Getting your wife or husband involved in enemas

My wife likes anal play but she won't let me in the bathroom when she pees. She says we need to keep some mystery in the relationship. Theres no way she would go for it. I wouldn't even know how to bring up the subject, short of just coming out and saying how I feel. I think a subject like that needs to be eased into, though.

If your wife likes anal play you are way ahead of most of us guys and possibly on your way to a nozzle experience for her.

Thanks ronema. Hope so. Good luck to all.

I had always been into enemas, and had given many to my ex wife . There had not been an opportunity to discuss the subject with my present wife until a few years ago. Her periods had been heavy and she had asked her gyno if there was anything that could be done. She said yes but it would require out patient surgery. They scheduled the procedure, my wife went for blood work and she was given an instruction form to follow the night before surgery. When she got home we were talking and she pulled out the instructions and started reading. The normal stuff, wear loose clothes to the hospital, no food past midnight, douche the night before, and the last was to take an enema. She says oh gosh I have to have an enema. I asked if she had ever had one she said yes as a kid but she had never given herself one. I said no problem I would be glad to give it to her, she reluctantly said ok. We went to the drugstore to purchase the enema, now I knew that a fleets would have been ok but I went and bought a douche enema combo. When we got home I took her to the bed room had her get undressed put a towel on the bed and lay face down. I prepared a soapy two quart enema and I put the douche nozzle on the tube. I lubed the nozzle and slipped it into her rectum and started the flow. Every few minutes I would have her change positions, pulling the nozzle out and reinserting it. To my surprise she took the whole two quarts. We still have the bag and she has received many enemas since then.

I have only given my wife a Fleet enema. I don't think she will ever submit to a bag enema. She got one in the hospital when she was in labor and hated it. I'll keep trying to convince her...

No luck so far. My wife just has no interest (though she occasionally gives herself an enema when constipated).

My wife encourages me to find someone with a similar hobby, but I haven't yet made the effort. Perhaps some day. It's great to find this forum.

"My wife encourages me to find someone with a similar hobby".......so zitxxx, does this mean that your wife wouldn't care if you found a sweet young honey to share your enema hobby with, that she would have a problem with your choice of enema partners? If so, I think I'd be concerned about the stability of my marriage, unless you're both into the open marriage thing.

Not into open marriage, in the sense that neither of us seeks regular intimate encounters with others. But we both want each other to have as full a life as possible. So in the few areas where one of us is unwilling or unable to do something (in any area) with at least mild enthusiasm, we strive for encouragement.rather than obstruction. So healthymale6446, this approach has worked well for us -- for more than 25 years. At present, I'm not searching for an enema partner, but that may change, particularly after discovering this forum.

After reading some of these comments, I find myself very lucky to have the wife that I have. She will not take enemas ( did at one time but finds it hard to hold the water), but will gladly give them to me, even suggesting it at times. The session usually happens every two weeks and consists of three bags and sometimes four with encouragement to take them. Salt and soda enemas is the usual and they make me feel great.

No married person should ever have to give themselves enemas. My wife will also give me one if I ask and often asks me if I want one. I usually get 2-3 bags in a series every two weeks. However, she has not used enemas for a few years. We have a good set up, a 2/12 qt bag with an in line pump and a coat rack to hang the bag.I believe this is the rsponsibility of a spouse to take care of their spouse and to please them

All my wife will do is pull on my nipples to help me masturbate. Now and then she will open a clamp if I can't get to it, will not touch my penis because she doesn't like to get her hands sticky, so I give myself enemas all the time. I get cleaned out and then go for a max fill and then she will help me masturbate, other than that, she is not into, nor will she give me an enema. She tolerates my enemas and that is about it. I try for 3 or 4 a week at least, I haven't had one every day yet. I do get a quick flush from my shower shot each day, but a full high enema, about 3 times a week. It feels so good.

I was lucky to have married a health nut so she actually asked me to give her enemas. It was quite enjoyable and she eventually let me lube her anus to stimulate her which she really enjoyed. She also like the usage of long colon rectal tubing. Said it was easier to take a large enema of 3 to 4 qts at at time. I just enjoyed making her happy.

I certainly haven't figured it out. I've read all these posts. Some successful, some not. I guess whatever camp we find ourselves in, we all should try to communicate our interest to our spouses, give them a chance to experience it, and then make their own decision. Whatever that is doesn't mean we can't give them to ourselves without guilt. Be free.

For some reason many of us seem to end up with vanilla spouses who have absolutely no interest in our fetish. Or at least that seems to be the case with a first marriage. The second time around, many know enough to choose a sexually compatible mate.

However, how would I get a wife/GF involved with enemas? For one I would start with something smaller, like anal play. Does she enjoy a finger in her butt? Will she finger me? Does she have a kinky streak? Does she like to be spanked and dabble in BDSM? Does she enjoy toys? If she's not the least bit kinky and doesn't enjoy any sort of anal play then I'm certainly not going to bring up enemas. No way, sorry. A vanilla wife is not someone you want to blurt out having an enema fetish. Once you say it there is no turning back and will probably fall on hostile ears.

Of course every marriage is unique that no outsider can judge. JMHO, good luck.

I hear you 6quart but I will keep tring

My first wife had never had an enema as a child. The only one was in labor and it was terrible for her. She could not understand how I could enjoy someting so painful. I explained that they did not have to hurt. It took one year but I finally gave her an enema and she liked it and would ask for them from then on. She was always willing to give to me, but it took lots of convincing for her to be on the receiving end of the hose. Unfortunately the rest of our relationship was not as sucessful and we split up.

I find myself commenting on a thread that I first commented on 6 years ago. If you're new here, legitimately looking for advice, please give my answer in the first line of this thread a view. I was very fortunate in taking what I feel to be the correct approach with my wife very early in our relationship. It worked incredibly well for us, at least.

Everyone is different, some people are not anal erotic and you may never be able to change that. However, I'd say I believe it to a big mistake to attempt to introduce anyone to erotic enemas as a treatment for constipation,. You're beginning with an unpleasantness, very difficult to turn that around into something sexual. I've loved enemas for decades, but find nothing arousing if using one because I don't feel well. Better to approach it as something pleasurable with your partner from the begining. Being attentive to your wife's pleasures will put you in the best position to introduce her to anything new, or outside her sexual norms. Of course, there is still a chance she may not enjoy receiving no matter what you do, but at least, if you've attended her well, she will be far more likely to administer to you knowing she's pleasing you. Nothing turns my wife on more than my moans of pleasure/letting her know how much she pleases me.

If you're younger/in a new relationship, you may have the good fortune of finding that your partner has never had an enema, and that can be to your advantage. Too many people have had, in their past, a very unpleasant enema experience that the memory of which would be hard to overcome. We're not young, but we were when we met, and despite the fact that enemas were not an unsual household ritual back then, my wife had never experienced one. So she had no preconceived notions. She'll say now that enemas have never been anything to her BUT an erotic experience, and she regards the equipment we have in the same way she does any other sex toy in our toybox.

We had been married only a few years and I became constipated. I mentioned it to my wife and told her that I might have to give myself an enema. On the way home from work I had the pleasure of shopping for an enema bag--I purchased a combo hot water bottle, enema/douche item.

When I arrived home I showed her the bag and told her that I was going to give myself an enema, proceeded to strip, and then went into the bathroom and proceeded with filling the bag, etc. I took my time and, although I did enjoy it, it wasn't as exciting as being able to take all the time I might have wish to take with several enemas in succession rather than just a bagfull.

My wife asked, through the closed door--maybe I should have left the door open so she could have seen the process?--how it was coming along? I said, "OK, but not everything's come out."

Over the years I'll just announce that I'm going to give myself an enema once in awhile--never more than evey few months and usually when everythings quiet in the house.

I'd love to be able to give her an enema when she's stopped up. She did say once that she was going to try one, did, and decided that it wasn't either comfortable or effective. I'll give a chance someday to show her the satisfaction (if not outright pleasure!) of having a lovely, warm, filling enema!

Back in the mid 90'2 I had been dating a woman for about months and would be at her home when she got there. One day when she walked in I was sitting at the kitchen with my head down and she asked what was wrong. I told herhow I was severly constitpated and didn't even feel like eating. What do you do when you get like this she inquired and I told her the last time I was likwe this was in high school and mom gave me an enema series.

This caught her off guard and she told me that the last and only time she had an enema was in the hospital as a young pre-teen. She said that she still had an old douche bag she didn't use anymore as she preferred disposables and I could use that. I agreed ansd asked her to get it and clean it out and than make up a soapy enema for me. Not knowing what to do she called her sister-in-law for advise and than made up the enema. When she was done I got called into the bath where she held out the bag for for me to take. Instead I just laid down on rug and told her to give it to me. Again, not knowing what to do she called her sister-in-law for advise, put the phone on speaked and as the instructions came over the phone she followed them and got 1/2 the bag into me. After I expelled she tried again and I took the whole bag followed by a rinse. Her s-i-l told her to give me another in the morning. After my morning enema I thank her with a large oral orgasm with the suggestion she should try one. She agreed them so much she went out and bought a new bag and we used enemas as part of our weekend sex play from than on.

We stayed together for another year after that and anytime either of us wanted an enema we got them.

Martin

I had a breakthrough. I finally gave my wife her first enema 2 nights ago! She likes anal play. I had asked recently after some "fun time" if she wouldn't mind "cleaning" herself before we got kinky again. She told me "but I did shower". We had a laugh an then I explained what I meant. Told her that I just wanted to prevent an accident. She asked me if I've ever had one. I told her "yes, because I was constipated" (total lie). She agreed. Said she would do anything for me. So the night came and SHE brought it up. To my delight, she knelt down over the tub and took it. I was very sensitive, rubbing her back, stomach, and ass. Telling her I was proud of her. I left the bathroom so she could do her thing. When she came out, to my surprise, she told me she "kinda liked it"! We repeated the process( just to make sure 😉 This thread really gave me the courage to ask. I thank everyone who share their experiences. And all the advice. She just mentioned to me tonight "when are we going to try that again?" Thanks again.

Yesterday my wife of 30+ years walked in to the bedroom and found me taking a warm baking soda enema. She freaked out. Although over the years she has very reluctantly given me a few enemas when I claimed illness, or had to be "cleaned out" for a colonoscopy, she has always despised the whole process. She screamed at me; "what is it with you and all these enemas? You're always taking enemas. It's disgusting." (The last one she knew about was before Christmas - months ago.) She believes it is unneccesary, invasive, and just wrong.

In our entire history together she has had maybe three solo enemas and hated every one. Even when her doctor recommended colon hydrotherapy she rejected it as disgusting. She had infrequent enemas as a child and cannot understand my attraction at all.

Sadly, this means I will never have any kind of satisfying enema session with this woman. I am devastated by this latest development and plan to dispose of the several bags, enamel cans, and other equipment that I have secretly acquired over the years. I'll keep the generic hot water bottle syringe under the sink in the bathroom but I think it will get cobwebs before it is used again. If she ever realized how deeply into this "hobby" I have been since my teen years our marriage would end badly.

Reading many of the earlier comments I realize I am far from alone in my secret proclivity. Sad. Just sad.

MIRACLE IN MINNESOTA After years of no enema play earlier this week I did a special favor for my wife. I asked if it was worth and enema. I was shocked when she said YES. And sure enough she did and did it very nicely. I had a talk with her first and reminded her the the enema was special and sexual for me and if she didn't want to do it in a special way I would just skip it. I filled my yellow folding douche/enema bag with very warm plain water and hung it in my office room at home. That room has a day bed I use for solo enemas. She put on a glove and dipped her finger in Albolene and then into me. What a thrill. She didn't remove it immediately but rotated and humped me with it in knee chest position. Then as we watched gallery pictures of ladies having and getting enemas I rolled onto my back and she slid in the pink barium style nozzle. She gave me short bursts at full open and rubbed my penis as I had finally the full two quarts and my orgasm. Her comment was that she would like to see some men getting the enema.

Never say never I guess.

I wonder about my wife. I want her to give. Have hinted at it. Asked "jokingly" about it. She has even been sending me pics of women receiving to my cel phone or laptop when i least expect it. She is teasing me about it but still will not deliver. She discovered my entries on this site over a year ago and made a real big deal about it. Hence the name "Why". I will always love enemas and colonics. Balloons, and banannas. Things about me will never change. She even found a portable dvd player hidden with a video from the collector. She is accepting of my "kink" now. But who knows maybe some cold winter morning I will be surprised with a nice hot bagful before i get out of bed...

My SO give me enemas if I ask her and she allows me to give her hers. We both do solo when the other isn't able to participate. I enjoy her gentle touch but sometimes I want to do it myself. With the series that we each like, it simply takes too much time for us to do each other every time....

I am also trying to get my wife involved in enemas with me bough giving and receiving at this time I have gotten her to go to colon hydrotherapy she has gotten to like that now I need to get her to do enemas with me then it may be a small leap to sexual enema play (I hope ) . I know how it feels to go to and get the colonics , it's very hard to not get hard but they are very clinical but still most enjoyable , but doing it at home would be much more fun.

Maybe file this under "lead a horse to water/can't make him drink." If the wife is set against enemas for whatever reason, you are

in a hopeless place. Her rejection could range from "I don't think I'm interested" all the way through to "you disgusting creep -- I always suspected you were queer." On the other hand, if she's OK, attitude could range from a coy "that sounds interesting" to "what took you so long to tell me?"

I got the big rejection on the honeymoon -- finger strayed into the back door: "I don't like that." Yessir! Odd -- I would routinely perform oral on her; it was nearly 25 years before she returned the favor (obviously learned it from her boyfriend). Has been gone for over 20 years. But if you discover early on that there is no way your partner will even consider enemas, seriously re-think the arrangement. You will never outgrow or abandon your enema fixation/fetish/whatever. Is it worth facing a lifetime of frustration? (I say no). "Too many regrets...."

My wife just recently found out my 'fetish" and wants nothing to do with enemas

It's really frustrating when you (me) actually ask the then "wife to be" about enemas, and if she was open to participating with me. The answer was fine, no problem. In fact, she did pleasure me a few times with a nice enema. That was years ago, but now she's decided that she has no interest in enemas whatsover. It was important to me, which is why I raised the subject before we married. I wouldn't bail out on her now, but the situation is frustrating.

I tried to interest her but she hated having her butt touched . She wouldn't do it to me she said it was horrible and wanted nothing to do with it and for the next couple weeks denied sex . The sex went down hill till I call it quits .less than 6 months later i met this gal who had an enen=ma bag hanging on her bath room door. a couple questions and we were in the bath room giving each other enemas in an all night session. she hadn't had any one to share enemas with for years either.

After reading the posts, I think I will just keep it a private thing and enjoy the ass play afterwards