much water and a back rub goes a long way.

Maybe you should leave an enema bag hanging in the shower

I went through the back door (no pun intended) to get my wife to let me give her an enema. Just after school got out for the summer we were anticipating two consecutive Fridays where all of our kids would be out of the house all morning. I proposed that we each come up with a fantasy and act it out--on video. She agreed with the stipulation that no third party could be involved.

She had her fantasy the first week so week 2 was mine. She took the kids out to their appointment and I setup the bedroom with the enema equipment and 4 video cameras. When she got home, I realized she had no idea what my fantasy was.

She was nervous and embarrassed at first but warmed up about 30 minutes into the session. It was an amazing morning and I know she enjoyed it. Unfortunately, I still don’t think that she caught the enema bug and I have it worse than ever. I am planning my next move—and in the interim I have an awesome video.

Yes, the feigning illness also worked for me. it took a lot of time for it to get started but i have to say that in the end, things worked out pretty well, she now enjoys the enemas just as much as i do. it's become an integral part of our sexual lives.

I found that when wives aren't really into the scene, its best to make a trade. We are in our 60s, and I used to have wallpaper on my computer of naked women. My wife didn't like it and used to complain. I told her I would get rid of the wall paper for a enema at least once a month, in both directions. So far she has agreed every time I ask to meet her in the bathroom

Several years ago, I dated a young woman who told me on the first date that I could "do anything that I wanted except give her an enema or have anal sex" with her. I refrained from replying, and later on in the relationship, she confessed that her ex-husband was a dentist who gave her many enemas and forced her to have anal sex with him. It is no wonder that she didn't enjoy these experiences. However, she gave great blow jobs and enjoyed regular intercourse!

You will notice many people do differant things to get their loveones to experiance an enema,there is no set rule here,what works for me,may not work for you.Sometimes you have to be creative,reading these threads will at least give you a few ideas.You know your wife better than we do, such as her moods,her personality,so try to tailor your method of peruasion to that.Don't insist,don't beg and don't argue,for those are the worst things you can do.Instead,explain to her how and why you love enemas,tell her why you believe enemas can improve your sex life with her and how much happier you would be if your wife could share your passion of enemas with you..Give it a try,good luck.Let the good times flow.w/m72yrs/Western Ma

Enemas for medical reasons were never a real problem. My wife gave me the first of our young married life when I stayed home sick from work. I had been constipated and had stomach cramps and explained that my mom used to give us kids enemas to resolve such issues. She acknowledged that her mom did also. She went to the store and bought an enema bag and put it to good use.

Over time, she came to realize my reactions to the nice warm enema. My performance afterward was much improved and she made comments about it. Eventually, I would encourage her to tease me during the enema and found that she began to develop some aversion to giving me enemas for this stimulation. Medical enemas were OK, sexual enemas were problematic.

In time, she came to realize that the stimulation from an enema or prostate massage with the nozzle was an acceptable alternative to Viagra etc. I had learned to stimulate her G-spot and she came to an understanding of my G-spot. The result was a much better understanding of why I enjoyed an enema so much even though she has a strong dislike for them.

I suppose that she may never totally understand or participate at the level and frequency that I crave. It has been a process that spans more than 30 years.

I'm lucky to have a wife who is a nurse. She "gets" all the procedural elements and can be a bit creative with it.However .... she's not sure she understands my pleasures at receiving them but lovingly indulges me anyway.

It is worth remembering that, no matter what, people are different. Even after good-faith trying, and loving, gentle introductions, some people just don't enjoy the anal experience. As they say, different strokes for different folks.

I have a question for all of you married people that have wives that despise anal play: Did you know that you were an anal play/enema lover when you met your wife, and if so, why marry someone that has so little in common with you sexually? Didn't both of you know what you were getting into sexually before the marriage? Did you not discuss your fantasies?

I always read about these people that are totally fed-up with their mate sexually (both men and women) and I wonder how they hooked up in the first place.

For me, I always said I would marry the lady that was turned on by taking and giving a bagful of water, and I stuck to my guns. This meant missing out on tons of sex in favor of higher quality sex.

Sex isn't everything in a relationship (the understatement of the century), but almost every new scientific study shows that if couples have a happy/compatible love life, then their marriage has a better chance of surviving.

Likewise, sexual attraction means couples are sensing each others opposite pheremones, (sp?) which is a genetic function that promotes stronger immune systems in offspring by pairing people with other that have immune system strengths which they lack.

I know that everyone says that enema ladies and men are hard to meet, but I have to wonder how many people gave the effort and time towards finding an enema playmate early in life, or converting an open minded lover to the kinky way of life.

Naughtydoc

I know that it won't work for every woman but my girl friend /lover I told her up front how I enjoyed enemas and what a part of my sexual enjoyment they were, it worked for me she enjoys giving and enjoys anal play with me and although not always but sometimes I get to give her a loving enema. I love her

The wife and i both grew up in homes where the enema was no big deal. and we had both found the erotic side of enemas as teens so when we meet it was easy to bring the subject up

I feel your pain. I don't dare give myself an enema while she is anywhere near the house. I can only try when I know my wife won't be around for hours. I'm trying to find a mate elsewhere.

I'm currently in a year long affair..... we've talked bout anal and will eventually have the time. But I'm wondering if I should approach her prior to anal sex. I don't know if i'll have the nerve or not. What abut having her look at a enema sith like this???? Oh and I like my enema using a douche nozzle w/extra holes and using latex hose with a squeeze bulb (New) that is used to pressurize the fuel line on an outboard motor. This works great plus it's quicker and handy.....no bag to store...... but no bag to watch during the enema!!

Also what are the best internet sites to see some sexy enema pics without all the false (FREE) hype. Also do any members offer pics of your wife or husband administering??? Would especially like that!!1

From my end, this is a tough nut to crack. was successful many years ago giving my wife an enema but for some reason has cooled off to the idea. Whe she complains about not going to the bathroom I keep offering but won't take me up on the offer. However!! she does give herself a flush now and then as she doesn't always get the equipment back in the same place.